Contemplating church

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I have never really been a "believer" of God so I think I might be a hypocrite if I start going to church for the company of good people around my family. I do believe in many of the "lessons" from the bible, I am just an anthropologist at heart and it is hard for me to fully believe in a god. Is it wrong of me to want to join a church so that I can have a place to volunteer my time and to surround myself with people with strong morals? I am not explaining myself well, but this is the gist of it. I am at such a crossroads in my life and I really need some good strong beliefs to get me through and I just don't have them on my own.

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Stefanie - posted on 08/04/2009

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I would recommend a faith that has no creed. That way there aren't certain beliefs you are "expected" to have by the other members there. I am a member of such a faith and while we all hold similar convictions (called Testimonies), we all have vastly different beliefs. Some are Trinitarian Christian, some are Unitarian Christian, some are agnostic, Buddhist, and even atheist.

Kate CP - posted on 08/04/2009

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I'm a Unitarian Universalist, personally. I love the church and their belief structure. When you find the right fit for you you'll know. I remember going to my first service at my church and thinking "I'm home. I finally found it." Just keep your heart open and you'll find the right place. It may not even be Christian...but the right one for you is out there some where.

Nank'Kya - posted on 08/04/2009

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If you are going to attend church it should be for reasons other than good company or people with strong morals. You should go to church because you want to better yourself and your family. If you go there with this preconcieved notion of people who are just honest and saintly, than you are more than likely to get disappointed. Because those people struggle day to day just like anybody else, but because they are in the church and they have that belief in God, they tend to not worry about lifes crossroads or ups and down, they relay on their faith or the belief that God will see you through. And as far as being a hypocrite...there is nothing wrong with you wanting to go church at this point in your life, if anything that's good! atleast you're being honest about your beliefs and wanting that support to make it through. But I can personally say that I've been through hell and high water, and if it wasn't for the Grace of God I would be dead or locked up in a nut house. So be strong, and I will surely be praying for you.

Annette - posted on 08/04/2009

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I found mine by googling "mom's clubs city/state that I'm in" and found one that is national. I sent them an email stating my interest and they told me where and when the next meeting would be. it's an absolutely amazing support system with lots of stuff to do with the kids and a few things to do with just the moms. there's a website set up where u can post questions u might have or suggestions for playdate's, stuff like that. I love it

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You could try a buddhist church. It gives you all the things you're looking for without all the pressure of the bible. Good luck, and I hope you find your peace!

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The bible is hard for me since I study archeology and anthropology. I know dinosaur's existed and that evolution is real so I have a hard time mixing the 2.

Annette - posted on 08/04/2009

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that's a great place to find a good community for ur kids to be around and all churches should be accepting, regardles of the reason that brought u there. another good idea is to join a mom's club, they have many that are not religion based but that provide a clean enjoyable environment of friends for u and ur kids.

Angie - posted on 08/04/2009

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GOOD LUCK JUSTINE, it is always a tough decision and sometimes very akward and uncomfortable decision. I think in the long run it will be well worth it!!! I always hate moving to new towns and starting all over finding a new church to go to. I think you can always have a relationship with God, even if you don't go to church...I personally believe in Salvation and the good Lord is our church...You have to be careful with some churches, because I think they get so wrapped up in money and what is going on the church...that they really forget to why they go on Sunday. For me its show that I have dedication for the Good Lord...Have you ever read the bible or prayed? I'm still a new learner to the bible and let me tell you...it is a very good feeling of comfort knowing more about the Good Lord. I wish you well!!!

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Thank you for the positive responses. This really is a big deal for me to say I want to go to church since I have been saying the exact opposite for 28 years. Your input was great and has helped give me the courage to just get up and go. I know I won't be judged, but I always feel I will be so it's hard for me to do new things. I have even found the church I would like to attend that really is diverse and leaches for all forms of religion. Just my cup o' tea.

Sarah - posted on 08/03/2009

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I think "surrounding yourself with people with strong morals" is a good reason to go to church. I hope that you will be welcomed at the church of your choice and that you may come to know God through your experience. I also think that regardless of whether you believe or not, church will be a positive experience for your child. Jesus is about love and acceptance and those are things you definitely want to instill in your children! :)

Angie - posted on 08/03/2009

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Justine,

You can attend any church...why not try out a few. I think it is a good idea to get yourself out there, and I hope those people in the church will help you with your beliefs. I believe you don't have to be a member of a church to be involved...my husband and I go to a Baptist church and are not members... I have also told him if they start considering us Baptists, then we will start hopping from church to church (there is nothing wrong with being a Baptist) But I feel that you don't have to have a religion in order to do good in your community or believe in God. I think when you start going to church you will start believing in something...just be careful of some churches!

Good luck!!

If you have any other questions, your more than welcomed to ask me

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