Miranda - posted on 03/31/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




My daughter is 18 months and is definitely entering her terrible twos. She throws a fit over anything, whether it be me not letting her stay outside, or not letting her drink from my cup, she has a complete meltdown. I feel as though I'm failing as a mother not being able to calm her down or control tantrums. It's like every time I do something she's unhappy with me. I definitely do not give in to her tantrums, but it's really hard for me to ignore it like I've been told to. I've tried to distract her and make her laugh, but sometimes it's not enough. It's also become a real hassle taking her anywhere and I really do not want to keep her cooped up in my house because it's just not good for her. So does anyone have any advice on how to avoid tantrums or how deal with them? I'm desperate!!!!


Ashley - posted on 04/03/2014




I don't give in to my daughters tantrum 'demands' but I don't ignore it either. I usually hug her (if she lets me/wants it) until she calms down and talk quietly to her. I also will suggest/remind the alternatives I had offered. Like she likes to wash her hands so when we're finished outside and she throws a fit I would wait for her to start to calm and ask if she would like to go wash her hands now, or if she'd like a drink, etc. It seems to help her realize she can refocus and the whole world isn't lost.

My daughter is 19months now.

Jodi - posted on 04/01/2014




You can't "control" tantrums. You also shouldn't be giving them the attention she wants either. I agree with ignoring her tantrums. As long as you continue to give her attention when she has a tantrum, she will continue to throw them.


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