depression and pregnancy...

Patricia - posted on 08/03/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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So i am going thru this time in my life where i just lost my first born child, and have found myself pregnant. I find myself crying everyday...and i know stree isn't a good thing for a new pregnancy...how do you learn to relax? are tears even really considered stress? please help...

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Patricia - posted on 08/04/2009

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i still interact with my family...i don't hide...i can't. i try to get out as much as possible because she died in my apartment. we are currently waiting for our new house to close escrow...and i will be able to move. i just think the hardest part is that they did genetic tests to try to figure out why she died...and now i am concerned that may be the cause. so now i am worried about my new baby...i think that once i can figure out the cause of death...then i can put peace in my heart. She was the sweetest little girl. she loved kisses and hugs...and if u said lets take a bath...she ran to the tub. no hesitation to open the door and run in while i was already in the shower. lol...i will never forget her dance. my sister made up a song while babysitting for me it went "HI MY NAME IS TRYSTA...I LIKE TO SHAKE-A SHAKE-A SHAKE-A." and she would dance like you wouldn't believe...such a cool kid.

Marta - posted on 08/03/2009

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If you want to share some stories about your daughter please feel free to share them with me I'm more than happy to be your listening and supportive ear.

Kate CP - posted on 08/03/2009

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The actual act of crying releases feel-good hormones. However, if you are having a hard time coping with day to day tasks and find yourself less involved with your family and friends you should consult with a doctor about possible medications. Yes, you can take anti-depressants while pregnant. I am bi-polar and safely took (under close medical supervision) Zoloft, Trazadone, and Wellbutrin throughout my pregnancy with my daughter. I suggest you talk to your doctor.

Patricia - posted on 08/03/2009

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my daughter was only 20 months old, so she didn't really have a "smell" yet. man i wish she did. her photos are plastered all over my walls, and her 1 week old pic sits next to my bed. I never thought i would ever be going thru this situation. my life feels like it got ripped apart in a matter of 2 months. my mom passed away 16 days before my daughter, and i lost my job on mothers day. yay me. thank you for listening tho...this helps to talk about it...my family has a hard time talking about it...which really is hard for me because i need to talk about her all the time...i feel like she fades with each passing day.

Marta - posted on 08/03/2009

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I am so sorry for your loss, and I'd like to start off by saying that my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. In terms of crying, I found that it's always helped me to release the stress that builds up and it's a natural way of doing it. If you find yourself struggling a lot make sure that your family and friends know how you're feeling and that you're in constant communication with your physician about your emotional well-being. Do you find it comforting to smell your childs clothes, or sit in their room for a little while to reminice? I know that a lot of people who have experienced loss find it comforting to go through photographs of their loved one and share stories that are funny about that person. I can't pretend to begin to understand what you must be going through but I can offer my condolences and my support so please if you need a listening ear feel free to send me a message.

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