Behavior problems??

Lisamarie - posted on 06/18/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Ok, so my middle child, Keegan, he is almost 4. His little sister isn't too far behind him in age. Everyone tells me he acts out for attention and fights for the spotlight with his sister. I get that. But what happens when he get scarey violent? His temper is short. THough it has gotten better the last few months, he still will bang the back of his head to the walls of his room while in a fit. He throws things, claws, bites, and hits his sister. He also does these things to his cousin who isn't too far behind him in age either. Now I know many kids do these things when they have siblings close to them in age. I've seen it with my neice. How do I get it to stop? Screaming, spanking, or corner punishment doesn't work.







My sister believes he gets like this when he is around many kids as well. Many times at my family get-togethers he will try his hardest to do everything to in trouble. Throw himself to the floors, screaming and trying to hit me. Its nuts!! His pediatrician says its just his age. I'm not too sure about that. I really don't know what to do sometimes. It has gotten to the point where I don't care to bother when he gets like that. Unless of coarse he is trying to afflict pain on himself or others. When that happens, I hold him down and try to hug the crazy out of him...lol.







Has anyone ever gone through this, if so how did you make it stop??

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We are still going through this madness with my step son, hes now 7 years old. I wish I could tell you what has and hasnt worked but to date nothing has really worked his dangerous behaviour started around the same age as your boy but he would only go after me and himself.



I would suggest however that your main concern should be on getting his sister out of the way if he seems to have chosen her to act on, make sure everyone else is safe first then tend to his needs. I know it sounds mean but if it doesnt get better you will have to start considering everyone elses safety over his.





Have a safe spot you can leave him for a short time so he can cool down, we've decided on his bedroom, we have an extremely flimsy lock on the door so he can get out in an emergency, but it gives us some time to quiet the chaos left behind after an episode.



Try and find out what triggers him to behave this way and try to avoid as much as you can.



I do hope that it does go away for your boy, but I do suggest you get a second opinion just in case. my step son has been diagnosed with ADD ODD and PDD.



Another thing would be to find something he can get in to, looking at safe books, colouring, watch a favourite tv show, anything that you can get a few minutes of peace. Praise him when he is good, and try to remember that each episode will pass. If he is getting into trouble in large groups start off with smaller groups and praise him when he is good then work your way up.



Its all a matter of continuously trying out if something will work.

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We are still going through this madness with my step son, hes now 7 years old. I wish I could tell you what has and hasnt worked but to date nothing has really worked his dangerous behaviour started around the same age as your boy but he would only go after me and himself.



I would suggest however that your main concern should be on getting his sister out of the way if he seems to have chosen her to act on, make sure everyone else is safe first then tend to his needs. I know it sounds mean but if it doesnt get better you will have to start considering everyone elses safety over his.





Have a safe spot you can leave him for a short time so he can cool down, we've decided on his bedroom, we have an extremely flimsy lock on the door so he can get out in an emergency, but it gives us some time to quiet the chaos left behind after an episode.



Try and find out what triggers him to behave this way and try to avoid as much as you can.



I do hope that it does go away for your boy, but I do suggest you get a second opinion just in case. my step son has been diagnosed with ADD ODD and PDD.



Another thing would be to find something he can get in to, looking at safe books, colouring, watch a favourite tv show, anything that you can get a few minutes of peace. Praise him when he is good, and try to remember that each episode will pass. If he is getting into trouble in large groups start off with smaller groups and praise him when he is good then work your way up.



Its all a matter of continuously trying out if something will work.

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