DEAD BEAT DAD

LAKRESHIA - posted on 02/25/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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HOW DO I TKE MY SON AWAY FRM HIS DAD WHN HE NEEDS A FATHER FIGURE? I'M NOT SURE BUT I THINK HE'S BEATIN MY BBY... I FOUND A FAINT BRUISE ON HIS BACK AND WHN I SAT DWN 2 TLK 2 MY BBY ABOUT IT HE TOLD ME HE HIT HIM ON HIS BACK... I KNO HE NEEDS A FATHER BUT IF ITS NOT SAFE WAT DO I DO???? HE IRRESPONSIBLE AND HIS GIRLFRIEND HATES ME.... IM NOT 1 OF THOSE TYPE OF GURL WHO STARTS MESS SHE JUST DOESNT LIKE ME.... SHE DOES THINGS 2 MY BBY LIKE BRAID HIS HAIR IN THESE GHETTO STYLES KNOWIN I DNT LIKE... EVERY TIME HE CUMS HOME HE HAS A COLD AND HE'S DIRTY.... THIS LAST TIME HE CAME BACK CURSING.... I DNT KNO WAT 2 DO???? IVE GOT PPL TELLIN ME IM OVER REACTING AND OTHERS SAYING TKE HIM 4 CHILD SUPPORT AND DNT TLK 2 HIM NO MORE....

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Charlie - posted on 03/03/2010

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ive been there and done that im from a violet relationship and things were horrible between my baby's dad and myself but when i kept finding marks on her after days he watched her while i was at work enough was enough she was only a few months old when it started but it hasnt been so easy i had to leave while he was at work leave my job everything and moved to another state with my mom and im fighting for the child support everytime i get any money he quits is job trust me its not easy but you do what you need to do for your baby start thinking about everything you need to do to prove to the courts that you can do it on your own and it is in the best interest for your baby you gotta find proof cause if he fights you then you can be stuck with your son seeing him by court orders if you have proof it will be flying colors start keeping a journal take photos tape record your son telling you what happen build a case good luck but remember you are not the only one that had a bad baby's dad and every single mom has kept moving and did everything for their child

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Zoii - posted on 03/04/2010

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i wouldnt let you baby see his dad anymore and if they do want to see him get supervised visits that way you know your son is safe .. and do what you think is right for him no child should be shot at or hit ... good luck with everything hope you both are happier once he is gone

Jamie - posted on 03/04/2010

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Sorry gotta say get your booty in court and let them figure it out. Nothing you have said equates to him being an unsafe parent in the courts eyes. Even the one tiny faint bruise...kids get bruises... And who cares if his GF hates you..and she braids his hair wrong, you just gotta be the bigger person and ignore her, trust me I know its hard but shes trying to get under your skin. Just take him to court for support and visitation to limit your drama.

LAKRESHIA - posted on 03/04/2010

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I dont really have proof but I dont want to take anymore chances because Ive heard about his girlfriend beating on her daughter so I'm good on that. I want to keep my baby safe so Im going to do what best thanks fellow moms I need the incite.

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i think you should def. think about your baby..even if everythng u think is not goin on...dont u think its better to know ur baby is safe then...not know and have a chance that he is hurtin your baby...i also have a dead beat baby dad. but i would rather him have no dad then have a horrible dad n his life...jus 2 say his dad sees him..give ur baby the world..they deserve nothin less..bein a single mom doing it by urself..theres nothin wrong with that..stop lettin him hav a chance of being hurt b4 its 2 late..gud luck

Heather - posted on 03/03/2010

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ok.. i'm sorry what your going though.. but i know what your going though.. If your son came out an told you that his father hit him believe him cause why would he lie??? Go get your son checked out by his doctor tell the doctor what has been going on.... my 3 older kids their fathers are not in their life... my 2 oldest thier father is sitting in jail right now for hurting my daughters in away that is fucked up.. My kids came out an told me what their father and step-father did to them and i reported it to the police and everything.. my kids told them everything that happen to them... they go to therpy everyweek and it helps them out alot... But you always believe what your kids says.... an if their coming home dirty I wouldn't let him go over there anymore.. no kid should have to ddeal with that... hope i helped

Cookie - posted on 03/03/2010

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do you kno for sure he is beacuse yes I would advise you to get him for child support and take ur baby and move but first take pictures before he goes over there and when he comes back .

LAKRESHIA - posted on 03/03/2010

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I WAS JUST TOLD 2DAY THT HE HAD BEEN SHOOTIN MY BBY WIT A BB GUN... IM LOSIN MY MIND... I DNT WANNA ASK CUZ IVE BEEN TOLD BY HIS FRIENDS THT HE IS DOIN CRAZY THINGS 2 MY BBY... SO IMMA JUST GO HVE HIS PARENTAL RIGHTS TAKEN AWAY...

Lakeisha - posted on 02/25/2010

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definetly protect your baby at all costs. If you found a bruise, you need to find out where they it came from. You are your child's keeper. When you start asking questions, I can almost guarantee that some people will say that you are doing this out of jealousy, but f**k what other people say PROTECT your baby.

Yolanda - posted on 02/25/2010

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you do whats best for your baby. his safety is what should be most important to you. Talk to his dad ask him about the bruise. If you are feeling this strongly about it you should implement a parenting plan thru the courts.

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