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Paula - posted on 08/15/2013 ( 23 moms have responded )

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Im 29 years old 2 week's ago I just lost my baby # 5 im super sad desperate I always miscarriage between the 13 and 16 weeks the. Sad part is I always go to the doc and they telling me everything is okay just now they find out I have incompetent cervix please I need help anyone knows what can I do I just want gave at least one baby if any one can please help me

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Kayce - posted on 08/23/2013

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Hi Paula,

You may have a weaken cervix and need to undergo a surgery referred to as a circlage... There are two types the Macdonald or the Cirrodcar, trust me that their names, I was also stumped--like wah...??? Anyway, this method is used to stich the cervix to prevent it from opening prematurely before the baby is due to arrive. Just before your due date you then undergo a simple surgery to remove the stich to allow you to give birth. It works, I swear by it because I had to have it done to successfully deliver my son, then my twins. I was clueless as urself when I lost my first son at five months. It took me to prematurely miscarry him to be then diagnosed with a weaken cervix.. Ask your doctor about it (circlage). If he cannot give you info on it, make plans to move upstate to Syracuse NY. They have one of the best high risk unit for pregnant women and can give you that procedure within twelve weeks of your next pregnancy. I am so glad that I had this chance to spread the word. I hope this bit of info helps you and any other woman out there that has this issue..

Take Care
Kayce

Shelly - posted on 08/20/2013

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Hi I am 26 years old and on my third pregnancy. I had my first baby at 26weeks (he's now almost 4 and fit and healthy) I was pregnant last year and was extreamly nervous as felt like the same thing could happen again was repeatidly told by my doctors that everything was fine, I came in for my 20week scan only to find out that I was in labour! I ended up losing my baby girl the next morning. I fell pregnant again and I was told that I had an incompetant cervix. At 13weeks I got a cervical stitch and told to take it easy. I am now 26weeks pregnant and I am on complete bed rest. I hope this helps, insist on getting the stitch to your docs or if you get pregnant go on bed rest as soon as you know and at lease make it to 24weeks where there's a good chance for baby! Good luck

Nadine - posted on 08/18/2013

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I have the same condition. I lost 3 before they figured out what was wrong. I got the cerclages with all pregnancies since. I have 2 healthy girls ages 4 and 2 and 16 weeks pregnant with my 3rd due in Feb 2013. They should put in the cerclage around 12 weeks then they will remove it at 36 weeks telling you it is safe to have the baby any time after that. My oldest stayed in till 39 weeks and my youngest till 37 weeks both big and healthy. You may still need restrictions or bed rest but should be fine. Sorry for your losses I unfortunately know what you are going through but there is help and you should do just fine and have that helthy baby in no time. Good luck.

Roketia - posted on 09/23/2013

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Thank you. Did you receive a cerclage during any of your pregnancies? The cerclage is a basically a string that is stitched through your cervix to keep it closed throughout your pregnancy. I had them place around 14-15 weeks of pregnancy. However, I've heard of them being placed as early as 13 weeks. I'll be praying for you.

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I know a couple people who had the same thing happen and until it happens to you the doctor's cant really know. what they did was sew up the cervix from the end of the first trimester until near the end of the pregnancy

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ELizabeth - posted on 09/27/2013

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I am so sorry you had so many miscarriages. My mother had four miscarriages before having me at twenty seven and I was high risk when I was pregnant with my daughter five years ago and almost lost her in the middle of the pregnancy. Because I was bleeding. And I would have had my daughter early. If I wasn't put on meds to keep her in my belly longer. Then to be born at 20 something weeks.

Paula - posted on 09/22/2013

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Thank you very much but I already lost 5 do you think there is anything for me now I don't have any but thanks and god bless you and the kids

Roketia - posted on 09/22/2013

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I too have an incompetent cervix. Eating organic foods will not help your cervix to not dilate early. However, it is a healthier food choice. I miscarried my first pregnancy. I was under the care of another Ob Gyn during my second pregnancy. At 20 weeks I went in for a routine ultrasound, and found one of my sons feet down my cervix. I had to go straight to the hospital for an emergency surgery. After the surgery, he informed me that I have an incompetent cervix, and will have to have a cervical cerclage placed anytime I would become pregnant. I did deliver him prematurely at 28 weeks due to my cerclage already beginning to dilate. My next two pregnancies I went full term. There is hope.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/20/2013

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I had a friend at work who had a similar issue and lost 4 babies this way. The last time she lost a baby, my OB/GYN was on cal at the hospital and he immediately saw the issue. I believe it was the same thing that you have. He advised her to come see him because he knew how to take care of it. She saw him for her next pregnancy and she carried the whole way through. At about 14 - 16 weeks, I think he had to do something to strengthen her cervix and she spent some of her pregnancy on bed rest. My OB/GYN is a 3rd generation OB/GYN nd he is amazing. He practices in Tallahassee, FL and his name is Dr. A.J. Brickler III. He practices at North Florida Women's Care. I know that it is very unlikely that you live inthis area, but you may be able to contact him at his practice and ask for advice or a referral to an OB/GYN in your area that is familiar with this issue. Hope this helps. I'll be praying for you.

Jen - posted on 09/16/2013

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Hi, I can help you. Please take to heart the following information: Switch your diet to completely organic, if it isn't organic - don't eat it. Drink only filtered water. Bottled water is often no better than tap. Use glass or BPA free containers. Use safe cookware. Avoid chemicals, bleach, fragrances, lotions, and makeup that isn't certified organic. We are being assaulted at every level with unnatural food and products that cause disease and miscarriage. It may cost more in the short term, but you can actually save money by not going out to restaurants, buying cola, or unnecessary cleaners. My family lives this way and our health has greatly improved. We were able to have 2 children immediately after switching our diets and banning soda! This information is real and verifiable. God bless,

Jen

Zulma - posted on 09/13/2013

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Please follow instructions and do not drink this tea during pregnancy. Good luck and GOD bless. Please let me know how it goes...after 6mnths, not before.

Paula - posted on 09/13/2013

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Thank you very much I hope that really helps because right now im very hopeless

Zulma - posted on 09/13/2013

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Check this out and see if you are interested. You can google it and study more about it before trying it.

Google...localharvest.org and look for "Red Raspberry Leaf Tea"

Red Raspberry Leaf Tea

Store > Herbs & Health > Medicinal Teas > Red Raspberry Leaf Tea   (1 review) Pure Raspberry Leaf to aid in strengthening and toning uterine lining in preparation for pregnancy. 24 tea bags$20.00 Qty:Price: Tincture - 8 fluid ounces$20.00 Qty:Price: 12 tea bags$9.50 Qty:Price: 1 oz. Bulk (loose) herb$6.00 Qty:Price: 6 tea bags$5.00 Qty:Price: from: Sharon Hubbs-Kreft, Herbalist - Amazing Grace Herbals LLCShip to:                 Me                Other...             Brewed as a tea or as an infusion, raspberry leaf is one of the safest and commonly used tonic herbs for women wanting to get pregnant or for women who are already pregnant. Red Raspberry Leaf (Rubus idaeus) tones the uterus, improves contractions and decreases constipation.I offer Red Raspberry either in tea or tincture form. Tincture is apple cider vinegar based and will not harm fetus.Raspberry Leaf contains many minerals and vitamins, including vitamin C and calcium. It also contains an alkaloid called fragrine, which lends tone to the uterus.Raspberry leaf does not start labor or promote contractions.It is NOT an emmenagogue or oxytocic herb. What it does is help strengthen the pelvic and uterine muscles so that once labor does start the muscles will be more efficient.Before pregnancy, drink 2 cups per day. Abstain during first trimester and begin again at 35 weeks. By resuming at 35 weeks it has been studied to help reduce labor pains.Tea also includes rose hips for Vitamin C and stevia, which is naturally sweet.Raspberry is also an rich source of vitamins A, B complex, C, and E, as well as the minerals calcium, iron, magnesium, phosphorus, and potassium. These nutrients make it an excellent prevention and treatment for anemia and leg cramps, as well as a beneficial remedy for the reduction of morning sickness.Raspberry leaf tea also acts as an astringent on irritated skin by tightening the top layers of skin or mucous membranes effectively reducing secretions, relieving irritation, and improving tissue firmness. As a mouth wash it is used to soothe mouth and throat irritations. You may use this tea as a gargle or apply it topically. Tea should be cool when used for these ailments.Raspberry leaf may affect infants and is not recommended for women who are breast-feeding. Diabetics should be careful as it might lower the blood sugar levels drastically.Because raspberry leaf is thought to have a slight effect like the female hormone, estrogen, it should not be used by women who have endometriosis, uterine fibroids, or cancers of the breast, ovaries, or uterus. Men who have prostate cancer should also avoid using it. 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Zulma - posted on 09/13/2013

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Hi Paula,
Sorry to hear about your loss. Have you ever heard about Kegel excercises? Please google it and start practicing before you become pregnant and during. Stay away from heavy lifting and do try not to strain during bowel time. There is also a natural remedy for strengthening the uteris. I can't seem to remember what its called but will look for it. Until then do the excercises. Prayer works wonders, you may want to add that to the list. Hope it works for you.

Good luck.

P.s. Will let you know what the remedie forthe uteris strength is when I figure it out or...try google that to.
Better to try, u never know

Blessings.

Anon - posted on 09/06/2013

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I'm so sorry for your losses! You have helped to create little souls though to surround our Lord with in heaven and your babies are precious to Him!
I'm not knowledgeable about " incompetent cervixes", however, I know that there are fertility care specialists, who sometimes can help when a traditional ob or family practice may not. The ones who helped me were at Alfa Clinic, taught the Creighton method of NFP, and through it were able to determine my gynecological health. If you have a Catholic clinic nearby, inquire. If you don't think you do, call a Catholic Church and ask who teaches this method of NFP and they could probably direct you to a fertility care specialist. My last pregnancy was difficult and they helped me not to miscarry. Blessings and good fortune to you!

Pretty - posted on 09/05/2013

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Hi Paula,
I have had 2 miscarriages before my 4 year old daughter that I have now.

You have to give yourself sometime, maybe for 12 months make sure you do not fall pregnant and the best thing is the prayer.
Stay positive when your time comes you will have your baby.

All the best

Paula - posted on 08/31/2013

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Tanks for you support I really needed that after 5 timers im really depressed I to scary to try again

Paula - posted on 08/18/2013

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Thanks nadine and god bless you and the kids I hope one day I could say same thing

Paula - posted on 08/17/2013

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Thank you guys very much for your support because right now im going a very bad time filing depressed just don't want live anymore because it is just to much been going thru this for 9 years

Chet - posted on 08/16/2013

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Have they offered you treatment for the incompetent cervix? I know two women who have this. Although they had multiple miscarriages before they were diagnosed, once they knew that was the problem they went on to have healthy babies. They just needed to have their cervix sewed closed from the end of third trimester until eight or so weeks before their due date. Five miscarriages is a lot! I'm so sorry you've had to go through that. For one mom I know in particular it was absolutely terrible to have so many losses in a row, and so far into her pregnancies. Usually when you get to 12 or 13 weeks you feel like you're out of the woods. Things really did get better for her once she was diagnosed. She actually has two kids now.

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