Do you open gifts at a birthday party?

Mary Renee - posted on 04/30/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )





My daughter is turning 1 on the fifth of May and we're having a party for her on the seventh. My question is... do we open her gifts at the party?

As a child I remember opening my gifts at the party in front of everyone. It was part of the fun, I think, for my aunts and uncles and grandparents to see how much I liked their gift.

Naturally though as I got older, opening gifts (well, maybe even receiving gifts) fell to the wayside. And in my teen years and early pre-baby twenties, birthday parties were just an excuse to get drunk and the only gift you were like to recieve was alcohol that the gift-giver would prompty open and start drinking.

SO, at my daughter's first birthday, should she open her gifts? Or do we just thank the person before we open it and then open it later? I have no idea what the etiquette about this is as I can not remember my first birthday, haha. What do you think, Mamas? I do not have a preference one way or another, I just know I'm a bit younger than most of the other moms that will bring their kids to the party (24) and so I just want to do what is right/polite/expected!



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Jennifernider - posted on 02/17/2014




I let her try and I would help by starting it and she would open most of them but she got tired I would finish and have a friend right down who got what and if u can u can send out thank you cards or just get her to go around and hug everyone after I mean she's 1 mist people understand there lil n prob not to sure about what's going on

Nynex1969 - posted on 02/16/2014




you should open the gifts even if the baby is not up for it. hand the baby over to dad and you start opening. your guests will so appreciate it ,seeing what they gave and what others gave. everyone will be ooooing and awwwwing

Alexis - posted on 04/30/2011




I guess you can do it either way, but we open gifts while everyone is there and many times even take them out of the boxes and start playing with them if it is appropriate to do so. I had just as much fun checking out all the new toys as my son, and everyone else enjoyed it too!

Bonnie - posted on 04/30/2011




Yes I would open the gifts at the party. Do it last. That way if people don't want to stay they can leave.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/30/2011




I can't think of anything more boring than watching someone open presents for themselves. If there are too many..don't subject people to that please.

OhJessie - posted on 04/30/2011




Meh, for the sake of the kind givers, open them after the cake. They want to be appreciated, so since the baby can't, you do it for her :)

Melly - posted on 04/30/2011




When I had my sons birthday party half the guests had left before one finally came up and asked me if Liam was going to open his presents before they left. I felt horrible (I had completely forgotten about the presents, too busy running around after everyone). A good time to probably have done it was after the cake, as everyone sticks around for the cake! I know when I recently attended a friends 1st birthday party, I was dying for him to open his present that we bought him, and it was fun seeing what other things he got.
As for if it is the right/polite/expected thing to do, i don't really know, but i'm pretty sure that more people would want to have the presents opened than not.
Hope your daughter has a lovely 1st birthday :)

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