Did you have a vaginal delivery or c-section or all natural (no drugs at all)?

Lauren - posted on 03/29/2010 ( 148 moms have responded )

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I have had two c-sections, and I'm wanting to know why some moms that have had a vaginal delivery feel that women that have c-sections are lazy?

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Jerresha - posted on 04/01/2010

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when i gave birth to my son i did not have any drugs at all. Personaly i think that woman that have a csection have it harder afterwards. 3 days after i had my son i was jumping in and out of my moms truck that is lifted 8 inches and my best friends was sleeping in a recliner for two weeks. I hope that i never have to have a csection.

Jennifer - posted on 04/01/2010

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With my first child I was induced at 37 weeks due to pregnancy induced hypertension......I had an epidural which ended up slowing down my labor, and by the time I was fully dialated I couldn't feel a thing, which made it difficult to push. As soon as they mentioned c-sec (if I couldn't push him out), he was out within a few minutes. I had heard too many horror stories about c-secs (bacterial infections, gall bladder issues, being laid up for weeks, etc.) and did not want to experience one.



With my second child, I was late, so they scheduled for me to be induced. I went in on a Sunday evening and they started the petocin. Each day nothing had happend, finally by Wednesday I started to believe that something was wrong, because not only had I not dialated even a little, she still hadn't even dropped. I requested a c-sec at that point, the petocin was making me ill after being on it for almost four days and I was getting severely depressed. The doctor gave me a really hard time about requesting a c-sec, told me that I was causing alot of issues for her (having to cancel her clinicals, and rescheduling her day around me). During the c-sec they found out that my daughter was breech (butt down). I am so glad I didn't let her make me feel bad, and keep me on the petocin!!



I had issues with both recoveries, but the vaginal birth seemed to a bit more painful of a recovery. I tore with my vaginal birth and had 28 stitches.....it hurt to sit, stand, lay, use the bathroom, etc. With the c-sec I was up moving around within a couple hours of having her......the worst part was the gassiness, and feeling your insides reattaching themselves. Although I did end up getting an infection 3 weeks later.

Trina - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had a vaginal delivery with both of my children. My first son was a preemie, and he and I required lots of hospital care ( I had a wreck, a cervical cerclage, true gestational diabetes, you name it and it happened). My second was a vaginal delivery at 36.6 weeks after an epidural. I didn't know of any ways to handle the pain back then, and I did not have a doula. If I had to do it all over again I would have him without any pain medication at all, because I know I could have handled it. His delivery was fine though, no complications and no tears. My seconds labor was 17 hours + and I feel lucky they didn't try to force me into a c-section. I had to be very adamant about not having one. I also had a cervical lip until I had an epidural because I couldn't relax. I didn't know that in the case of a cervical lip it often helps to put your feet up and take pressure off of it to allow it to diminish naturally.



By the way, I also don't think women are lazy for having c-sections. I think there are too many, but this is due to lots of reasons. I love the ICAN site if anyone wants to read up on V-BACS.

Christy - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had a totally natural delivery with my first and had to have a C-section with my twins. I hated the recovery from the C-section, so painful. C-sections do not mean anyone is lazy.

Crystalin - posted on 04/01/2010

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Well to answer that question. to the women who has c-sections its not their fault. Its how are bodies are. some cant deliver natural like everyone else. When there is an emergency dealing with the baby doctors has no other choice. I had my 1st child natural no drugs but my 2nd i had drugs i thought they was going to do a c-section on my b/c she would not come down. but she did when i got the epidural. So before anyone say women are lazy for having our c-sections just rememeber our bodies are not the same. Some cant get pregnant natural some have to take drugs and 1 out of 1, 000 babies born mutliples. Some can loose weight faster after they have a chlild some cant. Lets not judge lets us help one another

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Stephanie - posted on 04/01/2010

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Another thing to the lady that says that women who have c-sections are lazy IS WRONG. People that have c-sections work as hard to recover than the one who had a natural birth. We have to get up by ourselves so that we can get use to the staples and stitches. needless to say CARE for the child

Charlene - posted on 04/01/2010

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i had 2 c sections not by choice it was the diabetes , my first weighed in at 8 5 and my son was 10 lbs , they wouldnt let me go natural with my first she was breech butt first she was born , my second was just 2 big its not cause we r lazy there is logic to the madness

Ania - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had a natural, fast birth. I couldnt have drugs because by the time I got to the hospital I was to far along. I definately dont feel that women who have c-sections are lazy. Its either a personal choice or nessecary. Ive seen shows about moms who have c-sections and anyone who does thinks that they are lazy are nuts. The pain they have to go through afterwards and take care of a baby compared to having a natural birth seems harder.

Nicola - posted on 04/01/2010

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weather you have a c-section or a vaginal delivery they are both hard in there own ways, they both have pros and cons and its a individual decision or in some cases just how it turned out. no way is lazy and everyone that carrys a child for nine moths knows its hard who cares how they enter the world as long as little un is safe and so is mother

Nicole - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had to be induced and was in labor for 51 hours it was such a long time. I had a vaginal delivery and it was all natural no drugs for the pain I just had the pitocen to start the pain lolol.

Sarah - posted on 04/01/2010

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i had a completely natural birth .. no gas and air .. no nothing.

my son was born 30mins after me getting into the hospital .. so there wasn't really any point in getting pain relief!!

Tali - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had an un-medicated vaginal delivery with my daughter and a c-section with my twins.



I would never be so judgmental as to think that anyone was lazy for having a c-section. In fact, my c-section was total hell and I would rather have done another un-medicated vaginal delivery than ever go through another c-section.

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sometimes we can't help it. because 99% of the time its medical reasons. I had a c-section I wanted to delivery vaginally. but couldnt

Amy - posted on 04/01/2010

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i just had my first baby 6 days ago. i was in labour for a total of 6.5 hours from start to finish. it went very smoothly, contractions started at 5 mins apart for about 2 hors then down to 2 mins apart for 3. it was torture. :) i dialated so quickly i lost my chance at an eppy... so natrual it was!! :)

i pushed for 9 mins, 6 times total and she was out!!

it was something i will never forget ♥

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sometimes we can't help it. because 99% of the time its medical reasons. I had a c-section I wanted to delivery vaginally. but couldnt

Brandy - posted on 04/01/2010

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I don't feel that you are lazy if you choose to have a c-section for your own reasons, but I do feel sad that you never got to experience natural, drug-free child birth. I had an epidural with my first after 2 days of labour and I am so happy that I went all natural with my second because the experience of giving birth naturally is something unlike anything you can ever know. If you have a c-section for medical reasons, obviously you couldn't help that but if you are choosing c-section over natural for personal reasons, you don't know what you are missing!

Hazel - posted on 04/01/2010

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my best freind has had to have 2 c sections and i know how hard she tried to have a vbac i am about the have my second baby this one is planned as natural. I know that my freind was really up set that she was unable to have a natural birth so we dont all think mums who have to have a c section are lazy. We joke about it some times ie too posh to push how ever my friend was able to have the dates booked with both of her c section so she know that she would never go over date where as me i am know waiting once again late for my little one to make an appreance. i would love to be told that i could go in to hospitol tomorrow and have my baby however i am very scared of nedles so maybe i am the lucky one. Every ones birth story is different if i had a c section with my first daughter then she wouldnt have ended up in SCBU who can say in hinde sight i should have had one.

Koree - posted on 04/01/2010

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I have had a vaginal and a c-section. I do not believe that just because you have a c-section that you are lazy, but I have heard of moms scheduling a c-section so that it fits in to their schedule. i don't know if that is common but either way is had.

Lindsey - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had two births and they were vaginal delivery without any drugs. It was difficult because you have to just breathe through the pain. I walked the halls of the labor and delivery for 4 hours just talking with my mom and husband. Then at the end I got a little mad at my husband for just telling me to breathe and he didn't do the breathing with me but everything was fine with us after the birth. Also, after the birth I was able to walk around and hold my baby without any problems because i didn't use any drugs.

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sometimes we can't help it. because 99% of the time its medical reasons. I had a c-section I wanted to delivery vaginally. but couldnt

Lorna - posted on 04/01/2010

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i had a natural delivery wen i had my wee boy.didnt really think labour was that bad.lasted 10 hours, and i would do it all over again.

Lauren - posted on 04/01/2010

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i had my baby with no drugs and i wish someone would have told me how stupid that was. ya i did it an she was not subjected to any drugs but afterwards i was tired and i hurt and i really didnt want to sit up and enjoy her because i hurt so bad and plus i ripped and even after they numbed me to sew me back up i felt all the pain from it. I think i would have had a better experience with some sort of epidural or drugs to ward off the pain so when my daughter was born i could have enjoyed the moment a little more plus i might not have gbone hoarse from all the screaming i did during deliery

Veronique - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had 2 c-section. The first one not by choice. I was in labor for 11 hours and push for 3 hours and she would not come out so they said i had to have a c-section. When i got pregnant with my second daughter my first daughter was only 8 months old so my doctor said i couldn't try to deliver vaginaly so i had a 2nd c-section. To be very honest when i had my 1st c-section i felt like i had fail at something that so many women could do except me. I felt like a failiure to my child to my husband and also to my self. My husband kept telling me that it's was the best thing for me and the baby and after a few months started to believe him. With my second c-section i felt more prepared and enjoyed the experience more. I personaly don't think that moms who delivered vaginal think that we are lazy it's just that i think they don't understand that not all babies can pass through the birth canal for many reasons ( baby to big , pelvis to small , cord wrap around the neck ect ect ect ) just because they did it doesn't mean we can all do it. Yes some women chose to have a c-section by choice and yes i consider that to be lazy but when you tried and it just didn't work then girl you did all you can now let the experts take care of you and your child and that's all that matters at the end of the day.

Hope this help!!!!!

Ashley - posted on 04/01/2010

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i had a vaginal delivery and i dont think that c-section women r lazy. as far as i know women that get c-sections have to get them because of complications.

Rachel - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had a vaginal delivery with both of my children. With my first child, I had an epidural but it came out during labor and they had to put another one in. Since I had surgury on my back as a teen, they had a difficult time and the second epidural they put in numbed me from the waste down but I could still feel the contractions. With my second child, they were trying to get the epidural in and she decided she wasn't going to wait and they had to stop and deliver before they got it in. Honestly, if I had a third child, I would probobly go natural (if it would go as fast as my second - 3 hrs total labor time) because I felt so much better after delivery with no meds in me.

Suerita - posted on 04/01/2010

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I would like to know the same thing! Honestly, Id never heard anyone say that they thought women who have c-sections are lazy!! Sometimes you cant help it! Like in my situation. My obgyn told me that I wouldnt be able to have my daughter naturally because I was "shaped funny" and she didnt think the baby would fit through!!

Hannah - posted on 04/01/2010

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I was in labor for 48 hours and had no drugs. It was very very hard but totally worth it!!

Justina - posted on 04/01/2010

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Both of my children were vaginal delivery. The second pregnancy I had pain meds but it didn't do any good. Both of my deliveries went pretty fast. I don't think have a c-section makes you lazy. It's your choice to choose what kind of delivery you want and sometimes you have to have a c-section for medical reasons.

Jennifer - posted on 04/01/2010

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I don't feel that way, I just think it seems strange that women that are capable of a healthy vaginal delivery, should do what is most natural for their body. Seems odd for someone to choose a surgical procedure, when they have another option. C-sections are painful post-op, have a longer recovery time, & generally more dangerous. But to each his own. :)

Adrienne - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had a c section as my son was too big and due to gestational diabetes..if that is being lazy well I really don't know what to say to that...they even had a hard time getting him out via c section and tried three time to pull him out before he came out...

Jennifer - posted on 04/01/2010

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I don't feel that way, I just think it seems strange that women that are capable of a healthy vaginal delivery, should do what is most natural for their body. Seems odd for someone to choose a surgical procedure, when they have another option. C-sections are painful post-op, have a longer recovery time, & generally more dangerous. But to each his own. :)

Michelle - posted on 04/01/2010

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Seven kids, no multiples, ALL NATURAL. No drugs for this mama. Thankfuly I have never torn or had to be cut. So no stiches. I don't think that mothers that have had c- sections are lazy. I just think there are too many risks that doctors don't tell you about until it's too late. Not just the processes itself, but the healing and needless stress it puts on the mothers body. Your body wasn't ment for that kind of treatment. Don't get me wrong it there are complacations,and it's a mater of life and death for the mother or the baby. By all means use what we have to save lives. But to do it to avoid the pain (which I have heard women say), or work it into your schulde, seems to be alittle selfish.

Brandy - posted on 04/01/2010

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Joshua will be 10 next month. He was born vaginally. I went into labor on my own.

I was in labor for 14 hours when he was born. I had an epidural at 8 cm and due to his size, had to have an episiotomy. He weighed 10 pounds 1 oz.



Jessica is 2 1/2. My doctor was worried about me having another big big baby so he induced me. I was put in the hospital Tuesday night. At 7 pm the nurse put in a cervideal to soften my cervix. At 7 am the cervideal was removed and I was hooked up to an i.v. and pitocen drip. Around 9 the doctor broke my water. I had to go ahead and get an epidural when I got to 2cm. I was doubled over and crying because I hurt so bad.

Being induced hurts way more than going into labor on your own.

Jessica was not born until Thursday morning. The nurse had to lay on my stomach and help me push. Her shoulders got stuck. I had another episiotomy. She weighed 8 pounds 14 oz.

And due to my water being broke for so long, both of us, mom and baby set up infection and running fevers. Jessica had a needle stuck in the top of her head so they could give her antibiotics.



Joni is almost 9 months old.

She was born via emergency c-section. I was induced again, this time a week early, because of complications in pregnancy. I stopped dialating at 2cm. The doctor tried to break my water to see if that would help move things along. He couldn't get the hook in there. Baby was very low and when he checked thingshe told the nurse to get an ultrasound machine now! Joni was down so low, and she was trying to come out with her head sideways. Ear was coming out first.

If I would have pushed it would have broken my babies neck.

Within 20 mins of seeing a problem, Dr. B delivered Joni and it turned out the cord was in a double knot around her neck as well.

She weighed 7 pounds 3 oz.

I had a really hard time getting over the c-section. On and off antibiotics for 7 months because I kept setting up infections. Bleeding so bad I would have to change clothes 4-6 times a day. My scar itches so bad I wake myself up scratching at it in my sleep.

But I would do it again if I had to because I'd rather go through what I did to keep from losing my daughter.

Tracey - posted on 04/01/2010

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I don't think having a c-section makes you lazy. Every woman has different needs and as long as the baby arrives safely and healthy thats all that matters! I had a vaginal delivery but almost had a c-section. I used an epidural but it failed at the last moment due to my son's position, evidently he was pinching a nerve and cut off the effect of the drug. So mine was an involuntary natural, lol.

Jessica - posted on 04/01/2010

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I was young when I had my son, I had a vaginal delivery and I used no drugs at all. It was the hardest and most painful thing in the world.. but it was well worth it!

Sarah - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had a vaginal delivery although I was very close to having a C section because my daughter just did not want to come out! 20 hrs of pitocin induced labor and two hours of pushing - Maybe I should have had a C-section to save myself some exhaustion. I didn't view C-section as lazy I viewed it as missing out on something only a woman could do (pushing my baby out) I was afraid of feeling weak and like I didn't even try. About 15 hours in I was so tired and hungry I would have done anything my doctors suggested to get my baby out.

Kellie - posted on 04/01/2010

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With my daughter I had a c-section because I have a tipped uterus and my daughter was pushing close to being 9lbs. My dr. informed me that we could try having her naturally but she really didnt expect me to even be able to deliver a small baby. Me and my husband talked to the doctor about it for a few days and she told us that she would prefer me to go ahead and have the c-section instead of being in labor for 12 hours and end up having a c-section anyway. Then my son was born 14 months later and had to have another c-section because of my tipped uterus and I was having trouble healing from my first c-section that the dr. was scared that if i even try to push things could go wrong. I don't know how other states are, but here in Mississippi a doctor will not let you go through a c-section just because you are to lazy. There has to be a reason for them to do the procedure.

Mikaela - posted on 04/01/2010

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Heyy.

I had my first boy on March 03 2010. I had vaginal delivery and it was natural.

Sarah - posted on 04/01/2010

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My first child DD my water broke a month early, had no contractions, got to the hospital they induced me and gave me an epidural, but with my DS I was on time, and started getting contractions, so went to hospital, when thye first checked to see how far along I was, I was already 7cm diolated too late for meds did all natural, I can't take pain WOW....I was in alot of pain but it was worth it holding my DS :-)



I never have thought women who have had c-sections are lazy!!!

Michelle - posted on 04/01/2010

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i delivered vaginaly 5 times no drugs.....but i dont think women whith c sections are lazy i got lucky and never needed one....but i have pain meds ect....so thats why i didnt opt for a c section because i was scared ....but if the said well u get a c section we will do a tummy tuck i would have did it lol j/k.....but i dont think your lazy

Terri - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had a C-Section. My son decided that he wanted to poop right before it was time to push and then his heart rate was dropping with every contraction. I dont think that we are lazy! Everyone is different and everyone has different issues.

MICHELLE - posted on 04/01/2010

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I HAD A VAGINAL DELIVERY WITH NO DRUGS. NOT TO SAY I DIDN'T WANT ANY; AT THE TIME WHEN I WAS TAKEN TO THE HOSPITAL BEING THAT IT WAS NOT THE HOSPITAL I WAS ASSIGNED TO THEY HAD TO DRAW BLOOD AND PERFORM OTHER TESTS..THE RESULTS CAME BACK AND SAID THAT MY BLOOD CELL COUNT WAS WAY TOO LOW AND THAT IF I STILL WANTED DRUGS I HAD TO SIGN A RELEASE FORM BEING THAT MY DAUGHTER COULD BE BORN DEAD "STILLBIRTH" SO I WENT ALONG NATURAL..IT HURT A LOT I HAD 5 STICHES.. BUT IT WAS WORTH IT.

Kari - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had a c-section due to my pelvic bone wasn't wide enough for the baby to go through.

My doctor told me I could try to go natural, but I would probably end up in the operating room. I decided if i would end up there I should just start there!! I ended up having a 9lb 7oz baby girl.

Lindsay - posted on 04/01/2010

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I was actually disappointed when I was told I could not deliver vaginally but the c-section was needed because of my son's rapid increase/decreasing heartrate and he actually got stuck in the vaginal canal because I would not dialate pass 7cm. For my next child I have decided to get another c-section, but not out of laziness...c-sections are considered a major surgery

Kate - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had both my kids natural no drugs or anything. I researched the risks of c-sections and of the harmful drugs they use during labor and I wanted to give my kids the best start to life that I could!

Kiara - posted on 04/01/2010

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In no way do I think moms that have c-sections are lazy. You have to recover from those, while taking care of a new born. That's no easy task. I had a vaginal delivery with epidural. I was induced so my pain was basically unbearable. I tried codeine before the epi but that just knocked me out between contraction and woke me up during them. It was too much, so I went ahead and had a epidural.

Amy - posted on 04/01/2010

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All of my kids were born vaginal. I wont change it for the world. They wanted me to do a c-section with my last one due to her being breech but i refused.I think c-section should only be for a emergency. And I had some rough labors.

Marqueshia - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had c-section how ever I still experienced labor and all its pains which is what most women go thru!!! Its not being lazy its doing what you have to for you child!!!!

Amee - posted on 04/01/2010

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i think some people think that if u choose to have a c-section or pay to have one before u even try to have a vaginal birth because they are scared of pain then may be they think that it's being lazy. I have had a emergancy c - section and a vaginal birth and c-sections are far far more painfull then having a vaginal birth. i would recommend a vaginal birth any day!!

Chantal - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had a vaginal delivery all natural. Im currently 32weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby and Im going to have my baby the same way, it was well worth it! I have no problem with C-sections, personally I'm more afraid of being cut than anything else! I have a fear of needles and surgical things.

Ashley - posted on 04/01/2010

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I had a vaginal delivery with unfortunately 0 drugs at all plus an episiotomy, trust me I was begging for a c-section. now looking back I am glad I didn't get one as I heard the recovery time is way worse

SHARON - posted on 04/01/2010

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nope i dont believe people that say u lazy if u have a c-section because u dont always get what u wanted with it as baby could be in desrtess. i have 2 kids 1 of 3 and 1 18 months both were born vaginaly and with no pain killes. my 18 month old was even born at home and my husband delivered him coz he came to fast. my 3 year old daughter was born the min we got to the hospital. if i wanted a c-section to its just as good .

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