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Divorced Holidays

Jessica - posted on 11/12/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




My baby's father and I are working on maintaining a friendly, civil, relationship for our daughter. It's our daughter's first Thanksgiving and Christmas and I think it's very important for us to come together on those days. I have always wanted to cook the big Turkey dinners and now that I'm a mom I really want to do that. I also want to incorporate both sets of grandparents in the big days but I know that his parents wont come to our house since they have traditions and a big family but my parents are divorced and really would be down for anything.

What are other divorced or seperated families doing for the holidays?


Amber - posted on 11/12/2010




I have 2 children 3 1/2 and 14 months. This will be mine and my ex's first year apart for the holidays. In our court order we worked out he gets them thanksgiving 9am-noon then they come home to me. On xmas I get them xmas eve till noon. Then he has them noon-6pm xmas night. They never sleep over his house so that made it easier. We also did he has them easter day10am-2pm. I'm having my boyfriends family and my family over xmas eve and we will just celebrate with them xmas eve night and then do santa,and xmas breakfast xmas morning.

Medic - posted on 11/12/2010




I am only speaking from personal experiences from when I was a child. I would try my best to keep everything civil because my parents were now...well my mother wasn't and now to this day I can't stand the holidays because I just got shuffled back and forth and no one ever bothered to ask me what I wanted to do for the holidays. I do the big holiday thing now for my kids but there is this looming distaste I still have for them and I refuse to shuffle my kids back and forth between my parents different houses.

Tiffany - posted on 11/12/2010




My brother and his daughters mother have a custody agreement alternating the holidays. On odd years he gets her the day before Thanksgiving and then on Christmas morning from 8am to 8am the next day and on even years he gets her on Thanksgiving and on Christmas Eve 8am to Christmas morning 8am. The other holidays are just as crazy, but when you're not together someone is never going to be completely happy. Good Luck!


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Nicole - posted on 01/26/2011




My ex-husband and I switch up who has our son for Christmas each year. This year he was with me, last year he was with them. Next year they will get him again. We are civil but we celebrate the holiday differently.

Brittini - posted on 01/26/2011




I am also divorced and the way I split the holidays is I spend most of the day with my son and then his father spends the rest of the day with him.

Amanda - posted on 11/12/2010




Divorced holidays suck ecspecially for the kids!!! I have 4 children and my 2 oldest will be with their father for both Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve and I'll get them Christmas Day, it's unfortunate because there is no compromising with their father because he's a horrible father in my eyes, and hasn't ever been consistant yet judges keep giving him oppurtunity after oppurtunity...and my 2 youngest will be with me on both holidays because their father, my ex-husband is very civil and will work things out with me because of the girls. It's a tough situation and it's tougher when my 4 children who are raised together can't be together. My oldest son won't even be home with me on his birthday because it's Christmas Eve...just hang in there and do the best you can and stay positive for your daughter. Even though she's young she'll feel the frustration...good luck! :)

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