Circumcision

Danialle - posted on 02/08/2009 ( 87 moms have responded )

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Did you have your son circumsized?

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I had my 7-year-old circumsized at birth. We had no issues with the procedure itself or the healing process, it went very smooth and took about 2 weeks total for everything to heal up.

Melissa - posted on 02/08/2010

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I researched alot before deciding to have my son circumcised. I alos saw that horrific video but realized that the video I saw was not done in a hospital setting by a doctor but was being performed as part of a religous service by a preist/rabbi without anisthetic. I had worked in nursing homes for years and the number of male patients that developed severe UTI's was always higher in the patients who were not circumcised. Unfortunately most of them can't take care of themselves as properly as they should and therefore much higher infection rates. I asked pretty much every guy I knew whether or not they were circumcised and wether or not they would have liked to have been/or not. Every guy I asked who was, said that they would not change it. 2 guys who were, said no they wouldn't and the other three all said they wish they had been but were afraid to do it now because it would be a much more intricate and painful procedure. I also found that family's that have older male figures who where not circumcised and far more likely to keep their new sons from being circumcised. Almost like a family tradition if you will. I was very afraid that I would be hurting my son or that choosing to do this would make me a bad parent. The day my son was circumcised he pretty much slept through the entire procedure. He did cry a little when they started numbing him and that was it. He honestly never cried again even if I was changing the bandages. I believe for my family I made the right decision. It is definitely a personal choice and I suggest doing alot of research before making a decision. Oh and on a funnier note one of my male friends said this in regards to an uncircumcised penis being more sensitive; Come on now, does it really NEED to be anyMORE sensitive?? You'll just be doing the ladies of the world a favor by circumcising it!" LOL not at all relevant to my decision but still funny!

Laura - posted on 02/02/2010

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i have 5 boys,none of them circumcised,doctors don't seem to be pushing or even recomending it had any more,they never even asked if i was considering it when i had my last boys,most of my friends who have have gone the same route.none of my boys have had a problem.

Stephanie - posted on 03/29/2010

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i had my son circumsized, and he was the first to be on my fiance's side of the family and it was a big ordeal. My fiance said he want Cole to be because of cleaniness and personal issues. I caught alot of heck from his mother and my own mother, and it's hard to send them off to get that done and when he came back was in pain, but, it's something he will never remember the ordeal.

Heaven - posted on 03/29/2010

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I have 3 sons who are all circumsized. Some people dont believe this shoud be done, however I strongly urge that it is! Not having a boy circumsized can cause problems. It is more hygenic and a circumsized penis is easier to keep clean and dry. It is funny that this subject has come up because my uncle who is 53 has been having problems urinating and controlling his bladder. Doctor thought it was his prostate so ordered surgery. That was 2 weeks ago. He went into surgery and the dr. found that the problem was not caused by his prostate but by scar tissue inside his penis. the scar tissue built up inside there blocking the flow of urine. It was all because he had not been circumsized. He is now at home with a catheter that cannot be removed and scheduled to go see a specialist in cleveland to see if there is anything they can do. He can no longer work and stays home because of it. Take it from me, get your son circumized to prevent these kinds of things from happening. People do it because of asthetics, as a mother you have it done because of the health risks.

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Carly - posted on 03/29/2010

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I have just read in an above comment about a ladies son being circumsised and how she thinks it is far more attractive and how it will reduce the risk of him catching S.T.D's.
Number 1 To say that it makes a male membrane look more attractive is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard and Number 2 Why not explain to your son when he is old enough about contraception and how you can reduce the risks by wearing a condom which also prevents un-wanted pregnancies? Which I believe circumsion can't prevent.

Carly - posted on 03/29/2010

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I must be honest and yes maybe it is ignorance to not fully understanding why people opt for this procedure but I have never ever understood why people decide to do this. I personally have a baby boy and the last thing I would ever want to do is to put him through any un-nessercary pain. I think that having them circumsised is un-nessercary and not really essential for human development. So no I have not had my son circumsised nor do I no of anyone who has.

Lisa - posted on 03/29/2010

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My husband and I decided not to circumsize our son. My husband was not circumsized until he was 5 years old due to infections. He was NOT tought proper hygeine for boys. If you and the father are comfortable teaching proper hygeine for boys, I dont see the point. It's just a prefered oppinion whether religion or family history is the issue.

Sherri - posted on 03/29/2010

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One of my boys is and the other isnt. My oldest was circumsised at 3months It didnt seem to be to much pain and it healed up just fine and he was very good about it. But it dose cost a lot of money and my insurance dosnt cover it and when I had my second son we cpouldnt afford it he will be 2 in May and we have not had any problems with him either. I am kinnda worried about them being diffrent and wondering why? but that is just the way it happened.

Lizzy - posted on 03/21/2010

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I would never have my son circumsized. A lot of doctors just do it for the money,"$250 a piece" one american doctor said to my aunt went she was working in america doing midwifery, and it is horrific. I'd never put that upon my child, and he never asked for it to happen to him, i just find it very unfair.

Charlotte - posted on 03/20/2010

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My son was not circumsized.. When I was in the hospital after having him the nurse came in to take him and my roommates son to get it done.. as I was handing him over to the nurse I got an aweful feeling and could not let go of my son so I changed my mind at the last minute. When my roommates son got back from getting it done the baby boy was screaming and in so much pain,. my son was sleeping so peacefully. So I felt I made the right decision and now he can have that choice to get it done later in his life.

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My son isn;t circumsized because my husband felt very strongly that it now be done. If it were up to me I would have because once of my cousins had to get it done at 9 and it's much worse if you have to get it done when you are older. Really I didn;t feel very strongly either way thoguh so I figured since my husband has a penis he can decide.

Kat - posted on 03/20/2010

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the best thing you can do for your son , is your research . we did not circumcise our son and could not be happier about the choice we made . not only did our doctor not recommend it to us , but this was his exact words on the issue when i asked him about cancer and uti problems ......." breast cancer in women is a severe problem affecting thousands of more women then the cancer associate with foreskin , and we arent removing breast at birth for prevention" ... the foreskin is there because it serves a purpose there is NO reason to remove any part of your childs body . this IS elective cosmetic surgery which is why insurance companies dont cover the operation . there isnt any extra work involved the foreskin doesnt even pull back untill your child is around a year old. his body , his decision , not my choice to make an incision. with that said these are only my views i wouldnt call another parents choice on the matter wrong its your child. i just hope that the choice is made after investigating facts

Erin - posted on 02/16/2010

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Yes. But we were incredibly against it and are still wishing we didn't have to do it but Breckin started getting UTIs which may or may not have been caused by the foreskin still being attached. His Pediatrician and urologist said that he had an obstruction most likely but they still weren't positive. We had it done at 4 months because he was on his 3rd uti and we didn't want him to suffer anymore. However, this isn't very common. I know so many boys and men who haven't been circumsized and NEVER had a problem. I don't know if I would even want to circumsize my future son. I had done plenty of research while I was pregnant and talked to lots of different dr.s and some said the benefits of circumsizing were really good but most of them said as far as health goes, it doesn't matter usually... its a choice people make based on culture and religion usually. Although, I would like to say this: my son had a really hard recovery from his surgery. He had to have a general anesthesia and was in a lot of pain. I hate that we had to have it done but it was all we could do for him and he hasn't had a UTI since.

Bobbie - posted on 02/15/2010

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I did. I beleive it is a personal choice, however in my eyes, I felt it was better to do it while he was young vs old if he wanted to have it done. I think it is cleanier but I can't say for sure.

Sativa - posted on 02/12/2010

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I have been married twice. In my first marriage I had a step son that was not circumcised and he had massive health issues with infection after infection. That could have been avoided if his parents had spent more time teaching him to pull the foreskin back when he urinated and bathed. However he was circumcised at 9 years old because the foreskin had grown too tight to be retracted back over the glans. With my 2nd marriage, The man I am with now, his son was circumcised at birth and if I had ever given birth to a son myself, I would choose to have it done. However It really is a personal choice. If you are expecting a son, learn all you can about pros and cons and make the choice between yourself and the baby's father if he is in the picture. This is a parental choice and yes, family members will always have their own thoughts and will always be willing to force them down your throat. Take a deep breath when dealing with these people and make the right choice for your family. Good Luck. I hope I have helped.

Amanda - posted on 02/12/2010

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my son was circusized, the numbed the arm with a topical cream!!! so no the pain did not register!!! my son was healed within 3 days and he was circumsized the same day he was born!!! my son has not had any infections or problems at all! i am very happy with my decision....good luck with your decision! and the insurance company did pay for it!!!

Allie - posted on 02/12/2010

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no, there is no medica necessary reasons to do this. insurance companies do not pay any more for this to be done because it does not need to be done. the excuss to look like the other boys is not right any more now and days because a lot of people do not do this anymore. it is a personal choice. There is no special cleaning or hazards to worry about. the skin does not retract until they are around 5 years old and at that age they are old enough to learn to do it themselves.

Patricia - posted on 02/12/2010

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I was unsure about if I should have it done or not.

I thought , well if God did not want him to have that extra skin why make him with it? He is born with it.... he should keep it. Right? If men were meant to not have it they would be born without it. Right?

In the end my husband put his foot down and said our son would be circumsized. He said it is a lot more healthier to have it done. When he gets older he could have problems if he wasn't circumsized. So I did not fight him on it. I did not know which way to go any way.

Nicole - posted on 02/11/2010

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That was actually one decision I left to the father of my son....So no he is not circumcised...I figured only a man would be able to make that decision....

Natasha - posted on 02/11/2010

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My son was circumcized. He didn't cry, he pretty much slept through the whole thing. My sister didnt circumcize her son, and even though she cleans him daily, he still gets infections. He cant even take bubble baths because the soaps irritate his penis. She wishes she had of went through with it now. Many people on here have said its purely cosmetic to have a circumcision done, which i believe is NOT true. If you read the statistics on circumsized and uncircumsized penis infections, they are pretty much the same. Mt reasoning for doing it is if there's a 2% chance he could get an infection either way, why not do the surgery before they can remember. I would hate to think that my son would grow up with an uncircumsized penis, then have to go cut it off because of a problem and everything he knew and was use to in regards to his penis was changed in one day. A friend of mine was circumsized when he was 18 and to this day he still says it's the most tragic thing that has ever happened to him. He circumsized his son right after birth!

Jenni - posted on 02/10/2010

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I really appreciate that you give the whole story on the video. No one mentions that it was during a Jewish ceremony and those are very different than having it done by a doctor.

Jenni - posted on 02/10/2010

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My son is. I had a great doctor I trusted who has known my family for years, I knew the area would be numb and i do believe like father like son. My husband and I were both with my son when he had it done and I have to say he screamed more when his arms were held down than during the procedure itself. I think every situation is different, every doctor is different, and i don't think my son will be mad at me or upset at me for making this decision for him.

Kristen - posted on 02/10/2010

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My son isn't. I agree with some of the other mom...it is not necessary so why cause him pain if you don't have to.

Trina - posted on 02/10/2010

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Question....Does anyone want to see the circ video on youtube or would you all rather not?

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I had my son done at two weeks. Apart from the fact there is a highter chance of contracting and passing on diseases my husband is a diabetic which is genetic and if my son has it there is an even higher chance that he will get infections and other problems. Also my husband is done so we wanted him to look like his daddy. We live in australia so we used the plastibel method and aparently he only cried for a min or two. What they do with this method is seperate the skin and put a plastic ring under the forskin. They then put a tie around the foreskin against the plastic to cut of the circulation. Within a week it fell off and looked perfect. Also two hours before the procedure is done you start putting a numbing cream on it and continue doing it every half an hour for 2 hours. After the procedure i gave him a breastfeed and was fine and happy after that.



If i had to do it again i would.

Yolanda - posted on 02/10/2010

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I wouldn't have, but there have been problems in may family with uncircumsised men. These family member needed to be circumsized at an older age (40, 25, 17, 12 & 8) because of a genetically inherited problem (not too sure on the details, they don't really talk about it). Then the doctor said that all of their sons should be circumsized too. Since my husband is also circumsized, we decided to do it. It is much better to do to an infant than to a grown man (who can be caused great pain if they have an erection). I know of a few other men who have had to have it done too! To me - better safe than sorry! Or, just teach your sons to keep it clean!!!

Trina - posted on 02/10/2010

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Our first yes, our second no. I won't have anymore boys circumsized. I just don't believe in it anymore. It isn't medically necessary and they were born complete.

Brittany - posted on 02/10/2010

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We were unable to get our son circumsized when he was born because he was a micro preemie and was so sick. Now he is 9 months old and still in the NICU and will be having a G tube surgery done soon and we talked to the doctors and did tons of reading on this and we will only do it if they do during his surgery while he is already alseep and can't feel it and if they won't then he won't be because they will do it with him awake and it will hurt him. And as for the pain after the surgery he will already be on pain meds so he won't hurt while it is healing. I do know that it is alot worse as they get older so if you do it do as soon as you can. My father in law had it done at 5 years old because his mother was an idiot...lol JK And he still remembers it and I think it was very tramatic for him. But on the other hand a know an eldery man who wasn't and now he got really sick and his penis skin had to be torn apart when he was in the hospital because it got infected and grew together and he needed a cath put in and that was the only way to do it. So what ever you decide has its pros and cons but I think if you do it do it asap don't wait when they will be able to remember.

Lily - posted on 02/10/2010

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My doyle is not because when he was born he had to have a vestomy done to save his life and he lost to much blood his dad had to give his blood. The ped never asked us if we wanted to do it since hes older now and realy he has never had a problem with the forskin his dad is and he get teast or urinary track infection he hates it and he has never felt good during intercourse so he told me NEVER get my kids forskin cut off or he will sue me. well I am not into cutting him I had my clitorus torn having Doyle and let me just say it was the worst pain how can a mother do it to the baby boy? the child goes from shock to coma in the cutting then they go back to the worst pain when you change it or they pee plus later ED.

Kerri - posted on 02/10/2010

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Yes, I had my son Circumsized. I read into it more and saw there is a higher risk for boys having problems later on. I have know a few moms that had to have they're son done at like 4 or 5 because the skin didn't retract like it was supposed to. And that cause more pain then as a baby because they remember more and everything. And my bf or myself did not go back and watch them do it but it took about 15 mins if that and his dr said that he didnt even cry about it. And he only cried once while I was putting vasline on it while it was healing. No I dont have to worry about teaching him to clean it properly or anything like that and I dont have to worry about it getting infected! The only reason I wasnt going to have it done was because I didnt know if I would be able to afford it (in this part of florida medicaid doesnt pay for it) But I ended up finding the doctor that I went to cheaper than the hospital he was born at and now he is completly healed up and doing great. I personally didnt want to him to be a uncircumsized boy but that is my opinion and if you are fine with him not being circumsized then he is your son and you have the right to choose that for him! :D

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I had my son circumsized when he was 1 week old, it only took 10 minutes and he was fine afterwards, we have had no problem with it at all.

Tracey - posted on 02/10/2010

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My son has been circumsized and samuel got done when he was 8-9 weeks old and he hasnt had any problems after it got done and my partner and I agree that if we had a boy, than our son would get circumsized but at the end of the day its people's decision if you want to get it done or not but I dont think anyone has a right to judge anyone on our decisions.

Lechelle - posted on 02/09/2010

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ok my first son who is 10 now was not circumsized at birth then right before he turned 2 he started having problems peeing so we ended up having to have him circumsized anyways because that is what fixed the problem and believe me it is much easier on them as a newborn then when they get older so my other 3 boys got it done at birth and have had no problems and my 10 yr old has had no problems with usin the bathroom since.hope this helped.

Kayla - posted on 02/09/2010

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I had my son circumsizes. It seems like less health risks and also I wont have to worry about my son being enbarrassed about it down the road.

Dashanda - posted on 02/09/2010

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My son had it done the day he left the hosiptal they must have a WET diaper and order for them to do it..All we had to do is keep vaseline on it changed his gauzes everything we changed him and it healed up and no time.My husband is circumcize so I only think it's right to have our son's done too.

Kenalemang - posted on 02/09/2010

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Not yet. He is actually three years old now and I have been wondering when is the best time to circumcize him. Please advise

Angela - posted on 02/08/2010

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Yes. For us, it really came down to what his Daddy was. We felt that if there was ever any comparing or questioning, it would be his father that he would compare to, and we didn't want to make him feel different, either for better or for worse. My grandmother had 4 boys & four girls, and the funny thing is two of the boys are and the other two aren't! It's because they moved to a different province for the two younger ones and it wasn't something that province did automatically. Anyways, my father and brother are, and we just felt that it was the right decision for our family.

Melissa - posted on 02/08/2010

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I did with mine. He had the ring put on and my husband watched. He slept through the entire thing. Sure enough, a week later, It feel off while he was sleeping and I found it in his diaper when he woke up. I highly recommend the ring if you do decided to do this for your sons.

Jennifer - posted on 02/08/2010

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I had my son done. There was no question in my mind. I'm probably gonna get a lot of flack for saying this but I think it's FAR more attractive. He'll thank me when he's older. Also I truly believe it reduces the chances of getting an STI. From what I've seen men that are circumcised are 80-90% less likely to contract herpes, HPV , chlamydia and other unpleasantness. I've actually looked into this through friends that have or have had these things.

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I didn't do it. All I have to do to clean it it is pull back the foreskin to expose a tiny amount of the tip of his penis while bathing him (to properly stretch the foreskin so it doesn't get "stuck"- one day it will fully expose the tip), as he grows older, he'll learn to do it for himself.. My boyfriend, his brothers, and his entire family haven't been circ'd and I had no reason do to do it.

Boys play with their penises constantly- let them do it in the shower and it will be clean. *Shrugs* And at puberty, all boys DO is play with it.

Holly - posted on 02/08/2010

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My hubby and I had a VERY long debate about this. At first I didn't want to get him circumcised because of the pain. However, after researching and talking to multiple doctors about it, I found that it wasn't as bad as I once thought. The decision for me to get our son circumcised was not cosmetic at all. With an uncircumcised penis comes the risk of infections later in life. Not necessarily ALL uncircumcised penises will become infected, but the risk is greater. And this usually happens at the age of puberty when they might not be very concerned with hygiene (an uncircumcised penis requires a much greater amount of attention to cleaning, or this is where the infections can begin) and if an infection did start, many feel too awkward to approach his parents to tell them. My hubby is circumcised, and we both agreed that if there ever came a time when our son saw his dad's penis, he would wonder why they're different.

As for the actual process, I went into the room with my son and hubby. There was the doctor and nurse there, they explained everything that would happen, and the most painful part of the entire ordeal was the freezing needle. He actually fell asleep while waiting for the freezing to kick in, and slept through the circumcision itself. We had no issues with infection or complications afterwards, and he was not fussy or upset during the healing process. It's all personal preference, but as long as you get a great doctor to do it, I found nothing wrong with getting my son circumcised.

Rebecca - posted on 02/08/2010

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My son is done, we were going to have it done when he was only bout a week old but as the procedure was just about to habit, the doctor found a issue where it could not be done, i had to go to specist. we have to wait till he was at least 6 months (done at 7months) where they circumsized and fixed the issue. if i have another boy i would choice to have it done after they are 6months so they can go under but not wait until they r too old. my son was put under for this and he woke with smiles and we have had no issues with it. it is ur decision there is so many for and against. if u do go decide to have it done u can choice the way it done (when they r little, or when the r older than 6months so they can go under)

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I have 3 boys and I had my 1st son done..it went fine...but I have not had the other 2 done as I didn't think it was necessary...they have not had any issues thus far either.

Melissa - posted on 02/07/2010

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i'd just like to say that it ISNT purely cosmetic. i have gotten urinary tract infections from boyfriends that werent circumcised. its not fun. i plan on having my son circumcised when he is born. even though it costs $400. its worth it. and there is no way that they will remember the pain. ever.

Amanda - posted on 02/07/2010

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I did, I live in Australia and find that it's is not offered anymore if u want it done you have to find a dr that will do it, anyhow we had our son done because his father had to be done at 8 years old due to backflushing urine in the kidneys, my husband and I did not want our son to have to go through the pain that my husband did, all the people say it's done purely for cosmetic reasons are mistaken as sometimes it has to be done for medical reasons. I found once my son was done he was able to pee alot better and his was done using the placebell procedure and did not cry,

Elizabeth - posted on 02/06/2010

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I didn't have my son circumcised, he is beautiful and perfect just the way God and my body made him, no cosmetic surgery required. You wouldn't give your baby a tattoo or nipple piercing would you? But what if people had been piercing and tatting their babies for hundreds of years? Would you do it then? It comes down to choices, choices about ones body. You can always get it done later in life if you want to but you can't get back or undo something thats already been done. I think parents should have to watch it done to their sons, no taking a natural baby boy away for a bit and bringing him back chopped with the parents having no idea of what he want through. And I don't want to hear silly things about how its hurts an adult man but it doesn't hurt a baby, the only difference is an adult can fight back, an adult can talk, tell you to stop, tell you it hurts......... a baby can only lie there and cry and hurt. Now obviously I feel very strongly about this and I know other people are just as strongly pro-circumcision and Im not saying their wrong just that I don't agree with doing it. my father, brother and step-son are all circumcised and are happy, healthy and wouldn't have it any other way but is that because they don't know what they're missing? My husband isn't and he's just as healthy, happy as my cut male relatives are.

Sunny - posted on 02/06/2010

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No we did not! i live in australia and it is not that common anymore here it wasn't even mentioned to us during my pregnancy or after my son was born. My partner wasn't done and none of my other partners or friends are done. My son is 3 and never had an infection or problem and none of the children in his play group have been done. Plus i believe its his body and its beautiful just the way it is, i see no reason to change him.

Jadine - posted on 02/06/2010

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not when he was first born, no. but when he was 6 weeks old he had a really bad uti and was inthe hospital for about 5 days, then again when he was 2 he got another one. so when he turned four we got him circumsized. and it was so fast he was in pain the first week but after that he was great!!! i regret not doing it right away. its so much better now and easier to clean he hasnt had any problems since then. The doctor that proformed the circumision was a mom of 3! so i was really comfortable and felt at ease that she would take good care of him and she did! i reccommend it.

Alyssa - posted on 02/06/2010

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Yes, I had mine. It broke my heart to do it... but every man I have come in contact with has been... and it healed up perfectly (was healed at 1 week 5 day appointment).

Rebecca - posted on 02/06/2010

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Most doctors do now use local anesthetic before they circumcise a baby.

Colleen - posted on 02/06/2010

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I came back to read some more posts about what people thought of getting your son circumsized i just wanted to say one more thing on the procedure. alot of moms have written about cutting the foreskin and how painful it was for their child and so on. my son was circumsized when he was 3days old. there was NO CUTTING of any skin. they do have another way of doing it where they put a ring on around the penis and tie of the foreskin with some string. this stays on the penis for a week or two until it just falls of naturally skin and all. there was no pain at all for my son as stated before the only time he cried was when the nurse took her fingure out of his mouth cuz he was hungry. even diaper changes were not painful for him.

if you want your son done and are just worried about the pain maybe see if this is available in your area as it was pain free

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We circumcised our son before we even left the hospital. I don't agree that it is only for cosmetic reasons. I have a relative who had to get circumised when he was 11 or 12 because of serious infection from the foreskin closing and i think that it is ten times worse to get it done when they old enough to remember the pain then when they are just bone. My son slept through his circumcision, and never even once cried after it was done. I highly recommend it. but that is my opinion and everyone has there own thoughts.

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