Birth Control

Jessica - posted on 07/14/2009 ( 55 moms have responded )

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hey everyone, I am a 23 year old married mother of 4. 3 girls as my oldest and a baby boy as my youngest. Their ages are 5, 3, 2, & 10 months. I am currently on the depo shot but about a month before I am dues the next shot I start spotting. It is so aggrivating beings I hate having a period anyways. I'm wanting to switch to a different form of birth control but I'm confused on which one. I was thinking about the marina/iud because I wouldn't have to worry about taking a pill everyday, or changing a patch and what not. Not only that I was on Ortho Tri Cyclen when I got pregnant the very 1st time and I took it at the same time everyday. Any suggestions for me?

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Amber - posted on 07/15/2009

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I have the mirena, I have had it for about three or four months. I am considering getting it taken out due to weight gain and being moody. It is nice because I have only had my period one time since I got it with little cramping and very little bleeding. I can't decide what to do if I should try something else or not, I feel bloated and heavy all the time. The thing is everyone deals with hormones differently so it is hard to say if it will be a good fit for you, most people I know who have it say that they love it. Good luck. I had the paraguard for three years with a lot of cramping, I finally got it taken out.

Shraddah - posted on 07/14/2009

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I was on Mirena. I would get a light period about every 1.5 months but it would last (very lightly) for about 3 weeks! So annoying. I have a friend who also has Mirena, I don't know how regular she is but at about 6 months or so her periods shortened to just a week.

Currenly I am on the nuva ring and I love it! I have been on it almost a year now and it's so convenient for me. I just have to remember to put it in and take it out once a month (twice total). I do get a period but it's only about 3-4 days (without birth control my periods are usally 8 days so this is a big improvement for me).



I hope this helped :)

Amanda - posted on 07/14/2009

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I had Mirena and after about 6 months with it, it fell out and I was 6 weeks pregnant. I'm due in October. I'm sure I am a rare case, but still. I personally am making my hubby do the hard work this time. I carried and gave birth to his children, the least he can do is get snipped. lol ;)

Becca - posted on 07/14/2009

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Hello! I'm on the marina/iud. I've been on it for about 2 1/2 years now. I only have a period every few months, but I have been awefully emotional. I never used to cry at anything and now I cry at commercials! When I don't have a period, I can still tell when I should have it because I cramp a lot more than usual. It is good that you don't have to worry about taking a pill everyday, but it does have it's draw backs. I've been thinking about getting off it and my husband and I are going to try natural family planning.

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June - posted on 07/20/2009

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Can you see it in your arm, and how do they put it in there? Are there as many hormones being released with the implanon than the mirena?

Jennifer - posted on 07/20/2009

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Hi I highly reccomend the implanon...I have one and love it!!! I had an IUD for 3 months and then had to have surgery to have it removed because it was floating in my abdomen and caused sever swelling and pain...not fun at all!!! The implanon is a flexible rod placed in the upper under side of your arm, it is good for 3 years and no other birth control is needed with it. Good luck :)

Sara - posted on 07/19/2009

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Jessica,



I had my first baby in February and have had Mirena since April. So far I love it. Like Crissy said above, it was a little painful getting it put in, just really bad cramping. But the cramping stopped after about an hour and then it's like nothing happened. You don't even know it's in there. I was breast feeding up until 2 weeks ago so I haven't had my period yet. My doctor told me however that there's a good chance that you won't have a period at all, or it will be lighter or not as often. I also like Mirena because it lasts up to 5 years, but you can take it out whenever you like. I recommend it.



If you decide that you don't want to do Mirena, I used the Nuva Ring for several years before we had our baby. It is very easy to insert and take out. You don't even know that it's in there and you only have to mess with it twice a month. I used to write the date that I needed to take it out and put it in on my mirror in the bathroom so I wouldn't forget. The only thing that was wierd was when my husband and I had sex, sometimes it would come out. So I just started taking it out before we had sex. I would recommend the Nuva Ring too.



Good Luck!

Crissy - posted on 07/18/2009

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hi! i have marina/iud!! i like it becuase i could never keep up w/ taking pills everyday or going to the doctor every couple months to get a shot and am deathly afraid of needles. i will tell you it is painful to get it in and i've heard it's painful to get it out also, but it's worth it, i think. i just felt like i had bad bad cramping the day i got it but that's it. and it's now july, i haven't had a period since like january or february!! so i love it!!

Amanda - posted on 07/18/2009

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Im on the mirena iud and i love it because its as easy as it gets. Just remember that everyones body is different so will react differently. I dont have any side effects actually I used to have migranes and havent had one since, I dont know if the two are related but overall I feel normal and I rarely get my period at all.

Vicky - posted on 07/18/2009

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have u ever heard of the implaint it last 4 3years and is very effective as i got pregnant whist on the pill but this has worked great 4 me. i dont think my mood changed and i didn't gain weight and it wont fall out as its under ur skin and u dont need 2 worry about taking a pill evey day.

Claire - posted on 07/18/2009

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Hiya i'm in a sinilar situation to you, I have 3 girls and a little boy aged 10 months 2, 4 and 6 :)

4 months ago I got the coil but not the marina the copper coil I find this so so good it's uncomfortable getting it put in but it's ten mins of that for ten years of the coil lol. Because it's the copper coil it has no hormones in it therefore no side affects you still have your period as normal and it lasts 8-10 years or if you decided you wanted more kids you just get it out and fertility is still normal coz there is nothing in your body. My first 3 periods were slightly heavier than normal but the lats was back to normal.

Hope this helps I find it really good x

June - posted on 07/18/2009

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I have had my merina in for 3 1/2 years now, and it is great. I kinda do think it is making me gain a little weight and yes, it makes you very emotional, but i can say i am not prego which is what matters most. I also have not had a period, no spotting, nothing in 3 1/2 years, i kinda miss having one its been so long!!

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I had an IUD and I loved that I did not have a cycle. (some people do, some don't) I had my IUD for 9months and it shifted positions, it did not cause any serious problems, just uncomfortable. Most people have no problems, my best friend has had hers for four years and se has never had a single issue. Just make sure to talk to you Dr. about all the risks. I think it was worth it. Good luck!

Hannah - posted on 07/17/2009

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I would try the mirena. Everything else will give you a period or spotting, according to my dr.

Ashley - posted on 07/17/2009

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I have had the copper ten year IUD for the past 2 years and it works really well for me. My friend has mirena and she isn't happy with it. Everybody is so different but I haven't heard of very many people that like the depo shots.

Dawn - posted on 07/17/2009

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i got the 10 year iud with no hormones in it and it works for me. I got it 6 years ago never had a problem with it. The only thing is that you would get your period every month. This may sound strange but i like the fact that i get my period although it my be annoying that way i know that indeed that i am not pregnant...good luck

Mandy - posted on 07/17/2009

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i have the mirena iud and i absolutely love it! i barely get a period and i have no cramps headaches or anything. like any birth control there are side effects and everyone reacts differently. the shot is the worst form of birth control though it stops u from producing either estrogen or progestrone i cant remember which, that can lead to serious problems later on. i would recomend the mirena it doesnt replace or change any of ur horomones!

Lorraine - posted on 07/17/2009

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Quoting rhonda:

hi. i think da best is da pull and pray cause if u pray den if god want u to have a bub he will give ya 1 but if not he wont.
pull and pray is da best.


say what? omg that is so stupid hahahaha no wonder i left this site. i can see the stupidity hasnt changed

Lupe - posted on 07/17/2009

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I have the Mirena right now and let me tell you girl, I don't regret getting it. Both my husband and I work full time and we have two toddlers. My oldest is 3 and the youngest is 1 1/2. Both boys. I get home from work and its like I clock in at home so personally for me, I don't have time to keep schedules. It does give you those emotional issues though. There's times that I just get SO angry over the smallest things but I've learned to calm myself down. As for the spotting, I get it but the longest for me would be like 2 days. Before I had children my periods only lasted 3-4 days anyway. I guess it depends on what you personally feel is right for you. I prefer to keep my Mirena because for me, I'd rather deal with a little emotion than forget to follow a schedule and end up having another baby right now. I do want more kids in the future but at the moment, I have my hands full.

Laura - posted on 07/16/2009

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I have a Mirena and I love it. I've had it about 6 months. I haven't gained weight, don't have mood swings....When they put it in I spotted for a month, which was annoying. I've had 2 regular cycles that were very light (needed a reg tampon the first day, then it was so light I only needed a pad) and short (3-4 days). As for the sex drive, my husband is in the Navy and is gone for training (it's been 3 1/2 months) so it's hard to judge. Before he left we hadn't noticed a difference.

Jolene - posted on 07/16/2009

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Well I have the Mierna IUD and love it! Some woman have their periods stop all together. Mine haven't stopped, but they are light and always regular.

Glenna - posted on 07/16/2009

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I had the Mirena put in a few months after my son was born. Within the first month it perforated my uterus and was in my abdomen. I had to have laproscopic surgery in order for them to remove it. They could not guarantee me that they werent gonna make a big incision on my stomach because through xrays and mri's they could not locate it 100%. I would definately not recommend it.

Nichole - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting kristen:

Hello, I am a mother of four children as well and have had my tubes tide three years ago. I used the patch and got pregnant and used the depo and gained a bunch of weight. I have heard alot about the IUD and most of it has been good. The most complaints I have heard is occassional crampiness in that region. With any birth control you are going to have your drawbacks but at least these are drawbacks you can plan for rather than an unexpected preganancy.


Kristen I am seriously considering getting my tubes tied. Did your insurance company or did you have to pay out of pocket for it? I have been trying to do research on it before I go talk to my doctor.

Kristen - posted on 07/16/2009

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Hello, I am a mother of four children as well and have had my tubes tide three years ago. I used the patch and got pregnant and used the depo and gained a bunch of weight. I have heard alot about the IUD and most of it has been good. The most complaints I have heard is occassional crampiness in that region. With any birth control you are going to have your drawbacks but at least these are drawbacks you can plan for rather than an unexpected preganancy.

Sean - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting April:

I had the mirena & after 3 months my body rejected it & it came out. I had my youngest son 9 months later. I got the 10 year IUD put in Feb & I like it I havent had any problems! Good luck. I also got pregnant with my first on the ortho tri cyclen. My second was the depo lol & third the mirena. Guess birth control only works for some ppl



oh my goodness! well someone must have really wanted you to have thoes babies!

Sean - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting rhonda:

hi. i think da best is da pull and pray cause if u pray den if god want u to have a bub he will give ya 1 but if not he wont.
pull and pray is da best.



rhonda maybe pull and pray is why you have 4.5 babies at 16.



Please pm me I think I can help you.



:)



 

Sean - posted on 07/16/2009

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I have the mirena and I just love it. it can stay in up to 5 years I believe and I have not had a period since I got it inserted. the only trouble I had was very mild cramping in the first 6 weeks and very light spoting. definatly better than having a period (most women do not get a period while on mirena). intercourse was painful the first few times but now I notice no diference. and I did have a bit of depression in the first few weeks as my body adjusted to the hormones but now it is as if I have nothing. it is so nice to not have to change a ring/patch or take a pill and the success rate is very high since their is no improper use rate. with the pill there is such a high failure rate because of improper use.
one draw back is the upfront cost. where I come from they are about $350 and the doctors visit is free (canada) I was lucky because my insurence coverd it and I only ended up paying $10.
If you want to change birth controll but are not ready for a tubal (which can be hard and costly to reverse) I highly recomend the mirena.
well good luck!

Jessica - posted on 07/16/2009

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yeah the depo does take alot of calcium out of your body and they want you to take vitamin c and calcium pills when you're on the shot but I've had more problems with my teeth now than ever...

April - posted on 07/16/2009

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I like the nuva ring also. I used that for a few months utnil I had my IUD put in!

Jessica - posted on 07/16/2009

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I use Nuva ring and I love it. You change it once a month and I have periods that are only 3 days. I've had a lot of problems with birth control in the past and this worked best for me. Depo is not good for you. It depletes your body of calcium and can make your bones brittle

Nichole - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting Jessica:



Quoting Nichole:




Quoting Jessica:

Nicole Lean I appreciate you comment... I have had several people whos comments have helped me some... I was wanting to get fixed but after I thought about it I was thinking hey in a few more years down the road I might want another kid beins I'm still young. I was wanting the merina because it lasts for 5 years but I didn't want it because I read up about it and it effects the eggs and sperm and if that fails it also effects the walls of your uterus making them thin. In other words if you got pregnant you would abort the baby. But the chances where slim so I was thinking about it. With this Depo shot I start spotting 3 to 4 weeks before my next shot is due, I have no sex drive, I am not gaining weight or moody though... I just want a form of birth control that I can afford that's not going to make me gain weight or get moody or bleed for a MONTH...







I hear ya...I would look more into getting your tubes tied cause you can always get them untied. I have been doing lots of research on it. It just seems every kind of birth I am on I don't want sex and I get terrible side effects.








Why don't they make birth control for men? I think men should have to go threw this crap. What do you think? lol









I think they should also make some kind of birthcontrol for men... for a few reasons... 1 to give their significant other a break... 2 if a guys not married or don't want kids a woman can be spiteful and not take her BC and get pregnant... so see it works out both ways... lol...





Haha. That would be great wouldn't it. Men don't go threw anything we go threw and then they bitch when we are moody because of it.

Amanda - posted on 07/16/2009

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April-

We are having a little girl. We will have 2 of each now and we think that's enough. My husband was done with 3, but apparently things happen. I just am pretty young and really not ready to give up my ability to have kids yet so he's taking one for team!

Felicia Neikolle - posted on 07/16/2009

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Another option that I didn't realize was still used that my doctor recently recommended for me ... good old fashioned diaphragm! lol ... I was surprised but we did consider it prior to deciding to try to conceive. You just use it with spermicide and go ... can't be too spontaneous with it but it's an option.

Rhonda - posted on 07/16/2009

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hi. i think da best is da pull and pray cause if u pray den if god want u to have a bub he will give ya 1 but if not he wont.
pull and pray is da best.

April - posted on 07/16/2009

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I always say I'm done but I know in a few years once there all in school I'm goign to want another one. I just love the baby stage. My youngest is 9 months. Congrats do you know what your having

Nicole - posted on 07/16/2009

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I like the mirena. No side effects thus far (had it for 8.5 months now). I have had no periods yet, granted I am breastfeeding so they may not return until after baby weans herself.

Amanda - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting April:

I had the mirena & after 3 months my body rejected it & it came out. I had my youngest son 9 months later. I got the 10 year IUD put in Feb & I like it I havent had any problems! Good luck. I also got pregnant with my first on the ortho tri cyclen. My second was the depo lol & third the mirena. Guess birth control only works for some ppl



I know what you mean. You know how most birth control is like 99.9% effective? My husband always tells me we ARE the .1%. We are expecting #4 and we are DONE. He is having a vasectomy!

April - posted on 07/16/2009

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I had the mirena & after 3 months my body rejected it & it came out. I had my youngest son 9 months later. I got the 10 year IUD put in Feb & I like it I havent had any problems! Good luck. I also got pregnant with my first on the ortho tri cyclen. My second was the depo lol & third the mirena. Guess birth control only works for some ppl

Lauren - posted on 07/16/2009

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talk to your doc ask for brochures on all birth control they explain alot im on the depo now for 2 years an my periods have compltly stoped

Amber - posted on 07/16/2009

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There are so many mixed reviews on the mirena. I know it's a personal choice, I am seriously debating taking mine out mostly for the weight gain. But weighing the pros and cons, I mean it is a very effective birth control and you reall don't have to think about anything each day or each month. I just hate all the weight. Hmm

Allyson - posted on 07/16/2009

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Hi there! I'm on the mirena IUD and I LOVE it!!! The best part is not having to worry about a pill or condoms or anything else. I do still have a period each month, but it's VERY light and only lasts about a day or two. Like Becca, I have been a little more emotional (I cry at the end of Cars when Lightning McQueen helps The King cross the finish line... my son watches this movie everyday). You do need to check for the strings once a month to make sure it's still there. That part is a little weird but not a big deal. I haven't felt the IUD at all though. I haven't gained any weight either. I just love, love, love it and I would recommend it for sure! My sister had the depo shot and developed all sorts of problems from it (an infection was the tip of the iceberg). Hope this helps!!

Felicia Neikolle - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting Amanda:

I had Mirena and after about 6 months with it, it fell out and I was 6 weeks pregnant. I'm due in October. I'm sure I am a rare case, but still. I personally am making my hubby do the hard work this time. I carried and gave birth to his children, the least he can do is get snipped. lol ;)


Actually this isn't as rare as we would all like to think.  The first time I had the paraguard in it fell out too.  I didn't end up preggers but that's most likely b/c I was in the middle of a divorce.  Not to mention, not all doctors tell you this but it can dislodge at any time and move throughout your body too ... thank God yours came out!!!

Felicia Neikolle - posted on 07/16/2009

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I had an IUD for several years and my periods were always so messed up. Not only were they typically messed up, I would cramp so badly (and I never had cramps before it). Not to mention, sex at times was quite uncomfortable. It was the best option for me b/c I had heart palpitations from the pill (ortho low), allergic to the adhesive in the patch (literally had whelps from it), and got pregnant and ended up losing my child on the shot. I had it removed in March and everything has been SO much better since. Of course, my husband and I are now trying for our first together (fifth all together but that's a long different story) and when we have this one ... our next form of birth control will be a vasectomy. I hope you find what works best for you. Sorry I'm not much help ... just there are a lot of drawbacks to the IUD that the doctors don't tell you about. I would recommend talking to women who have had it before making your final decision.

Jessica - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting Nichole:



Quoting Jessica:

Nicole Lean I appreciate you comment... I have had several people whos comments have helped me some... I was wanting to get fixed but after I thought about it I was thinking hey in a few more years down the road I might want another kid beins I'm still young. I was wanting the merina because it lasts for 5 years but I didn't want it because I read up about it and it effects the eggs and sperm and if that fails it also effects the walls of your uterus making them thin. In other words if you got pregnant you would abort the baby. But the chances where slim so I was thinking about it. With this Depo shot I start spotting 3 to 4 weeks before my next shot is due, I have no sex drive, I am not gaining weight or moody though... I just want a form of birth control that I can afford that's not going to make me gain weight or get moody or bleed for a MONTH...





I hear ya...I would look more into getting your tubes tied cause you can always get them untied. I have been doing lots of research on it. It just seems every kind of birth I am on I don't want sex and I get terrible side effects.






Why don't they make birth control for men? I think men should have to go threw this crap. What do you think? lol





I think they should also make some kind of birthcontrol for men... for a few reasons... 1 to give their significant other a break... 2 if a guys not married or don't want kids a woman can be spiteful and not take her BC and get pregnant... so see it works out both ways... lol...

Nichole - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting Jessica:

Nicole Lean I appreciate you comment... I have had several people whos comments have helped me some... I was wanting to get fixed but after I thought about it I was thinking hey in a few more years down the road I might want another kid beins I'm still young. I was wanting the merina because it lasts for 5 years but I didn't want it because I read up about it and it effects the eggs and sperm and if that fails it also effects the walls of your uterus making them thin. In other words if you got pregnant you would abort the baby. But the chances where slim so I was thinking about it. With this Depo shot I start spotting 3 to 4 weeks before my next shot is due, I have no sex drive, I am not gaining weight or moody though... I just want a form of birth control that I can afford that's not going to make me gain weight or get moody or bleed for a MONTH...


I hear ya...I would look more into getting your tubes tied cause you can always get them untied. I have been doing lots of research on it. It just seems every kind of birth I am on I don't want sex and I get terrible side effects.



Why don't they make birth control for men? I think men should have to go threw this crap. What do you think? lol

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My son is 5 months old & I've had the Mirena since my 6 week check up. It has given me issues from day 1. The first time my hubby & I had intercourse it hurt him & I had to get the strings shortened twice. I bled for 3 months straight...sometimes heavy, sometimes spotting but always there. I am just now getting comfortable enough to leave the house without tampons, pads or liners. I only gained 14 pounds during pregnancy...lost 20 after...now have gained 25 since having it put in. No sex drive whatsoever & my mood swings are terrible. Hubby doesn't know which day to come home with a box of tissues or with a shield...lol. The only good thing I have to say about my IUD is that I haven't gotten pregnant as of yet(knock on wood). I'm starting to think all birth control was invented by men. ;)

Chez - posted on 07/15/2009

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I believe the mirena is an excellent idea.

I'm on pregnancy number 4.

I've fallen pregnant twice on the pill (I'm shocking at remembering to take it)

I wanted to get the mirena but during the assessment which includes STD checks and pap smear, they noticed abnormal cells on my cervix and diagnosed me with CIN3 cervical precancer - so the mirena went out the window. Stayed on the pill and hence my 4th pregnancy.

If I could of, I would of gone on the mirena. I like the double protection of the IUD and the hormones that prevent pregnancy.

Jessica - posted on 07/15/2009

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Nicole Lean I appreciate you comment... I have had several people whos comments have helped me some... I was wanting to get fixed but after I thought about it I was thinking hey in a few more years down the road I might want another kid beins I'm still young. I was wanting the merina because it lasts for 5 years but I didn't want it because I read up about it and it effects the eggs and sperm and if that fails it also effects the walls of your uterus making them thin. In other words if you got pregnant you would abort the baby. But the chances where slim so I was thinking about it. With this Depo shot I start spotting 3 to 4 weeks before my next shot is due, I have no sex drive, I am not gaining weight or moody though... I just want a form of birth control that I can afford that's not going to make me gain weight or get moody or bleed for a MONTH...

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I wouldn't suggest mirena/iud at all to anyone. I have it and I get migraines, hair lose, I have no sex drive at all. It's the worse birth control I have ever been on. I am getting mine taken out and getting my tubes tied. Getting your tubes tied is 95% reversible. Good luck with what you choose!!!

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I'm on the pill, but in 2-3 years when my hubby and I are sure we're done he's getting "fixed." Honestly though, no one form is 100% effective. We got pregnant with our 21 month-old when I was on the pill and we used condoms (yes, every single time - I was adamant about it) when we got pregnant with our 5 month-old.



Good luck finding what works best for you!

Amanda - posted on 07/15/2009

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I didn't have any weight gain on Mirena. I actually lost quite a bit, but then again I was working pretty hard to lose baby weight. The only hormonal problems I had were major mood swings. Nothing huge, but still worse than PMS.

Amber - posted on 07/15/2009

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What about weight gain with the shot or other hormonal related problems that I have metioned that go along with the Mirena, have you had any of those issues?

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i would say just stay on the shot... For me after the 3rd or 4th series, spotting was no longer an issue, there were no signs of a period the rest of the time i was on it... im on it again, again after about 6 months the spotting was no longer present

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