Birth Control

Marjolaine - posted on 10/29/2010 ( 31 moms have responded )

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ok so my son is almost 9 mos and im still not on birth control ive been checking a few out and so far none have really caught my eye.
i have a problem with b/c that have hormones in them i turn out to be an uber crazy bitch to the point where i really dont want to be me. I've taken the pill (allesse) and tried another one but forget what its called but i cant take day to day pills cuz i always seem to miss a few. ive been on the patch but that was prolly the worst for the hormones none of my friends wanted to hang out with me any more and i just couldnt stand it i fell into a deep depression after that and once i stopped everything went back to normal. i have also tried the ring but it fell out and i got pregnant with my son.. i did want to try the IUD but once i got the prescription i found out how much it was and i had to pay for it all on my own with out the help of my indian band. which is really sucky cuz it cost about $200 almost and i cant afford that ata ll ive been putting money aside for it but as soon as i have half i need that money for something else for my son.. so far ive just been using the pull out method and been counting days of my period and when i expect to be fertile but its just so stressful doing that cuz id still have a high chance of getting preggo again and im not ready yet... basically if you know of anything i can do with out having to take the shot cuz im scared ill be bleeding for a whole 6 mos and that would just be hell for me and yet so would being a bitch to everyone i care about...

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Shanna - posted on 10/30/2010

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Hmmm.... I remember that saying when I was younger:
What do you call people using the pull out method?...

Parents.

Birth control is expensive especially if you are doing it out of pocket. Planned parent hood provides reduced price birth control, and I think many state run organizations do as well. Mirena IUD is great, but yes, it is a steady release hormone. The paraguard IUD is the copper up to 10yr IUD that is NOT hormonal. Both IUDs have similiar efficacy and safety profiles. If you wish to avoid hormones you may want the copper. It is a bit more uncomfortable to put in, but labor is also a bit uncomfortable. Same with the expense...the pull out method, free for now...add a baby, and well heck you have paid for the IUD in under a month. It is always interesting to hear how one can so easily fear the minimal and unlikely side-effects of birth control, but forget the more likely side-effects/safety issues with pregnancy. You might want the birth control pills for now until you can afford the other more reliable method. Heck use combinations for added peace of mind...pills+condoms+pull out+calendar watching+spermicide+plan B if necessary. Do remember that pils are quite effective if used correctly, much error resulting in pregnancy is human error, forgetting a dose, taking another medication/medicine while on the pill, etc.

Jodi - posted on 10/29/2010

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I get horrible side effects from birth control pills too, although for the longest time my doctor told me it was impossible! (Yeah...'cuz ingesting hormones won't do *anything* for you except effect your fertility! Quack! I changed docs btw.) The mirena IUD uses hormones and was absolutely HORRIBLE for me (I was told the mood side effects were very very rare..but everyone I know who had it hates it) I had mine taken out about 6 months after I had it put in. I switched to a diaphragm, they're no worse on effecting the mood of the moment to put in than a condom and you still get the condom free feeling PLUS the added protection of a spermicide. I love my diaphragm...but after this pregnancy I'm getting my tubes tied and won't have to worry about it! (This was a planned pregnancy btw...not an accidental "oops my diaphragm failed! lol)
Best of luck...pull out method is really risky, I would AT LEAST use a spermicide or a lube with spermicide in it..but a diaphragm works great!!!

Rachel - posted on 10/29/2010

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... there are non-hormonal forms of birth control. Just because you don't like the hormones doesn't mean that you should decide to use no birth control at all. The "pull-out" method is very risky.

Chrystal - posted on 10/29/2010

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I feel you on that one. I just had my first child and decided I wanted to be put on birth control after having her. I had never been on birth control before and me my husband had always done the pull out method. And when I got put on birth control, I had all the bad side effects, the bad mood swings, depression, bleeding. All of that not so fun stuff. So I just stopped taking it. My take on it is, I will never use birth control again b/c of all the hormones and how it makes you change your whole personality. I decided that me and my husband will just have to be super careful b/c I don't believe in birth control anymore. It's not natural so there is no reason for me to put my family through hell if I don't have to. Hope this helps

Klarissa - posted on 10/29/2010

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Joie,
i am currently taking one called Nora-Be and it is a birth control pill and it has worked great for me so far after having my first daughter, i wasn't sure which one that I wanted to be on either, and then my obgyn found this one for me. hope this helps, the only other ones that i can think of that the doctor might prescribe would be mirena or yaz, and there was another one but can't think of the name hope this helps and good luck

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Elysia - posted on 11/01/2010

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ive just had the mirena iud put in 3weeks ago and so far am very happy with it, i also have to be careful as diffenent things cause major mood swings even certain multi vitamins set me off. I was a little concerned as i was already suffering from some postnatal depression 2 babies in 16months is hard but i think my mood has actually felt better,
im not sure where u are but it didnt cost me anywhere near that much for mine, it was $30 dollars for the prescription and then $40 for the doctor to put it in, i did go to my family planning clinic rather than a gyno so it was cheaper im aus btw. I have had spotting and stuff most days but its usually just a little bit and only once a day and my partner says he cant even notice the strings

Nikkole - posted on 11/01/2010

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I have 2 children now but i used to take pills and i NEVER could remember to take them everyday then i tried to get the IUD put in and i couldnt because my uterus was tilted me and my husband just use condoms for now but he is getting a vasectomy next month i hope you find something that will help you!

Jimmilia - posted on 11/01/2010

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I'm currently on the depo shot (every 3 months) I have no problems with it

Jade - posted on 11/01/2010

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I'm not really sure because the pill did not work for me; that is why I have my daughter (my second) first one died of miscarriage. I use mirena! I would not trust the pull out method. If anything I would use a condom until you can find something that is right for you...

Amber - posted on 10/31/2010

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I don't know if you have a planned parenthood around, but they accept insurance and then if you need to pay anything out of pocket, I believe they will do a payment plan with you. Or look into other clinic's that might be willing to do something like that. I have paraguard and I really like the fact that it doesn't have any hormones! I myself had problems with just about any other b/c I tried (for different reasons)...but I wish you luck!

Heather - posted on 10/31/2010

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i just had my daughter, i got put on Mirena. so far i love it. no problems at all!!

Alexis - posted on 10/30/2010

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Condoms...I agree with the hormones, I was the same way and it totally killed my sex drive which wasn't good for my relationship. I too can't commit to an everyday pill. That kind of leaves you with the option of being ok if you have an 'accident' and get pregnant or use condoms.

Courtney - posted on 10/30/2010

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Condoms and Mirena. lol those are the only one I know about you haven't named. lol

Heidi - posted on 10/30/2010

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Hi Joie i have a 8 month old daughter and i have had the implanon chip in my arm since she was 2 months, i think its great as i was too unreliable on the pill, i get paid by the government and i have a concession card so it cost me like $10 instead of $250 full price. i like the implanon coz i dont have to worry about it for 3 yrs. my periods come regularly and i dont need to stress..

Ricky - posted on 10/30/2010

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Thats weird that you had to pay for the IUD out of your pocket. You said you were indian (which I am assuming is the native kind not east) and I snooped your profile and saw you are from BC canada. As a registered native you are or should be covered by the government for health insurance. They do cover 1 IUD every 5 years. I am native and live in Vancouver BC and I didnt have to pay to get an IUD, but unfortunately the dr couldnt get it in and the government wouldnt pay for another one so my gyno could try.
All I can say is the pull out method is a bad method, Use Condoms at least.

Rachel - posted on 10/30/2010

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Tat's exactly, what I do. Keep my pills in my pure and set an alarm on my phone. I rarely ever forget these days.

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Condoms, love.

I used to be on a low-hormone birth control called Aviane for multiple ovarian cysts. Maybe you can try that. It helped me with everything from those cysts to acne to even the bloating and cramps and ridiculous mood swings. It was great, just enough to keep me from going crazy on everyone. I was on that for a few years. My doctor then tried to switch me over to Yaz, but that made me much worse than I'd been in the first place and after only taking it a month I ended up bleeding more than ever and getting so sick. So I had to go back to Aviane for another year, and then my insurance went out on me, so I was off it for a year or more and now I have my daughter due in January.

If I were you, I'd set a daily alarm so that you will remember to take your pills. That and condoms seems like the safest way to go. I don't see why an alarm wouldn't work, if you have a phone you can set one to go off every day at the same time and you should always keep your pills with you in a safe place in your purse or something. That's what I did, and I'm horrible with remembering to take any kind of pill.

I hope that helps.

Amber - posted on 10/30/2010

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Mirena was horrible for me. I had it in for about 14 months and it was just a horrible 14 months. For the 1st few months my hair fell out a lot! Then I started having anxiety & depression as well as intense mood swings. My doctor kept those side effects were normal and would go away. Well the only side effect that went away was my hair falling out, the others just got worse. After the 1st 6 months I started having sharp pains in my lower abdomen several times a month as well as a few other things. My mood swings got so bad my husband and I almost got divorced. So after it being in for 14 months I saw a different doctor and asked her to take it out since my doctor would not. I've also tried the patch, depo shot, & nuva ring. Honestly the shot was great for me as long as I got it in my hip. If I got the shot in my arm I would bleed until it was time to get my next shot. I did ask my doctor about the implanon and she said it has the same hormones as mirena & the depo shot. She told me it would be a 50/50 chance on how my body would react to it. Because I did great on the depo which is a higher dose of hormones & I did horrible with mirena which is a much smaller dose of hormones. Birth control effects everyone differently and the only way your going to know how it works for you is to try it.Good luck on finding a birth control that works for you =)

Tiffany - posted on 10/30/2010

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Any and every birth control has had an awful reaction with me. I cant take pills, the nuva ring mad me have pregnancy symptoms (morning sickness) i aint going thru morning sicknees a 3rd time unless im having my 3rd baby lol. I currently have the merina iud,whch i plan to get out asap. I hate it!!!!!! Pain non stop, worries of being in the few percentage of getting preg then losing the baby because ofhe dangers of it, and so on. And i have used the pull out meathod for 7 years, and only had 2 PLANNED pregnancies. we use condoms from time to time. But we are also strong believers in if it is suppose to happen, it will weather we are using bc or not. We are stern believers in everything happens for a reason. We plan on ONLY using pull ou and condoms after my iud removal, and if i get preg, so be it. Another bundle of joy to love.

Jodi - posted on 10/29/2010

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Have you tried condoms?



Much safer than the pull out method. At this rate, you'll be wishing you'd paid for the IUD because having another baby is a shitload more expensive that an IUD......

Tricia - posted on 10/29/2010

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HV U TRIED YAZ? ITS THE ONLY ONE OF ITS KIND BESIDE THE YASMIN THAT HAS THE LEAST AMOUNT OF DROSPERINONE IN IT, PLZ MENTION THIS TO YOUR DOCTOR

Rachel - posted on 10/29/2010

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You can get the copper IUD instead of the Mirena if you want to avoid the hormones. I had one for three years and it worked perfectly. You can basically forget it's there and you're always protected from getting pregnant (well, as much as any hormonal birth control protects you, like 99%).

Liz - posted on 10/29/2010

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i was on orthotricycline LO after I had my b/g twins. They are two now, and I got pregnant on the pill. My youngest is three and a half months. After he was born as soon as I was able I got the Mirena IUD put in. So far I haven't had any problems with it. I've had it for just over two months now, and it's been great.

Allie - posted on 10/29/2010

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I have mirena. I love it and have had no problems (I've had it for two years..) I did have to pay 700$ out of pocket, but my husband and I did the math and it pays for itself in the first year and a half. So just keep that in mind with whatever you choose. I was also on orthotricyclineLO ( I got pregnant on it) but it has a very low dose of hormones compared to other pills.

Rachel - posted on 10/29/2010

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Or an IUD if you don't want a baby for a few years. They just put it in and you can forget about it. Or low dose hormones might be worth a try for people like me who experience a lot of side effects from other pills.

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I agree rachel! There are two types of coil on of which does not use hormones and of course there's always condoms.... =] Personally I'd rather not run the risk of concieving a whole football team!

Emma - posted on 10/29/2010

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the impant was terrible for the side effects of mood swings! never again! i am now on the pill cerazette had no probs no mood swings abs brilliant! give it a go!

Rachel - posted on 10/29/2010

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I take Yaz. I think it's wonderful. Low dose, and for me, no side effects whatsoever. I don't know of anything that will counteract with it except other drugs/antibiotics... and I don't take any of those. I also had a copper IUD for a few years. It was very convenient. I would recommend one if you can ever afford it. I would not recommend the "pull-out" method. That's a good way to accidentally get pregnant. What about condoms? They're better than nothing.

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I have implanon the implant but for me cost wasn't a problem. I live in the UK where we have free healthcare.

Marjolaine - posted on 10/29/2010

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and i have been talking to my doctor but hes not too sure what to do for me either he has prescribed me yaz but i read up on that and theres just too much that will counteract with it...

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