do you ever feel unatractive to your man?


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Stephanie - posted on 04/29/2010




I am happy to have found this post!!!! Ladies Ladies Ladies, when I gave birth to my second daughter I was a hurling 267 pounds, almost 100 pound gain while pregnant (4 pounds from it being that). I was put on bed rest immediately because I had Just had surgery to remove cancerous cells from my uterus. I was 128lbs when I met my fiance` and things just felt so out of whack.
I have stretch marks on my arms, to 2" under my bust, on my hips, my sides, my legs...and even my woman parts..It bothers me, but then I look at my girls and I know that they are happy, and their happiness makes me smile and reminiscence about my own youth. I have them to thank for those special moments!!!
My motivation to get back in shape or shed some fat was not fully to be sexy or for anything like that, I wanted ME back, although I have only 40 lbs to go, I know it can be done. I don't work out every day, I sometimes don't count calories, because I am human. I eat only 1200 calories a day, and after I got used to it, the weight started coming off without working out. I started with Dieting shakes, replacing 2 meals a day with them. It was wonderful, they tasted fine, and they kept me full and curbed my hunger.
Then I pushed myself and started cycling 1 mile a day, got accustomed to that and did it easier as a week went by. I started doing about 2 hours of full on sweat cycling, on an actual bicycle, because going to a gym, and having people gwak at me wasn't something I felt comfortable with. Just get music to make you push those pedals.
When I started my transformation I was over 200 pounds. It was In September of last year. and so far (the last 3 months I haven't done anything but lift weights to tackle my arms,due to cold weather) I have dropped down to a size 12, and am at 164lb.
It can be done. Find time where you can swap off with your man, or find someone to watch your kids, or even circle the block while they are napping

Paulina - posted on 04/29/2010




okay thank you lady's for your stories i was started to think i was the only one that felt that way why is it so hard to lose pounds ive gained a whopping 50 pounds and it drives me nuts but its what children do to you right what are your plans to lose the weight? are you going to try to lose the weight?

Stephanie - posted on 04/06/2010




Yes, I don't like the way I look these days. I gained about 40lbs. during pregnancy and then lost it all about 2 months after during two week long hospital stays when gallstones almost killed me and I had nothing but morphine through both stays. After getting out though, I wasn't allowed to exercise until after my surgery (which wasn't for another 2 months) and then the healing of the stitches so I gained a lot back anyway. I'm trying to exercise now and not having much success losing it and he always tells me my lack of self-confidence is the turn-off, not the weight. But our sex life has disappeared anyway. Ugh.

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not so much unattractive to him, but I have issues with how I look. I used to be a size 8 when we met, and that was 10 years ago!! Now I'm way past that and I have the added stretch marks :( Before I had my first daughter I could fit into HIS jeans and he's such a small guy! But now I'd be lucky if I could get a pant leg up!! Some days I just think I'll never lose the weight, but then I don't really put all that much effort into losing any. I mean, I'm already married so it isn't like I have to look slim and sexy to compete with the singles out there and I know he would never cheat on me. See, no motivation :)

Candace - posted on 04/06/2010




i definitely do, because i mean i'm getting bigger and he's so used to my smaller size....he can't even really give me the hugs he's used to giving me, because of my skin isn't as clear all the time, and some days i just don't feel that cute at sucks but he tells me he loves me all the time and i'm beautiful to him

Sherre - posted on 04/06/2010




Yes. I gained so much weight from having my son and because I had a c-sec, found it really hard to lose. I was going to join the National Guard but found out I'm pregnant again. I hope to loose it this time because seeing other women have babies and slim down afterwards, depresses me.

Sinsimelia - posted on 04/05/2010




i do now ever since i had our son. I thought maybe it was me and i was imagining things but sometimes i dont know. It's really unstteling to know that maybe he doesn't find me attractive any more

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