Co-sleeping Question

Dana - posted on 11/01/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




Does anyone else out there co-sleep with their baby? We have been co-sleeping since my daughter was born (she's 5.5 months old). My husband doesn't really like it, but he deals with it because I love it. I get a lot of pressure from my husband and family members to put her in her crib at night....any suggestions on what I should do?


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Meagan - posted on 11/01/2009




I love the bassinet idea. My daughter slept in her bassinet by our bed the first six months of her life then we moved her crib in our room and she slept in there until about 9 months. From then on she has slept in her crib in her own room. We put a nightlight in there so she's not scared and it's great because she has learned to put herself to sleep with no problems. Also the BEST thing we ever did was get a video monitor. It was a bit expensive but I feel so relieved to know that I can watch her....Its better to break the habit of co-sleeping early or else it will be harder down the road....

Star - posted on 11/01/2009




My son is now 6 1/2 months old. He slept in our room in a cradle until he was almost 5 months old, that was, until he was dangling out of it. He has his own crib, but he couldn't sleep in his room until we bought a screen/storm door for the front door as his room was getting a chilling 15 degrees cooler than the rest of the house. Now that the door is done we're transitioning him into his room. We change his diaper/clothes in there only. He plays in there & we read in there. Now, he takes his morning & afternoon naps. He still really fights the night time but, we'll get there. I was told by my Pediatrician that it's okay to co-sleep (under the right conditions) since I was breastfeeding as well, but that if you want to put them in their crib, try doing it closer to 6 months. Their bodies take better to sleeping through the night around then because they take in enough calories to stay asleep w/out getting hungry. I LOVE co-sleeping, so does my husband. But, I do want him to feel comfortable in his bed. I plan on when he's in his bed at night, that he & I go back to doing our PM nap together in MY bed! If it's not detrimental to their psychological health and well being; who cares what everyone else thinks. They're our kids...not theirs! =^)

Karen - posted on 11/01/2009




Sometimes it helps to educate the people who are pressuring you about the benefits of co-sleeping - and there are many! Check out the following link for some good information -

You can look on - they also have lots of good information there.

Particularly if you are breastfeeding, tell your husband he can make the decision about where the baby sleeps when he learns to lactate - just kidding - okay, I'm kinda serious : )

Ika - posted on 11/01/2009




our son used to sleep with us until he was about 6 weeks he didn't like to sleep at his bassinet every time I've tried to put him down he will awake then I realized that he doesnt like sleeping on the bassinet because not much room for him to move then we put the cot next to our bed as an extended bed cause it will make me easy to feed him at night and he still feeling that he doesnt sleep on his works! he's 3 months now

Richelle - posted on 11/01/2009




i would strongly suggest not sleeping with her! first of all she might get a little to dependent on you sleeping with her every night witch may have a bad outcome in later years but that's not my big worrie it is the fact that there have been so many kids that have died because of that and i dont mean to scare you... but i was haveing a conversation with my doctor about a year ago and we got on this subject he said he had a couple that had slept with their child up until it was almost a year old and one night they didnt hear it and woke up to find they had slept on their child killing it .. i would suggest haveing her at least sleep in your room i did the same as michelle st. pierre i had my son in a bassenet right next to my side of the bed until he was about 9 or 10 months and that way i could reach my arm in a touch him anytime i felt insecure or just needed to know he was ok i really hope this sheds a little light and i hope my advice helps like i said i dont want to scare you but things do happen and we wouldnt want anything to happen to that beautiful baby girl you have! :)

Jocelyn - posted on 11/01/2009




I co-slept with my son until he was about 2 (he's 3 now). He falls asleep in his own bed and will spend the night there. He comes into our room around 6 in the morning and we'll sleep for another few hours together (which I like, my dh works nights and I'm a cuddler lol). I just had my daughter 3 weeks ago and I'm co-sleeping with her now as well (and exclusively breast fed so co-sleeping lets me sleep) As long as you are doing it safely then don't let anyone convince you to do otherwise. It's wonderful.

Felicia - posted on 11/01/2009




Co-sleeping is wonderful!! My son is 2 months old and he sleeps with me (I'm single, so I don't have to share the bed with a big ol' man, lol!). I got a co-sleeper bed for him that lays right next to me in bed, which is great if you are worried about rolling over or covering him with blankets. I'm not worried about him getting hurt or of him having a hard time sleeping on his own when he gets bigger, but having something like this is great just in case (having him sleep in the co-sleeper eases my family's worries).

Here is a link to some great co-sleeping products:

I have a great article about co-sleeping as well if you'd like for me to e-mail it to you. There is a plethora of info out there for you to find.

Ultimately, you're the mom! You knows whats best for you and your baby... trust your gut, and do your research to back it up. :)

Good luck and enjoy sleeping with your baby... she won't want to sleep next to you forever, cherish every second. :)

Katherine - posted on 11/01/2009




I've always slept with all my four children till they each turned 3. Because of that, they've all taken to twin beds immediately without falling off (kids go through that 'lil stage before they get used to it without the bars). When they were 3, they'd simply wind down in bed, twirl my hair while sucking their thumb, and fall asleep. I'd move them to their own bed, and that's the end of it. They'd wake up, knowing I moved them, and made no never mind about it. No fuss, ever. I don't understand why husbands, mothers, or families question/fuss about it. That just shows me how selfish adults are about their space when we're talking about a baby. Sad.

Nicole - posted on 11/01/2009




Ive done the co-sleeping thing with my daughter since she was born and shes now 11 months old. I kind of wish I never started it because now she absolutely refuses to sleep anywhere else. [which i dont mind much because I love having her close] but it can cause issues if your significant other has a problem with it. If you want to put her in a crib do it asap otherwise you may end up with her in your bed for the next couple years.

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Well if you don't want your daughter to grow up and have to sleep with you every night until she is probably school-aged, you need to start having her sleep in her crib. In the morning when she wakes up it is okay if she lays in bed with you, but if she keeps sleeping with you every night she will have an extremely hard time sleeping by herself as she gets older. Also, I have heard of it also being bad to co-sleep because there is a possibility of rolling over on the baby or them suffocating because of the bed, the blankets, pillows, etc. Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 11/01/2009




try a bassinet next to the bed .. that way she's still next to you but you and your husband have your own space. :) ... my son slept in one in our bedroom untill he was about 10 months old .. then he slept in his crib 1/2 way through the night and our bed the rest of the night .. it's nice having him close :)

Also if you want to switch her from your bed to her crib a bassinet is the easiest way i think .. because she's still next to you but she's in her own bed then when she gets use to being in her own bed and your ready switch her to her own crib in her own room :)

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