crazy mother in law

Jessie - posted on 07/03/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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is it normal for my mother in law to set up a full nursery (crib, changing table, dresser full of clothes...) and act as though she is the one having the baby?

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Amanda - posted on 07/04/2009

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Our baby is now almost 3months old, I have a bit of the overbearing mother-in-law happening too. It's the first grandchild on both sides so we tried to be understanding. All I can suggest is too set boundries right away and be assertive that you are the mom to be. After that just wait and see, depending on how she is she might ease up after the baby is born or get completely out of control like my mother-in-law did. Being assertive now will give you some grace when your little one comes and time to ease into being the kinda mommy you want to be.

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I don't think you will really know what she will be like until the baby gets here. Personally, my Mom would have it all the items at her place to if I was in the same state, she baby sat a lot until we moved. I love how much my mother has put herself into her grandchildren's lives, but she doesn't step on toes. I got lucky for that. My MIL doesn't have much to do with her grandchildren, and I am never right about anything. Best thing is to make sure you have an open and good relationship with your MIL. My saying is, if you can't go by my rules, then you don't get the privilege of being a baby sitter and so on.

Lucy - posted on 07/04/2009

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my mum bought quite a few basics or at her house, changing things, baby bath a swing etc. It really helps when we go round for dinner and don't have to tke everything with us and then we can bath her there and put her straight in bed when we get home. I would have been abit freaked out though if she'd have got a cot and decorated a nursery at her house!

Crystal - posted on 07/03/2009

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YES!!!!!!!!!!
hahaha!! My mother-in-law had wanted to be a grandma for years, I got pregnant and she turned the guest bedroom into the baby's room, bought ALL of the big things for us (whew!), just totally went to town on decorating the bedroom.
From my personal experience, I say don't dwell on it, and let her have her fun. She probably misses having babies around and is just very excited. Just think of the opposite scenerio you could have - a mother-in-law who is disappointed/angry that you're having a baby! Your baby will be very loved.

Vicki - posted on 07/03/2009

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welcome to my world....!!! My MIL did all that and my oldest 13 now...and she still acts as if she is the mother of the child!!! All I can tell you is too never let your guard down!!! If she is anything like my MIL you are in for a treat....!!! That lady drives me crazy!! She still tells me HOW to cook her sons food!! I know he is her only son and all that!!! But WOW....it becomes over whelming at times!!! GOOD LUCK!! If you ever wanna talk hit me up!!!
Best of Luck,
Vicki

Jessie - posted on 07/03/2009

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it is her first biological grandchild I also have a five yr old son (oh this one is also boy) I don't think it would creep me out so much but she only lives maybe 30 min away, and my husband has also talked to her about it but it seems that she isn't paying him any attention at all, also i am a little worried that she might start acting like she is the mother not I particularly when my husband leaves for his deployment. (oh a little back story on her my husband is the only child and his father died when he was 9yr) don't know if that makes any difference or not.

thanx everyone for the comments

Ashley - posted on 07/03/2009

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ya if you are talkin about at her house i dont think there's anything wrong with it. my mil has all that stuff at her house for when my son goes over. at first i was a little weirded out by it but after a little bit i figured it was her 1st grandbaby so she was just really excited. now it doesnt bother me at all, i think it's kinda cute that she has all that there for him.

Nicole - posted on 07/03/2009

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if it is at her house...heck let it be she is probably just excited..and that is way better then her not wanting the baby to come along. My mother in-law to be set up a nursery for her 3 new granddaughters too. I think it is a nice gesture and when you take the baby to visit it is nice to have a place to let them sleep

Samantha - posted on 07/03/2009

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Is it the first grand child? sometimes mother in laws get really excited about a new baby because all of their babies are all grown up. It probably isn't a problem yet until or unless she starts trying to act like the mother. If I where you I would kind of leave it for now as you know your the mommy to be not her.



By the way congrats! Do you know if it is a boy or girl?

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