Changing parenting style

Bethanie - posted on 06/07/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




I started off being the fun mom. I wanted to spoil my son, and laughed at his "attitude." Now things are getting out of hand- especially taking back and not listening to me. How do I change from the fun, cool, mom to the Mother?


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Debbie - posted on 06/07/2009




I think that you are the cool mom because that seems to be your personality. You don't want to change that. So, move on to phase 2 of being a cool mom, a cool mom with rules. Have a sit down with your son, piece of paper and pen. Have him help you write down things he likes about the family and doesn't like about the family. This leads to a good discussion. Then, together come up with rules (and consequences) for the family... He won't know what to do if his cool mom suddenly is replaced by super strict mom. It takes time and patience and lots of hugs... and don't forget the consequences for mom when she forgets the rules... have fun with it. When he follows all the rules one week, he gets a one hour date with mom doing something he really likes to do.

Becki - posted on 06/07/2009




come up with some "rules of the house" as well as punishment for not following the rules. make this stuff age appropriate and you must be consistant. and post them clearly somewhere in the house. once you have posted the rules have a family meeting and explain the change. also answer any questions or concerns your children may have. this is going to take allot of work but you can pull through if you stick to it. best of luck to you.

Danielle - posted on 06/07/2009




Ohh that is a hard one. i would say being consistant with punishment and i always try to explain to my kids why the bahavior is expected. ie: Don't talk back to me because that hurts my feelings...

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