Babyblues or PPD

Jennifer - posted on 05/31/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




I have read information about the difference between baby blues and PPD, but I am still unsure on which one, if either I am having problems with. I just had my baby on the 6th of April, so she is just about 2 months old. I have no thoughts of harming her or me, but I am upset often easily. I tear up over everything. I can't seem to hardly get her to smile and make noises for me. My husband can do it no problem. Usually when I try, all she does is cries. I don't know what to do or think. I love my daughter very much and would do anything for her. But I feel like I am upset most of the time. It seems like I don't get to spend hardly any time with my husband, yet I know I do. Also I feel like ppl are always telling me what to do and how to do things as far as taking care of her. I would think that I know what I am doing since I raised my first one by myself till she was around 2 years old. But why am I so upset and easily upset all the time?


LaCi - posted on 06/01/2009




I dealt with ppd for a few months after my son was born. I was angry or crying ALL the time, even when I didn't think I was angry I was still being really mean to my boyfriend and didn't even realize it. I finally told my doctor and they prescribed a temporary antidepresant, which I took and felt so much better after a week or two. i stopped taking it a couple months later-mainly because i kept forgetting the pill and after forgetting for a week i wasnt feeling horribly, so I assume everything balanced out. It really did help though, and it probably saved my relationship. Talk to your doctor, there is no reason to feel so down when you don't have to. You should be able to enjoy your new mommy life, and its so hard to do with those hormones and whatnot interfering.


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Louise - posted on 06/01/2009




Hi, im louise, i agree with these mums, go see your doctor, but whatever your emotion is your baby will pick it up and react to it, i found that out with my son, i was depressed when i had him. Talk to your husband, friends and family and make sure you express how you feel, find out if there is any baby classses as you can get out of the house and is another form of bonding,i cant really say much as these ladies have already said it but i can say there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I hope this helps you. x

Ez - posted on 06/01/2009




What you're describing certainly sounds like more than simple Baby Blues. I think you should speak to your doctor as soon as you can. You don't need to feel like this. With treatment you will start to feel normal again and start enjoying your baby. My friend suffered badly with PPD, but hid it well until she became suicidal when her son was 10 months old. She got through it, but now her son's 3 and she often say she barely remembers the first year of his life. I can't tell you how sad I am for that. So please go and see someone about this. You are suffering needlessly. Good luck.

Annie - posted on 05/31/2009




hey there!!! i suffered from PPD and it def sounds like you have a mild case of it...i didn't start feeling bad until she was around 5 months old. my advice?? go talk to your doctor about it. you can get started with counseling, and maybe meds. i did both. it really helped out a whole lot. also try to get out of the house and do things with your little one on a regular basis. whether that's going for a walk, going grocery shopping, or just window shopping :) getting out of the house and staying active is one of the best things that you can do. as for people telling you what to are her mother. you know what you are doing. don't doubt yourself just because others have different parenting skills than you. as long as you have a healthy, clean, happy baby you are doing what you are supposed to do. and as for you not being able to make her smile?? your bond will grow so much. you don't have to rush it right now. there are things that you can do that no one else can! you are her mother! and she knows that...she just might think your hubby is funny that's something to smile about :)

Lori - posted on 05/31/2009




Hi Jennifer! I recently went through a similar situation. I was very moody and so my husband and I fought a lot! Some days I felt fine but other days I felt very discouraged. My daughter was born at the end of August so I figured it was too late to have either. I found some information on both and baby blues are when you are sad/emotional two weeks after the baby is born and PPD can happen anytime from 2 weeks to a year after delivery. I called my gynecologist (she's the doctor I feel the most comfortable with but a family doctor or gp would be good too) and talked to her about how I had been feeling. I've been under a lot of stress so I opted for taking medication (Lexapro) because I think my issue is physiological rather than psychological. Whether you'd rather talk to a counselor/friend or take medication you should talk to a doctor for your own peace of mind. Your daughter is precious and you don't want to waste a moment not enjoying her or being unhappy when she's around! Please let me know if you have any questions or anything I can help you with :)

Kelly - posted on 05/31/2009




hi i am kelly im a mum of two boys one 8 and the other 6months i suffer from depression but i know how you feel and my sister suffered ppd after she had her little girl when she was just fifthteen i know this sounds like what everyone will say but find some one u trust that u can talk to that u can cry and yell out and they wont worry cause they know you arent dfeeling yourself iknow it sounds dumb but it helps and with your little girl dont worry she probably can sense that your feeling upset but know she loves you and know matter how silly it seems you have alot of support but id say go have chat with local gp i know i was embarresd cause i didnt want anyone to think i wasnt coping but it did help they got me in touch with someone i could talk to cause i didnt want to take medicen but if you would like someone that you dont know and you can yell scream aor just talk you can chat to me if you like it will get easier

Roxanne - posted on 05/31/2009




I think that one would be PPD. I think Baby blues is more jealousy of the child. You start getting envious of the attention on the baby instead of you, etc. PPD is more about just being down. And don't worry about your baby crying with you and not your husband, she may just be a daddys girl! Either way, I think you would want to talk to your doctor, because both can be harmful to you and the baby's environment. You might start writing a diary/journal daily about how you feel to help the doctor help you. And EVERYONE will ALWAYS tell you how to raise your kid.. its an opinion thing. Its almost like how when you start talking politics everyone freaks out and says the other is wrong!

Most of all, talk to your husband about it too. :) hope that helps!

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