Babyblues or PPD

Jennifer - posted on 05/31/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




I have read information about the difference between baby blues and PPD, but I am still unsure on which one, if either I am having problems with. I just had my baby on the 6th of April, so she is just about 2 months old. I have no thoughts of harming her or me, but I am upset often easily. I tear up over everything. I can't seem to hardly get her to smile and make noises for me. My husband can do it no problem. Usually when I try, all she does is cries. I don't know what to do or think. I love my daughter very much and would do anything for her. But I feel like I am upset most of the time. It seems like I don't get to spend hardly any time with my husband, yet I know I do. Also I feel like ppl are always telling me what to do and how to do things as far as taking care of her. I would think that I know what I am doing since I raised my first one by myself till she was around 2 years old. But why am I so upset and easily upset all the time?


Natasha - posted on 05/31/2009




okie dokie mom. take a deep breath. babies know when mommy is stressed and thats why they get upset when you are trying to spend time with them. try to find something that helps u relax when little one goes to sleep see if doing something just for a little bit will help you relax like take a bath, spend some time with the hubby, read, anything. i think your prolly just having some of that good ol emtional stuff that you tend to go through after having a baby. it can be hard. if it doesnt go away or it gets worse definately talk to your doctor. you could also trying to see if maybe hubby will watch the kids for a few hours while u go out and grab a cup of coffee or go shoppin just get a little bit of mommy time. if you can manage to find atleast 30 minutes of mommy time a day i think maybe u might find it helpful. u have to feel good about urself and not be so stressed for baby to not be so stressed too. they are so smart! they can feel the tension and the nervousness when ur thinking ok lets try this but what if she cries again. dont think about that stuff. relax if u have to get away from everyone else take her in a room turn alittle music on and just relax she might cry for a little bit but give her some time to realize that mommy isnt so tense. it will be ok. but like i said if it gets any worse definately talk to ur doc.


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Christina - posted on 05/31/2009




Sounds like blues baby. Remember she is going to be sensitive to any tension coming from you, so if you're stressed she feels it. Most likely your husband is more relaxed. You know what you're doing. Don't let anybody undermine that. Try to find something you can do with her that will help you relax. It will help both of you

Sabrina - posted on 05/31/2009



8 are gunna be fine. You need to breathe and relax. Being a mommy is a hard job and it takes it toll on you in every way possible. You also have to remember that your hormones are going crazy right now trying to fix yourself after what you just went through. You also need to remember that babies can sense when you are frustrated and stresses, and all it does is make it worse on them, They sense what you are feeling and they will willingly feel the same way too. Do anything around the house or even out of the house that can make you relaxed. Having a baby is stressful and it does wear on you, but you can do it!! Keep your chin up.

Spend time with your husband when you can. Spend ALONE time when she is asleep!!! Also try to get yourself some alone time, have hubby watch the baby and you take a walk, go shopping, go get some coffee, hang out with your girlfriends....give yourself some Mommy Free time, bc you do need it.

If you feel yourself getting worse or that nothing is helping, go see your doc.....they know how to help and help you deal this......

I hope this helps a little. Hang in there....remember, you are a great mommy. :)

Alicia - posted on 05/31/2009




Hang in there mama. I agree wholeheartedly with Natasha about taking a break and getting a little adult time if you can. For me, it really helped just talking to people...anybody about what I was feeling. Let your husband know what you are feeling so that he can better support you and maybe allow you some alone time. Don't be ashamed or afraid to go to the doctor if you feel like you need to, they see it all the time. Most of all know you are not alone, not by a long shot. Good luck and hugs mama.

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