Birthday confusion

Sierra - posted on 04/24/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




My boys are three years apart and share birthday months and i am starting to plan the birthday parties and i am conflicted abouth whether to have their parties together or not.Birthdays are a pretty big deal in my family and i dont want to minimize the occasions by having them share but i also dont want people to not show up because there will be two parties within a few weeks.Just looking for some opinons!!


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Jenae - posted on 04/27/2009




Try having one a week early and the other a week late. Then they'll be spread out more so people will show up. Plus you won't need to pay for everything at once.

Kristy-Lynn - posted on 04/24/2009




It is difficult but each one will probably want their day just to themselves. Birthdays are your own day to celebrate your birth. If people only want to attend one party they can rotate and take turns with each child. Being three years apart they will have some friends that they share but some of their own too. So It shouldn't be too bad. My son and daughter's birthdays are only two days apart and mine and both of my sisters' are only 4 days apart. My other daughter also has a birthday 2 weeks before mine so I understand!

Heather - posted on 04/24/2009




We have three birthdays in march and we have one big birthday for the family and then the older kids get there own friend birthday party. The older kids like that better anyway because they get the family thing done and then get their friends over a different night for the whole night. The younger kids dont care yet so I am Asking your kids what they would like might be the most helpful thing you could do for yourself.

Jen - posted on 04/24/2009




I'd say have the actual family/friend birthday party together and then each let them have their special day on their official birthday. Like letting each pick where they want to eat and what they want to do for that day. Hope it works out well.

Emily - posted on 04/24/2009




Bake the cake! People will come! Everyone loves to see little ones grow, and those who love your children will come to both parties if that's what you decide to do!

Rebecca - posted on 04/24/2009




Ask your 5 year old if he is okay with it and if he is, go for it. Maybe let him be in charge of a couple of "surprises" for baby. Just get special cakes for each of them.

Kelly - posted on 04/24/2009




My brother and I are 2 weeks apart. when I was younger I neverer mided sharing because i didnt know better...after about 7 I cared. lol. However, my parents still did our parties together...just make sure you get them each their own cake.

And as a next child will be within 2 weeks of my first and I will have their parties together as well.

Rachael - posted on 04/24/2009




Two of my brothers three boys have the same b-day on St. Patrick's day. It has become tradition that the boys get their joint party and after it's over they go play and the adults get their party. It's a lot of fun and every year we know we always have a St. Paddy's day party to go to.

Lindsey - posted on 04/24/2009




You could do a family party for both boys together. At the family party makes sure to invite all the aunts uncles and grandparents. and then have individual friend parties that are smaller. that way the kids feel special and that way your family only has to come to one. it may mean more work for you in the end. i hope this idea helps

Lisa - posted on 04/24/2009




My son and daughter have a birthday almost exactly a week apart...Oct 22nd and Nov 4th...I have separate parties for them because birthdays are a big thing in our family also. I do understand though about people not showing up to them both! I would say if they are a few weeks apart and you make sure you schedule them at times people are available so they don't have an excuse not to come! LOL

Julia - posted on 04/24/2009




I gues sit depends how old your boys are. If they're much younger, they may not mind sharing a birthday party togother. But if they're older, like closer to ten, they might like a special day all on their own. Their friends may be very different, so it may be "uncool" for your older son to have friends of your younger son over an playing at the same time. Hope this helps even a little!

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