Confused About When to Stop Bottles and Soothers

Catherine - posted on 05/29/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My son is turning 1 in a months time, and right now he takes two bottles a day (one when he wakes up, one about an hour before bed) and his soother for some naps, and at night time. He's really good at sippy cups and drinking from a cup when I hold it, so it's not a big deal. During the next few weeks I want to only give him one bottle in the morning, and his soother rarely and then not at all. I want to get rid of them before it starts to be a problem, and my goal for tossing them both is around his 1 year B-Day. When did your kids give them up?? I think my son's about ready, but some other parents I talked to recently still give there children bottles and soothers, and there over 2. So I'm kind of confused now, lol.

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Trish - posted on 06/02/2009

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I'd say you're right to chuck them at about 1yr both my 2 went onto 1 bottle at bedtime at around 11mths (still had milk for breakfast just in a cup not a bottle), at at about 14mths I stopped their night time bottles as well. as for dummy's well my children never had a dummy but I know it's easier to get rid of the dummy at a young age like 1 than to wait till their 2 or 3 when they've grown more attached to it. if you do away with it gradually now then you shouldn't have too much trouble wait a year and it could be much harder.

Jolene - posted on 06/01/2009

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Personally I think you should stop when your child is ready to stop. My daugher is 15 months and still has a bottle before bed at night. I don't plan on taking it from her anytime soon because it is her "down time" before going to bed for the night. It's relaxing and comforting for her so I'm not taking it away because of guidelines. As for the soother, I really don't know. My daughter has never liked them. I do know that I had a soother when I was a baby untill I was 2, and then my mom just threw them all out because it was only a habbit to suck on one.

Liza - posted on 06/01/2009

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I asked a friend of mine who is a speech therapist about this once before. She said that if the child is able to hold the soother between their teeth & talk through it, then it's time to get rid of it.
I stopped the bottle shortly after my oldest's first birthday. My youngest is almost 6 months and I'll start introducing sippys/straws within the next month.
Good luck, I know it's a trying time!

Stacey - posted on 06/01/2009

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Quoting Stephanie :

For everyone it is different. My boys stopped taking the bottle at one. I actually got rid of them completely so that there was no falling back in to using them. The nubby was suggested but be careful, my second son was a chewer and would bit the nipples off of them. My boys had sippy cups until they were two and then when that time came I threw them out as well. Getting rid of them when your ready is the best way to go. If they are used to them at certain times of the day you might have to go through crying sessions. I know I did. It was hard at times but I think it will be hard the longer you wait or if you always give in and give it back to them. My friend wouldn't get rid of the pacifer and she would try to hide them but her daughter would fing them or if she cried long enough my friend would give in. She didn't come off the pacifer until she was almost 5 years old. Another friend has the same problem and her daughter is 3 years old. Her daughter also carries two extras in her pocket. Good luck. All kids are different, some easier than others.



I totally agree with Stephanie, I have a 2 yr old son and I stopped giving him the bottle at 1 and stopped giving him a sippy cup at 2 yr old. I must admin that my son was quite good with all the transitions. Dont get me wrong he did have his crying sessions, i think the worst time was at night. But i think the longer you leave it, the older they get which means the harder it gets. Going cold turkey and just throwing them out is the best way to go. Many parents make the mistake of keeping them and as soon as there child cry's or throws a tantrum the parent gives in, which in the future just creates more problems for not being consistent and sticking to your word. BAsically i think what got me through it all and quite easy is by being consistent at all times and at any costs. Good Luck with it all!!!

Stacey - posted on 06/01/2009

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Quoting Stephanie :

For everyone it is different. My boys stopped taking the bottle at one. I actually got rid of them completely so that there was no falling back in to using them. The nubby was suggested but be careful, my second son was a chewer and would bit the nipples off of them. My boys had sippy cups until they were two and then when that time came I threw them out as well. Getting rid of them when your ready is the best way to go. If they are used to them at certain times of the day you might have to go through crying sessions. I know I did. It was hard at times but I think it will be hard the longer you wait or if you always give in and give it back to them. My friend wouldn't get rid of the pacifer and she would try to hide them but her daughter would fing them or if she cried long enough my friend would give in. She didn't come off the pacifer until she was almost 5 years old. Another friend has the same problem and her daughter is 3 years old. Her daughter also carries two extras in her pocket. Good luck. All kids are different, some easier than others.



I totally agree with Stephanie, I have a 2 yr old son and I stopped giving him the bottle at 1 and stopped giving him a sippy cup at 2 yr old. I must admin that my son was quite good with all the transitions. Dont get me wrong he did have his crying sessions, i think the worst time was at night. But i think the longer you leave it, the older they get which means the harder it gets. Going cold turkey and just throwing them out is the best way to go. Many parents make the mistake of keeping them and as soon as there child cry's or throws a tantrum the parent gives in, which in the future just creates more problems for not being consistent and sticking to your word. BAsically i think what got me through it all and quite easy is by being consistent at all times and at any costs. Good Luck with it all!!!

Stephanie - posted on 05/29/2009

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For everyone it is different. My boys stopped taking the bottle at one. I actually got rid of them completely so that there was no falling back in to using them. The nubby was suggested but be careful, my second son was a chewer and would bit the nipples off of them. My boys had sippy cups until they were two and then when that time came I threw them out as well. Getting rid of them when your ready is the best way to go. If they are used to them at certain times of the day you might have to go through crying sessions. I know I did. It was hard at times but I think it will be hard the longer you wait or if you always give in and give it back to them. My friend wouldn't get rid of the pacifer and she would try to hide them but her daughter would fing them or if she cried long enough my friend would give in. She didn't come off the pacifer until she was almost 5 years old. Another friend has the same problem and her daughter is 3 years old. Her daughter also carries two extras in her pocket. Good luck. All kids are different, some easier than others.

Dana - posted on 05/29/2009

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Hey I completely understand the frustration and concern. Yeah you are suppose to stop the bottle by 1 for the teeth aspect, what helped my son at that time and also for my nephew was a sippy cup called a Nubby, it is inbetween a bottle and a sippy cup it has qualities of both which really makes it an easy transition. the longer you give the bottle the more likely to increase the risk of childhood cavities is what we were told. The hardest thing that we had to break was no milk before bed since it rots away their teeth, if they need a drink give them water, which hurt at the time but in the long run now Reece loves water he could drink it all day, which I would rather him drink that then juice right?! We def. didn't break the pacifier/soother until he was about 2 1/2, I know technically they say you should cut that out at 2, it is hard to give up. It pains them not to have it, but you have to know that all in all it is the best decision. It was an issue for him the first day or so, but then after awhile he was like I am a big boy and binkies are for babies. Which really impressed me since I never really said anything like that, we just said that we lost them and that they were all gone. He spent an hour or so looking for them but then just came to understand that they weren't there anymore. THe first night I let him sleep in our bed with me, just so that it was soothing for him.



I hope you the best of luck and just know that we have all been there and know how stressful it is for you and for your little one.

Christine - posted on 05/29/2009

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I am in the same boat...my boy is 11 months and I am SO ready to phase out the soother. That little plastic thing has taken control of my life and sleep. It must go! If your baby can manage through the night and put it back in them self than why push it, giving it up themselves is probably much easier than crying it out.

I took it away because he was getting me up 4-6 times a night to put it back in his mouth so he could fall back asleep, it was torture. We are on day 4 of no soother AT ALL, not for sad times, not for naps, it's not a walk in the park but I am only up once a night compared to 5 so this is better.



It now or wait until they can understand and agree to give it up themselves.

Consistency is key, if you do it now don't give in...it's hard, but worth it.

Good luck

Sarah - posted on 05/29/2009

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I agree with Christine. Sippy cups are harder for kids to drink out of. i was contemplating weaning my daughter off of her bottle, but I think I am going to wait a little longer & see if she weans herself before I go through with it. She only really wants a bottle at night time. During the day, she could care less about her bottle. If you feel like your son is ready, then go ahead and wean him. You do what you feel is best =]

Christine - posted on 05/29/2009

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My boys will be two in July. I had them down to 1 bottle a night after their 1st birthday. They get 8oz in a bottle before bedtime because their pediatician wants them to have 16oz of whole milk a day. Since they can't drink that much milk in 1 day through a sippy cup, it is more important for them to have their milk intake than getting rid of the bottle. Once they turn 2, there is no minimum milk requirement. So once they turn two, I will take that last bottle away. Other parents take the bottle away sooner, but I guess as long as your child/ children are getting enough milk in their diet though a cup then that is what works for them. I suggest talking to your doctor to find out how much milk he wants your son to have and see if he can drink that much throughout the day in a cup. As far as the pacifier, after my boys 1st birthday they are only allowed to have their binki at naptime & bedtime. I want to have the pacifier completly when they are two. I think the pacifier is up to you and what you think is best - i think each parent has their own opinon of the pacifier and there is no "wrong" opinion. My pedi & dentist both said 2yrs. is a good age because then it affects their teeth, bite, and gums.

Chasidi - posted on 05/29/2009

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my oldest daughter was done with the bottle at 10 months...she did it on her own (she just refused to use one anymore). She continued to have a binki (soother) until she was almost 3. She would scream bloody murder until she got one ( and she had a ton of them). Then one night I could only find one of them and she lost it after dark in the yard. It was cold so I wasn't going out with a flashlight to look for it. So we just made her do without and she never asked for it after that so we never reintroduced them.

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