Circumcision

Kerri - posted on 04/03/2009 ( 114 moms have responded )

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So I'm about to have my first child. A little boy. And I'm debating whether or not to have him Cirumcisied. So I need some input. Is it really better to have them circumcisied? And I know all states are different but if you did have your circumcisied how much did you have to pay to have it done? Medicaid doesn't pay for it anymore so money is a huge factor in my decision!! Please respond!!

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Heather - posted on 04/03/2009

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I chose to have my son circumsized.and I do not regret it. My husband is circumsized and he is just fine with it. Quite frankly I think it looks nicer being circumsized, though I don't know if vanity should be a consideration for such a procedure. It is a personnal choice, circumsition has been happening for centuries and it is a safe practice the majority of the time, but with all things in life, there are risks. you need to think aobut what is best for you and your son.



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Katie - posted on 04/08/2009

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I didn't get my son circumcised and here is the research that I used to make my decision. I don't regret it one bit:

It hurts—a grown man gets general anesthesia, we don’t offer our infants that luxury. Yes, there is research that back the fact that it is very painful for infants and also the research shows that infants that have been forced through the procedure process pain differently and it makes their childhood vaccines actually hurt more http://www.cirp.org/library/pain/taddio2

Many people use the argument that circumcision is cleaner. Actually, circumcision itself can cause infection. Beyond that, an uncircumcised penis foreskin stays attached to the glands (head) of the penis until sometimes 6 years old, which makes it easier to care for then a circumcised penis. After it retracts by itself you just wash it like a girl would wash her girl parts.

http://www.circumcision.org/studies.htm is a website that summarizes recent studies done on circumcision, among them it includes: circumcision removes the most sensitive part of the penis, circumcision is traumatic, it affects sexual behavior (including the female partner’s enjoyment), and it can lead to abnormal brain development and behavior.

In addition to that, the American Academy of Pediatrics doesn’t recommend it because: http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi...

Studies that were done saying that circumcision prevents STDs and AIDs have been proven to be miserably flawed because of socio-economic differences. Poor people get AIDs and STDs more and they are circumcised less. This simple fact wasn’t factored in to the research. http://www.usnews.com/blogs/on-men/2008/...

Again, see the circumcision.org studies I linked to earlier, men who are circumcised have less sensation and therefore need more stimulation to reach orgasm. We don’t do it to girls, why put our boys through that torture (and yes it is, see the circumcision.org studies that I linked to earlier).

Here is a good article on the debate: http://www.doctorgeorge.com/article.php?...

And a list of other sites debating it:
http://babyparenting.about.com/od/circum...
http://www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.o...

The deciding factor: if you’re a pregnant mother thinking about the procedure, there are videos all over the internet. If you are going to put your son through it, you should be able to at least watch it.

I know it's the popular thing to do, but only 50% of Americans (down from 90% in 1970) of boys get it done now so you don't have to worry about the locker room. This is only some of the research I did before making my decision to keep him intact.

Brittany - posted on 04/03/2009

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Quoting Kerri:

Circumcision

So I'm about to have my first child. A little boy. And I'm debating whether or not to have him Cirumcisied. So I need some input. Is it really better to have them circumcisied? And I know all states are different but if you did have your circumcisied how much did you have to pay to have it done? Medicaid doesn't pay for it anymore so money is a huge factor in my decision!! Please respond!!



I've been told there's more work with them being uncircumsized in taking care of it and keeping it clean. My fiance said his little brother was not circumsized and it got infected when he started taking showers on his own so they scared him into keeping it clean by telling him it would fall off or something like that. I don't have to worry about it because I'm having a girl (due may 3). I live in Delaware and I was told that Medicaid covers it here, but I recently moved from North Carolina where they stopped covering it. My friend there had a boy and I think it cost them 250 dollars to have him circumsized and it had to be done before he was either one month or three months (i don't remember) this was about 3 yrs ago.

Ajia - posted on 04/03/2009

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All I know is as a grown woman, all of my friends and I prefer being intimate with a man who is circumsized. For various reasons that I won't get into. For a child, it may seem like it doesn't matter, but one day that little boy will be a man, and it may matter then...

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Nina - posted on 04/10/2009

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Quoting Brenda:



And just a note: today they use a topical analgesic.  They DO NOT do it with no anestesia anymore though it used to be the norm.  I can't remember what it was they used, but talk to your doctor if you're concerned about this part of it.  Almost every doctor I've talked to recently has assured me that they numb the area before the procedure is done.  And there are two procedures, and only one of them involves actual cutting the other is a ring and more often used now than the cutting method.






 






http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/g... is an excellent place for more information about it.






http://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/what... is specifically about babies and how it relates.






WebMD is recommended by most doctors and hospitals as a place to get reliable information on many medical subjects.  Good luck in deciding!






For my son the doctor told me to go to our pharmacy and pick up the topical cream (can't remember the name of it right now) and apply it with the patch covering 1 hour before his procedure.  It was to numb the area.  He told me that it was very rare now for them to perform circ's without the area being numbed first.  Although he did cut rather than use the ring.



 



WebMD is amazing.  I would not have known about it if my doctor hadn't told me.

Emma - posted on 04/10/2009

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My husband and I decided to get our boy circ was the better option. While pregnant expecting a boy we sought out professional and personal views even done the study, we were still undecided until my uncirc little bro 8yrs pulled his foreskin back too far in the shower and had to have a circ, it was horrible for him. Bub was 7days old when he was circ, he never cried, it never bled and the doctor was more than helpful with any questions with before, during and after the procedure. My nana works as a nurse although she never had her own boys done she regrets it because of all the trouble she has seen with uncirc children and elderly men. Its a personal decicion that should never be critised because it is each individuals choice, everyone to their own.

Goodluck

Catherine - posted on 04/10/2009

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My 9 week old son is not circumcised. I never gave it much thought until I started teaching and noticed how many of my students were uncircumcised. (I taught autistic preschoolers so I oversaw a lot of potty time and changed a lot of diapers.) When I got pregnant I researched circumcision and after watching some videos on the subject I started tearing up at the thought of having my child circumcised. My husband initially wanted our son circumcised and we had a rather heated debate about it one night and then a few level headed discussions. I miscarried that pregnancy so it became a moot point. One night as we were falling asleep and I was just entering the second trimester with my son out of the blue my husband said "Let's not circumcise our sons." He said he realized the only reason he wanted it done was that he was circumcised and that it isn't as though his sons will love him any less because their penises look different, and they probably won't even think anything about the differences anyway.



 



Long story short: There is some research that indicates that circumcision reduces the transmission of some std's, but in my opinion that is what condoms are for. I am very happy with our decision to leave my precious boy intact. He is perfect just the way he came out. I saw no reason to hand over my beautiful son to have a piece of him cut off.



 



 

Brenda - posted on 04/09/2009

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And just a note: today they use a topical analgesic.  They DO NOT do it with no anestesia anymore though it used to be the norm.  I can't remember what it was they used, but talk to your doctor if you're concerned about this part of it.  Almost every doctor I've talked to recently has assured me that they numb the area before the procedure is done.  And there are two procedures, and only one of them involves actual cutting the other is a ring and more often used now than the cutting method.



 



http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/g... is an excellent place for more information about it.



http://www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/what... is specifically about babies and how it relates.



WebMD is recommended by most doctors and hospitals as a place to get reliable information on many medical subjects.  Good luck in deciding!

Brenda - posted on 04/09/2009

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Missouri medicaid didn't pay for it with my oldest, and it was 200 dollars (which I paid off at like twenty dollars a month like forever).  This time, MO medicaid does cover it due to changes in the Missouri system.



I choose to circ my boys because my husband is circ'd.  Personally, I prefer to have them circ'd only for that reason mainly, so my boys look like daddy (which no matter what anyone says CAN be a big issue in the toddler years because all little boys try to imitate their dads).  Other than that, it was relatively pain free for him to have it done, and we had no difficulties with him afterward except being a little sore and cranky the first night home.  It never got red or anything, and in fact, other than putting gauze and vaseline on it, you couldn't tell anything had been done to him.  There is medical evidence that it can be beneficial later in life.  (Somewhat lower risk of contracting HIV and there are chances of the foreskin becoming infected.)



I know a boy who had to have it done at the age of 8 because of problems with his foreskin and that poor child was miserable and out of school for almost two weeks because of it.



Really it is a personal decision, and neither way is wrong.  It is mostly cosmetic, with possible health benefits if you do have it done.  Like I said, if my husband hadn't been circ'd I wouldn't have done it at all.

Amanda - posted on 04/09/2009

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I have two sons, the oldest is circumscised,and the youngest is not. with my oldest I was young and relied on my mother for most of my advice, so when she said it had to be done I agreed. I then decided that I didn't want him to go thru that alone, so I went in the room with him. I didn't know that they don't give him any pain relief...it was horrific!!! I sobbed for a long time. He screamed like crazy and I am the one who made him suffer...I vowed then and there to never do that again. Luckily my husband, who is not my oldest's father, is not ciucumcised so when we found out we were having a boy we had many discussions about it. My husband didn't see the need, said he never got picked on about it, and said that it gives him the ability to have better sexual pleasure because the tip is protected. He never got any infection either. I am so glad we didn't put our youngest thru that just because of social stigma and old wives tales. best of luck to you!!

Tara - posted on 04/09/2009

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All I needed to hear was that they don't use anesthetic and it's not reccommended by nurses... We chose not to.... OUCH!! no thanks!!

Destini - posted on 04/09/2009

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A little research

Time Is of the Essence

Why is the decision regarding circumcision an urgent one? The penis undergoes a growth spurt in the first few months of life and may quickly become too large to safely remove the foreskin. Hence, most practitioners limit the procedure to the first month of life. After that age, most recommend referral to a urologist to perform circumcision in the operating room under general anesthesia, incurring additional risks and significantly greater costs In addition, circumcision opponents point to studies demonstrating that circumcision diminishes sexual sensation in adulthood, but these findings have been challenged by other studies finding no difference in penile sensation in circumcised versus uncircumcised adults. Dennis Clements MD, PhD, MPH

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If you want to get it done, do it right away! [$215-$350]

I had quite the time trying to get this taken care of - and now it's going to cost me $4,000 - $6,000 to get it done - unless medically necessary.

It is against my son's religion not to be circumcised, so it is getting taken care of. And i'm also choosing to do so because i never had to deal with a boyfriend not being & have seen "video's" of uncircumcised ones. I wouldn't want my child to get picked on or look different than his Daddy.

But the decision is yours in the end. Best of luck! & Congrats on the pregnancy!

Autumn - posted on 04/08/2009

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Quoting Arwen:

I wanted to have any boy that I ever had circumcised until I watched Penn and Teller's episode on it. Try to find that on Youtube.
The part that is removed if full of nerves that would make sex much more enjoyable for him in the future, and keeping him intact will also make his penis thicker so his wife will enjoy it, too. I saw it done, and it was horrible to watch. Children actually go into shock after the proceedure is complete. I would also hate knowing my son wished he had it, and I was the one to tell someone to cut off a piece of his body. =S



I chose not to circ before I saw that, and was so thankful that I made that decision after I saw it.

Destini - posted on 04/08/2009

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i heard its definitely better to have them circumsized when their born because when their an elderly then they have alot more problems if they hadnt had it done.
i had my son circumsized and it went just fine.

Arwen - posted on 04/08/2009

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I wanted to have any boy that I ever had circumcised until I watched Penn and Teller's episode on it. Try to find that on Youtube.

The part that is removed if full of nerves that would make sex much more enjoyable for him in the future, and keeping him intact will also make his penis thicker so his wife will enjoy it, too. I saw it done, and it was horrible to watch. Children actually go into shock after the proceedure is complete. I would also hate knowing my son wished he had it, and I was the one to tell someone to cut off a piece of his body. =S

Kylie - posted on 04/08/2009

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I have asked someone with a penis and they said they wish their parents had not taken a part of them away. He's a grown man and wants it back. Thanks for the site links Katie, very interesting.:)

Lindsey - posted on 04/08/2009

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I wanted to get a boy circumcised if I had one, I am pregnant again and looked it up on youtube and watched a procedure and I will tell you that I will never put my baby through that so if this baby is a boy I am not going to have it done. His/her father is not circumcised and I see no problem with it

Lindsey - posted on 04/08/2009

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I wanted to get a boy circumcised if I had one, I am pregnant again and looked it up on youtube and watched a procedure and I will tell you that I will never put my baby through that so if this baby is a boy I am not going to have it done. His/her father is not circumcised and I see no problem with it

Marie - posted on 04/08/2009

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DON'T DO IT!!!!
It isn't cleaner, despite what some say...in fact it is only cleaner depending on how often you bath him. Trust me, I know this from my hubby's experience and other people I know. Also, they can loose sensation later on in life and it actually decreases size or the ability to get larger during an erection as adults. Also, a lot of them are botched jobs and have to be re-done. It isn't covered by insurences anymore since there is not longer a medical reason to do it anymore. It is just not necessary in any way and is only for looks!!

Emily - posted on 04/08/2009

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Quoting Cheryl:

You know what would be the best thing to do. Ask someone who has a penis!!! We can all sit here and state our opinions and thats all they are. Not one of us has any personal experience when it comes to a penis, i know I dont because I dont have one.


No, I do not have a penis but I have the comfort of knowing what it means to have intact genitals which is something my husband has not gotten to experience since he was hours old unfortunately. Also, when someone removes part of a body part it is no longer whole. I am missing part of the 4th toe on my right foot. It wasn't done when I was a newborn by parental choice and I can still stand on that foot although balance is not as good from it. Nevertheless I am missing part of my toe therefore I do not have a whole toe. Regardless of how you feel about circumcision removing part of the penis makes it no longer whole just as my toe is no longer whole. It doesn't mean it is disfunctional but it is not whole.

Nina - posted on 04/08/2009

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My son (9 mths next week) was done at 3 weeks. The decision was his father's. Although I don't regret having it done I wish I had prepared myself more for afterwards. I was told to put a "numbing" patch on his penis 1 hr before the procedure and was not allowed to feed him 4 hrs before. Try telling a 3 week old baby who's used to eating every 2 hrs that he can't have a bottle! His circ was done in the doc's office while I waited in another room. He screamed throughout the entire surgery and everytime he urinated for a couple days afterwards. When the nurse brought him back to me she told me to feed him and whatever I did I could not let him cry for a couple days as he would start bleeding again and would take longer to heal. And then she opened the diaper to show me how to take care of it til it healed. I'm not usually squeamish when it comes to my kids but I thought I was going to be sick when she opened the diaper...I was not prepared for that at all. It was a very long couple of days caring for him and my heart broke everytime he peed and screamed from pain. No matter what your decision, make sure you are prepared for the outcome.

Melissa - posted on 04/08/2009

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I am a mom of 2 biological sons and I also work in the medical field.  I opted for the boys to NOT be circumcised.  The number 1 reason why someone would is to "look like dad."  There has been really no medical evidence to prove it is necessary.  The procedure is NOT a very comfortable one when the baby is "strapped down" for it.  I could not live with the fact my baby would be in pain.  I would gladly be the one to take all the pain, but that is not possible.  If the baby needs it done for medical reasons, then there is no question on what to do.  It needs to be done. 

Cheryl - posted on 04/08/2009

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LOL...I love it---As for saying that circum. boys "aren't whole"....please, my son can still pee and even get an erection. Shocking, due to the "fact" that he's not "whole" down there.

Brooke - posted on 04/08/2009

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Hi...My husband and I had our son circumsised. I do NOT regret it at all. Personally, I like the way a circum. penis looks much more and we didn't want him to look different than my husband. Also, my younger brother wasn't circum. at birth because he was on medicaid. Well, at 2 he had to be because of medical reasons and it was traumatic for him because of his age....althoug, it's nothing now at age 12...he doesn't remember. I've known people who have had to have it done later in life, so I would rather have it done in the beginning. As for saying that circum. boys "aren't whole"....please, my son can still pee and even get an erection. Shocking, due to the "fact" that he's not "whole" down there. To each his own....I'm just glad my son is circumsised.

Cheryl - posted on 04/08/2009

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You know what would be the best thing to do. Ask someone who has a penis!!! We can all sit here and state our opinions and thats all they are. Not one of us has any personal experience when it comes to a penis, i know I dont because I dont have one. Like I said before my son was done because his dad wanted it that way so I trusted him. And when it comes to the comment earlier about how men get general anesthetic, so its less painful, tell that to a guy I know who was circumsized at 9 and he remembers and he said it hurt like hell!!

Amanda - posted on 04/08/2009

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It really depends on what you think hun... I had my son circumsized. Do you think you will be able to teach him good hygine habits. Do you think he will follow it. These are things need to be considered when you are making you decision...

Cheryl - posted on 04/08/2009

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and moms you are never to pull back the foreskin that is what they are to do you are to teach them to do it! and remind them daily. It can be very painfull for a young man for his foreskin to be pulled back.

Cheryl - posted on 04/08/2009

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I think there is a lot of parents thinking they know best and dont want to be told any different from anyone!

I personaly didnt, my sister did my mom did, my whole family cir and vx and I did neither. everything being said here and more I have heard! Just trust you will know what is best for your child! and no matter what your decision is it will be the right one!

The thing with cleaning and care every penis has cleaning and it is part of being a mom to know how and when to do what. I was told never to pull back his foreskin to clean, when he is two that is when he can do it himself daily for the rest of his life!

and cangrats

Katie - posted on 04/08/2009

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You're welcome!

As a side note: if you decide to keep your son intact then make sure your pediatrician supports your decision and is comfortable with it. Many doctors give out bad information that can result in injuries (such as telling you to pull back the foreskin) because they themselves are uninformed. I think that since the AAP does not support it any more doctors are starting to give out better information, but I'd still check.

For later: there are very few instances where a man should be circumcised for medical purposes (like, almost never) yet less informed doctors are quick to recommend it because they don't know better. In Europe, where circumcision is much less common, penile issues are resolved more efficiently and less painfully.

Also, for everyone who says it helps 'prevent' STDs. Not only is the research that supports that flawed (see my last post), but, on a personal note, I've been with both and the only person that ever gave me an STD (curable, thank god) was circumcised.

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Nice research material! Thanks for those links... It wasn't a question for us we had no intention of doing it but I had done research about it anyway! I hadn';t seen all those links. Thanks

Cheryl - posted on 04/08/2009

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My son was done, there was no question about it. Do you want to be pulling your sons foreskin back when he 3 and 4 years old to wash him? Do you expect when hes six that hes going to remember to do clean it properly in the shower? Is your husband/boyfriend done? Find out how much it costs and make your decision from there. But like you read below infections can happen and it is a lot more painful to get it done when your older. Research the doctor some still do it with a knife and some use the plastic ring. The ring stays on and falls of after no more then a week. My son had no complications with his and it didnt seem to effect him at all. And to the woman below who asked about do you hold them or do they take them, my doctor took him to a different room to do it.

Diane - posted on 04/08/2009

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my husband and i have very different opinions on this, he wanted to get my son done because he was done and such, but to me wasnt a good enough reason, i just didnt like the idea of it, here in Australia it is really frowned upon. i just couldnt see my son in so much pain for vanity!! just MO by the way

Vanessa - posted on 04/07/2009

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Quoting Robin:

My son was circumsized when he was 4 days old, due to "doctor error" the procedure had to be redone at about 5 weeks. I don't regret doing it, but I wish I would have looked more closely to the doctor, he had been highly recomended to me, but still. Brandon is now 3 and fine. But the main thing I was thinking of when we got it was done was "what if he asks"-Daddy looks differenet, the other boys look different. So really thing is are you ready to answer those questions, yes it can cost a nice chunk of change, but it might be worth it in the long run. And by the way some states medicaid still does pay for it- you just have to ask. Make sure you don't ask the doctor though because they will tell you no. We live in Kansas, they do pay for it, however when we asked our octor he said no, then we paid for it ourselves, only to later find out thet medicaid would have.



The same thing happened to my boy, ( i did not mention it tho) but i studied realy hard before my mind was made up and looked at different dr's  and i went with one with 25 yrs experience and i paid alot of money to get this done, however the forskin grew back over his penis within months, so it was like he wasn't done at all.. so then he got infections after infections so he had to go to the hospital to get it done properly the old fashion way.. I say if you decide to go through with it make sure you  trust your dr just because there got  years of experience doesn't mean they do it properly everytime...  i know now what dr not to go to next time

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Quoting Robin:

My son was circumsized when he was 4 days old, due to "doctor error" the procedure had to be redone at about 5 weeks. I don't regret doing it, but I wish I would have looked more closely to the doctor, he had been highly recomended to me, but still. Brandon is now 3 and fine. But the main thing I was thinking of when we got it was done was "what if he asks"-Daddy looks differenet, the other boys look different. So really thing is are you ready to answer those questions, yes it can cost a nice chunk of change, but it might be worth it in the long run. And by the way some states medicaid still does pay for it- you just have to ask. Make sure you don't ask the doctor though because they will tell you no. We live in Kansas, they do pay for it, however when we asked our octor he said no, then we paid for it ourselves, only to later find out thet medicaid would have.



The same thing happened to my boy, ( i did not mention it tho) but i studied realy hard before my mind was made up and looked at different dr's  and i went with one with 25 yrs experience and i paid alot of money to get this done, however the forskin grew back over his penis within months, so it was like he wasn't done at all.. so then he got infections after infections so he had to go to the hospital to get it done properly the old fashion way.. I say if you decide to go through with it make sure you  trust your dr just because there got  years of experience doesn't mean they do it properly everytime...  i know now what dr not to go to next time

Robin - posted on 04/07/2009

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My son was circumsized when he was 4 days old, due to "doctor error" the procedure had to be redone at about 5 weeks. I don't regret doing it, but I wish I would have looked more closely to the doctor, he had been highly recomended to me, but still. Brandon is now 3 and fine. But the main thing I was thinking of when we got it was done was "what if he asks"-Daddy looks differenet, the other boys look different. So really thing is are you ready to answer those questions, yes it can cost a nice chunk of change, but it might be worth it in the long run. And by the way some states medicaid still does pay for it- you just have to ask. Make sure you don't ask the doctor though because they will tell you no. We live in Kansas, they do pay for it, however when we asked our octor he said no, then we paid for it ourselves, only to later find out thet medicaid would have.

Nadine - posted on 04/07/2009

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HI I am from Canada and we had our son circumsized. we decided to get it done as to my boyfriend had problems when he was young and at the age of 2 he had to be circumsized and i didn't want that to happen to my son, i didn't want him to go threw the pain his dad had to. i find it is a better hygiene too. it cost us $150 to get it done, and now that he has had that we have not had a problem at all. but this is a decsion that you and the father need to make yourself/

Melanie - posted on 04/07/2009

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Wow, Im shocked by some of the replies! I believe it should only be done if there is a medical problem, which can be common. My boys arent circumcised and we havent had any concerns whatsoever. As for the cosmetic debate, I am disgusted that any woman would be picky about sleeping with a man regarding circumcised or not...how would you like it if he didnt like your private parts?? We are ALL different in that regard.

We should be teaching our kids to accept people no matter what their bodies look like!!!

So Kerri I hope your baby boy is healthy and happy. Nothing else matters :-)

Yesenia - posted on 04/07/2009

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My son is five and he was not circumcised. Now that my godson was born and he was I am regretting the fact that I didn't have him circumcised. It’s so much cleaner and healthier in the long run. I know money is tight and you will need it like Emily said but it’s up to you. My cousin was not circumcised when he was a baby and then when he turned 13 he had so much skin that they had to do it. I think Medicaid would pay for it if the Doctor said it would create health problems later on. Congratulations on the new baby boy they are great.....

Aimee - posted on 04/07/2009

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Just to add, make sure you question the hospital about the procedure as well. Some doctors numb and some don't.

Aimee - posted on 04/07/2009

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We chose not to have our son circumcised. In the beginning I didn't even question it, he was going to have it done because that was what I was used to hearing. DH was actually the one that brought it up one day and from then on I decided I was going to research everything about it.

We're very happy with our decision and I wouldn't change a thing. As far as cleaning himself, you can teach him. It's no different than teaching a girl to properly clean herself as well.

Good luck with your decision! Only you and the father can make the best choice for your family. :)

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I have a nearly 8 year old son, and he is circumcised.  However, he had to have it done for medical reasons.  Although there has been no complications due to this, I really don't think that I would make him go through the procedure unnecessarily.  He was in a bit of pain and it bled for a few days afterwards (which is normal), but I just think that if there's no medical reason to have it done - why put them through it.  People say it's a uncomplicated procedure, that may be true, BUT, as with ANY operation when you go under a general, there are risks.  I just feel that you shouldn't risk it if it's not necessary.



Just my opinion.   Good luck with your decision.

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We had both of our sons circ'd.  My oldest, who is now 3.5 years, had to have surgery on his penis right after his 3rd birthday as well.  He had a couple of small adhesions and his skin was also not anchored to the base of his penis.  When I first found out I was having a boy, I asked all the questions about it and it came down to what felt right for us.  His daddy is circ'd and it is common in our area of the country.  I was concerned about the pain, but they numb the area so they don't feel it.  With my second son, he had to be circ'd a couple weeks later due to a small defect in his penis and my doctor not being comfortable doing it so we had to be referred to a specialist.  I found that taking care of an uncirc'd penis was he same as a circ'd penis. 



Even with the issues we had with both the boys getting circ'd, I don't regret doing it.

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Hi all! I just read all the previously posted responses. For my husband and I, I don't think it was ever really discussed. We just had the boys circumcised. I will admit that it was more "traumatic" for our second son than our first- our second son was a week old. I like the looks of the circed penis better than that of the uncirced, but that did not play a part in making the choice. With that said, I don't regret it. This is what I love about parenting. It doesn't matter if people like the choices my husband and I make. We are the parents to our children, and we will do what we feel is best for our children.

Just as you must do what you feel is best for your little man!

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my son is cicumcised, i personally prefer it as there are alot of health an hygiene problems if they are not. and they don't get infections and it studies show that they are at low risk of gettin deseases.. i paid up to $1000 but that's in australia so it could vary. When i took my boy in to get done at a week old he didn't scream or anything so i don't think it hurts them at that age.. just imagine what it would be like if they were to get it done at an older age due to infections.. but it is not for everyone you need to make up this decision on your own.. my opinion is my opinion and not judging ppl who don't believe in this i respect everyones opinion. i hope this has helped and best of luck with the arrival of your bubs

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My husband and I decided not to get our now 1 yr old circumsized. I feel the way he was born is the way he should be. Why put a baby through "plastic surgery" it is deffintely done for cosmetics only. My husband is from Europe and was not so maybe that was a part in deciding but the pain alone.Plus why spend the money babies need so many others things.

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Just out of curiosity… Mum's who have already had this done with their boys, did you have to hold your baby while the procedure was being done or did they come take your baby away and bring him back to you foreskin free?

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Quoting Amber:

ok...after reading some replies i have to go here..The people saying "if you were meant to have your foreskin cut you wouldnt have it" Do you have your ears pierced? If you were meant to have holes in your ears for dangling things you would be born that way..Tattoos if you were meant to have pictures on your body you would be born with them. nose, nipples, tongue, belly button..you altered yourself and thats fine..but really..if you were supposed to have those holes they'd already be there..right?


The key difference in the issues you pointed out is that they were made as adults, not as children. I would never pierce a child's ears in infancy for the same reason I wouldn't circumcise a child. It's thier body and they have to live with it. That being said, I'm not against having a child circumcised should they need it. I know plenty of adult males who aren't and have had no problems in life, as well as a few that had to have it done later due to medical reasons. There are pros and cons both ways, and they must be weighed. Even piercing ears and tattoos have serious cons should something go wrong. But they are decisions that the person made as an adult, for themselves, to permanently alter their bodies. Cutting off a perfectly healthy part of a child's body just because something might go wrong seems kinda goofy too. Really it all comes down to whether or not you think the risks are worth what you get out of it.

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My suggestion to you is to just do some major research online. Read up on the pros and cons. The debat on circumcision is a very spilt one. Not sure how much info your going to get out of everyone for that reason. I have seen women get very mean and nasty on this subject. Now I can tell you it cost $390.00 here in North Carolina. That is what my OB charged us for my son. We are also on medicaid.

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My husband is not circumcized yet he wanted our son to be circumcized. Personally, I don't care..... either way it is what it is! It's definitely a personal preference.

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Hi im not been funny wit ya but my little boy had to get it done for medical reasons and if it wasnt for that i wouldnt of put him through it it was a horrible experiance he was in so much pain after it but as u said every1 is differant just really think about it before u make a decision

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Quoting Monica:

If they do it in the hospital before you go home and your on pregnancy medicade they should cover it.


Not all states will. NC is one that won't.

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If they do it in the hospital before you go home and your on pregnancy medicade they should cover it. My son is 2 and that was my case. I would if you get it done ask to have it numbed first, I think it is cruel otherwise. Its really a personal decision. Some people do it because dad is done or not done. As far as cleaning goes if its not done, its not any dirtier than if it is.

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The risk of STIs and bacteria  with the uncircumsized penis is the exact same thing as circumsized providing there is proper hygiene. I don't think it's a valid argument to use when choosing to circumsize a baby. That is an argument for laziness if you want my opinion. You need to teach your son to pull back the skin to wash... WHAT A DRAG DUDE!! You teach him to use the potty or show him how to brush his teeth and that's no big deal but simply because you have to deal with private parts it becomes a CHORE?!?! You would show a little girl to wipe from front to back  why not a boy to pull back and clean?

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