Daycare vs. Nana-care?

Crystal - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




I would like to start by saying that I love my MIL dearly, but I have made the decision to put my daughter in daycare part-time when I go back to work and then allow my MIL to keep her on Mondays. My stepdaughter stayed at home with my MIL up until she started school and is also picked up from school by my MIL currently. My stepdaughter is so shy and awkward around other kids and adults. Maybe it's just her age, but sometimes I think it's because she was stuck at home with my MIL all the time. My MIL doesn't like to drive, so she's not the type to take the kids to the park to play with other kids,etc. I keep getting a bad vibe from people about me chosing daycare over nana-care. I get comments about how my child will be sick all the time because of being in daycare and how she'll learn so many bad habits from the other children at daycare. My stepdaughter however is one of the sickest kids I know. She is always fighting a cold because she has such a weak immune system. Obviously staying home with nana didn't keep her from getting sick. I think it would be a positive experience for my child to grow up in an enviornment with other children from all types of backgrounds and also other adults. And I've heard from some people that being in a daycare can actually make a child's immune system stronger. Anyone have any thoughts on this? I want to do the best thing for my daughter.
Also, my MIL of course offered to keep my daughter all during the week but I've told her already I will be putting her in daycare and she can keep her on Mondays. Even though I've told her my decision she said just thing morning, "I'll be glad to keep her when you go back to work." I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I just think daycare is the best option for my situation. Am I wrong for this?


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Rachel - posted on 10/05/2009




Its hard to not step on toes. The best answer to give Mil is that you want your child around other kids to learn to share and play. Ive noticed when my child is around her grandparents to much she turns braty. Which is to be expected since grandparents like to spoil : ). On the other hand being spoiled every once in awhile is way better than all the time. Daycare facilitys also are great on the education end too. Kids need!

Sarah - posted on 10/05/2009




I think day care is a good idea, as long as you find a good one. Yes, ur daughter will be exposed to more germs, but as long as you keep her healthy you shouldn't have a problem. She will be learning more in day care than she will with ur MIL. It sounds like she is going to have more fun @ day care as well. My daughter was in day care before she started school and I think it was the best thing for her. She was ver attatched to me and my mother, so we had separation issues. The day care reallly helped prepare her for what was to come with school. The only thing that saved me was a very caring teacher at the day care. My daughter was so happy to see her teacher in the morning. As long as you find something ur daughter will enjoy at day care.

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