baby shower question

Casey - posted on 08/24/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am pregnant with my second child, my first is 2 1/2 now. And i didn't know if it was appropriate to have another baby shower. I don't want people to think i'm selfish or greedy. But honestly, there are a few things that we need and just can't afford. But mostly i just want to have another baby shower to get together with friends and family and to eat good food :) It's also another excuse to get baby belly pictures. Is this wrong to want? How many of you have had multiple showers? Did you ask for another one?

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Melissa - posted on 08/26/2009

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I see baby showers as more of a celebration of being pregnant rather than "let's see how many gifts I can get." I'd say go ahead! I had one for both of my pregnancies.

Amber - posted on 08/25/2009

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i think you shoudnt have to explain why you want a 2nd or 3rd babyshower its not to expect gifts as you say it can just be a reason to have family and friends round before bub arrives. im due in 4weeks with a 2nd girl and im having myne this weekend im not expecting everyone to bring gifts its just a nice way to treat yaself before bub. You shoudnt have to explain why you want one if you want one then go for it its a free world!

Anne - posted on 08/24/2009

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The rule of thumb is that if your second child is a different sex or it has been a few years since your last child then it is OK to have a shower. But they say that after your first child you should limit it to immediate family and close friends. If you mostly want to get together and enjoy good food though throw a back yard BBQ for the men and the women and just say y'all wanted to celebrate with friends and family before the baby arrived. But be nonchalant about it and then people won't feel obligated to bring gifts, but chances are they'll bring a little something at least.
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Dustie - posted on 08/24/2009

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I had a baby shower for all three of my kids a shower is to celebrate new life it doesnt matter if its your first or your second or third or even more for that matter!

Jessica - posted on 08/24/2009

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I think it's perfectly fine to have a baby shower for a 2nd child, especially if the sex of the 2nd child differes from the first! Also, like you said, its a good reason for everyone to get together. Plus, why should a 2nd child get ALL hand-me-downs and nothing new for them.. I dont feel its fair for the siblings to not get a shower! If you didn't save EVERYTHING from the first baby then its likely after 2.5 years you have either gotten rid of it or its broken! SO, yes, have a 2nd baby shower! My sister-in-law had a 4th baby shower! so please dont feel bad!

Casey - posted on 08/24/2009

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Thanks all...i don't feel so selfish now. I like the idea of a "welcoming baby" party, that's different. Thanks again :)

Ina - posted on 08/24/2009

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not at all selfish, i have 3 children and had showers for all of them. i think every baby should be just as special as the first. the shower is not for you its for the baby, what a wonderful way to welcome baby into the family:) if you dont feel confortable having a shower, get a close friend or family to throw it for baby.

Jen - posted on 08/24/2009

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My friend had a shower for her second son. However, his shower got postponed and she ended up having the shower after the baby. I don't see a problem with it. I'd want another shower if the sex was different from what you already have. :)

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Try to just talk to family about how you wish you could get this, or how you would like to be able to buy more things....they might pick up the hints....and if not....after you have the baby you could have like a baby "welcoming" and that way people might feel inclined to bring gifts =) That sounds horrible to some, but I don't think it is selfish to ask for help so you can have things that your baby needs....hope this helps!!

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