Depression and Anxiety

Yolanda - posted on 04/14/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Has anyone suffered this bad after having children and if so what was the effects and how did you get through it? Do you still have ocassional attacks of any sort?

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Nicole - posted on 04/17/2009

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I sunk into major depression after my first son. It took me almost 6 months to realize that I had it. I was always fighting with my husband and even brought up divorce. I love my husband to death and this is when I realized I needed help. My doctor put me on an anti-depresant and it really helped. Every once in a while if I forgot to take my pills for a few days in a row I will start to feel a little funny but other than that I'm fine.

Amanda - posted on 04/17/2009

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I also had ppd after both of my boys and I know how hard it is. For me I felt like I couldn't be alone and every small thing felt like a huge task. I would sit and think, " how am i going to be able to hold him all day by myself and then I have to feed him and he can't do anything on his own." Now I think about it and it seems silly, but at the time you can't really put it in perspective, but it will pass. I had it with my first son and thought that I was just crazy and not meant to be a mom and when it finally got too bad my husband called the dr and he prescribed me with lexapro and it really worked for me. So, it October with my second son I warned the dr and let him know that if I needed something I would call him asap and I did and am still on lexapro now and it works. Just be sure to ask for help.

Stacy - posted on 04/16/2009

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I had PPD really bad after my second son, I recognized the symptoms and got help from a doctor immediately. I was prescribed Paxil and it worked very well for me. I was eventually able to ween myself off the medication and I have been fine ever since, getting help is very important as PPD can be very dangerous and is not something to take lightly.

User - posted on 04/16/2009

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hi i had panick attacks after the birth of my son and depression so bad i didnt leave the house for 2 years and the worse thing i did was not talk about it after i did i found out that its very common for new mums to feel like this i am now pregnant again after 6 years and am dreading history repeating its self but i do no that il get past it and wont keep quite this time round

Emma - posted on 04/16/2009

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Hi Yolander, i suffered with post natal depresion & panic attacks after having my little girl, it affects different people in different ways, my baby was the only thing that kept me going while my sister didn't think she look after her little boy when she had him, she thought he'd be better off with me. Doctors are great with this & my health visitor was amazing. I found routine helped me. At my worst i didn't want to leave the house or speak to any1 on the phone, i was fine if some1 was with me but i my own i couldn't do it. I'v not had panic attacks 4 a long time, it gets easier with good support. Don't be scared to ask for help & accept any that's offered. I still have the odd day but they are very rare now & i think every1 has bad days occasionally. Just keep talking.

Tracy - posted on 04/16/2009

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HI Yolanda i have a 2 1/2yr little girl an i still hav attacks every now an again but i found it does get easier. i go to young mums meetings at my local health centre .

Mandy - posted on 04/16/2009

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I do. My husband was the one that noticed it first actually. I just wasn't myself anymore. I went to my doctor and got put on meds. They worked like magic! You might have to try a couple different one to find one that works for you but they make all the difference. Talk to your doctor and don't be ashamed of how you feel. It will get better!

Deidre - posted on 04/14/2009

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Yea, I dealt with anxiety really bad immediately after my daughter was born. I have some anxiety issues to begin with and the whole birth experience and not having my husband there (he was deployed) really got to me. I even dealt with some depression and my biggest advice with that is get some help! I wish I had asked for more help at the time, I couldn't really handle it all and I am amazed I made it through the first couple months after my daughter was born. Have someone watch your baby for 2-3hrs so that you can get some sleep, that was my saving grace when my daughter was really little. And it still helps me out now if I have someone watch her while I catch some Zzzz's.

It is normal to feel some depression and anxiety after having a baby. If you feel it is lasting too long or is too much though definitely talk to YOUR doc. Not your baby's ped. I brought up my daughter's constant crying at her 2wk, 2mo, and 4mo checkup and all they did was ask if I was okay and if I'd hurt her. They didn't offer any advice on why she was crying ALL the time, they just asked me if I was going to hurt her, and in no way was I, but they were very useless. I wish I had made an appt to speak to my own doctor but I never did. I'm doing a lot better now, but at the time I was pretty much a mess.

Renee - posted on 04/14/2009

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yep i had alot of panic attacks right after my daughter waas born and my dr put me on celexa it helped quite a bit i stopped taking it and they came right back so im back on them talk to ur dr itsperfectly normal

Jamie - posted on 04/14/2009

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I did, I had panic attacks and depression. My son is almost 3 and while I still every so often get very mild attacks I am no longer on meds. To get through it I just asked for help, I went so long not asking for help that as my husband put it "was damaging the kids" he finally told me to leave for the night. After talking to a close friend and deciding I needed to get things under control I went and saw a psychatrist and got on some meds. I did have to try a few, but after about year of that I am med free and doing great. Just remember you are not alone and more people deal with this then will admit. For some people sharing things mentally is a scare, but its normal. One question are you a single mother or a very young mother? My doc said that I had issues with aniety and depression because my husband was not there for the birth of our 2nd child. He was in Iraq, so it wasnt like he wanted to miss it. But for some reason I carried so much resentment towards him that it affected me.

Siobhan - posted on 04/14/2009

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It's perfectly normal. Tell your doctor. Just talking about it will help you. Keep posting here and connect with other mothers.

Sara - posted on 04/14/2009

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I remember after my daughter was born that I really did not like her and was very angry that she ruined my life.  Everything had changed so much and I was soooo tired and hurt really bad and was so fat and thought I was ugly, etc.  I knew I would never do anything to hurt her, but all the same I was unhappy.  To get over it, I made myself get up and take walks with her out in the sun, or if the weather was bad, in the mall.  After a few weeks, I started feeling better and I remember the day that I was holding my daughter and looked at her and said, "I think I love you now".  After that the love grew and grew and I got happier and happier.



 



So, I would go take a long shower, you can put the baby on a bouncy seat outside the shower, get dressed, put on your makeup and go for a walk!  Breath in really deep and out really deep and sing a song you like and smile.  The sadness will pass and you will start feeling better, just give yourself some time to heal and adjust, it is different for everyone.  With warm wishes!

Amy - posted on 04/14/2009

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Yolanda it's good that you know you are depressed. IF it's that bad you should see your doctor. I never had it to bed after having my kids but I was very depressed before I had them. I still get spells of it just depends on the day. Hope it gets better soon for you.

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