Babysitting .....

Aneshea - posted on 07/17/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Well my husband and I are very young, 23, and 24 and we of course still want to go out and do things, but I dont feel okay with having someone I don't know watch our daughter yet.... we are a military family and don't have any family near by so thats out of the question and I know its kind of taking a toll on my husband. I tell him to go out with his friends w/o me and Ill stay home w/ our daughter but he says its just not the same .... How do you get over having someone else watch your baby. (She's 3 1/2 months)

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Michelle - posted on 07/18/2009

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I know you will ignore the ridiculous 2 posts at the beginning of your thread so will move on from that. My daughter is 7 months old and i only left her for the first time the other day and i didnt enjoy my night as i was worried and that was with my mum looking after her.I think if you can find someone that you trust then just take the bull by the horns and do it, put your daughter to bed yourself before you go out so you know she is safein her cot and just go out. It will be hard and you probably wont enjoy your night but its the first step to getting some kind of social life back and im sure it will get easier the more you leave her.

Deidre - posted on 07/18/2009

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It is definitely hard to leave your babe for the first time, even if it is with family! (or at least it was for me) I have yet to leave my daughter with someone that I don't know personally (we're military as well but I do have a couple super close friends here). I would definitely suggest going out after they are in bed (as long as you are confident they'll stay sleeping until you get back, otherwise it may be too hard to do this) or leave them right after a naptime during the day so that they are super happy with the sitter and it's less to worry about. Please don't ever leave your kids alone in an empty home (at least at this age) as there could be a house fire or burglary while you aren't home.

Trisha - posted on 07/17/2009

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My husband and i are also 23 and have 2 kids.We have no family.I found my babysitter at church where i got to get to know not only her but her family too.You def need time to yourselves. me and my hubby never go out without eachother b/c its not the same.there is a website called sittercity.com and you can run background checks on the girls for 10.00$ and find out how close they are to u.

Tiffanie - posted on 07/17/2009

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I actually went through this 2 weeks ago. My husband and I have never went out for our wedding anniversary. This year we decided to go out (3years this year). So we got a babysitter. But I made sure my kids were sleeping before I left. I have 3 kids. My daughter who is 5 tomorw, stayed the night at her grandparents house. My 20 month was in bed and right before the sitter came I put my 4 month old down. I was really worried becuase they never get babysat unless it was family. So I just explained to her what she would have to do If the kids woke up. (which once they are down they sleep through the night). We left at 9 and was home by midnight so if my 4 month old got up I would be home for him to eat and what not. We had an interview with her and she has her babysitting liscence, and shes got CPR, and lots of experience with other children. Just ask some friends who they have for a sitter and maybe go from there. It is hard if it's the first time. Good Luck

Rhonda - posted on 07/17/2009

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u can take her 2 and just lev her in da car wit da dor lock and da window crack

Rhonda - posted on 07/17/2009

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jus leave da babe in da cot and go out when she be sleepin. just lock da door so no 1 take her and only go fo like 3 hour so she dont be wakin up.

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