custody questions

Raquel - posted on 09/17/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I was married for 3 months... before papers were filed for divorce.
I have raised my son 7.5 years. The biological father has never met my son.
And still has visitation rights he has never used.
I live in Michigan btw.
I want to know... If at this point. I can file for full custody and revoke his visitation rights at this point.
He does pay child support here and there 40-60 .. He has 2 different cases with 3 diff woman he pays on. 2 of the kids*mine included* he has nothing to do with.
Im wanting to move downstate by my family and get full rights..
What do you guys think ?

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Alex - posted on 09/23/2014

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If he is nearly 8 years old, he understands. My daughter is turning 9 this next year...she fully comprehends what her BioMom did to her family.

My ex pays approx 450$ a month...with his income, I should be receiving between 2200 and 2600 per mo. but, for me, it's not about the money. I make enough to support my son, pay my bills and contribute to my fiances finances.

If my ex had the choice, he would avoid paying me anything all together. However, luckily, he and I have remained amicable.

Keep your son's best interest in mind...and everything will be fine.

Alex - posted on 09/23/2014

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Yes, you can. It's rare, but most often the parental rights are revoked if a parent is absent or alienates themselves from the child. You can file for full custodial rights.

I believe the bench mark is 2 years. If a parent doesn't make exclusive attempts to see a child for 2 years, they are rightfully yours. They will send CPS to your door to ensure that you are taking care of your son adequately first, so be prepared!

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Raquel - posted on 09/23/2014

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I do agree some 7.5yr olds understand more than others. He would get it after a while. But honestly he would be devastated at this point to know . I went back to my former bf after the 3 month stint. And was with him up til a year ago. I am not worried about his 60$. I do put my son first. I am always with him. He is the most important person in my life. Only him. I want him to have a good life. And that is my goal. Not feel he wasn't good enough for someone that didn't claim him.
Thank u for the info . It was a mistake the marriage. I don't regret sleeping with him because I got the best gift of my life. But the legality of it. I regret signing the papers.
Sounds crass but it is what it is.

Raquel - posted on 09/23/2014

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THank you Alexandra. It is scary.
I know a lot of people think that its ok to pay $60 child support
is owning rights. But after 7.5yrs.. I have proven he is my son and I don't want
his world turned upside down when he is still to young to understand it.

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