daughter sleeps with me and husband....now what

Dani - posted on 06/19/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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i know i know i broke the rules i started this BUT...it was soo much easier than going to her crib..bf'in then going back to bed...well now she sleeps thru the night...but here's the kicker...she wakes up at like 3...reaches out for me...holds onto whatever part of me she can reach and goes back to bed....it really is the sweetest feeling in the world...but now my husband's and i's relationship (physical) is going down hill... and i honestly can't just let her CRY..it breaks my heart....

can someone suggest something less cruel??? PLEASE

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Angel - posted on 06/21/2009

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I did the same thing, but I did it because my son was sick and really really wanted mommy...just this last week I decided I couldn't do it anymore. I started out by moving his crib pretty much right next to my bed. Then the first few nights I would let him fall asleep with me, then put him in his crib...when he woke up between 1 and 2 I would bring him to bed with me. Then I waited until I could tell he was just barely awake...put him in his crib and sat on the floor next to him until he fell asleep, still putting him in my bed when he woke up. Slowly I progressed to being able to just put him in his crib and with a minimal amount of crying he falls asleep on his own when I put him in his crib. Now I am working on the 2 am thing....what I do is I let him cry for few minutes when he wakes up and a lot of the time he just goes right back to sleep...it's like it's just habit for him to wake up. If he doesn't I make him a bottle, see if he'll take it in his crib (which most of the time he does) and if he doesn't just bring him to bed with me.

Not really sure how old your daughter is, but my son is 9 months on the 24th...and that's what worked for me. Best of luck and just remember you have to stay calm and let her cry a litlle....it's really hard.

Keyana - posted on 06/21/2009

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My daughters are 7 and two and this is what worked with me. Because you have a daughter it is a little easier. What I did with both girls is I took the time to decorate their room with them.Girls love flowers, hearts, and bright colors. Make it a project and you guys have fun. Afterwords sit in the room with her and play. This helps her to become comfortable with the room and her bed. The first night sit in there with her unitll she falls asleep. She may wake up and come to your room at 3 in the morning but that;s ok. She's learning. Follow this routine for the next week or so. After two weeks when she wakes up in the middle of night walk her back to her room, tuck her in and close the door. She may cry but that is ok. As parents are job is to guide and sometimes while guiding you are going to see some tears but it's making her more independant so it;s ok. You know she isn't dying, so let the tears fall. You have to do it or that little cutie will be seven still sleeping in your bed and you and hubbie will never be able to "get it on again" LOL

Candis - posted on 06/21/2009

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My son is 3 months old, and he slept with us for the first month. I am breastfeeding so it was much easier to have him right in bed with me than getting up every 2 hours. Now he is pretty much sleeping through the night. We have a bassinet in our room that he sleeps in and I just get him out when he wants fed. Lately he is going through a growth spurt and pre teething so he likes to have more physical contact with me. I sleep him in his bassinet until he wakes up and then I bring him into bed with us. It seems to work good, my boyfriend and I still have time for each other and I get a few hours of good sleep before the baby comes in bed with us.

Jessica - posted on 06/21/2009

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Your daughter looks fairly young...my son turned four today, and I just started putting him in his own bed LAST NIGHT! LOL. Anyways, I agree with the first comment--trying the 50/50 thing might work, otherwise putting her in her bed once she falls asleep (both times) might also work. I've tried many different things with my son, and the biggest thing I have learned from it is consistency. Whatever you decide to do, just make sure you are consistent with it, and it will be good. Good Luck!

Danielle - posted on 06/19/2009

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what about half half, she sleeps in her bed till she wakes up at 3 then bring her into your bed, that way you get some alone time and baby snuggles time.

im a bit like you my daughter is nearly 6 weeks and i keep bringing her to bed because she sleeps longer when she is with us, we are going to try to start to change that very soon though, its hard when all i want is sleep,



but back to you lol, try the 50\50 and see how you go,

Danielle - posted on 06/19/2009

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what about half half, she sleeps in her bed till she wakes up at 3 then bring her into your bed, that way you get some alone time and baby snuggles time.

im a bit like you my daughter is nearly 6 weeks and i keep bringing her to bed because she sleeps longer when she is with us, we are going to try to start to change that very soon though, its hard when all i want is sleep,



but back to you lol, try the 50\50 and see how you go,

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