co sleeping

Jennifer - posted on 06/18/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




My little girl loves to sleep with me and once put back in her owm bed sneaks right back in!


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Christina - posted on 06/18/2009




I agree with Nicole, there is a time and a place for that and I believe that a toddler has no place in my bed unless they are sick, scared, or its storming. They need to learn how to sleep on their own...if you keep giving in, it ,may never happen. I know so many people who still to this day can't get their 8 yr old out of their bed...thats outrageous. Start young!!! You won't regret it! The crying and fussing will stop...

Mary Ann - posted on 06/18/2009




my almost 5 year old little girl used to do the same thing. trust me enjoy it. she did it for a while like a couple months and yes it does get annoying after a while and you think what am i doing wrong as a mom but trust me they stop after a while..and then you will miss it because they get to that independant state and think that they dont need mommy anymore unless they have a bad dream or a thunderstorm comes rolling in. all kids when they are little need to know that there parents are there when they need them especially mommy..isn't that what we are there for.. to comfort and love dont worry about it now..just enjoy it..time goes very fast..

Tania - posted on 06/18/2009




I thnk that if its not causing you any problems with your husband then i say enjoy it!!! Life is too short to worry about wether or not its right.. i dont think its detrimental.. if anything she will feel even more secure and loved ..

Kate CP - posted on 06/18/2009




My 3 year old is pretty independent and sleeps in her own bed most of the time. When she has a nightmare or is feeling sick we'll let her sleep with us. But I kind of agree with Nicole. I don't think it's detrimental to a child's development but it sure does make alone time with the hubby a lot harder! It also makes it harder for the kiddo to learn to sleep on their own. I have proof that it can hamper more than help:

For about 6 weeks we were living at my mother's house because we were having A TON of foundation work done on our own home. The first night or two my daughter couldn't sleep so I just let her stay in my bed. Well the first night or two turned into the entire 6 weeks and my husband was forced to sleep on the sofa the entire time. After we finally made it back home it has been a nightmare trying to get her back into her own room. It's been 2-3 weeks since we moved back in and she is just now getting back to the point where she would fall asleep without having to have me or my husband sitting in the room with her. The whole thing made my daughter very insecure and she lost a lot of her self confidence. She's getting better, but it's still a bumpy road. My advice to you would be to start the slow, very slow, process of getting your little girl back into her own room.

Kelly - posted on 06/18/2009




I have a 2 year old son and some nights he will come into our bed at about 3-4 in the morning and then other days he sleeps through in his bed. I don't see a problem with it at this stage as I love the cuddles with him and enjoy spending time with him.

Nicole - posted on 06/18/2009




I completely disagree... I think it's important for children to learn to fall asleep on their own. I think that it's unhealthy for a child to sleep with his/her parents every night. I think it's detrimental to the child's development and to your relationship to your husband. I let my first daughter sleep in bed with me and my husband when she was an infant, but as she got older, it became a problem. Now, after having three, I know better. If you really want your daughter to fall asleep on her own, you have to put her in her own bed in her own room at night while she is still awake. Read her a couple of stories, give her a big hug & kiss and tuck her in her bed. If she gets out, gently tell her that it's bed time, hold her hand and put her back in bed. If she gets out again, don't say anything, (if you try talk with her or try to reason with her, it will only prolong the process) just put her back in bed. The third time it happens, or any time after that, don't say a word, just put her back in her bed. Keep doing this, and she will eventually learn that mommy is just going to put her back in her own bed, so she may as well stay there. She will eventually learn to fall asleep on her own, which is so important! I hope this helps, good luck :)

Marabeth - posted on 06/18/2009




yeah, just enjoy it. independence comes naturally in humans at some point in our lives. ours job as mothers is to nurture and be supportive. she'll branch out to her own bed when she is ready.

Eileen - posted on 06/18/2009




depending on the age I don't see a problem if shes 3 or 4. After that though i recomend a slepping bag on the floor.

Becky - posted on 06/18/2009




Enjoy it, and cuddle with her! If she falls right asleep after getting back in your bed, consider it a win-win! =) There will come a day when it's not "cool" to snuggle up to Mommy in bed anymore, and then you'll miss it terribly. Love it while it lasts! If you want to keep putting her back in her bed (especially if you're married - alone time w/the man is important, too), I'd recommend doing it each night consistently, but no more than once or twice a night. If she's sleeping when she gets in your bed, then it would just disrupt your and her night even more to continuously get up and put her back just to prove she has to sleep in her room. If you're single, like me, enjoy sleeping beside your little one. My daughter has slept in the bed with me since she was born (so that we'd both be able to get our much-needed rest...even when she was asleep, but in the nursery, I couldn't sleep well at all), and she's 5 now. She likes her room, has no trouble sleeping during nap at school, and goes right to sleep in my bed. I think it's just fine for your daughter to sleep with you, as long as everyone involved in the sleeping gets a good night's rest. =)

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