day care...

Lindsay - posted on 11/12/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 15 months old and i just started goin back to work part time..and i was offered more hours which id like to take but its hard to find enough family that arent working and can watch over our daughter. and daddy works too. so, even tho i didnt want to even think about putting my daughter in daycare anytime soon, i actually have been thinkin about it. i am very nervous and very overprotective. so i wanted to know what ur thoughts or experiences are w daycares!! thanks a bunch!!

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Stasia - posted on 11/13/2010

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I also like centers because that way you know exactly what is happening there every day because there are other people who are watching over your child and their caregiver. In home daycares are great for one on one (as long as there aren't too many kids) but I would worry about what happens if the provider is going through a rough time or exhausted. In a center the care providers have each other's support and know if they need a break they can take one before they get upset with the kids and soeone will cover for them.
that's NOT to say that many in home care providers are not wonderful, I have just heard some concerning stories

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There are two basic types of daycare - in home and corporate (churches fall into this category). There are plusses and negatives of each.
I prefer an in home daycare for children under the age of 2 - because for them the most important thing is continuity of care. The same person takes care of their needs every day. The child then develops trust and confidence.
In a coporate daycare they have higher turnover, and can regularly have substritutes in the classroom.
Advantage to this is that in home daycares usually are closed or shutdown when the provider is sick - where as the corporate daycare is not shut down, they just bring in a sub.
While all daycare's have to be licensed and are monitored by the state (and you can check with your local county to see if there have been any complaints filed against that daycare), corporate daycares do have more people walking through and management - which means the opportunity for abuse and neglect is less likely.
I would say, go out and visit MULTIPLE daycares - get a feel for what works best for YOUR family! there is no right or wrong answer.

I put my son in an in-home daycare from 11 months to 30 months. She had the same parenting/discipline strategy as myself, was near my home, was loving, caring, provided healthy meals. She would let the children watch age appropriate TV for an hour or two each day. which I don't like. but you pick your battles. I have a strict NO TV policy in my own home. her place was clean, and had good toys for the kids and the kids played outside and went to the park almost every day.
at 30 months my son enrolled in preschool with daycare option. which has been working out great! they are caring, but not loving the way his previous person was. but he doesn't need that full time now that he is older. they do a lot of arts and crafts, music and creative play activities. His daycare lady didn't do those. She provided a safe, loving environment but didn't go out of her way to challenge or stimulate them.
As my son got older, his needs changed so I adapted with him.

But please - above all else - BE PICKY!! These people are taking care of your child! There are three things in life you spend good money on - mattresses, shoes and DAYCARE! if your childs well being and safety aren't worth top dollar, I don't know what is!

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Casey - posted on 11/19/2010

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My son has been in daycare since he was 9 weeks old. I went to daycare, my husband went to daycare...my mother in law worked for a daycare overseeing agency (dept of health and human services). Daycare providers have an overseeing body (dhhs) and are rated. You choose your provider so do your homework...find out your state's website for such things and find their rating and read their reviews. Go to the center and take a tour...ask important questions! I never quite understand why people are so against daycare (one woman told me it would make my son aggressive! I was so offended because I have a great job and I like the daycare where he is. It felt like I was being insulted for earning a living for my family and not being a stay at home mom). Anyways...there are pros and cons to everything. I am also very particular and over protective but you give them guidelines for care and they follow them (I write a long letter every time he moves rooms so the teachers know my expectations and I frequently speak to the director about my child's care...the squeaky wheel gets the oil). 15 months is a hard age for a lot of kids to start daycare so that may be difficult for her to adjust to at first but day care in and of itself will not destroy your child. They are trained professionals who are there to help your child grow and develop and they give them a lot of love. YOU have to be comfortable with who you leave your child with though so make sure you research the centers and if you end up not liking the one you chose don't be afraid to leave. It's your money and your choice who takes care of your daughter.

Angela - posted on 11/14/2010

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My daughter LOVES her daycare. We started her at an in-home place and while the provider was great, there were too many sick/personal days that she took in the 3 months we were there. We moved her to a larger center and she's just become this sweet little social butterfly in the year she's been with them. The center has grown in the time we've been there (they had been open for only 2 months when she started) so her original teachers are now the infant teachers. There's been no turnover as far as staff, just additions that are as wonderful as the two girls who own the place. My daughter loves going to "school" everyday and telling me what she's done at the end of the day. I'm sad for her that she'll only be going part-time in 2 weeks when I start maternity leave - she's not going to have nearly as much fun here at home with me!

Kiera - posted on 11/14/2010

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one or two days a week in daycare with others (if u can) with family would be great. i put my daughter in one day a week when she was an only child for a social experience she was not getting at home she loved it and i met alot of new friends that way too. there are different things they can do that they just cannot get when they are at home. my daughter was very clingy with everything she did it taught her to be more inderpendant the teachers helped with toilet training and when she was a bit older she had night terrors. she would not talk to me about it i talked to her teachers and that afternoon they told me what she was going through which meant i could then help her through it. they also have big healthy eating rules so it encouraged her to try new foods bcause her friends were eating it and all of sudden it looked apealing to her too.

i say if u can find a supportive day care and get to know the teachers it will benefit u both
good luck

Stasia - posted on 11/13/2010

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I would be very careful about the daycare I choose, but with that said, it has been so great for my children. They love playing with the other kids and have so much fun. When I drive up and I see them running around in the yard with all the other kids I know that it's great for their social skills.

Kristen - posted on 11/13/2010

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daycare can be great for any child. i was scared to put my daughter in preschool, but it helped her so much. i work in a day care, and i see how hard it is forsome parents everyday dropping their children off. the benefit so much from it. u need to find the right one that fits you and your childs needs. check a few out before picking just one. i dont know what area u live in but where i live the is a child care councl. see if there is one in your area, they can give you references.

Sarh - posted on 11/12/2010

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I was and still am the same way. But she is old enough now that she should be able to let you know if something does happen heaven forbid! Daycare is VERY good for children if you find the correct one. It helps w/developmental skills, motor skills, speech, sharing, all types of things! Plus, it gets them ready for the big scary school! She will be fine. Make sure the daycare has a schedule and only 4 children to one "teacher" (I believe that is the ratio for her age). Not sure where you are but you can google a list of things to ask about when looking for a daycare in your area.
Good luck and it is beneficial for her!

Lindsay - posted on 11/12/2010

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thank you very much!! this was a big help. its at a church.. and a girl i work with has her daughter there and loves it. thanks for the encouragement!!

Amanda - posted on 11/12/2010

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I do inhome daycare and I think it's great because not only is it someone caring for your child but they learn social skills necessary to develop! When I had to put my children in daycare to get certified to be able to have my own daycare I had a checklist when interviewing potential people to watch my kids, and that list included, neighborhood, curriculum, activities, meals, sleeping arrangements, discipline methods, I mean you get the point! Lol...It is nerve wrecking but it'll be okay, the state is getting pretty strict with people owning and operating daycares now so just be picky and always go with your gut! :) Good luck!

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