Do any other moms have no sex drive?

Rebecca - posted on 04/29/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




So I this is alittle emabarrassing. I had my daughter almost 18 months ago with a c-section and still do not have the urge to have sex. I have no sex drive what so ever and it is very frustrating and before pregnancy I was never this way. I hope I am not the only one out there.


Starl_888 - posted on 07/29/2013




I am the same exact situation as you lady's... I'm 25 n my son is now 5 months old had a c-section. But I never want it at all ever even before I was pregnant I didn't want it like that. I really don't know what's wrong with me... my man really is unhappy n depressed about it. I love him to death n I am attracted to him so I don't know why its the way it is its like its messy n just don't wanna do it n in very much turned off by it. If anyone knows how I can get help please let me know I know its not normal im only 25!!!

Tina - posted on 04/29/2010




It's understandable how you feel. Having a child can do a number to us physically, emotionally and mentally. Often times women are exhausted and sex is the last thing on our minds. And if we don't feel 'sexy' or good about ourselves because of how our bodies are still not the same, that will decrease you sex drive. I am quilty of this at times. Sadly, ever since I got pregnant with my first child, I haven't felt secure in how I look. Not to say that is the issue with you. But, just talk to your husband about it and help him to understand that you just don't have a sex drive as much. Try to figure out the root of why its not there and try to fix if you want to. It's normal for women's sex drives to decrease after having babies, so don't feel like your alone or its something to be embarassed about. Many women go through this.

Jessibell - posted on 08/03/2013




How is your relationship doing if you're in one? I thought that I had lost my sex drive after the baby was born but it turns out I actually just literally hated my boyfriend. Once I left him my sex drive suddenly came back.

Perhaps talk to your partner about it if you're in a good relationship. He may need to romance you a bit more, help out more, take his time and be very gentle. Talk about things that turn you on that you could try.

Also talk to your doctor as you may have a hormonal imbalance or a vitamin deficiency.


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Jordan Marie - posted on 12/12/2011




Same broken record here! But if I watch a love story type movie it makes me want that closeness and does the trick.
We watched "One Day" last night. Good luck!

Vanessa - posted on 12/12/2011




I know how you feel. I have a soon to be 21 month old son and a 7 month old daughter. But for me mine went away before we got married. And now my husband is deployed and when he came home for leave i was still the same.. and he wanted to every night, and i didn't. I had a c-section with both my kids. And now I feel like I'm the bad guy for not putting out. I don't know what to do.

Karen - posted on 04/29/2010




had my son 7 months ago and i still haven't found it just seems like so much "work"....

Brittany - posted on 04/29/2010




I am the same way I had my daughter 10 months ago and ever since then I do not want to have sex at all! I am never in the mood or anything!!

Daphne - posted on 04/29/2010




I'm the same way too. My daughters is 9 months old, and I still have no interest in sex at all. I didn't even want it while I was Pregnant even thought people have said that women want it all the time when pregnant. Not me. My bf moved into the spare bedroom, so he would stop making me mad, for trying to get it all the time, and not listening to my reasons. (seriously. i had to explain it to him like EVERY night) I'm so glad I'm not the only one out there either, I was serioulsly starting to feel like a prude!

Katie - posted on 04/29/2010




Dont worry. We are all moms and are able to handle anything. lol. Anyways back to your question. I am the same way now. i am currently pregnant too and it bothers me bc i like having sex but i just aint ever up to do it. So your not the only one. i guess only thing is to let the nature take its course. Hopefully it gets better for us. Good luck.

Lauren - posted on 04/29/2010




I was the same too after having my daughter by c-section. I don't know what my problem was, a mixture of things really, I didn't feel comfy down there, even though I had c-sec, I was tired from all day and night feeds, sex just got put to the bottom of a very long list of other things to do! My daughter is 9 1/2 months now and I have only just got some sort of sex drive back and now I want it my partner is the one saying no... I said to him at the weekend 'what's going on!' as he never turns sex down and all he said was 'now you know how it feels'!! Haha!! It is pretty normal to lose your sex drive for ages and ages after a baby, maybe you could speak to your GP, I did, she said that she thought most of my issues were in my head... I hope it gets better for you hun xx

Stevie - posted on 04/29/2010




nope your not the only one at all my son is 17.5 months old and i dont have a sex drive either even with me being pregnant.... we werent even trying to get pregnant thats the funny and weird thing and we deff werent having sex very much i mostly only have sex to help my husband cuz he will tell me can we have sex tonight i need it or something like that but before my son we had sex like all the time after i had him i had stiches and sex has never been comfy for me hurts some too not so much now that were pregnant but it still does at the beginning i wish i had one cuz i do miss it alot...

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