can`t stop smoking!!!

Stacey - posted on 04/09/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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hi there im stacey im 20 years young and im 4 months pregnant and i cant stop smoking, alot of people find it so easy knowing theres a little one inside but i`m finding it very hard! can any relate?

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Angela - posted on 04/09/2009

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i didn't start smoking until my boys (twins) were about a year old. right before they turned 6 yrs old, i got pregnant with my daughter, now 10 mos. i tried to quit after i found out i was pregnant. i went from 3/4 pack a day down to 1/3 or 1/2 pack depending on the day. i asked my ob about quitting, she wasn't worried, since i had cut back some. i went to a smoking cessation class and it scared me into cutting back to about 6 cigs a day. i still couldn't quit. my doc wouldn't let me use the patch or gum, she said it wasn't "safe." i started having breathing problems when i was 4-5 months along. i started having to use an inhaler. at 6 months, i had a bad astma attack, which scared me into quitting for good. i haven't had one since. after more than a year, it's still tough, but better than not breathing! good luck, just remember, some of us have been there and been able to do it. check with your local hospital, they may have a cessation program, even if you can't take the meds, the support is very beneficial!

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Christine - posted on 04/11/2009

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i went from a pack a day before i got pregant to quitting for 3-4 months. that was the hardest thing. you have to cut caffiene, smoking, EVERYTHING when you're pregnant. My husband found out that i snuck a couple every week or so and he sat me down and said that he didn't agree or like what i was doing, but he understood how hard it is to quit. he said that if i had to smoke, i was only allowed to do it with him.



it was much easier after that to cut down or almost quit, because i felt like he was giving me an option, and not forcing yet another thing with my body, like everyone else does when a woman is pregnant. take to your S.O. and say that you're finding it hard to quit, but make them enforce a limit on you. if you smoke 6 now, try 3 (breakfast, lunch and dinner), and keep going.



I'm sure there will be days when you HAVE TO have one...i've been there. but other times, you'll distract yourself and you're going to just not want it.

User - posted on 04/11/2009

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Also.. keep in mind just because baby is born healthy does not mean that the smoking will not have an effect on future health. Smoking increases the chances of baby getting certain types of cancers later in life.

Angela - posted on 04/11/2009

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Quoting Jamie:



I was a smoker until I got prego and I quit, it was tough, you just gotta go cold turkey. I havent lit back up since and my daughter will be 4 next month. My BF, smoked through her entire pregnancy with her kids, and she had very tiny babies not even 5lbs and lots of issue with them wanting to come early. She was so bad I saw her outside smoking a few hours after giving birth. Your going to have enough trouble breathing with a little one inside you might as well not add to it and have a healthy baby.






i diss agree with you i was a smoker through both my pregnancys  both my baby were big and healthy not one thing wrong with them my first girl was 7lb 2oc my boi was 9lb both pregnancy i had no prob with either so i think ur friend may have just been unlucky. if she is ur bf why judge her on her choices after she had her baby ??

User - posted on 04/11/2009

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I think the best thing that will help you stop smoking is researching the damage that it can do to your baby. I'm sure it is very difficult to quit, but you have to keep in mind that baby did not ask to be put in your belly, and you don't want to take the chance of risking her health for a few smokes. Before I had my children I worked in the nursery at one of our local hospitals. I know someone on here said that small babies are due to genetics... and that may be somewhat true.. but small babies are also due to smoking. I can't tell you how many times women who were smokers were delivering babies that were under 5 pounds, and that is considered severely underweight. Also, smoking mothers have many more complications during pregnancy and labor. Babies with a low birth weight do not handle oxytocin as well.. so if you need some help having baby and they put you on pitocin, baby may not be able to handle it as well and you may have a plummeting heart rate which will lead to an emergency c section. You need to keep in mind that your job as mom is to protect your child no matter what the situation... and it needs to start even before baby is born.

Hayley - posted on 04/11/2009

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while nicotine patches are a great way to quit smoking... they deliver nicotine to ur blood stream directly for 16 to 24 hours a day, no body smokes 24 hours a day so im just wondering how beneficial something like that could be.. i am pregnant with me third child and yes while i know the risks and dangers it is the most hardest thing to ever do.. QUIT SMOKING.. i have smoked for over 10 yrs now and tried my best thru every pregnancy to stop.. when the dr see how anxious id become and irratable he believed if quitting was to make me stress like that what sort of damage would i be doing to my baby.. it is fact that more still births and misscarriages are caused by stress than any other factor. i have cut down to 6-12 smokes a day. i am trying really hard but all my children were born healthy and have no health issues. my children wieghing between 7 pounds to 8 pound 5 ..



 



. do the best you can i am no way condoning smoking while pregnant but there are alot of worse things you could be doing and anyone who says that "how can a mother love her baby if she smokes pregnant?" they have no idea.. i am a smoker but my children are my life.... hang in there you are doing great for a young mum...



 



Love from another young mum

Elizabeth - posted on 04/10/2009

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going cold turkey can be really bad for your baby....when we are pregnant smells can turn us off and thats why some girls can give up really easy (not all but some) something I know my cousin did was put cigarette butts in a jar with an inch of water, everytime you feel like having a smoke, open the jar and have a whiff, that might put it off a little longer.....lol

Diane - posted on 04/10/2009

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Im a smoker and was lucky with my first preg I quit cold turkey and w/my 2nd I quit at about 4 wks cause it made me so sick! I was very lucky at that.Its an extremely hard habit to kick.I started back up when he was 3mo old.PPD.I think thats what got me through.Sad,but true.I new a girl who smoked like a chimney through her whole preg and had a 9lb baby! So I think its all depends on the person.Good Luck to you!

Vicky - posted on 04/10/2009

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Hi. Im 21 and fell pregnant at 18.I was smoking then and told myself i had to give up. My partner at the time was a smoker so i new it was going to be hard. I was working on a friday and saturday night at my local bp garage so it was really stressful. In the end i cut down to only smoking on my night shifts. I did that by making myself do somfink when i needed to smoke. At about 30 weeks i was put in to a bnb to wait for my house from the council. It as through bordom that i started again. Going outside i started talking to other people that smoked. It was outside smoking at the bnb that i met my partner that i am with now. Even then i was smoking 10 less then i was when i found out that i was pregnant.When i moved into my house i didnt light one up because i had to go outside and i had so much to do. In the end i had Dylan 18 days later. He was born at 6lbs 1oz. He was a small baby, but everyone in my family was born small. I started smoking about 1 week after he was born when someone offered my a smoke. i wish i had said no now because he is 20 monthds old and i am still smoking. My best advice to you is if you want to quit or cut down, Keep yourself busy, fold baby clothes. Good luck.

Tracie - posted on 04/10/2009

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I actually stopped smoking a month before I got pregnant because my husband and I were trying to concieve and I knew i'd be pregnant soon. I didn't start smoking again until my daughter was a month old. I quit because I know what it could do to my baby and I would never forgive myself if something happened to her because of me smoking. It doesn't mean something IS going to happen but there are risks and you never know. I'm not selfish and I would never do something like that to my baby. I quit for about a year and I'm so glad I did because my daughter is healthy and perfect. My friend smoked throughout her pregnancy and her son has a lot of issues from it. Its really not hard to quit when your doing it for your child, just know your doing it to make sure they are healthy. Like I said before, I started again when my daughter was a month old and I cannot quit now, it's SO hard for me because I don't have that motivation!

Kylie - posted on 04/10/2009

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I cringe when I see a pregnant woman with a cigarette, I quit the same day I did the pregnancy test almost 5 years ago. I've heard quitting can be harder than quitting heroin, but I found going cold turkey relatively easy. I just saw it as me having no option I couldn’t drink and couldn’t smoke. Have you heard of hypnotism to stop the cravings? I also found if I associated the thought of smoking with horrible images like me in a hospital bed, or tar filled lungs instead of the association of me having drinks and a chat with mates, it really changed my perspective. My husband also quit cold turkey a month after me, and he said it’s all about mind power.



You won’t want to be smoking once your little one is here either so it’s good you’re cutting down. Probably once you feel your baby move you may get the reality of this beautiful new life growing inside you, and you will want to. You can do it ! You and your child deserve to be healthy. Smoking is so stupid it’s basically paying to die. Now I absolutely cant stand the smell of cigs, if ppl smoke near a park or around my children I’m always the first mum to tell them to put it out. Good luck.

Christine - posted on 04/09/2009

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Hi Stacey, I'm 3 and a half months with my first while i always said i would give up when i fall preggers i havent been able to quit completely i have gone from about 10-15 a day to 1 or 2 while my gp was adiment i gave up i have heard all sorts of things from other people from it could make you misscarry from stress to your baby goes though withdrawals to.... i dont know what to beleive but i do enjoy it for one and i know its bad for me and the baby but i have reduced the amount i smoke and fell if i quit completely i would probly go nuts. one of my really good mates didnt even cut down with both her childern and they were fine. i guess it comes down to personal choice

Renata - posted on 04/09/2009

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I smoked while I was pregnant. I tried to cut back, but I could never make it to quit. I kept getting stressed and figured it was better for my baby for me to have a smoke and stop stressing, then for me to be stressed out. My baby was born totally healthy.

Erica - posted on 04/09/2009

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I am 36 wks pregnant and I have smoked through out my entire pregnancy I cut down to 3-5 a day  from a pack and a half a day but I still can't kick the habbit, I've tried everything from cold turkey (started having pains and complications) to imangining my baby smoking with me. I've been ridiculed and glared at for smoking but I can't seem to stop. I'm the child of a smoker and was very small but the doctors say that that was more genetic than smoking (my mom was 117 lbs 9months prego... I Wish!) I just had an ultrasound and my baby is at 4lbs and 14 oz and that has beat my birthweight. I asked the doctor if it was my smoking or genetics that is the reason for my little baby. she said it is more genetics than anything. Do what you can but stressing over it is worse than the smoking good luck!!!!

Ashley - posted on 04/09/2009

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i can totally relate!....i'm 23 and pregnant with my 2nd baby. during my first pregnancy i smoked maybe 2 a day sometimes not even so i had pretty much quit, but at 2 wks old he was hospitalized with a severe infection and spent 2 months in the hospital so i smoked quite a bit as my nerves were shot. when i found out i was pregnant with this one i wanted to quit and i pretty much did but because i had also stopped drinking coffee (i wasnt feeling the greatest and the beg) i was getting severe migranes....to the pt where i was in bed at 7 pm and could barely look after my son. i started smoking 1 a day and it took the migranes away. i have heard of drs telling ppl to just cut back as if you are stressed the baby will be stressed as well. i know it is tough and i would love to quit but it's not as easy as it seems, that's for sure!. dont worry you are not alone!!!

Laura - posted on 04/09/2009

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i smoked all the way through my pregnancy and my daughter has no probs i did cut bk to 10-15 rather  than 20+ but cldnt stop completly. its wether u cld completly stop its your choice

Ez - posted on 04/09/2009

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I was smoking about 10-15 a day when I found out I was pregnant, and knew I had to quit. My doctor advised me not to go 'cold turkey' as there was more chance of me failing and my body reacting badly to the nicotine withdrawal, so I gradually cut down and had quit completely in 2 weeks. I didn't really miss it through the pregnancy - my theory was that if I couldn't give up smoking for the time I was pregnant, how was I going to make all the sacrifices necessary to be a mother?!?!



My daughter is now 8 weeks old and a colicky baby who can be very difficult. Consequently I am now struggling most days not to start smoking again. The thing that stops me is knowing how it would effect her if I did. Babies living in a household with someone who smokes are much more likely to die of SIDS, not to mention other respiratory problems. So every time I contemplate taking it back up - and there have been many! - I just cling to this and it's enough to turn me off.

Jamie - posted on 04/09/2009

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I was a smoker until I got prego and I quit, it was tough, you just gotta go cold turkey. I havent lit back up since and my daughter will be 4 next month. My BF, smoked through her entire pregnancy with her kids, and she had very tiny babies not even 5lbs and lots of issue with them wanting to come early. She was so bad I saw her outside smoking a few hours after giving birth. Your going to have enough trouble breathing with a little one inside you might as well not add to it and have a healthy baby.

Rusti - posted on 04/09/2009

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Quoting Stacey:

can`t stop smoking!!!

hi there im stacey im 20 years young and im 4 months pregnant and i cant stop smoking, alot of people find it so easy knowing theres a little one inside but i`m finding it very hard! can any relate?


HI STACEY I CAN RELATE TO YOU TOTALLY! I WAS 22 WHEN I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT AND A SMOKER AT THAT! EVEN THOUGH ALL MY FRIENDS SAID IT WAS EASY FOR THEM TO QUIT I FOUND IT VERY HARD! I CUT BACK A LOT BUT NEVER FULLY STOPPED SMOKING IT IS SOMETHING THAT IS GOING TO TAKE A LOT OF WILL POWER TO DO!  I JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE THAT SUFFERS WITH THIS, THERE ARE MANY OF US WHO HAVE A HARD TIME WITH IT!



I WISH YOU LUCK ON YOUR JOURNEY!

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