Children on leashes

User - posted on 02/01/2009 ( 125 moms have responded )

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What are everyones views on using leashes. I have a baby, but the issue has come up and I'm curious what the reasons are for and against using them.

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Staniquea - posted on 02/04/2009

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Although I don't agree with them I do believe that the term "Toddler Harness" sounds so much better than a leash B/C leashes are for animals only.

Twyla - posted on 02/02/2009

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WOW, I'm a little scared to post a comment due to well, read for yourself. This website is to help Mom's not make their life more stressful. I agree that some people jerk them and mistreat their children, but they are also the parents that are not doing so wellat home, or needing some kind of help because their stress is much higher than others. Before pointing fingers we should try to understand people. Maybe even lend a helping hand , ear, or shoulder if need be. I think it is ABSOLUTELY hidious what some people have done to their children. But we have to get to know the situation before judging their reasons behind it. I have 5 children. Four of them boys. My daughter has always listened intently, and stood by my side. Two of my boys were certainly no angels, but would stay beside me. The other two (the youngest two) I wouldn't dream of being without the harness. I don't like the wrist strap however, even though it has a lot of spring action, I know of a couple that their daughter took off running across a parking lot chasing a balloon, her Mother with a baby in her arms and one on the way began yelling at her to stop. A car speeding quite fast towards the girl, driver unaware she was there. The Mother pulled on the wrist strap, with the girl running and Mom panicing, her shoulder was pulled out of socket. The harness I feel is more safe because it applies even pressure across the shoulders and chest. I am unaware of any situations like this that involve a harness.

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i have 2 children and i have never been one to use them. My 2 year old is a handfull and i'm sure it would make my life easier if i put one on her but i have conserns about them. I spoke to my pediatrian about it and he agreed with me that using them makes it harder later on when they are older. They aren't taught to stay with you  because they are used to being able to be 10 steps ahead of you with the leash on. I have friends that have used them and when the child got too big to use it the parnets had a hard time getting them to stay close by and listen. while my child was walking by my side with out a leash. It is our job as parents to instill rules in our children. if you are going to use the leash i suggust still letting them know it is important to stayclose by with mommy or daddy. this should make it easier when you stop using the leash

User - posted on 02/01/2009

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this is so interesting how you all feel on this subject... :) i can see how it can seem to be rude to put your child on a leash.. it does sound mean. but in the end it's all about keeping our children safe. and for us UNLAZY mothers who have really fast kids that just want to explore and earn't afriad of leaving our side a leash is a peace of mind. We know our children are safe and by our side. plus they like to pretend to be puppies anyways:) my daughter liked her back pack or (harness) she would run along side me pretending to be a little puppy... it was cute.

Sarah - posted on 02/01/2009

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Quoting Danialle:



I absolutely disagree with them, they are your children, not your dogs. I honestly believe they are for lazy parents who don't want to deal with their kids. It breaks my heart to see a child on a leash. It makes me wonder what else their parents do to them.





i really disagree with you saying that parents that use these harnesses are lazy. My daughter is a year old and has been walking since she was 10 months old. She is a very very independent child and doesn't like to ride in a stroller. She loves to walk everywhere. I haven't used a harness on her yet but i am going to not because i'm a lazy parent but because it only take one second for someone to snatch her. And it is very very wrong of you to equate parents who are thinking of the best interest for THEIR children to parents who would do harm, quote "it makes me wonder what else their parents do to them" I would NEVER do anything harmful to my daughter. I guess you just have a little robot for a child who just stays right by your side.

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Audrey - posted on 05/24/2013

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I'm a single mother of three kids aged five to two and I will admit that I have one for ALL of them. my five year old is a little to big for it so he doesn't use one any more, but its way to heck-tick for me to go shopping without my monkey leashes. That and my other two kids love them (my littlest son cries every time he has to take it off.)

Summer - posted on 05/24/2013

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I used one for my 2 yr old for oktoberfest parade. He Ioves to walk and run but didnt understand that he needs to hold my hand. He doesnt like his strollers. Hes always been like that. Hes also not shy the least bit. He will walk up TO ANYONE and talk to them and shake their hand. During the parade the city I live in swells from 50000 people to nearly 150000 people. I used it to give him the freedom of walking and talking to people without having my fear of him running off or into the street etc. That is the ONLY time we used it. Otherwise hes free to go as long as I can see him.

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 05/24/2013

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I think it depends on the parent and the child. I personally never used a leash, but I only have one child and I can easily watch and run after her. If a parent feels their child is putting themselves in danger( running out in the street, getting into things at a store, etc) then using a leash is better than the alternative of having a hurt child

Shauna - posted on 05/23/2013

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I do not like leashes what so ever. I think that it is just a thing for parents to use so that they do not have to keep an eye on their little ones themselves. They can put them on those leashes and not have to worry about them. I have 2 little ones and I have taken them several places along with other kids and yes they were a little on the crazy side, but that's what kids are and that's how they act sometimes and we as parents have to deal with it. Parenting isn't easy, but it helps if we try our best to help them behave and control them a little. If we as parents don't control our kids while they are young they will be completely out of control when they get older and may end up in jail.

Don't get me wrong I'm not saying that you mom's that use leashes are bad parents or that you do not try to control your kids. I just do not agree with using them.

Pink - posted on 05/23/2013

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Leashes are fine for little kids (2, 3, maybe 4) but I'm against using them on older kids. A few days ago I was at the mall and a woman had a kid on a leash.. The kid looked at least 10! He was looking at something and the woman yanked on the leash and yelled "DON'T TOUCH! LETS GO HOME!" It was terrible

Aunty - posted on 05/23/2013

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I thought leashes were a clever idea when I had two very busy (not bad, wild, crazy - just busy) little boys - 3 ("Jon") and 2. We went to a department store to get Easter dresses for the girls - ages 5 and 7. The boys had stretchable "child proof" latches - I had the end looped over my wrist. It took the 3-year-old about two minutes to undo the leash from both boys and hook it to the middle of the clothes rack where a mom (me) and two adult clerks spent 20 minutes crawling under the clothes trying to get it undone. The boys thought was such a fun game - they wanted to use the leashes all the time! Jon is now 32 and can take apart ANYTHING.
God trusts you with your children. You listen to HIM to understand what works best for your child. If he is busy - or special needs - or young - or immature - (I once held a 13-year-old ("Zac") by the hand for 30 minutes on a field trip)
Think about "What's the Point"? and focus on the child - not the method! Keep him safe? Train him to get self-control? Learn appropriate public behavior?
Jon still has a very protective nature - I told him I needed him to be sure he could see me and his sisters so he could be sure we were safe. We are still in his sight!
Zac is now a leader of young men. I told him I would keep him close to me for a while so he could see clearly how to behave in a crowd.His calm control is still a strength.
Every kid/mom - each situation/time is unique. Trust God. Follow your heart.

Rachel - posted on 01/06/2013

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I have twins that are 2 in a half and a 8 month old . I love the leashes . It's the best birthday gift ever . I would never go anywhere with out them

Barbara - posted on 01/06/2013

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Wow, it's been a long time since I first posted in this thread. Originally I was speaking as a mom with a one year old, but now I am a mom with a nearly 5 year old, a 2 and a half year old and another one due on April Fool's Day. We have been all over the country and to several other countries with our boys, and walked a thousand miles with them at this point. I am still adamantly opposed to the leash, and I now see how absolutely unnecessary and potentially damaging they really are. They tell a kid "You are a wild and crazy thing that will run out into harm's way as soon as you get the chance" instead of letting them just go with their naturally self protecting tendencies. They stay with the group instinctually. And as for the terror that someone will kidnap your kid, sure it could happen. But do you know how likely that is to happen? You would have to leave them on their own for about 700 years for it to happen if you look at it statistically. Why raise them as if they are insane and in constant danger? What kind of people does that turn them into eventually?

Charity - posted on 06/07/2011

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Every parent should know that once their baby starts walking, they are ready to explore EVERYTHING.
When we go to the grocery store, I make sure my two year old is in the cart strapped in so that A: she doesn't try to get out and fall. B: BECAUSE ANYONE COULD COME BY AND SNATCH HER OUT OF THE CART!!! But there are times when she is tired of sitting. So I put the leash on her so that she can walk and I can look for the items on my list without having to worry about her walking off OR SOMEONE TAKING HER. That is my WORST fear. That she will walk off for a second and that will be the last time I ever see her.
I'm sure there are a lot of moms out there who get distracted. If you say you "never" get distracted in the store, you're either lying or you're not human.
I use the leash for a few reasons. 1: because it allows her to burn some energy when she is tired of sitting. 2: because NO ONE likes hearing a screaming kid in the store. And if she's tired of sitting and you don't let her walk, she's going to scream. 3: because I know she is safe while I am shopping. 4: because I can teach her it's okay to walk around but you still have boundaries.

There is no reason why parents can't have a little freedom just because they had kids. Leashes are a perfect way to give their kids the freedom they need but still learn boundaries. AND IT KEEPS THEM SAFE!!!!

Charity - posted on 06/07/2011

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I purposely don't use a wrist strap because she can take it off. I use the strap at her back so she can't get it undone. I learned the hard way that she is too smart for her own good.

Ashley - posted on 02/09/2009

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wow...some people can say some pretty nasty things when it comes to children!!..first of all i myself wouldnt use one but i wont sit here and judge other mothers for using one. what works for some mothers may not work for others. as for the comment about children being lazy because they are pushed around in a stroller i'm sorry but was uncalled for!...my son is 9 months old and i am currently pregnant. my son will be 14 months when this baby is born. i'm sorry but i cant be pushing a stroller and have my son on a harness as well. that is why they invent double strollers as my son will be in s a stroller with the baby. he is not going to be lazy because he is in a stroller!. my sister has a 2 yr old and he sits perfectly fine in his stroller while we are out. he is by far a lazy child. he is full of energy!..and btw he loves going for walks in his stroller!!....it's funny how they never had them when we were all young and we were all pushed around in strollers....does that make every single one of us lazy??....

Vicki - posted on 02/09/2009

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Quoting Siobhan:

They are not a good idea. It does not teach them to controll themselves and adjust to situations, it is just an easy out for parents. Running after a toddler is tough but if you stick with it they eventually will listen to you .



not a go idea ?



are you sure about that do you have more than one todler ?



like i said privously i have twin boys and if you think its easy to teach them to controll them selves and it maybe easy to chase after one todler try chasing after two running in different directions easy out for parents i dont think so! we still have do deal with the children when they decide they are nolonger going to walk or want to go in a different direction from you, the tantrums and strops that come with restraining your child i'm sure most of the parents out there would love to be able to walk down the road and round the shops with welbehaived todlers but they are far and fue between have you heard of the terribal twos? i thought it was a jokme but they exsist i heve two of them right now and i use my SAFTY HARNESS to make sure they make it to three it amaises me that people think its lazy or evil of a parent to use them when at least our kids are walking places instead of being sat in a pram or pushchair the whole time and getting lazy that way. 

Kristie - posted on 02/06/2009

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I know older people frown upon this, mostly b/c they never had anything like that when we were young, but I think for toddlers(especially ones that are between 1-2) this was a great invention. Toddlers love to be independent, and I know mine would hate to actually sit in their strollers for long periods of time, so the harness was great!

Barbara - posted on 02/06/2009

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My son is all over the place now, but we aren't going to use a harness.  I think they prevent children from learning how to control themselves and be safe, so it kind of sets them up to endangering themselves when they are off.  I understand why people use them, I just think they may actually cause your child to be in more danger in the end.

Jessica - posted on 02/06/2009

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I think they are great! They have really cute backpack looking ones... Hey anything to keep our children safer right!

Abigail - posted on 02/06/2009

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Quoting Kaitlyn:



I have a few things to say.........First I will start with ......I have a 11 month old son who has just started wallking I would use a "Safty Harness" instantly now after reading this post......But for thoes who are being rude you need to understand that we are all here in this group because we want or need support from other moms.........I also have to say.....Sorry but keeping a child in a stroller is keeping that child from stengthening their legs and from exploring their surroundings.....If we as their mothers have the right to drag them all ove the country side then shouldn't thay have the right to explore 2 or 3 steps ahead.........Now i have to say something to two spacific moms......................






Charmille






You say we are supposed to be helping each other but what you said is just as mean as what some others have said.






Staniquea






Some chilkdren are very strong-willed....you would know this if you read the other mothers posts saying how stron-willed their chikdren are........Therefore it is hard to force them in to a stroller or to hold hands.....as you should know because you are a mother some children are very "Slimy" or "Wiley" and are able to slip out of their mothers grasp........I would rather the dirty looks i will get while using a "Safety Harness" then the angst and guilt  I would feel if i were to have to plan my sons funeral because my son was able to get away and ended up getting hit by a vehicle.............That does not make any one of us a bad mom........actually it makes us loving mothers.  






thank you that was very nice :)

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They are not a good idea. It does not teach them to controll themselves and adjust to situations, it is just an easy out for parents. Running after a toddler is tough but if you stick with it they eventually will listen to you .

Vicki - posted on 02/05/2009

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hi my name is vicki and i'm the proud mum of twins cade and reece they are two years old and i use a twin harnes when i take them out with out a buggy it's a god send i've always been for the idea of using a harness when your child starts to walk as no matter how well behaived your child is it's not worth the risk of them darting of after something that has cought their eye espicaly when you live in a built up area with busy roads.

with the twins its also a scary prospect trying to hold on to two harness strapps so if you have twins,triplets or two toddlers i would recomend the twin harness it has two seperate straps conected to each body pice and a belt for mum to put round her waste with a ring to conect the childrens harness to so you can have your hands free with confidance :O).

Courtney - posted on 02/05/2009

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I have a leash for my daughter, but it is a cute monkey and it fits her like a backpack! The handle that I hold onto is the monkeys tail! I always tell her, "Okay, get your Pack-Pack on" and she goes running for it! I only use it when we are in very crowded, public places (as I don't want her to run off and something happen), but I think that if it fits them well, without causing any pain, then go for it!

Nastashia - posted on 02/04/2009

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Quoting Danialle:



If you are out in a crowded place or by a busy street I think that is the time. Not when you are somewhere where your kids can run and play and be fine. I have seen people completely ignore their children and use it like a sitter. I have also seen people jerk their kids around by them. I have never personally seen them used correctly.





 



 



I agree that is wrong if people are using the leashes as a baby sitter its not what they were made for. But I do think that they are very helpful in helping you keep a "hold" on your child so they don't go running off into the streets or someone snatching them up. I work at wal-mart and I have seen too many kids get excited to be leaving that they just run out the door (I'm talking about toddlers) but yes, the leash is not meant to be a baby sitter nor should you ever yank on your child. its sad some people do that, but not all mothers do. (not that you said that just pointing it out)

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I was always against them seeing them on kids at the shops, but now I witness my sister trying to look after a 2yo and a 9month old at the same time and think they might come in handy on occasion :) I have a 4 month old and we will be overseas in very very busy cities when he will be just walking so probably i will make the investment just in case :)

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Quoting Danialle:



I absolutely disagree with them, they are your children, not your dogs. I honestly believe they are for lazy parents who don't want to deal with their kids. It breaks my heart to see a child on a leash. It makes me wonder what else their parents do to them.






ok have u eva takin 4 children out on your own under the age of 4 into the city or near main roads. what else the parents do to there child is keep them safe how eva posibale. i dont use them with my children because i dont need 2 at one point i considered it as my son would run in the car park but he quikly learnt . i think it was hash.    

Christine - posted on 02/04/2009

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i think they are the safest choice becuase you need your child as close to you as possible and it teaches them to walk guided and watch in front of them and it helps them to be independent. it will make them less dependent on a stroller. my 2 yearold has a monkey one and loves it and it works for me b/c when the baby is born i wont need to buy a double stroller.

Erin Ryan - posted on 02/04/2009

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Wow! What responses to this question. I have only used one a few times....and lets call it a toddler harness instead of a leash. Ya know...the ones with the cute animal backpacks? Anyhow, it was a blessing while we were at Disney World. I never really was a fan of them. However, I didn't think it was fair to my 16 month old son to be strapped into the stroller all day and not be able to walk around. Disney can be very crowded obviously and the harness was very helpful to let my son out and burn some energy while being safe. I honestly haven't used it that much other wise. I just hold his hand and try to enforce whats right and wrong behavior while out. Anyhow, thats it. Have a nice evening everyone!

Jenny - posted on 02/04/2009

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My daughter loves her monkey. She is almost 2 1/2 and we started using one at 18 mo. The best trip we took with it was to the zoo and she was able to enjoy it. Instead of being locked in a stroller, she was able to walk around. I would rather be the mother that says we used one and our daughter is fine than be the women who has to explain what happened to their child.



This is just my opinion because we have one, use it and it works.

Kaitlyn - posted on 02/04/2009

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I have a few things to say.........First I will start with ......I have a 11 month old son who has just started wallking I would use a "Safty Harness" instantly now after reading this post......But for thoes who are being rude you need to understand that we are all here in this group because we want or need support from other moms.........I also have to say.....Sorry but keeping a child in a stroller is keeping that child from stengthening their legs and from exploring their surroundings.....If we as their mothers have the right to drag them all ove the country side then shouldn't thay have the right to explore 2 or 3 steps ahead.........Now i have to say something to two spacific moms......................



Charmille



You say we are supposed to be helping each other but what you said is just as mean as what some others have said.



Staniquea



Some chilkdren are very strong-willed....you would know this if you read the other mothers posts saying how stron-willed their chikdren are........Therefore it is hard to force them in to a stroller or to hold hands.....as you should know because you are a mother some children are very "Slimy" or "Wiley" and are able to slip out of their mothers grasp........I would rather the dirty looks i will get while using a "Safety Harness" then the angst and guilt  I would feel if i were to have to plan my sons funeral because my son was able to get away and ended up getting hit by a vehicle.............That does not make any one of us a bad mom........actually it makes us loving mothers.  

Sarah - posted on 02/04/2009

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thats a awesome idea... it doesn't look like a leash. its a back pack with a tail.. brilliant!! now sell it on ebay if your done with it,, for sure u will make money hehe..... thats better than just something that looks like a dog leash...

Theresa - posted on 02/04/2009

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I personally dont agree with them. I think they are a little weird. I wouldn't tie my child to a leash. That it more for an animal. If your kid runs of got chase them. It's part of parenting. They will learn. All kids do it. I never used one and nothing serious has ever happened to mine. Just pay close attention to yoru child and nothing will happen. Would you tie your child to a pole in the front yard so that they don't run in the street? When my child was young she would run all over and I would chase ehr. They are curious let them be kids. But then again they are your kids do what you want. That's just my opinion

Krystal - posted on 02/04/2009

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Quoting Sally:



I have a 2 year old and use a leash on her, I find it very handy and she loves to wear it. Hers is just like a puppy back pack with it's tail being the leash, it's soft and comfortable for her to wear. I haven't had any negative comments yet ! I've also seen monkies and teddy bears :-)






Those are the same ones I use. We have a puppy for my daughter and a monkey for my son. They love to run in circles and chase eachother. They even play with the backpacks when we are at home, they love them just like a stuffed animal.

Krystal - posted on 02/04/2009

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Quoting Danialle:



I absolutely disagree with them, they are your children, not your dogs. I honestly believe they are for lazy parents who don't want to deal with their kids. It breaks my heart to see a child on a leash. It makes me wonder what else their parents do to them.






For me it is not out of lazyness more out of safety. Think about how many children are take every day. Lots are in a store or parking lot when the parent has turned around just for a second dealing with their other child. I feel safer when they are attached to me and because my 18 month refuses to be carried when in the store I love them. When you really think about it someone who is looking to take a child is going to take the one who can be taken with ease. With my children attached to me at all times I would know immedetly if someone  else picked up my child even if I'm not looking directly at them.  I do think you will understand more when you have more than one child. With only one you only have to focus on that one but with more your attention has to be divided and that is a scary thing. 

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I have a question for those of you who do use a *safety harness* on your children, has your child tried running with the harnes son? DOes wearing a harnes sprevent them from trying to run or do they try and the harness constrains them past the point of making an effort? I knw that a child in a stroller can't run simply because their feet aren't on teh ground but that doesnt stop them from hitting the ground running once they are released from the strolelr. I just wanted to know if there were any comparisons out there.

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I think it's a good way to teach an energetic child boundaries without harming them. It teaches the child to pay attention to the adult's cues & then the adult can model appropriate social behaviour.

Anastasia - posted on 02/04/2009

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I had to commet on this.  I hate the word leash.  Before I had my son I was totally against it and I thought they were uncalled for.  Since my son has started walking and wanting to be independant and not wanting to hold my hand I do use a safety harness on him from time to time.  I would rather have my son walking on his own a safe distance from me and still be attached than have him pull away from me and run into traffic or something.  It's a safety issue not lazy parenting

Emily - posted on 02/04/2009

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I'm pro harness (I think that using the term "leash" should be left for animals) as long as your child is comfortable with wearing them and that they are being used for the right reasons.  I got a great one from Walmart that looks like a monkey backpack with a really long tail so it's kinda a harness in disguise.  I let my toddler pick it out and he loved it.  It even has a pocket to put stuff in so he thinks it's quite special and was willing to wear it (he calls it his mumkey pack pack).  Now that he's almost 3, he doesn't wear it anymore as a harness because he knows to hold my hand or hold the stroller and not to wander off. 



The harnesses are a great tool as long as they are used correctly and for the right reasons.

Lauren - posted on 02/04/2009

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HI there, ok true story. I was a leash kid when i was about 2 and 3 yrs old. I used to bolt away from my mom in department stores and hide under clothing racks and sales displays for a long time. My mom was against them until I hide in JCP for almost 15 minutes. I was in a clothing rack playing hide and seek with everyone they had looking for me they just didn't know that. They finally heard me giggling inside a display and when they moved the clothes out of the way i yelled " HEY you found me, now you hide mommy"  That was the end of my little adventures.



I think its a personal preference my mother was by no means LAZY as some have said. She had a 3 month old when I started doing this and I HATED the stroller by 2 1/2 years old. It was just a safer way to keep everyone happy I got to walk and my mom didn't have to play games with me. She didn't use it all the time, supermarkets i was in the cart, but anywhere really busy they just needed to know I was still there. I also was the kind of kid that would intoduce myself randomly to people nearby. I think if it keeps your kid safe and gives you a piece of mind then go for it.



Besides mine was a little monkey bookbag with the tail as a leash so I really had no idea.. No harm done. I'm still here so I guess it was worth it. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do. People don't understand and you can't expect them to.  They will stare and smurk and as always be rude and comment on things that are none of there business. Best advice. SMILE and WALK AWAY.



Hope that helps

Sarah - posted on 02/04/2009

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Its a catch 22 hey. I have 2 children 2 years apart and became a single mum when my youngest was only 5 months. But i never used a leash// I value every persons opinion. It kinda does make u feel like your doing what u would normally do with a dog. But it does make sence as well.. I used to use a limo pram when out.. my children have always obeyed me, so they neva really run off, and if any started to, all i do is raise my voice a little and they come back.. i personally wouldn't want to use one, But if my children became really out of control or i was struggling then maybe i would. But my kids are 4 and 6 now.. so until i have another i dont have to worry 4 now hehehe

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I live in New Zealand. I dont think I have seen a leash on a child here in the last 20 years! I know that my mum used one on my younger brother who is now 25. I have 2 kids a 4 year old & a monkey of a 17 month old, he is into everything & runs very fast! Since the day he was born he has had a ride in the push chair (stroller) nearly every day as I like to walk, so he is used to it. I can see the reasoning of wanting to keep your children safe but I dont even know if you can buy leashes over here so there must be other ways. I'm not attacking anyone! Some advice to mums with new babies - get them used to their stroller then hopefully you wont have such a problem when they hit the terrible toddler stage.

Vanessa - posted on 02/03/2009

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ok i was one of these ppl who would stare at the thought of having young children on leashes and say how terrible it is... BUT only til i started having children of my own i understood safety..  with them on your children you can keep an eye without worring as much... too many children are running away getting hit by cars you name it too man injuries and dealths that could of been prevent this from happening... as much as anyone stares and talks don't worry about them we who use them are great parents who worry about the safety of our children...

Clare-maree - posted on 02/03/2009

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Looks like you've started a war! LOL It's good to see so much good advice on here though. Well done for supporting each other ladies =)

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WHEN U HAVE THREE OR MORE KIDS IT COMES DOWN 2 SAFETY WETHER U LIKE IT OR NOT SAFETY HAS 2 COME FIRST.I PERSONALY DONT LIKE IT BUT I STILL USE IT WHEN APROPRIATE

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Quoting Charmille:





Sorry if I offend anyone, but I think leashes are for animals not children. You have to have control of your children at home in order for them to act properly in public. I don't understand why people act like all of a sudden their children are so awful in public but they are angels at home. If you can't control your child, then I'm all for it.












My daughter isn't awful...she is very wonderful but she doesn't have the cognitive understanding of danger she's only a year old. She loves to walk but doesn't understand yet what it means to stay close by. I guess you have just been blessed with zombie like children that have no desire to venture away from you. My daughter is just very curious....which is very natural.









I would like to issue a formal apology for say "zombie like children". i was way out of line. This is something i REALLY REALLY shouldn't have said.





No problem. Let's just remember that we are suppossed to be helping each other not putting each other down.

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Quoting Charmille:





Sorry if I offend anyone, but I think leashes are for animals not children. You have to have control of your children at home in order for them to act properly in public. I don't understand why people act like all of a sudden their children are so awful in public but they are angels at home. If you can't control your child, then I'm all for it.












My daughter isn't awful...she is very wonderful but she doesn't have the cognitive understanding of danger she's only a year old. She loves to walk but doesn't understand yet what it means to stay close by. I guess you have just been blessed with zombie like children that have no desire to venture away from you. My daughter is just very curious....which is very natural.









I would like to issue a formal apology for say "zombie like children". i was way out of line. This is something i REALLY REALLY shouldn't have said.





No problem. Let's just remember that we are suppossed to be helping each other not putting each other down.

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 Personally, I think it's not right.  I think it is degrating to the child.  I know that people on here think that it's for safety reasons but I think the parent should be able to handle their kids without being on a leash.  I think that leashes are a way to be lazy










So it's not ok to restrain a child beside you??? So do you restrain your child in a pram or stroller to stop them running away, falling out etc? Do you restrain your child in a car seat and put childlock on the door to stop them being injured or escaping while your driving?? Have you really thought this through?





I think she meant it's degrading because you're denying a child freedom....in a car seat is..well it's the law for a reason. It's not really comparable. 



and yes...I know children need boundaries, it's a personal thing. I wouldn't use the monkey backpack as a leash because I don't need to...but it's a personal thing...

Clare-maree - posted on 02/03/2009

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Quoting Jen:



 Personally, I think it's not right.  I think it is degrating to the child.  I know that people on here think that it's for safety reasons but I think the parent should be able to handle their kids without being on a leash.  I think that leashes are a way to be lazy






So it's not ok to restrain a child beside you??? So do you restrain your child in a pram or stroller to stop them running away, falling out etc? Do you restrain your child in a car seat and put childlock on the door to stop them being injured or escaping while your driving?? Have you really thought this through?

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Well. We have a lot of strong opionated parents on this thread. Some comments I found to be quite helpful- i.e. the ones about only for safety and during busy places... I have see many toddlers at schoools running ahead of their parents and cars zooming all around and the parents talking to other parents and dont even realize how far ahead of them the toddlers are. It scares me more to see toddlers wondering too far ahead then seeing an ainmal backpack on them. To my understand the tail to these animals can be tucked in if your child doesnt need it. I know a lot of children who if the mother or father says stay next to me, then they throw themselves on the ground and such, sometimes its embarrassing, i know that children get over stimulated when in crowded places or wide open spaces and is probably why the dart and run.... but children do need to be able to work on their large gross motor skills---or strengthen there legs,... i know i only used a stroller for when it was nap time but wanted her out and about to explore her surroundings...i personally did not have to use one, but not all parents can handle situations the same way as others... we all handle stress or being overwhelmed in different ways... i think it is a tool to be used but not abused. children need to know the difference between it and 1 and 2 years old can understand what "stop" means and slow feet... and know that you have to wear your tennis shoes when going for a journey because toddlers are fast and very very curious...but helping their curiosity is talking them through it and always include them in their surroundings then they will not have to run off to explore something different---engage them with what is near you by talking with them... make it a game... if you have more children it should be easier to include them in this as well... i know not every parent can be a teacher...but i was a toddler teacher and we never had to use "leashes" and we used to go for walks a lot!!! some used to hold hands with another friend...some liked to jump in puddles... we had 9 at a time with 2 of us.... so just to enlighten you on the fact that even if you have more then one child... it is possible to work on gaining the confidence to keep you child(ren) safe! Be prepared! and do what you need to do for yourself to gain the confidence to be able to handle going to busy places with you children... and if you have a very curious child thats too independent to include you in their exploration then maybe the backpack is a start and then ease them off of it and they willl be excited to have that gained independence as well!!!

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Quoting Jen:



 Personally, I think it's not right.  I think it is degrating to the child.  I know that people on here think that it's for safety reasons but I think the parent should be able to handle their kids without being on a leash.  I think that leashes are a way to be lazy





I again take this personally it is ridiculous how some people can have such small minds. Before my second child I never thought I would ever use one, but I did not critisize people who used them either. I now have a 6 year old and a VERY STRONG WILLED 21 month old who has been walking since 8 months so she is VERY fast. Plus I am 8 months pregnant. with a little boy who spends most of his time on my cyatic nerve. What should I do when I take my kids to the zoo for the day keep my 21 month old strapped in her stoller ALL DAY.(you find that less cruel than putting them on a harness) Or should I just tell my 6 year old to stay put while I chase after her and hope that no one grabs either one of them in the meantime. Maybe I should try to hold my 21 month olds hand while pushing her stroller. (cause I do need to have it in case she gets tired) Again keep in mind I am also 8 months pregnant right now. When you have more than one child than child than talk to me about being a lazy parent.

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FREEDOM..........
my dog doesnt have a lead as iv trained her to wait at the side of roads and by my tone of voice she knows what to do so no with some "training" and some effort no child should b restricted and controled, i mean how are they learning? and of course we all know that are brains are made for learning as from a very young age.


Okay this is going to sound harsh, But keep in mind that I AM an animal lover. I have 2 dogsand 2 cats myself that I rescued. But a dog is replaceable if it runs off into traffic and gets hit by a car, or if someone grabs it and walks away with it when you have your head turned for a second. Your child on the other hand is IRREPLACEABLE that is a part of you, your flesh and blood. And you cannot train a child like you can train a dog, at least not if they have a mind of their own. If oyu want to take that chance with your children that is your choice. But I choose not to take that chance with mine.

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Quoting Jen:



 Personally, I think it's not right.  I think it is degrating to the child.  I know that people on here think that it's for safety reasons but I think the parent should be able to handle their kids without being on a leash.  I think that leashes are a way to be lazy



 



Are you kidding me!!! I don't even know why I am reading your commet b/c it's not worth my time. I see you only have one child that explains it all. Hopefully your little one doesn't decide to dart away from you w/o you being able to stop him or her.





 

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