Child support

Devon - posted on 06/02/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I have 6 year old twin daughters with my ex boyfriend. I only get 100 dollars a week for both of them and that was based off of 8 dollars an hour from what my ex made when i first took him for support back in 2002. three years ago i tried taking him for a bit more because i learned that he was making about 12 bucks an hour. it didn't work, because as soon as he got the papers he went and got himself a job to where he was only making 8 bucks again so they couldn't raise it. i know that he went straight back to working with the same company making 12 again. i am not one of those greedy mothers that just want the money, but i have been thinking about trying to take him again because i know he is working somewhere where he is making more then 8 bucks an hour because he has his own place and can afford a car and he couldn't before. i'm not thinking of doing it to be greedy but i think my kids deserve a little more money from him for stuff they need exspecially since they are older and need more with school stuff. should i take him for more and see what happens or should i just stay with what i am getting??? If anyone can help i would greatly appreciate it.

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Jenee - posted on 06/03/2009

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Sweetie.. You have the right to up child support every six months! So if I were you every six months I would take him back to court.. he will eventually get tired of going from job to job and so will his employers. So he could end up screwing his self in the end! Don't stop and keep up the good fight. More mothers should looking in to the laws when they are getting child support but it is hard to follow. If I were you, every six months I would re-up for my child support. Another thing is if your children are in day care He HAS to Help you pay for that! And he has to provide insurance for your children also. Laws have changed in the past few years. Check in to them where you live.

Meghan - posted on 06/03/2009

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Im kinda in the same boat as you guys - I just had my daughter in March and have only talked with her father twice - he pretends that she doesnt exist for the most part which is fine with me as I dont really mind not having the add stress of him in my life - but Im back and forth weather or not to do child support - I could use the extra money but am unsure if its worth the add stress of him

Holly - posted on 06/03/2009

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i say go to court and make him prove it ,i get $85.00 a week for my 9 yr old boy ,his dad cant even pay that he owes about $2,500 .he now has a bench warrent and is stupid ..maek sure you bring all your pappers my jude sys were to spilt every thing 50/50 dr bills and copays and he still or is soposto pay his month child support .if you have day care i would go for that to 50/50 dr bills ect .i mean that if he has his own place and his own car good for him but ,the same when i went to court ,thats what my ex clamed well she has a house with her husband and a new van ect ya well he and seh have to have aplace to sleep and a wayto work to im not stiking up for him but ask the jude to lok on to it more ask them to have him brin gin last years tax return ...

Danielle - posted on 06/02/2009

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you can always check with your county and state officials but My kids father gave up his rights and altogether it was less of a headache. There are other fish in the sea too! Less tress is good.

Jennifer - posted on 06/02/2009

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I have to agree with Jamie and Marie, my husband pays $190 a week for his 2 children from his first marriage... and their mother sits on her butt and doesn't work. I actually had to go back to work because we are barely making our bills, which means I have less time with my husband and our 2 yr old son. He recently took her back to court for a decrease and found out technically he should be paying $225 a week because in NY state they look at the previous years tax return, the only problem with that is they don't take out what I made last year. So they are including my income to supposrt these children when they are at their mothers. I wish you better luck than we have had!

Danielle - posted on 06/02/2009

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i would so fill out papers asking the court for proof of income if you are in a state where they subpeona those records I would. Your kids deserve the best life possible.. HOLD YOUR HEAD UP and GET THAT MONEY FOR THOSE KIDS> THEY ARE WORTH IT_ AND IF HE DOES NOT REALIZE IT THEN POUEY ON HIM!!

Devon - posted on 06/02/2009

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thank you marie for your reply. it is just court ordered. i will have to look into that dfcs. thank you again sabrina for your last reply. i know for a fact that he just did it out of dispite because that is how he is. and he is still behined, i can check that through my county's website. thank you again, i appreciate it :)

Sabrina - posted on 06/02/2009

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just wanted to add call and find out about why you didnt get the tax return money i did. i was shocked to find out he had gotten caught up. or it could just be him being spiteful so you dont get the money.

and to marie its only when the shoe is on the other foot that you feel that way. im sure that what she is getting isnt even a drop in the bucket for what she has to pay for their daughter.

Marie - posted on 06/02/2009

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is the shild support court order or through child support services with dfcs? if i were you i would go through dfcs. my husband has a 9 year old daughter through a previous relationship and when his ex took him to court in 2005 through dfcs he was paying almost $990 amonth for just one child. crazy i know! dfcs can look up anything and will get you a reasonalbe amount for your children! we have since gone back to cort and he now pays $590 a month but if you ask me that is still too much for one child when we have her 4 days out of the week and every weekend, but dfcs works really hard on the mothers side to get you what you need for your children.

Devon - posted on 06/02/2009

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Thank you both of you for your reply. i will try both of your ideas and see what i can do. that's another thing i haven't got any money out of his tax return like i usually do for him being so far behined. i don't think he did his taxes because i got them last year and the year before. thanks again :)

Jamie - posted on 06/02/2009

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I would say go to court. Ask the judge to look at his tax returns not his pay stubs since that is what he could potentially be making. Also, if you know where he is working you should be able to get how much he is making. I know my court has a form I fill out and mail to my exs employer and they have 20days to mail me the information. I know how much he makes an hour, i know how long hes been working there and since its really the court requesting it they cant say no. you may want to see if your court has something like that. I dont think you are being greedy, i think you are doing what is right by your children and thats going after what they are entitled to.

Sabrina - posted on 06/02/2009

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i totally understnd your dellima. my ex is doing the same thing. he told the courts that he was not making any money. so they based it off of minimum wage at that time. was like 5 something. that was back in 2001. he now has a good job and minimum wage has gone up. i only get 186 a month but my son is 10 now and was diagnosed with a learning disability. so their are certain things he needs. i tried to get ssi to help out but they said that with the extra money that i got from his dad i didnt qualify. so now i want to take him back to court. but i am afraid he will doctor his pay cause i have been doing some research online and i think he works for his in-laws. i am going to see if they can pull his records bfore they notify him of what i am doing. see if yu can do the same. talk to some one and see if they will ask his employer for a pay history. good luck. and remember its for the girls. so dont listen to what anyone else says about greed. he deserves to pay a whole lot more. i think the parent raising the kid/s pays more then any child support ever will. but it does help.

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