disciplining kids

Sarah - posted on 04/22/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hey guys i have a 3 year old son naael ,have never punished him/given him time out so now i feel hes become rather spoilt at times..whats the best way to make kids do something without using the bad boy/naughty boy phrases

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Emily - posted on 04/23/2009

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Be firm but kind. I don't use punishment at all and have very respectful children. You can tell him you don't like his behavior and how it makes you feel without calling him 'bad'. You can have natural consequences for certain actions that aren't punitive. i am a firm believer that if children are allowed to exercise autonomy in a healthy and age appropriate fashion there is no need for punishment because every situation becomes a learning experience. Discipline is about teaching not punishing.

Donna - posted on 04/22/2009

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I have a friend that taught me an eye for an eye, the punishment should reflect the "crime" if my daughter tears out her toys, she has to clean them up. She went through a lot of crayons for a while there cuz she would color on the walls, I made her throw them away herself. Each kid will react differently to different tactics. Good luck

Lalie - posted on 04/22/2009

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I think the best way to make Naael do something without using the bad boy phrase...is BE FIRM....stand by what you tell him to do. Have patience it has been 3 years of not too much punishment. this thing is kinda new to him, so dont expect him to react and do great the 1st week. but after a few weeks if u stay consistant in being firm he will get it!

example. "Naael pick up your toys" you have to encourage him, make it a game at times....mommy knows ur a super hero....etc...if he doesnt....tell him when u dont behave mommy gets sad...i dunno...im jsut trying to think of some things....Im no duper nany but a 29 year old mom who is feeling her way thru mother hood just like you. do ur best....he'll get it one day ....just remember stay firm!

Emily - posted on 04/22/2009

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I think it depends on what is going on, but I would say you really need to start. Once you get "run over" and they get their way.... Your toast. My son threw himself on the floor at a store once screaming that he couldn't have something, I just threw myself down and did the same thing. Made me feel better, made people walking by crack up (some applauded), and made my son stop. He has never done it since.

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