bed time bottles

Lauren - posted on 07/19/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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hi, my daughter is 16 months, and is still having up to 4-5 bottles a night. it started out as the only way i could get her settled in her cot, but now its turned into a comfort thing and i just dont know how to get her out of it. i cant leave her to cry, as she will be sick. i've tried control crying, cutting her bottles down week by week, by amount, but nothing is working. she wont take a dummy and never has. im desperate to stop this. anhy ideas??

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Lauren - posted on 07/31/2009

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hi guys. its going so well! she's now going down with 5oz and doesnt have a drop through the night!! still using the monitor to talk to her and calm her down. im so happy, and feel alot more rested!! so brill. and she didnt wake up at all last night, not once, and didnt get me up until 7.45! loves it x x

Jamie - posted on 07/21/2009

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My son did this with his sippy. try letting her cry while you check on her. Pick her up and love on her. Really after a couple of night she will be ok.... I promise.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/21/2009

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Just a note... the sooner you can wean your daughter of the bedtime bottle the better. Falling asleep with milk ( or anything other than water) in the mouth is the #1 cause of dental decay in infants and toddlers!

Lauren - posted on 07/21/2009

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have you tried giving him the milk in a beacer before bed? i tired it but it didnt work, but it may for you, warm up some milk, put a little sugar in it, and tell him what a big boy he is for not going to bed with the bottle. i know how you feel, im struggling to get her down without one, its a nightmare. i know it sounds like bribary but maybe tell him if he goes to bed without a bottle he'll get a really fun treat the next day, park or swings or something, or a new big boy toy that wanted to be his because he doesnt have a bottle. if that doesnt work i dont know, the only thing i can think is to just be persistant and let him cry. its so so hard and teribly heart breaking to hear i know, but you know its only for comfort, just like i do with isabel. so you know that when he cries, its nothing but upset, theres nothing wrong with him. try control crying. let him cry for 2 minutes, then go in, lie him back down and tell him its ok but he needs to go to sleep now. then if he keeps crying, leave him for 3 and go back in, do the same, the 4 and so on untill you get to 6 minutes, then its just a case of doing that until he calms down.

if all else fails, introduce the bedtime police, my friend did it and even her 8 year old believed that if they didnt go to bed and shut there eyes the bedtime police would come to put them to bed, and theyre strict lol. sounds harsh, but it did work, every night. gosh, essay lol. i hope maybe some of this helps?? let me know x

Sarah - posted on 07/21/2009

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hi i have the same problem but my son he is almost 4 years old i still carnt take him of his bottle he only has it at night but he wont go to bed with out it i d ont know what to do

Lauren - posted on 07/20/2009

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the most amazing thing happened last night guys, i cant believe it. i tried her on the tea, but she really didnt like it lol, her little face was a picture! buuuuttt! on our baby monitor, we've got a 2 way talking button, so we ca talk to her but not have to go in, i've tried it a few times before, but it frustrated her even more. so my fiance tried it last night, he didn't say much, just that, its ok, nothings wrong, just calm down and go back night nights!!! and it worked!! oh my god guys, it worked, no bottles!!!!!!!!!! sorry im just super happy about it, she instantly stopped crying and stayed quiet until she went back to sleep. she woke twice!!! i cant believe it. so next is to actually manage to get her to sleep in the first place without a bottle. but i feel so much more confident about it all now. it wasnt a full nights sleep, for any of us, but my working top isnt covered in bottles, and she hasnt got a full nappy this morning. thank you so much for all your help. circle of mums is fantastic!! x x x

Jamie - posted on 07/20/2009

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Have you tried letting her self soothe. Thats why she keeps wanting another bottle. She doenst know how to go back to sleep on her own. At 16months she doesnt need even 1 bottle or anything in the middle of the night. If your desperate to stop this then you need to let her cry it out. Once she learns to self soothe she wont need the bottle or anything else.

Kate CP - posted on 07/20/2009

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Try a bottle of chamomile tea. Make sure there is no caffeine and sweeten it a lot (don't use honey!!). It has some substance to it, flavor, and it will help to calm her down and sleep. The added bonus is you can slowly weaken the tea over a period of time to where it's basically water. If the suggestions from the other ladies are not working I would suggest you talk to your doctor. This could turn into a serious problem and lead to dental issues as she grows.

Krystle - posted on 07/20/2009

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Then im sorry, i dont know what to tell you. I took the bottle away from my oldest son when he was 13 months, cold turkey and he could care less. Good luck

Christelle - posted on 07/20/2009

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yes, real tea like we drink, but don't let it go too strong though. give it to her when she goes to bed (try it, if it doesnt work, then go back to the milk). or maybe just put a bottle next to her with a night light, so when she wakes up, she can just take the bottle herself maybe? but i really do think she's just pushing her luck. they all push their luck. you will have to be firm with her. and quite frankly, be glad she doesnt use the dummy, it's harder getting them off the dummy than the bottle. good luck, will find out with other mums what advice they can give, will let you know tomorrow.

Lauren - posted on 07/20/2009

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i have tried that, over and over, thats the control crying, but she will cry until she's sick, no matter how tired she is.

Krystle - posted on 07/20/2009

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Not to sound mean but she don't need 4-5 bottle a night. Try just giving her one when she goes to bed and thats it. No more. When she gets up, check on her but dont give her another bottle. Lay her back down and tell her it's time to go to sleep. She's going to cry but you have to let her, she'll go back to sleep. If you keep giving her bottles she's just going to think that it's ok. Good luck.

Lauren - posted on 07/20/2009

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do you mean real tea? like we drink? and should i give it to her when she goes to bed? or just when she wakes up? because she goes to bed with a 6oz bottle. i have managed to cut it down from 8 in a week. thats my plan, too cut her bottles down week by week, but its not stopping her waking up. i dont know how to stop that. i wouldnt mind if she woke up and went bk down on her own, but she insists on crying straight away, as soon as she's awake, and wont stop until i go to her.

Christelle - posted on 07/20/2009

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have you tried giving her tea instead of the milk? the tea is atleast a bit healthier than a lot of milk, the milk might upset her tummy....
i cannot really think of anything else. but as you say, it's at a comfort stage. and i know it might sound a bit harsh, i don' t mean it in an ugly way, but you will have to make her understand that it's not the way it works, otherwise she'll have you up for years...

quite honestly i had the same problem with my daughter, constantly waking up for milk also about 4-5 times a night, it went on until she was about 24 months and i couldnt take it anymore... and it takes a lot of hard work, but if we keep on giving in, they won't give up...

let me know how it goes

Lauren - posted on 07/20/2009

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yes, she wont except water, or a dummy, i've tried constantly but nothing works. she's not hungry either, i give her good healthy filling meals at tea time.

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