Bedtime routine doesn't work - cries for an hour!!!!!

K - posted on 07/08/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )

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We are sick of spending every night with a crying 6 month old. At 5 we feed solids, bath at 6, breastfeed at 630, book then bed by 7.... And it can be up to an hour of crying, I try the CIO method but I hate it, I can't stand leaving her screaming.
She falls asleep in our arms and as soon as we put her down she screams and fights it. We use the Save our Sleep routine but bedtime is just not working. We never get to cook/eat tea until after 830!!!! Help!!!!

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Chet - posted on 07/13/2014

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A typical 6 month old sleeps about 14 hours in a 24 hour period. That's the average though. Some babies need less sleep and some need more - 13 to 15 hours per 24 hour period is completely normal, and you can definitely find moms with happy, healthy 6 month old babies who only sleep 12 hours in a 24 hour period.

If your baby doesn't seem cranky, isn't rubbing her eyes or pulling her ears all day, isn't snatching catnaps whenever she can, doesn't look tired, has always slept less than other babies, etc I would be prepared to entertain the idea that she just doesn't need a lot of sleep.

One thing I notice is that you haven't complained about night waking. If your daughter is reliably sleeping sound from 8:30pm to 6:30am you're really in good shape. That's not to say that night waking can't start up with older babies and young toddlers, but my experience has always been that kids eventually return to their best sleep. If they slept well once, they will sleep well again. If you know at six months that your baby has the capacity to sleep for a ten hour stretch you're miles ahead of a lot of people.

In fact, if your baby is generally happy, you may be well off to accept that this is your normal. Some babies don't take long naps, they never fall into a deep sleep during the day and they only sleep well at night. Moreover, some babies take a long time to unwind and to settle down too. No matter what you do, it will just take them an hour to get to the point of sound sleep. Asking a baby who can settle and drift off quickly to fall asleep on their own after a nice routine is one thing, expecting a baby with a naturally long wind down phase to do it on their own may be unreasonable.

Anyway, if your daughter seems generally happy and she is developing normally, and if she is getting at least 12 hours of sleep in a 24 period, this may just be how she is.

I'll say again that 8-8:30pm seems to be a natural bedtime for this age. Maybe you're just starting bedtime too early. What happens if you keep her up while you cook and eat supper? If that makes the stretch from the last nap until bedtime seem too long try moving the naps around.

Some babies are really sensitive to daylight. If you don't already have black-out curtains in the room where she sleeps that may be something to consider.

Allison_berrios - posted on 07/08/2014

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The routine sounds great! It makes babies aware of what is next. The only change I would make is to let her fall asleep in her crib not in your arms. Try for a week. She will still
Cry but slowly put herself to sleep. Don't let her fall asleep breastfeeding. If she looks tired put her down. If she's not dozing off breast feeding, as soon as she's done give her a kiss and say goodnight and put her in her crib. I can almost guarantee she will go to sleep much easier. Let me know! I have 2 that have been successful sleepers and it was work but the consistency paid off. Good luck!

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Gabriella - posted on 08/05/2014

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I had the same issue with my son. When he was 3 months old, I bought him a ZipadeeZip swaddle blanket, and this stopped the crying! What other options have worked for you?

Katy - posted on 07/30/2014

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Hi, I’m Katy! So glad that I came across this chat room. I’m looking forward to talking with other moms.

Spell Priest - posted on 07/13/2014

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K - posted on 07/10/2014

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Today she had 2x 40 min naps between 630am and 730pm :-/
She just doesn't want to sleep during day - she went to sleep fine this time at 730 but I had to stand by her bed side until she did. Hardly any tears.
Once she is asleep in her bed she wakes regularly for the first hour but we wonder if teething is causing this or what.
She was awake from 2pm-730pm.. This is not normal for a 6 month old, right?

Chet - posted on 07/09/2014

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Have you tried nursing to sleep? All four of our kids nursed to sleep, and it worked really well for us.

Often when a baby seems to be asleep you need to hold them longer because they aren't fully asleep.

How is nap time? Sometimes bedtime is difficult because baby is overtired. Or sometimes the routine is so long baby gets overtired.

I would skip the bedtime book for a six month old. I think that could wake a baby up after a nice relaxing nursing session.

Have you tried laying down with her in your bed? Will she fall asleep with you next to her? If you don't want to co-sleep you could transfer her once she's completely sound.

What happens if you keep her up later? I will say that 8pm seems to be a very natural bedtime for a lot babies.

K - posted on 07/08/2014

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Thanks Allison, we spend half an hour by her bassinette singing lullabies and tapping her on the shoulder to settle her.... Will she eventually learn from this to put herself to sleep? As soon as we walk out she cries and then the real tears and sobbing appear... Its been going on for months.

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