circumcision

Tara - posted on 06/24/2009 ( 56 moms have responded )

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Im due in 5 weeks with a baby boy. My husband and I have decided that we are going to have him circumcised, but im having second thoughts.
What do you think?

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Jenni - posted on 07/04/2009

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Okay, for those of you who don't believe it, it actually IS a medically right thing to do. I had several doctors and nurses tell me this. The skin can get attached, causing it to have to be done later, which is more painful than as a baby. It also comes with a high risk of infection to not have it done, because it's nearly impossible to clean every little spot under there. As for the STD thing, the foreskin, even when pulled back, gets agitated during sex, causing microscopic cuts. Even if you wear a condom, it will not prevent you from getting an STD (they even say so on the package). Getting these cuts allows direct passage for these diseases into the bloodstream.
As for the procedure itself, it is very quick. Trust me. My son had to be transferred to the Children's Hospital for his first week, so they held off on it and did it there. The room was right next to his station in the NICU, so I was sitting on the other side of the door, listening to the entire thing. They use a numbing agent, so it won't hurt as badly, it's done very quickly. Yes, he did cry, but not long, and was soon back in my arms, smiling at me.
And yes, it is covered by insurance. It is a medically beneficent procedure, not a cosmetic one.

Laura - posted on 06/30/2009

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I found out it is a huge advantage to get your boy circumcised due to hygiene reasons. Many people say it isn't true, but hearing stories from my sister who's little boy isn't circumcised, i promptly made the decision to get my boy done, and i am soooo glad i did!

Sabrina - posted on 06/28/2009

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I have 2 boys and they are circumsized. I also had both of them on medicaid and they paid for it. The reason i did it is becasue if the forskin is not properly cared for it can cause health issues for the little boy. I know someone who did not care for their son's properly and he ended up with a painful, staph infection down there. A freshly circumsized boy is not hard to take care of. I put vasaline on a piece of gauze and put it over the spot so it wouldn't stick to the diaper, and of course keep it clean. It's really not that difficult to do, and it's healed in 5 to 7 days.

Katy - posted on 06/28/2009

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My son is 5 and was circumcised at 2 days old. I was having second thoughts up until they took him out to do the procedure, but it was something my husband felt strongly about. He cried a little, but as soon as he was in my arms he was ok again. There are times when I wonder if we should have, but I figured I'd let the one with the penis in the relationship decide on that one. If you do decide to get it done, just make sure you keep moving the skin gently down for the first few days, I didn't know I had to do that, and the day after the skin had started to grow together over the head of the penis, and the dr had to pull it down a little and my little guy cried. For what it's worth, it doesn't seem to have caused him any issues, he can't seem to keep his hands off his member already, so I'm guessing no damage done LOL.

Melissa - posted on 06/28/2009

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My husband and i decided to have it done for a few reasons.
Firstly because its family tradition in both of our families. and Secondly because we know a few people who either had to be circumcised when they were older, or thier children had to be. And they said it was horrible traumatic and painful for them. The people we knew who had to get it done when they were older, said they wished thier parents had done it in the first place. We decided to have it done when he was a baby so that he would not remember it. He was a bit uncomfortable the day he had it done, but was fine after that. We just put polysporin on it, and it was healed up in a few days.

Good Luck with making your decision!

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Coco - posted on 04/25/2014

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My husband an I have a two year old son he WASENT circumsized only lazy people do that it's not unhygienic I pulled my sons for skin back and rinsed it with warm water my husband isent circumsized and I love it!!!!! And he does to. my cousins son kept keeping urinary tract infections and the doctor told her Bc his foreskin was not there bacteria can enter the penis& for skin is a natural lubrication infection stopping thing an my best friends son died a day after birth Bc of a circumcision an I tLked to my own doctor about it the stupidity of you all amazes me

Jenni - posted on 07/04/2009

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As for the condom use, I was simply saying that you can't rely on them to not obtain STDs. It is a proven fact, that the foreskin, not being as tough as regular skin, gets agitated and tears easier during sex, greatly increasing the chances of STDs entering the blood stream. And considering that I've had several doctors at three different, un-affiliated hospitals tell me it is medically safer, not just a cosmetic benefit, I daresay, it probably is.

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Quoting Jenni:

Okay, for those of you who don't believe it, it actually IS a medically right thing to do. I had several doctors and nurses tell me this. The skin can get attached, causing it to have to be done later, which is more painful than as a baby. It also comes with a high risk of infection to not have it done, because it's nearly impossible to clean every little spot under there. As for the STD thing, the foreskin, even when pulled back, gets agitated during sex, causing microscopic cuts. Even if you wear a condom, it will not prevent you from getting an STD (they even say so on the package). Getting these cuts allows direct passage for these diseases into the bloodstream.
As for the procedure itself, it is very quick. Trust me. My son had to be transferred to the Children's Hospital for his first week, so they held off on it and did it there. The room was right next to his station in the NICU, so I was sitting on the other side of the door, listening to the entire thing. They use a numbing agent, so it won't hurt as badly, it's done very quickly. Yes, he did cry, but not long, and was soon back in my arms, smiling at me.
And yes, it is covered by insurance. It is a medically beneficent procedure, not a cosmetic one.


No, it is not the medically correct thing to do - that's why no major medical organization recommends it (according to the offical policy statements of the AAP, WHO, etc on the matter). It is a cosmetic procedure for exactly that reason - no proven medical benefits, only potential (unproven) ones.



http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi...



As for infections, considering that something like 80% of the world's men do just fine with their foreskins, I'm not sure where people get the idea that it is a hotbed for disease. The only place in the world where people circumcise routinely (aside from religious obligation) is in the US, and men here are certainly no healthier that men in Europe, etc.



And I have no idea what you're saying with regard to foreskins and condom use. Condoms offer the same protection whether circumcised or not - and men should use them regardless of whether or not they are circumcised.

Michelle - posted on 07/01/2009

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I had my son done and honestly, I actually regret it, my husband is not circumcised but he decided to take the choice upon himself and his father, I didn't have much say in it, but in all honesty, if he doesn't absolutely need it, I would not advise getting it done

Ashley - posted on 06/30/2009

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Quoting Ashley:

My son had to have surgery when he was born. I felt bad for making him undergo a circumcision as well, but I knew it could possibly benifit him in the future. It might not be medically proven that it does any good. I feel that after it heals it is easier to keep clean and avoid the issue where the foreskin grows over the head of the penis. I was reassured by a nurse in the hospital that it is better to get it done now, if that is a consideration, after she told me she had seen grown olderly men have to get circumsized because they werent cleaning it properly. Also they gave him tylonol before and numbed the area and also some tylonol after, that is why the babies are ussually sleepy afterward. My baby didnt even cry when it was done, he handled it like a champ and was well taken care of. Although it isnt too difficult to clean an uncircumsized penis, you have to pull back the foreskin. Moms get busy and so do little boys. So to garauntee a better chance of keeping it properly cleansed I had my children circumsized. It is ultimately you and your spouse decision. There is no true right or wrong decision, just pick the one that fits into your lives best.


Im sorry that I said you have to retract the foreskin. I did not mean by any means force it to do so. I had to cathiderize my infant son. So I had to pull it back a bit and do what i needed to do and clean it afterward. I honestly thought that you should pull back to the point of any resistance and clean it. Sorry for the misleading info. Here is a web site with helpful information. http://www.medicinenet.com/circumcision_...



Hope this helps hun!!

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I am due with a boy in November and my husband and I have been talking about this alot recently. I actually just finished, last semester, a class on human sexuality. There was an enitre unit in my book on circumcision and I really learned alot. There is alot of research for AND against circumcision. There is new data that has come out in recent years pointing to the belief that boys that are circumcised have a lower chance for penile cancer in their later years. It is also a fact that boys who are circumcised have a lowered risk of infections (such as bladder and urinary tract). There has also been alot of debate in the past years over doctors performing circumcisions without the use of anesthesia. If anyone tells you that a baby boy can not be "numbed" for this procedure, get a second opinion. We have already talked to our doctor about it and he actually offered us a few different options for pain treatment and anesthesia. Also, someone mentioned about insurance not covering it, and that is dependent upon the company because ours, will cover it. In fact, if our baby boy is NOT circumcised his premimum will be more for the first few years of his life. I'm not saying this is right, I'm just stating the facts.



On the other hand, there are many people who believe that circumcision is unnecessary and detremental to a boy's "psychse" about sex and how he will handle himseld sexually when he gets older.



All in all, I think as a parent, you must weigh the positives in negatives in circumcision, just like everything else, and decide what you personally will be best for your child. You can't worry about what others say or think, it is YOUR child. :)

Katy - posted on 06/30/2009

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Every guy I've ever dated that was circumcised, was glad they had had it done as a baby. But, I live in the US. IF you child is going to live in the US, it is generally the most accepted way. I once dated a foreign guy that grew up in Canada, and he said he was made fun of by other children, as a child, for *not* being circumcised. Later on, at age 21, he found out his foreskin had grown to his penis, and had to have a very a painful and late circumcision. By then, he was old enough, that an erection in his sleep cause his stitches to burst!! That alone is enough of a horror story to get my future son done as a baby...:\

Ericka - posted on 06/30/2009

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Wow... There are a lot of strong opinions! For the most part there is no real medical reason to have it done. I had a hard time making this decision 14 weeks ago. I spoke with 4 seperate doctors to get opinions. As far as STD's go, there is no statistic that shows any increased risk. Same goes for infection. If you don't wash an "uncut" penis, you will get and infection just as fast. When it comes to cleaning... Yes, it may be a little different, however, you have to teach little girls to move things around down there to get a proper cleansing, why shouldn't you teach little boys the same? In the end my decision was to leave him the way he came into this world. If he wants it done later for cosmetic reasons, that's his choice, but for now he is just as God made him.

P.S. I have heard of doctors taking too much skin during the procedure and causing problems later in life. (too much stretching of skin when aroused) Kinda sounds painful.

Dianah - posted on 06/29/2009

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Well i just had my son circumcised two weeks ago when he is only at two months old. He seems fine after all. Again it is all up to individual. As for me, i do it because partly of religious belief and also hygiene purposes.

Sabrina - posted on 06/28/2009

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Quoting Chelsea:

My doctor refused to circumsise and told me if I wanted that done I could find another doctor. Ditto with any of my friends I know who have had little boys. The procedure ISN'T covered by healthcare because it's seen as un-necessary and there is a $500.00 charge!

They are too young for painkillers that do any good, they are too young for paintreatment afterwards! Imagine ripping the skin off of your pinky finger after having a sip of wine then dealing with that healing with NOTHING!

My Husband was circumsised. So what? How long do you think your Son and his Father are going to spend comparing their junk? If it turns out to be that long you have some concerns about your Husbands sense of decency and it's divorce time!

Ditto for the whole "He will look different than other boys!" The number of uncircumsised kids is growing because more people realize it's barbaric! How much time do school kids spend in the washroom comparing junk is my question yet again? It's just as likely they'll get bugged for their hair cut. SO REMOVED THEIR HAIR BY LASER!

We are cruel and dock puppies tails when they're born, we remove dew claws, we mutilate and bind their ears so they will look a certain way. That is sick enough let alone doing it to YOUR OWN CHILD!

I hate the argument they have less chance of getting STD's. If you raise them not to be little man whores and where condoms they have even less chance of STD's than some slut circumsised boy!

There is a chance you will need your tonsils out when you're older because there is a problem, there is a chance you will get cancer and need part of your lung removed. Precaution against something later on is nonsense! The far greater majority of boys who aren't circumsised are JUST FINE!

If your child needs it done later in life they can be put under, get pain killers, ect. The last thing I wanted was my Son to come into the world and say,
"I love you, you're perfect and I'll never let anything happen to you...Actually, I'm not sure about this little bit of skin that isn't affecting anything...SLICE AND DICE!"



Just so you know....The nerves down there are not completly developed at birth.  That's why it's suggested to do it at that time rather than later.  Becasue it does not that bad.  If it was that painful, then they would wait until they're older to give them medication.



 



And secondly....I own a kennel. and we remove dew claws becasue of safety reasons.  They can get caught on things and wind up causing severe damage later in life.  It's a safety thing, not cosmetic.  Please look into the real reasons why things are done before you start ranting.

Crystal - posted on 06/28/2009

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we had our son circumsized and at first i had seconds thoughts too. he healed very quickly and all you really have to do is make sure to keep it clean and put white petroleum jelly on it. sometimes it gets a little irritated from the pee in his diaper but it's completely healed now and he wont remember getting it done. They put a gel on it before performing the circumcision to numb everything and even right after having it done he didn't seem to be in pain. i hope that helps!

Lauren - posted on 06/28/2009

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There are some potential medical benefits of circumcision in terms of a slightly lower risk of urinary tract infections (UTI's) in little boys, certain sexually transmitted infections in men, and penile cancer. However, all of these problems are uncommon (for example, only about 1% of all boys will have a UTI), so lowering the risk of an uncommon problem isn't a huge benefit. Additionally, an uncircumcised penis is easy to care for and keep clean, so improved hygiene is not a reason for routine circumcisions either. Remember that there is no right or wrong way to go with this decision. Weigh all the factors involved and trust your heart to make the right decision. Your little boy will do just fine either way. I hope I could help :D -Lexy

Lasasha - posted on 06/27/2009

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i think it is all on the parents choice but me and my husband said no i felt it was more pain my baby had to go through and his father felt if his mom didnt do it then we didnt need to he has no problems with his sorry for the tmi but its all up to you the doc i think like to see us do it but we were against it and they had no problem hope that helps in the long run i think it will be okay either way you go :)

Katie - posted on 06/27/2009

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I had both of my boys circumcised, I was there for the procedure and they actully didn't even cry, and it never seemed to bother them after either . I discussed the issue with my husband him being a man I thought he would know better than myself and we decided together to get it done, it is a personal choice, and i dont think its wrong or bad either way.

Jasmine - posted on 06/27/2009

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dont do it i have two brothers one is circumcision and the others not .the brother that is circumcision is always complaining of irrations down there

Chrystal - posted on 06/27/2009

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i think u should go for it..i had my son circumcised and he doesnt seem to be tramatized by it...i felt bad for him at first bc it was all red and sore looking but i made sure to put vasiline on his diaper so his wink wouldnt stick to the diaper which helps...

Jaci - posted on 06/27/2009

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I did a lot of reserch on this with my first pregnancy, and decided if it was a boy I would not do it, there is no medical reason to, if anything, it is worse to do it than just leave it. My docor agreed. You might want to do some reading before you decide for sure, once it is done, there is no going back!

Kerri - posted on 06/25/2009

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I didnt know if I wanted to have him Circumsized or not so my boyfriend and I did some research on it and we dicieded that even tho its not "Medicaly nessicary" (sorry I can't spell lol) anymore that we think it would be better for him in the long run. Sure you dont have to do anything with it for the first few years but then you have to teach them how to clean it correctly or it can get horribly infected. Theres a chance that they will have to have it done later then its even more expensive its more painful and theres more of a chance that they will remember the pain if they have it done later. And to me its hard enough to teach a boy to use the bathroom much less teach a 4 or 5 year old to clean it properly after they use the bathroom. so needless to say I believe that it will be better for him in the long run so me and my boyfriend diecieded to have it done!!

Tara - posted on 06/25/2009

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Thank You everyone for your opinions on the subject. I know many people have strong opinions for one side or another, I think its best when making this type of decision to be as informed as possible, and that was my goal with this post. I have been researching the subject for quite a while now and feel confident with my husband and I's decision.

Thank you again for your comments.
Tara

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Unless it is a religious standpoint, I say go for it.



From personal experience, I have dated 2 guys in the past (Married now, but to neither of them) that were not circumcised. It was weird, odd and something I didn't care for. After dating one of them for awhile, I finally asked him what he thought about it and he openly said that he wished his Mom had, had it done. He was far too old to, and didn't want to go through the sheer pain and discomfort of "fixing" it.



Granted, circumcisions ARE for vanity purposes only and at one point, most insurance companies wouldn't cover it. I think modern-day circumcisions go for like $120-$125 which you will most likely pay out to your OB. Working in a Hospital, I did happen to see ONE child done and he screamed and I felt horrible for him. It looked painful, but I would imagine that being so small, he would forget the actual circumcision, but remember at an older age, not being accepted by women (possibly) if he was not. You have to weigh the options.



Another thing to tell you is that while being with 1 of the 2 guys I was with, one of them was just... not taking into account that he needed to pull back the foreskin and clean himself, I guess. After one time together, I never looked back. The smell was horrendous. Eww. My stomach is turning just thinking about it...



Should you decide to get your son done (which I did) they will show you how to care for it, they will give you these strips that are lubricated with vaseline to wrap around it. THEY SLIP OFF! Make sure that you wash your hands really good and buy him his own vaseline that's never been used and apply a HUGE dollop to his penis and then smear a layer all over the inside of the diaper because it can and will stick if you do not.



Beware it looks like a skinned tomato and he will scream like he's being killed the first day or 2 after it's done due to the acidity of his pee-- But pee is sterile, so no worries.



I know it is a lot to think about, but just think in terms of what you think he will want in his future.

Nichole - posted on 06/25/2009

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Quoting Jean:



Quoting bianca:

thats bullshit cos my son is circumcized and im not releigious just smart haha! nor did i need any reason other then i wanted him done.






Hey! lol I'm smart too but I didn't get my son done





Hey..I am also smart, I just had reasons for choosing not to get my son done.

Nichole - posted on 06/25/2009

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Quoting Jean:



Quoting bianca:

thats bullshit cos my son is circumcized and im not releigious just smart haha! nor did i need any reason other then i wanted him done.






Hey! lol I'm smart too but I didn't get my son done





Hey..I am also smart, I just had reasons for choosing not to get my son done.

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Quoting bianca:

thats bullshit cos my son is circumcized and im not releigious just smart haha! nor did i need any reason other then i wanted him done.



Hey! lol I'm smart too but I didn't get my son done

Nichole - posted on 06/25/2009

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I did not have my baby boy done and I had lots of reasons why. First, the father comes from an italian family where no one in the family was done. I believed it's for cosmetic reasons and not necessary. I didn't want my baby to be hurt and have to go threw something like, it's traumatizing. I also believe that if their penis is supposed to look like that then it would have came out like that. People feel differently about, my mother is for it and believed I should of gotten it done but it was my choice. It's up to you and how you feel about it. I had such strong feelings against it, I couldnt have it done. Good luck with your decision.

Nichole - posted on 06/25/2009

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I did not have my baby boy done and I had lots of reasons why. First, the father comes from an italian family where no one in the family was done. I believed it's for cosmetic reasons and not necessary. I didn't want my baby to be hurt and have to go threw something like, it's traumatizing. I also believe that if their penis is supposed to look like that then it would have came out like that. People feel differently about, my mother is for it and believed I should of gotten it done but it was my choice. It's up to you and how you feel about it. I had such strong feelings against it, I couldnt have it done. Good luck with your decision.

Louise - posted on 06/25/2009

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unless he needs it dont do it, i have two boys, one aged 1 the other age 11, i dont see what write as parents we have to make that descision other than if the boy was suffering, its his willy. i had a friend wos parents had his done and it made him very selfconcious. good luck whatever you decide.

Natasha - posted on 06/24/2009

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I'm not for it and i actually agree with you! I just think it's pointless to argue and drag it on!!! No more said!!!

Charlie - posted on 06/24/2009

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im all for everyone having their opinion , we are all entitled , what a parent chooses for their son is their own choice , Tara asked what we thought and i am just adding exactly that ! you chose for , i chose against no more to it . im just giving my reasons why i chose not too not my problem if people want to get aggressive because my opinion differs .

Natasha - posted on 06/24/2009

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come on, ladies please! i'm sure Tara didn't post this question to start fights or arguements! we all have our beliefs and opinions but how bout we stick to the topic and the point!!!

Bianca - posted on 06/24/2009

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having dental work, boob reductions, corrective eye surgery, evan some transplants are considered cosmetic surgery - lets not get technicall!

Bianca - posted on 06/24/2009

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thats bullshit cos my son is circumcized and im not releigious just smart haha! nor did i need any reason other then i wanted him done.

Charlie - posted on 06/24/2009

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its a personal choice and by that i mean it should be his personal choice its his penis , i think its a barbaric and dated tradition they dont even offer it in Australia you have to look for a doctor to do it and only if he medically needs it or for religous reasons . girls are also circumsized for the same reasons they use for boys , and i wouldnt dream of mutilating a daughters genitals .

Vicki - posted on 06/24/2009

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Here's an interesting link! http://www.luckystiff.org/circumcision/i...



As for the aspect of PAIN- no, I am sure it doesn't actually hurt that much. As long as it heals properly, it would be fine. I doubt it would hurt any more than your typical penis piercing. That's why, if in the future my son should wish to be circumcised, he can choose to do so.

Bianca - posted on 06/24/2009

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wow so judgemental. i have my son circumsized, it it beneficial to his future health and i dont regret my decision at all but im not going to come up with a long splur as to why do it, its a personaly choice.

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My doctor refused to circumsise and told me if I wanted that done I could find another doctor. Ditto with any of my friends I know who have had little boys. The procedure ISN'T covered by healthcare because it's seen as un-necessary and there is a $500.00 charge!



They are too young for painkillers that do any good, they are too young for paintreatment afterwards! Imagine ripping the skin off of your pinky finger after having a sip of wine then dealing with that healing with NOTHING!



My Husband was circumsised. So what? How long do you think your Son and his Father are going to spend comparing their junk? If it turns out to be that long you have some concerns about your Husbands sense of decency and it's divorce time!



Ditto for the whole "He will look different than other boys!" The number of uncircumsised kids is growing because more people realize it's barbaric! How much time do school kids spend in the washroom comparing junk is my question yet again? It's just as likely they'll get bugged for their hair cut. SO REMOVED THEIR HAIR BY LASER!



We are cruel and dock puppies tails when they're born, we remove dew claws, we mutilate and bind their ears so they will look a certain way. That is sick enough let alone doing it to YOUR OWN CHILD!



I hate the argument they have less chance of getting STD's. If you raise them not to be little man whores and where condoms they have even less chance of STD's than some slut circumsised boy!



There is a chance you will need your tonsils out when you're older because there is a problem, there is a chance you will get cancer and need part of your lung removed. Precaution against something later on is nonsense! The far greater majority of boys who aren't circumsised are JUST FINE!



If your child needs it done later in life they can be put under, get pain killers, ect. The last thing I wanted was my Son to come into the world and say,

"I love you, you're perfect and I'll never let anything happen to you...Actually, I'm not sure about this little bit of skin that isn't affecting anything...SLICE AND DICE!"

Kate CP - posted on 06/24/2009

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Well, it is a personal choice for you and your hubby. Personally, I'm not a big fan of it. My husband is though (he's circumcised) and I have a feeling that if we have a son there's going to be a LOOOOONG discussion about whether or not we have him cut. But it's a personal choice. I would suggest watching videos of the procedure and reading up on it a lot before you decide anything. It IS a surgery so I think it's important to be completely informed.

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Just in case you do decide not to circumcise, I wanted to add this link on care of the non-circumcised penis:

http://www.aap.org/publiced/br_uncircumc...

You should never pull back the foreskin to clean underneath it. It is fused to the head of the penis in a young child, and doesn't need cleaned. Just like you don't need to pull back your baby's eyelids to clean. It is self-cleaning. Forcing the foreskin back can cause infections and damage, not prevent it. The only one who should retract a boy's foreskin in the boy himself. Best of luck with the impending birth, and I hope you and your husband can come to a decision you're comfortable with!

Ashley - posted on 06/24/2009

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My son had to have surgery when he was born. I felt bad for making him undergo a circumcision as well, but I knew it could possibly benifit him in the future. It might not be medically proven that it does any good. I feel that after it heals it is easier to keep clean and avoid the issue where the foreskin grows over the head of the penis. I was reassured by a nurse in the hospital that it is better to get it done now, if that is a consideration, after she told me she had seen grown olderly men have to get circumsized because they werent cleaning it properly. Also they gave him tylonol before and numbed the area and also some tylonol after, that is why the babies are ussually sleepy afterward. My baby didnt even cry when it was done, he handled it like a champ and was well taken care of. Although it isnt too difficult to clean an uncircumsized penis, you have to pull back the foreskin. Moms get busy and so do little boys. So to garauntee a better chance of keeping it properly cleansed I had my children circumsized. It is ultimately you and your spouse decision. There is no true right or wrong decision, just pick the one that fits into your lives best.

Heather - posted on 06/24/2009

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i had my son done he didnt fuss it didnt seem to bother him one bit there is a new way to do it he had a ring that the sliped over the top and it stayed on for 10 day then the ring fell off no pain. but i say go with your gut feeling!

Natasha - posted on 06/24/2009

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Honestly this is something you and your partner need to discuss seriously because it will affect your son for the rest of his life! And it's completely your choice you shoouldn't let anyone influence your decision! Have you dicussed it with your docter to gain as much insite into it as you can? If not i think you should! My partner and i didn't have our son circumcised due to the fact that all of the information we could find and read about it had no proven studies that circumcisium has any benifits! And we didn't want to put him through the pain of it all thankfully we didn't because he had a pretty rough time during and after the labour as it was! One the other hand it's very rare but he may have a medical problem later down the track and still need to have it done! I hope this helps! Good luck!

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I too had a son. I had different thoughts about it as well. I ended up not getting my son circumcised. I regret it ever since because now my son is 2 1/2 years old and has to get circumcised. When the penis is not circumcised the foreskin can grow attached to the head of the penis wich are called adhesives. It is very painful for them. You can try ointment but nothing really works. My advise is they won't remember it now so go ahead and get it done now. You don't want to chance it later when he might remember if something goes wrong. Hope this helps!

Ashley - posted on 06/24/2009

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my son is circumsised and i'm due in 3 wks with another boy and he will as well. it did cost us 300 to have him done but in my opinion it was worth it. it's something myself and my family firmly beleive in and no matter what anyone says it wont change my mind. i think it's how you feel on it there's no right or wrong answer to it, it's just your opinion. i know a lot of guys that are done and never once have they said they wish their parents didnt. my bf is actually not done and he wanted our sons to be done as well. good luck with your decision and just remember which ever you choose you are not wrong and if you choose to have it done don't let others put you down for it as there will be a lot of ppl that will!!

Teri - posted on 06/24/2009

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I believe that if the father is circumcised than so should the son. We had our son circumcised at four weeks old and he healed fine. Cried for a bit after the procedure but nothing a bottle and soother wouldn't cure.

Minnie - posted on 06/24/2009

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Do you realize that your son slept a lot after the procedure because he was traumatized and that was his way of retreating within himself because it was too overwhelming?

Given that only the US (and only 50% a that), Jewish people, and Muslims routinely circumcise, I wonder what the rest of the world's male population does? How do they manage to live healthy lives in that regard? I'm sure if the benefits of circumcision truly were that GREAT, that all of the world's men would be running en masse to be circumcised.

Michelle - posted on 06/24/2009

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My son is three months old, I had him circumcised in the hospital, it's a rather easy procedure. My son just slept a lot after having it done. Taking care of it was easy, you just put vaseline in their diaper so it doesn't stick, it's just red and looks a little irritated (nothing to get squeamish over). Most doctors recommend it, and so do I being in the healthcare field

Minnie - posted on 06/24/2009

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I think that it is an unecessary cosmetic procedure, one that has no proven legitimate benefits.

Circumcision should be left up to the owner of the penis. We don't remove breasts, apendixes, teeth, testicles, prostates, you name it at birth- these all can become sick organs some way or another in life- why should the foreskin be any different?

No one ever considers the little boy's future wife- the foreskin provides gliding action and lubrication that prevents irritation and chafing on the woman's part.

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I have two boys and decided not to have the procedure done after watching a video on how to care for your circumcised baby. I knew then it was something I couldn't be in charge of since I get squeamish over shots. My oldest son is almost 9 and we've had no problems (health or otherwise). I've also found there are a lot more moms opting not to have the procedure done than I had originally thought. So, now, I'm not even worried about my sons being self conscious when they get older. They can always have it done later...and that way the decision will be theirs.

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My son is not circumcised, and it hasn't been a problem at all. Needing a circumcision for medical reasons is rare, and there aren't really any benefits in terms of health or cleanliness. Cleaning is easy - you just wipe it off like you would a finger - no big deal. Circumcision is actually considered a cosmetic procedure, and not recommended by any major medical organization (AAP, WHO, etc). If you're unsure, you can always wait to have it done, but once it is done, you can't reverse it.

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