Do you feel Beautiful?

Coco - posted on 02/11/2011 ( 28 moms have responded )

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Hello Young moms,

I'm a mother of 2. boy 2, girl 5 months.

I still have 10-15 lbs to lose to get my pre-prego weight, and I can't wait for my baby girl to wean herself to get back to my c-cup, lol!

I hate being in the in-between prego weight and normal, it seems like nothing fits and I don't wanna buy clothes I won't wear in a couple of months...

I'm growing my hair and I'm also in the in-between lenght that I dislike, arg.

What do YOU do to feel beautiful?

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Kayla - posted on 02/16/2011

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I have found that no matter what my size and no matter where I am in life (pregnant, nursing, or just being momma) I always feel prettier if I have at least 1 outfit that fits me. Don't wait to loose 5 or 10 more pounds...get a couple things that fit you NOW. You can't feel pretty in something that's hanging off you or that you are hanging over.
Also what I do is try and keep a style to my hair...I am also growing it out so when it looses a style I try another one that works for the new length, that helps as well.
Don't wait to look and feel better till you loose weight...you deserve that at your present weight!

Mollie - posted on 02/14/2011

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I'v always had a self esteem problem..
but theres some things that make feel beautiful like when i know i look a mess but my husband comes up gives me a hug an says i love you my beautiful wife...
or when i'm getting read to go some were and my daughter says O Mommy you look so pretty aside from them telling me i love to get my hair dyed do my eye brows i run like 5 or 6 mils when i can play with make up take photos I love my high heels an my long hair....
anything really it tends to just hit ya at times

Alice - posted on 02/13/2011

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If I start to feel down, I remember that God loves me as I am. :) In Sunday School last year my oldest made a little cross that says "I love my Mommy" and that's me... I hung it in my kitchen (where I am the most) because that reminds me that to them, I am beautiful (cause no one else can ever be their mommy) :D

Alex - posted on 02/12/2011

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i have always had weight issues my whole life. and although i have gained alot of weight from being pregnat twice and even after the 2nd, i still feel beautiful! i have a husband who finds me sexy no matter how much i think i look like crap. i only feel self consious (spelling issues) when i go out in public and see all these skinny tiny moms with like 3 months olds and it drives me nuts. i do work out but i have my plate full every day and don't always have the time to dedicate to getting back to pre baby weight. i would rather spend my time playing with my kids, taking care of my family, or enjoying the company of the man i love. it all starts with learning to accept yourself and realize that no matter what your body looks like, you have beautiful healthy children who will love you and think you are the most beautiful woman in the world! i hope this helps and that you feel better soon! :)

Randa - posted on 02/11/2011

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I am at that stage too! I have a 5wk old, none of my matern clothes fit but i still can't button my normal pants, I am thankful for Sweaters right now! My husband helps me feel beautiful! But I do try and remember that even though I a not at my pre-baby weight or size i remind myself that my body has carried and nourished 2 (i also have a 3yo)healthy beautiful little boys, and that every little (maybe not so little) stretch mark is a part of making that happen! I remind myself that even though my boobs aren't as perky as they used too be (unless filled w/ milk) that they have fed those same 2 little boys When I look at my boys faces, I remind myself that I helped make that and to me that is what makes me feel beautiful! My children make me feel BEAUTIFUL even when i haven't slept or showered in a couple of days and I am covered in God knows what- I feel BEAUTIFUL!!! :)

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Stephanie - posted on 03/28/2014

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Hi my name is stephanie I have a 5 month old son I had gained 25 pounds before I was even pregnant im used to being 125 so fairly skinny lol when I got pregnant I was 148 lbs I am now 170 lbs I don't look fat but I feel it cuz im not used to being this big lol I was 193 when I had my son lol to make me feel beautiful I try to do myself up as much as I can it really helps to not make me feel like im lazy n a bum lol I know by this summer I should be down to 150 at least but man I wish I was there already lol if I could get down to 148 again I would be happy lol

Liz - posted on 02/16/2011

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I don't. I try to look at things positively and say that I am nursing my baby and all that jazz but I have lost all of my pregnancy weight. I have 40+ more pounds to lose just to be at a healthy weight. My boobs are massive (36 Fs) and I have a stretched out belly. My hubby is not really supportive about my body. He doesn't think I am attractive now. Neither do I.

Ashley - posted on 02/16/2011

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Alot of women dont realize that you dont just gain weight in pregnancy...your whole body can change...your hips widen, your feet can even get bigger! (I went up half a shoe size) Even when you lose the weight some styles may not look right because of the slight changes in your body. With my daughter (2nd child) I lost all the weight in 2 weeks but I still didnt quite fit my old clothes...no more super low jeans, or skinny jeans. You just have to adapt some days it was hard to look myself in the mirror...I couldnt get over the fact that post baby I weighed 98lbs (at 5 feet tall) and could wear whatever i wanted but I now realize Im a woman not a girl, I have hips and a butt, and my husband LOVES me and every dimple on me so to hell with being super skinny ...I have 2 beautiful kids that were worth every pound, every stretch mark and every ounce of pain. Im healthy and happy and you should be too!

Sarah - posted on 02/16/2011

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it sounds corny and bias.... but everytime i look at my daughter (2 1/2 months) and see her smile or sleeping always make me feel good about me and feel beautiful. after all i did create her with my wonderful husband. I know how you feel. i can fit into some of my bigger clothes but it just seems like the weight is taking for ever to come off. all that really matters is that you feel beautiful and the world will see you that way as well! :)

Rachel - posted on 02/15/2011

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before i got pregnant i used to wear make up and do my hair every day i used to hate it so when i got pregnant it was a good excuse to stop even tho i thought i looked terrible ppl said i stil had the pregnant "glow" so i felt alright .... now im a busy mum and never wear make up i do think i kinda miss "dressing up" so every now n then i get up do my make up and hair and i feel a million bux ...

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Six years ago before my six year old was born I was a size four. While I was pregnant with him I gained about 60lbs that is water weight included. When I gave birth to him he was 10lbs 10oz and I was 60lbs heaver than before. I thought that my weight would just magiclly fall off and I would be back in my size four clothes. I was never one to go to the gym or exercise I was just skinny. Well my skinny days were over and to this day I still have not been able to get rid of the weight. A couple of years ago I came down to a size 8 now I am back to a size 10-12. It is the most frustrating thing ever. My goal is to at least lose 20lbs. Six years later and then another 20lbs totalling 40lbs. As far as feeling beautiful? Maybe face wise but not body for me ha ha

Amanda - posted on 02/14/2011

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on the odd occassion that I out abit of makeup on and my 2 year old can look at me with a big smile on his face and say "wow mummy" and give me a big hug and when he can come over out of the blue and say I love you mummy.
Just know that in the eyes of your little girl you are the most beautiful, perfect person in her whole and there is nothing ore beautiful than that

Savona - posted on 02/14/2011

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dont take offense in anyway but Im a freak of nature lol! I was 156 before I gave birth to my son on January 4th, and now a month and a lil later Im 121.6 pounds >.> Before I got pregnant I was 134, its MESSED UP!!!
Breast-feeding helped a lot the first 2 weeks, and my breasts didnt get as big as the first time around with my daughter,
to feel beautiful... hmm... curl your hair, brush your teeth, put a small amount of make-up on, put on a necklace or some rings and strut it! =) Im sure you'll drop those pounds off very soon =P *HUGZ*

CRYSTAL - posted on 02/14/2011

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I dont at all. My son is just 2 months old. At my 6 weeks I was back to my pre preg weight but not size! I dont like teh way anything fits me. I dont like my boobs being squishy feeling! And I hate stretch marks!

Angel - posted on 02/14/2011

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i feel more beautiful now than i ever have in my entire life. my daughter is a little over 5 mths old now. i still have some baby weight so my pre prego pants dont fit rite and my skin keeps doing weird stuff but over all i feel amazing... i look at my lil girls smiling face and realize that i am perfect in her eyes. remember ladies mother is god in the eyes of a child. you are perfect in every way shape and form. all that your children are is because of you. n if ur hubby would happen to say nething just look at him and smile n point to ur lil one n say look what i did lol :-)

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feeling beautiful is a sometimes hard subject for me. But i'm working on it. I have always had issues with my weight and it has always been a battle and having a child changed my body big time! lol but i have decided to be productive and i joined a gym today and i'm trying to eat a little healthier (baby steps.. lol) but I know when i put on a pair of my jeans that fit just right and one of my favorite shirts i always feel confident in who i am. One thing i have learned over the years is to love my body and love me as who i am, no matter what size clothes i wear. But in the same token i'm like any other woman, I want to be a smaller size, but i know one thing i never want to be "skinny" i am a "thick" woman and i just want to be healthy, my ideal look is'nt to look like a model. Anyways sorry for the ramble. lol Good Luck to all the women who are trying to lose weight. :)

Molly - posted on 02/13/2011

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Im in that same state, I have 10 lbs to lose. I dont think anything will go back to its original shape or size til Im done BF. So for the time being I vent with my friends about the way we feel about our post baby bodies. We tell each other that they are crazy and no matter what they look 'hot'. Even tho we would never tell each other they need to lose weight, it feels good to get a compliment from some friends.

Jenn - posted on 02/12/2011

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I don't, AT ALL. I've always had image issues, so this is nothing new. I lost all of my baby weight, but still feel disgusting.

Stifler's - posted on 02/12/2011

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Get my hair trimmed and straightened and eyebrows waxed. A new piece of clothing is good too, even a new maternity singlet or pair of shoes is nice.

Priscilla - posted on 02/11/2011

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Buy a new shirt or out-fit, get my eyebrows threaded, my hair done, and throw on some high heels. I always feels sexy when I have on my heels.

Robin - posted on 02/11/2011

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my grandma had 6 kids and she always said "it takes nine months to get that way and it takes nine months to get back" lol my brother in law is getting married on the beach only six months after my son was born. ugh! the biggest thing that makes me feel pretty is my hair. (i'm so sorry i know it's torture to be growing it out.) i don't get the opportunity that often but there has been 2 times in the past 3 months when i truly felt pretty. and that was when my husband took my son in the other room so i could do my hair. and even though it's damaged split ends, not as long as i want it and one of those times i still had the 6in roots, that is the one thing that could make me feel beautiful. so i know it's not your goal length and it's hard to like your hair at the in between stage but maybe try to do something special with it for valentines day.

Medic - posted on 02/11/2011

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I think there is this HORRIBLE push to be "skinny" and that is what is beautiful. I still carry some major weight from two kids.(it just melted away after the first turned 1..not so lucky this time) Weight, hair, makeup is not what makes anyone beautiful. What makes moms beautiful is that we can wake up at any hour and sooth our children, we can manage to make them look perfectly cute and take them out while we have a messy pony tail and baggy sweats, we wipe tears, make laughs, act happy when we are sad, fix our kids the healthiest proportioned meals and still manage to eat like crap ourselves, we can work threw nap-time, have no sleep and still manage to get everyone up dressed and where they need to be usually without a calendar. We are the most beautiful people to our kids because we are mom, we are also the most beautiful people to our husbands because we can do what they cannot, give birth, and usually appear to have it all together. Beauty is who you are and what you do......it really has NOTHING to do with how you look. After all that is only skin deep, no one can take who you are away, looks can be taken in a heartbeat. Its a joke when I have to give my shirt size for something my response is always, "two kids later". I look in the mirror and see everything I am, everything I am capable of, and everything I will be.

Elfrieda - posted on 02/11/2011

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My son is 13 months old, and I FINALLY am back to pre-pregnancy weight. I haven't been buying new clothes this whole time, just waiting to get back in to my old ones, which are still tight around the waist, hips, and ribs. Well, I've finally accepted that I'm just a different shape than I was before, and I've gone out and gotten some new clothes. I feel way prettier now that I have some new clothes that actually fit my body.

Alecia - posted on 02/11/2011

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i just take care of myself and know that my daughter and hubby think im beautiful (and getting hit on once in awhile when i go out...that always works!!). i gained alot of weight after i had my baby cuz i just got lazy. so now ive almost lost all the weight i gained right after having her and am working on getting back to a weight i was at awhile before i got pregnant. every pound i lose makes me feel better bcuz i know its a pound closer to my goal!! and, sorry, but it annoys me to hear women complain about the last 10 lbs...when u have 80 lbs to lose, then i can understand :p

Ashley - posted on 02/11/2011

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i dont.lol i don tdo ne thing to feel pretty cuz when i do try i still find something else that i hate and i freak about that and cant feel good. my baby girl is almost 8mnths and i still got 10 to loose to where i wanna be. this weight is taking forever to come off. with my son who is 5 i lost all the weight in three months. i have already told myself that i am not wearing a bikini ever again unless i loose the pouch and the stretchmarks. my butt is toooo big and i have NO boobs. i dont fit into any clothes the right way and i refuse to buy new ones cuz they will look bad cuz new ones still wont fit the way i like things to. everyione else keeps saying you look great or whatever and i dont see it AT ALL. so i have no advice but just wanted to tell u that ur not alone.

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