Do you think it is easy to live with toddlers when you have a newborn? I am expecting in september

Tala - posted on 07/24/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am living with my sister right now and she has a 2 and 3 year old. They dont like to eat all thier food, throw it on the ground and liek to make big messes as toddlers do. I tend to get quite stressed out cleaning up after them from time to time, thier mother does it too but I still have too at times. I am wondering if I should get a place on my own with my boyfriend in order to make it easier. I am also going to university this fall and Im worried i wont have quiet time for me or my baby>... what do u all think?

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Jackie - posted on 07/25/2009

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my oldest was 18 months when my 2nd was born, and my 3rd was born 5 days before my 2nd's 1st b-day. the first 2 are a good space apart, my oldest wasn't jealous and i let him help out whenever he can. It's only hard now because of my youngest son and my daughter, since my youngest son just started walking and he isn't quite as independent as his brother was. Actually it's easier with other kids around, both of my boys make my daughter laugh when she's crying and they bring her toys when she's in her bouncy seat. all 3 of them love each other, just be careful they don't try to pick your baby up to help you. (my oldest did that when my daughter was a month old) -- try to get them to help out as much as you can, like throwing out dirty diapers and stuff like that, it makes them feel like their helping and doing things big kids do.
don't worry about the noise, you'll be thankful for it, my kids can sleep through anything so no one has to be quiet or whisper or tip-toe around the house and that makes it easier too.
One thing I have learned is not freak out when kids make a mess, it doesn't do anything but make you a spaz and you would be doing nothing but cleaning all the time. Especially when you bring your baby home, you'll really be too tired to care. you just have to focus on loving your kids and playing with them, cleaning can wait, kids getting dirty isn't going to kill them and I'm not saying live in a pig pen, but there's a difference between ridiculously clean and lived in. The only time your house will be ridiculously clean is when the kids are asleep and 10 mins after they get up it looks like you didn't do a thing.

Savannah - posted on 07/24/2009

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well, it isn't quite as bad as you would think but it can be a little stressful and aggravating, especially if they are not your kids.

If you can afford to move out and live with your boyfriend you should do that, simply because you can be your own little unit and you won't have to stress about cleaning up after your sisters kids. I have 2 toddlers myself and am due in October.. but I can't ship them off! lol.

I know that I would not be able to deal with other people's children while I have a newborn. But then again, I'm not much of a kid person. I love my kids but am very uncomfortable around other people's kids.

Good luck with your decision! either way I'm sure it will work out just fine.

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Jessica - posted on 07/25/2009

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After I had my first child I waited until she was 2 before I Started doing in home daycare and I enjoyed the other children but once I got pregnant last summer I only lasted a few months having to clean up after other children while I was pregnant so your doing better then me in that department. If it were me I would want to have my own place, because right after I had both of my children I was like a tiger I was so protective. But I think you will figure out a way for the quite time you are wanting I did it just took a week or so! Congrats and good luck!

Tala - posted on 07/25/2009

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Right on Ladies thanks for your advice! I still am contemplating because the extra rent help will really boost my security because me and my boyfriend are both attending university and my sister doesnt start school until november so she would babysit she said while in class. I also am considering how she would be able to help with the baby in the beginning because me and him are gona be so stressed with everything else plus a new baby its his first as well. I just want to know if I will have enough quiet time to keep my baby sleeping when needed and when i need naps and when i need to study and do my work. Hmmmm

Tiffany - posted on 07/24/2009

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i had a 4 an 5 yr old when i had my baby and it was actually not as hard as i thought it would be, they love trying to hel out with their sister and play with her, you just have to watch carefully

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