Bad attitude.

Jessica - posted on 06/07/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have only one child. She is four going on five and is set to start kindergarten in August. She is very bright, or so I think. She recognizes all letters, writes all letters at least in uppercase, knows her numbers to 25, and can sound out words. The only thing is she knows the word "Cat". I ask her to spell it aloud, and she does. She sees it on paper and will say "cat" without being asked. But when we are working on words, (we do a set of words weekly to prep for kindergarten) She literally acts like she is struggling to read words she knows. She honestly looks like she is straining to poop. She will shake and yell "I can't do this" . Although like I said she knows "Cat". If I don't ask her to read it, she will show me it and say cat. Same thing with all the "at" words we have been working on.

Another example of the her terrible attitude is bike riding. Wednesday she was riding her bike without training wheels with me helping her to begin and then letting go. Now she screams "I can't do this" "I want to go in" "Throw away my bicycle". She has never been like this.

Also when she is losing, like at candyland, she SCREAMS and cries. OR when she is running with the neighbors, and she falls behind just a little, she falls to the ground and cries.

Part of me is saying she is such a spoiled brat but the other half is wondering is there something wrong with her self esteem? I am at a loss as to how to handle and fix this. Seriously. I get frustrated after a while with this attitude and I know that she sees that. I just need some help. I am open to any advice, or even criticisms. Thanks for any help!

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Tiffany - posted on 06/13/2013

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It sounds like my daughter. She is 5 and I had the most terrible time trying to get her to read, and count. She would scream and cry and whine and throw fits because it's "too hard". I honestly think it's just they don't like change. Start offering her candy as rewards or toys, but only when she deserves it not at the drop of a hat like I have a "word of the day" she figures it out on her own and she gets a candy. That way it's not too much pressure and she has time. As for the bike she's only 4, she may need some more time with training wheels to make her feel comfortable. My daughter still uses them, I just raised them a bit so she learns her balance more. Make sure you give her special attention when you aren't teaching her, and let her know how much she means to you. I started implementing those measures and my daughter is much better than she was 6 months ago. And she's reading! Good luck!

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Angela - posted on 06/14/2013

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you may be just over stimulating her maybe it's just too much at once she's got preschool she's learning to ride a bike and she's coming home and working on his reading and writing again also it may just be too much going on on the same dear at the same time for her to handle. also look girls can be drama queens when they get Boo Boo's anyway. also when she gets home from preschool make sure she has a good break before you try getting her on the working on the yard reading preschool is tiring and they're expected to know more at one time than we were when we were little. and if any of those kids in her neighborhood are bigger than her she's trying to keep up with the big kids can be frustrating to. be patient this too shall pass and maybe give her a little less to do at one time he is after all just a little kid if she can read cat and she knows her letters and numbers that's pretty good

Bethany - posted on 06/10/2013

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I know all of this is very frustrating but it really sounds pretty normal to me. Try taking a break from trying to read, riding without training wheels, etc. maybe she is just feeling a little pressured with a bunch of new stuff happening at one time. Give her a little while and then pick just one thing to work on per week and let her show you somehow which one she is more ready for. As for the fits when she is losing I would completely ignore them. When you feel like one is about to happen see if you can point out what you know is about to upset her and help her use words to express herself or try to show her horse can change that situation. If nothing works and she has a fit just walk away. When she has calmed down you can try explaining again how k make it better and to use words to express herself or you wi not play that game with her anymore. As for the getting hurt try being really loud and silly when she falls before she gets TE chance to get upset - "Ah!! You FELL! Better run in a circle 3 times so that scratch will fall off!!". My 4 year old used to be very dramatic like that and this is what worked for me. Now she doesn't even cry. She fell at the pool the other day as got a bloody knee. She said "look mom I scraped it! Ill jump in The pool cuz water will help!" And never brought it up again. If nothing works, just do the best you can, one day at a time. It will pass. She will grow up. And you will miss watching her ride her training wheels bike and kissing her boo boo's. :)

Jessica - posted on 06/07/2013

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Also when she gets hurt, even a little, such as a scratch on her foot that doesn't bring blood she screams at the top of her lungs. She will also hop and limp for 30 minutes or more. She even scared her pre k teacher into calling me by screaming at the top of her lungs when she fell.

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