can anyone tell me how to stay calm with 4 small children? cause I have lost my touch It seems!!

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Shauna - posted on 04/16/2009

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I know that right now everyone's is trying to spend less.. however. if there are any young girls/boys on your street, ( like 10 or 11) you could ask them over to be your helper and give her 10-20 dollars. have her come over a few times a week as your "helper" and have him/her help you play with the kids or just kinda watch them so you can shower, clean, or just sit! It will help you and the kids a ton and give the girl/boy a great feeling.. I bet thier mom will be happy to have them out of the house too!

Jessi - posted on 04/16/2009

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I posted to you some ideas i use with my three little ones,and I hope even just one of them helps!I make sure that I spend time alone,either on the computer or wrapped up in bed with a really good book!Just remember that as they get older things get somewhat simpiler...try and stay calm and relaxed,it helps me stay in a good state of mind,handling whatever they throw at me!!!!!Best of luck,and i am happy to talk shall you wish too!Jess

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i cant imagine having 4. i have a 19month old boy and a new born boy. thats hard enough, i find that if im calm and take it in my stride that it rubs off on my kids. however my sister has three young ones, when i leave her house mu head is throbbing and i crave the peace of my own home. so good luck and remember just take it in your stride xxxxxxx

Jessi - posted on 04/16/2009

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I have three girls!A 2 yr old,3 yr old and 7 month old!My husband works alot and has just been accepted into the army,so that makes me even more responsible for the kiddies,and I am home with them fulltime.Things can get crazy and full on in my home,and I need to reaveluate our routine alot in order to work with the changes that happen with kids as they age,but I find that just keeping myself calm,making sure i keep them all fed on time and up with water during the day,i break activities up into each day,like a movie time,arts and craft,and then reading,and i enforce naps as it really helps the girls(and me).Its not easy I understand,and it takes alot of effort,and you proberly feel your never doing anything right and that your kids are going to hate you(i feel like that sometimes),but then when i retuck them in before i head to bed and see them peacefully sleeping,I get a warm swell in my heart,and i realise that we love our kids,give them what we know they need,and care for them to the best we can!!!!So i am sure its just a rough period and things will pick up!Maybe a change in environment will help?

Melody - posted on 04/14/2009

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I feel your pain, i have five, 10 being the oldest and 2 the youngest! Play dates are ok, but with so many kids everyday is like a party for them! Its hard to stay calm, especially when you are cleaning up after a family that size, there is a lot that we are trying to juggle and get done including meeting the different needs of each one. My advice, make sure u take time for yourself to gather your thoughts and calm your nerves. Routine and structure a must. Im a single mom as well and i find that i need to be a little more strict then most mothers. With so many children they can get out of hand rather quickly. They need to know that there is a time and a place. And if u have to ignore them for 5-10 mins while u catch a breather then do it. I know for myself that if i get to worked up and stressed then we all suffer! good luck!

Wendy - posted on 04/14/2009

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I have 4 boys. They are all close together in age. 6, 4,2, and 10 months. I have found that going to they gym once a day helps alot for me. The local gym offers daycare for $1 an hour per kids. It is really relaxing for me. I get a little time away and use my stress in working out.

Annaleise - posted on 04/13/2009

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i wish i knew tell me if u find the answer i have 3 babies under 3 i dont think we have lost our touch i think we are out numbered lol

Joy - posted on 04/13/2009

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I am about to have my second and I can't imagine what you're going through. My cousin had four children and although the first few years were tough she said it got much easier as they got older. Are any of them on schedules? I've always heard that it helps.

Heather - posted on 04/13/2009

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I don't think it's possible all the time. We have good days and bad days at my house. Somedays I just stay calmer, and sometimes the kids just behave better. I have two boys 6 and 4 and twin girls that are 17 months. It's crazy around here, but for the most part I love it!! Staying calm is an on going thing I'm working on. Just when I think I've got it, it is lost. Just keep trying and know that your not alone!

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I don't think I can help... I just wanted to say my hat goes off to you. I have two 19 month olds and a 7 month old, and I feel like pulling my hair out some days. I can't imagine 4, thats nuts! Best of luck!

Ayana - posted on 04/13/2009

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it takes alot patience ....I have a 5 yr old and a 8mth old ,what I try to do is get my oldest son an activity to do around the house believe it not kids like to help... around that age and with my baby I watch baby programs little einsteins barney and I sing songs with him he enjoys that alot.

Teyaka - posted on 04/13/2009

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PLAY DATES!!!!!



I can not stress play dates enough. Also try playing with them. I know you probably have a lot going on, but if you take the time to play with them, even if its just a few minutes... things are a little calmer.

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