do you think its okay to whipp your kids?

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Chelsea - posted on 10/01/2009

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Child abuse is NEVER the answer. Come here so I can whip you. See how you like it.
Since when is violence ever the answer? Would it be okay for me to hit you if you were doing something wrong? Talking helps too. Try it. I personally think youre a horrible mom for doing this.












First of all, this is a really controversial topic, and I think that everyone is entitled to their opinion and if you do not respect someone else opinion you should not join the conversation. I think attacking someones ability to be a mother is wrong especially when Kyra never said she was whipping her child, she was just asking other people 's opinion on the matter.












This said, I do not think whipping is conducive to improving your child's behaviour. My mum used to whip us, and by the time I was older I was so immune to it that I would stick my bum out at her and dare her to do it!
When my son acts up I put him in his cot for a minute or so, and then if he continues I will try other methods. My last resort is to give him a slap on the back of the hand, not to hurt, just to shock. My son is only 15 months so I haven't gotten to the really cheeky stage, but I don't think that whipping will help me discipline him.










 















What opinion? That the only way is to whip her child? This is my opinion. Tough shit. There is a fine line between corporal punishment and child abuse, and she has more than definitely crossed it! I hear of a young child being whipped by her mom my first thought is " WHAT A HORRIBLE MOTHER" and then I cuddle my child while trying not to cry imagining the horror that child must be facing with a bitch mother like that. I dont know about you but child abuse is something I feel very strongly about. I see cases every day and this falls right into one of those cases. Its only a matter of time. She should have her kids taken away. I stand by what I said earlier and stand by what i say now. If she didnt want opinions of others she shouldnt have posted her story of abuse for all of  the internet to bare witness to! Oh and go back and read she has stated more than once that she does in fact whip her little girl;!!!!! &(*&^^%&






EDIT TO ADD
Abortion is controversial, vaccine are controversial, whipping your child is not controversial. Its wrong! Child abuse is illegal for a reason. To help protect these young ones that hold our future. They have made it so racing horses cant be whipped anymore, think about it?








Dude, harden the F up man,,, you wanna cry about people whipping their kids? there are far more worthy crimes deserving of your tears. is whipping wrong, well apparently these days it is, i think its the law or somehting,t hat you can only hit your child with an open palm or something?








does whipping your kids lead to furhter abuse, maybe sometimes, but thats just the same as does smoking lead to drug adiction, maybe sometimes... but not all the time, and you don't get you ciggarettes taken away just cause they COULD lead you to drug abuse do u. There are plenty of junkies out their raising kids and giving them a shit start to life. lets focus out attentions on them instead of someone who whips their child shall we?








people abuse their children all the time, and most of the time it's mental abuse. my parents hit me man, but they were never bad parents. i was a naughty as hell kid. and maybe when you have a little turd for a child instead of the angels everyone claims they are, you will considder the whip too. hell i'm glad my son is nothing like me cause i was an absolute rat bag!








 









Harden the fuck up? Im sorry if I find it absoluelty horrible that someone whips their 22 months old baby! How could YOU not????Yes i have a daughter who is 2 and a half shes is a shit head, not an angel but I sure as hell do not WHIP her! I try talking and time outs. Hey it works! I dont lash out. I do not think hitting is the proper way to teach a child. Let alone whipping. Yes there are many other cases out there but this is right in front of me. Just because the child isnt dead yet doesnt mean I cannot feel for her. I would tell any mother if I thought what she was doing was abuse and I have not hesitated in the past and I certainly will not now.





Wow you get the mother of the year award! You will not spank a child on the butt but you are just content with verbal abuse not aren't you calling your child a shit head what is wrong with you?

Tara - posted on 09/30/2009

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Child abuse is NEVER the answer. Come here so I can whip you. See how you like it.

Since when is violence ever the answer? Would it be okay for me to hit you if you were doing something wrong? Talking helps too. Try it. I personally think youre a horrible mom for doing this.

Jenny - posted on 10/04/2009

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Oh my goodness! I hate to sound harsh, but for the mothers who hit their children and make them fear their own parents... You should all be ashamed for advertising that you abuse your children, especially on Facebook. I know I probably shouldn't be so blunt, but this subject is hard to ignore. I think alot of you are getting abuse and discipline mixed up. If you don't have the patience to be consistent in putting your child in timeout (which does work wondefully) I don't think you should have children. It seems that some of you are looking for a shortcut to dealing with you child by hitting them, but in the end your child is going to experience more problems later on e.g: low self esteem, no confidence, socializing issues etc... Which will just make your job as a parent harder. I remember how I felt when I was hit as a child, and I would never want my kids to experience that hurt and pain, not just physical pain, but mental as well.


Harsh...no you werent harsh you were down right mean. These woman have said that there is a difference between abuse and swatting or spanking their children for you to put out there that "you dont think they should have children" it has nothing to do with running out of patience it has to do with the fact that the time out method....will not work for all children. I was hit as a child and I am far from having a low self esteem...and I have plenty of confidence and I do not have any trouble with socializing, so you shouldnt put out there that their children will have low self esteem and no confidence just because you are that way. So are you saying that your parents shouldnt have had you because they chose to use hitting as discipline?  I think that you are the one getting abuse and discipline mixed up. Swatting or hitting a child because they are doing something wrong after being told several times not to do it is not abuse..It is the parents way of parenting and we should not sit here and tell other mothers that they are bad parents or that they shouldnt have had their children. Im sure that you wouldnt like it very much if someone said that to you....so why would you say it to other mothers. I get that this issue comes with a lot of controversies....but you can state your opinion without calling other mothers bad parents.

Erica - posted on 10/04/2009

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Yes, I think kids need discipline. They need to learn right from wrong at an early age. It will make life alot easier on the parents when the child gets older. I also think that it depends on the child because spanking doesn't work on all children. Some children respond better to time outs.

Serena - posted on 10/03/2009

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As a mother, I feel that the very 1st step to diciplining your child when they are in the wrong would be to tell them not to or that it was wrong to do it and explain to them why....next if they dont listen put them in time out a few times ...then if that doesnt work a spank on the bottom ( no where else) but there is a FINE line to a spank and abuse for it takes a LOT of force to leave a bruise so if there's bruising you have gone too far. I have a soon to be three year old and I use this three step diciplinary action which 9out of 10 times we dont even make it to the 3rd step before he listens but I have not once left a mark on his bottom from spanking. Also if they are older or if spanking doesnt work give them a punishment like no tv....no outside....yardwork...etc. Give them something to do that they dont like. That is my opinion on the matter.

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Kylie - posted on 10/04/2009

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Hey everyone, thank you for contributing to this thread and being civil for the most part….we’ve had a good go of discussing out this topic but to stop any further back and forth bickering this thread will now be locked.

Deborah - posted on 10/04/2009

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I think it depends on the severity of the act the child has done. I dont think smacking a child because they dont like something isnt right. I think there has to be a medium where you have to say is this a smackable offence as such. Other wise i think people take things out of context and it becomes a way of releiving your frustration. Maybe you should try disiplining the child by taking away things they enjoy and not just for 5 mins you have to make it stick and go through with what you say otherwise they will just keep doing it. Remember you are the boss and at the end of the day perserverence with what you are saying or doing is what is going to get you the furtherest. :)

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I can't say I do, but yes, I have wacked their bottoms and hands before. When I caught my son playing with a lit candle, I smaked his hand. When he ran into the road, I smacked his but. Not hard, but just enough to get his attention. It hurt me much more than it did him. I don't touch them when its simple things such as back talk, or not listening, but when it's something that can cause harm to them....yes, I most def do!!

Cristi - posted on 10/04/2009

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I think that it is ok to spank your child. There is a big difference in spanking and beating a child. If u r so mad then just sent them to there room. I spank my children and I tried time out, taking things away, talking to them but nothing worked so that was my last resort but it has worked.

Cassidy - posted on 10/04/2009

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There is a nerve that goes from a child bottom to their brain. I they did something wrong and you swat that nerve it sends a message to their brain to not do it again. I was spanked as a child and I have spanked my kids. I don't like doing it but only when it's necessary.

Shertandra - posted on 10/04/2009

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I grew up with my mother hitting me also but it depends in the manner that you do it. if you do it when you are mad then thats a different story. A grown person should know what and what not to do and how and how not to hit a child. my kids dont get whippins everyday because i rarely have to resort to that becasue they know that i mean business. you learn from the way you grew up and you try to teach your kids a better way of life.

Maryann - posted on 10/04/2009

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No, there are other methods!!! Time out, take away fav. toys or privlages... That is only teaching your child to use violence.. You'd be surprised how much your child absorbes off of you, they may not show it right away, but down the line it will show eventually. I grew up getting hit!!! I know the impact... I'd never raise a hand to my child..

Shertandra - posted on 10/04/2009

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i think its okay to whip your child because i whip my kids. the only thing is i usually give them a warning and let them know that they are doing wrong. The only time i dont give a warning is when they are doing something that they know they shouldnt do but they do it bacause they want to and they dont care. Alot of people confuse whipping with beating. htting them on the butt is not beating them, thats giving them a whippin. now if you are hitting them on their arms and back and that then yes that is beating.

Shakia - posted on 10/04/2009

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i think it is ok to whipp your kids. A whipping is just like a spanking just depends on where you live to show how u say it. Kids need to know when they have crossed the line. I do not beleive you should do this for every little thing they do, but for the big stuff yes. I got my butt whipped many of times and I am just fine.

Sky - posted on 10/04/2009

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Depends on how harsh of a whipp you are talking about really. A smack on the back of the hand, or on the butt yes. but to whipp a kid with a belt or other objects like we used to, i dont think it's needed. But again to each their own right??



No, its never okay to use a weapon on your child.

Brodie - posted on 10/04/2009

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Depends on how harsh of a whipp you are talking about really. A smack on the back of the hand, or on the butt yes. but to whipp a kid with a belt or other objects like we used to, i dont think it's needed. But again to each their own right??

Jennifer - posted on 10/04/2009

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I was beaten severely as a child myself! That's why I don't spank if I am angry! We believe differently is all! I do believe in a pop! But that's me! Your you and that's why were both different! It's all good!

Kimberly - posted on 10/04/2009

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i just spank my lil man on his hand tell him no and turn him around the other way so he wont get n2 4 awhile

Amy - posted on 10/04/2009

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I agree with Stevie, there is a huge difference between spanking and beating - spanking, I think is okay if it's not too excessive - that's when you're crossing the line into beating - does that make sense?

Sky - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Erika:

Thank You Ladies! I learned a lot from debating with this issue but in the end it is my child.........not yours.



Very true.

Melinda - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Erika:

Thank You Ladies! I learned a lot from debating with this issue but in the end it is my child.........not yours.


Agreed.

Erika - posted on 10/04/2009

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Thank You Ladies! I learned a lot from debating with this issue but in the end it is my child.........not yours.

Melinda - posted on 10/04/2009

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I personally could not whipp my children, i talk to them and tell them wat they did was wrong and why its wrong and sense i have always respected them and there space they dont want to lose the respect i have for them


Holy crap it's another intelligent woman! =^)

Laura - posted on 10/04/2009

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I personally could not whipp my children, i talk to them and tell them wat they did was wrong and why its wrong and sense i have always respected them and there space they dont want to lose the respect i have for them

Melinda - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Jamie:



Quoting Melinda :




Quoting Natasha:

These kids now days are nothing lie we use to be. I really believe in that old saying spare the rod spoil the child an these kids will embrass you now days an I am not going







Okay this is were ignorance comes into play that you are going to go by one quote from the bible that was written 1000's of years ago. PLEASE.








If you read it carefully you will see that it can be interpreted in two different ways.








I have read the bible, and just like everything else I believe it has exaggerations in it like every other story book does. I don't take everything in it LITERAL. It has a set of values that we can learn from but just remember you have a brain to know right from wrong.









If you look back in the original Hebrew language you will see this never meant hitting a child.  http://parentingfreedom.com/discipline/. It's not to be taken as it seems.





Bravo! =^)

Sky - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Erika:



Quoting Natasha:

These kids now days are nothing lie we use to be. I really believe in that old saying spare the rod spoil the child an these kids will embrass you now days an I am not going





Exactly! The kids now a days are more disrespectful and don't have any manners. I hear kids saying to their parents FU mom and shoving them in supermarkets. It's crazy.






I also see parents beat their children because they reach for something they like.. hello! of course.  I seen a women hand her toddler a pack of paper plates to hold, when he accidentally dropped them, she smacked him... Its DISGUSTING.

Melinda - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Jamie:



Quoting Melinda :




Quoting Natasha:

These kids now days are nothing lie we use to be. I really believe in that old saying spare the rod spoil the child an these kids will embrass you now days an I am not going







Okay this is were ignorance comes into play that you are going to go by one quote from the bible that was written 1000's of years ago. PLEASE.








If you read it carefully you will see that it can be interpreted in two different ways.








I have read the bible, and just like everything else I believe it has exaggerations in it like every other story book does. I don't take everything in it LITERAL. It has a set of values that we can learn from but just remember you have a brain to know right from wrong.









If you look back in the original Hebrew language you will see this never meant hitting a child.  http://parentingfreedom.com/discipline/. It's not to be taken as it seems.





Bravo! =^)

Melinda - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Erika:



Quoting Natasha:

These kids now days are nothing lie we use to be. I really believe in that old saying spare the rod spoil the child an these kids will embrass you now days an I am not going





Exactly! The kids now a days are more disrespectful and don't have any manners. I hear kids saying to their parents FU mom and shoving them in supermarkets. It's crazy.





Yeah it's not because the parents raised them crappy or didn't teach them values, its because they didn't spank them! Why didn't I think of that! *eye roll lol* =^)

Jamie - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Melinda :



Quoting Natasha:

These kids now days are nothing lie we use to be. I really believe in that old saying spare the rod spoil the child an these kids will embrass you now days an I am not going





Okay this is were ignorance comes into play that you are going to go by one quote from the bible that was written 1000's of years ago. PLEASE.






If you read it carefully you will see that it can be interpreted in two different ways.






I have read the bible, and just like everything else I believe it has exaggerations in it like every other story book does. I don't take everything in it LITERAL. It has a set of values that we can learn from but just remember you have a brain to know right from wrong.





If you look back in the original Hebrew language you will see this never meant hitting a child.  http://parentingfreedom.com/discipline/. It's not to be taken as it seems.

Tenesha - posted on 10/04/2009

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i think whipping/spanking is perfectly when its needed i dont agree with beating a child though...as far as sendinh a child to his rm or time out i personally dont think it wrks as well if i was put in time out for 10 mins everytime i did something bad i wouldve always done bad things knowing only ten mins of my day gone was all that i would get


 

Sky - posted on 10/04/2009

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Why do people have so little faith in their children?



Do all of you honestly believe they can only learn through violence?

Sky - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Melinda :



Quoting Natasha:

These kids now days are nothing lie we use to be. I really believe in that old saying spare the rod spoil the child an these kids will embrass you now days an I am not going





Okay this is were ignorance comes into play that you are going to go by one quote from the bible that was written 1000's of years ago. PLEASE.






If you read it carefully you will see that it can be interpreted in two different ways.






I have read the bible, and just like everything else I believe it has exaggerations in it like every other story book does. I don't take everything in it LITERAL. It has a set of values that we can learn from but just remember you have a brain to know right from wrong.





Exactly!!!!!! THANK YOU..

Sky - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Natasha:

These kids now days are nothing lie we use to be. I really believe in that old saying spare the rod spoil the child an these kids will embrass you now days an I am not going



What?

Erika - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Natasha:

These kids now days are nothing lie we use to be. I really believe in that old saying spare the rod spoil the child an these kids will embrass you now days an I am not going


Exactly! The kids now a days are more disrespectful and don't have any manners. I hear kids saying to their parents FU mom and shoving them in supermarkets. It's crazy.

Lacey - posted on 10/04/2009

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i think its okay to spank for discipline reasons, just not too hard. my husband said his parents would whip him with a belt when he was a kid..ya..that is NOT okay!!!

Melinda - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Natasha:

These kids now days are nothing lie we use to be. I really believe in that old saying spare the rod spoil the child an these kids will embrass you now days an I am not going


Okay this is were ignorance comes into play that you are going to go by one quote from the bible that was written 1000's of years ago. PLEASE.



If you read it carefully you will see that it can be interpreted in two different ways.



I have read the bible, and just like everything else I believe it has exaggerations in it like every other story book does. I don't take everything in it LITERAL. It has a set of values that we can learn from but just remember you have a brain to know right from wrong.

Erika - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Amber:



Quoting Erika:




Quoting Amber:

Oh my goodness! I hate to sound harsh, but for the mothers who hit their children and make them fear their own parents... You should all be ashamed for advertising that you abuse your children, especially on Facebook. I know I probably shouldn't be so blunt, but this subject is hard to ignore. I think alot of you are getting abuse and discipline mixed up. If you don't have the patience to be consistent in putting your child in timeout (which does work wondefully) I don't think you should have children. It seems that some of you are looking for a shortcut to dealing with you child by hitting them, but in the end your child is going to experience more problems later on e.g: low self esteem, no confidence, socializing issues etc... Which will just make your job as a parent harder. I remember how I felt when I was hit as a child, and I would never want my kids to experience that hurt and pain, not just physical pain, but mental as well.







You're getting the mothers on here all wrong. No way are we saying that it is ok to abuse your children. We are saying that if every other option doesn't work then Yes a parent has every right to spank their child.  We are not saying starve them to death or put them in a closet which is abuse...We are just saying spanking is ok. If you don't agree with spanking then just write that and go about your day but don't come on here and say that we are all wrong because you have a different opinion.This question was to post your opinion and that's all.  So who are you to say that we shouldn't have children if we don't have the patience. Every mother at one point loses patience and that doesn't mean she goes and abuses her child that just means she is human. You'd be lying if you said that you never lose your patience and you live a perfect life. So please get away from Candy Land and get back to reality.









I dont believe I am getting any of you wrong. You say "spanking" your child as if its not hurting him/her.. I am not a perfect mother, I do get overwhelmed at times and raise my voice, but I am filled with guilt after doing so. I can't imagine how parents can hit their kids and think It's okay. I don't know where you live, but in alot of different countries spanking is illegal, so for you to say "Yes a parent has every right to spank their child." I beg everyone to void that, because it is absolutely false. Just to prove my point I copied a piece of an article I found online:






"There are some countries where physical discipline is illegal and some states in the United States where it might become illegal. Although this was once the most popular way to discipline a child it no longer is. That is because research shows spanking is not the most effective discipline tool not to mention that it is too easy to take spanking too far."






So Erika I suggest you look up some of the other EFFECTIVE ways to discipline your child, rather then using one of the most LEAST effective ways. Another comment I would like to reply to is that I am no where near "Candy Land" I am just thinking reality, and the reality is that you should not spank your child. You might want to find out if spanking is illegal where you live, because if I was social services and I seen the comments that alot of mothers are posting, including yourself. I would definetly be knocking at your door.





Another thing I never said that spanking was my first option so go back miss know it all and check my other posts. I said that when all else fails then do spanking. One or two pops is nothing. Most of the time they don't feel it behind their clothes, but they do know that they did something wrong when you do it. Plus I overheard a cop the other day saying to a neighbor if your child misbehaves then you have the right to spank them with your hands but nothing else just your hands. So don't tell me it's illegal. Plus the kids now a days are getting worse with their behavioral problems and most of the time is because parents don't do anything because they are afraid but those are the very same parents who are getting emotionally abused and physically abused by their own children.

Amberly - posted on 10/04/2009

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Like I said, I hate to be blunt and harsh, but really... this subject is just so hard to ignore, but I will let you carry on advertising to the world that you hit your child, oh wait sorry... spank (there is really no difference what so ever) and kudos to all the awsome mommies out there who take pride in raising their children the right way!

Melinda - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Erika:

Once again...If you don't believe in spanking then that's fine but don't persecute those who do spank their kids and are successful with it. This post was just to state your opinion and that's it. If you don't like it then please do us all a favor and don't log on!


If you can't handle other people feeling strongly about their opinions, then perhaps you shouldn't log on at all either!



Just remember it's okay to be passionate about something you believe in. As long as you present it in the most classy way you know how to.



Debating is what it's all about, you have to take the good with the bad and accept sometimes others will come on stronger than some.

Natasha - posted on 10/04/2009

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These kids now days are nothing lie we use to be. I really believe in that old saying spare the rod spoil the child an these kids will embrass you now days an I am not going

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Whip your kids, no. But give them a spanking when it is needed like them disobeying you on purpose or doing something very wrong is okay. I think there is a very distinct line between beating your child and spanking them. My fiance and I take their hands and smack the back sides of them if they do something deliberately wrong. This is not our ONLY form of punishment, this is usually our 'red light' and last option. My fiance and I had made a rule about spanking and try to enforce this with other parents we know: If you are angry, you can not spank the child even if they have done wrong. If you are angry, then you are not trying to discipline, you are just venting out abusively toward the child.



I agree that there are many other ways to discipline a child, but every parent is different and raises their children different. Some children will not respond to any other forms of discipline, I have seen it. There are children out there who were never disciplined (not just in the form of spanking, I mean any form of discipline) and have grown into young adults who have no respect at all. I think that is the bigger issue is when children aren't disciplined in any manor and then grow up not knowing right from wrong, thinking they can do what ever they wish and that there will be no consequences for their actions.

Erika - posted on 10/04/2009

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Once again...If you don't believe in spanking then that's fine but don't persecute those who do spank their kids and are successful with it. This post was just to state your opinion and that's it. If you don't like it then please do us all a favor and don't log on!

Amberly - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Erika:



Quoting Amber:

Oh my goodness! I hate to sound harsh, but for the mothers who hit their children and make them fear their own parents... You should all be ashamed for advertising that you abuse your children, especially on Facebook. I know I probably shouldn't be so blunt, but this subject is hard to ignore. I think alot of you are getting abuse and discipline mixed up. If you don't have the patience to be consistent in putting your child in timeout (which does work wondefully) I don't think you should have children. It seems that some of you are looking for a shortcut to dealing with you child by hitting them, but in the end your child is going to experience more problems later on e.g: low self esteem, no confidence, socializing issues etc... Which will just make your job as a parent harder. I remember how I felt when I was hit as a child, and I would never want my kids to experience that hurt and pain, not just physical pain, but mental as well.





You're getting the mothers on here all wrong. No way are we saying that it is ok to abuse your children. We are saying that if every other option doesn't work then Yes a parent has every right to spank their child.  We are not saying starve them to death or put them in a closet which is abuse...We are just saying spanking is ok. If you don't agree with spanking then just write that and go about your day but don't come on here and say that we are all wrong because you have a different opinion.This question was to post your opinion and that's all.  So who are you to say that we shouldn't have children if we don't have the patience. Every mother at one point loses patience and that doesn't mean she goes and abuses her child that just means she is human. You'd be lying if you said that you never lose your patience and you live a perfect life. So please get away from Candy Land and get back to reality.





I dont believe I am getting any of you wrong. You say "spanking" your child as if its not hurting him/her.. I am not a perfect mother, I do get overwhelmed at times and raise my voice, but I am filled with guilt after doing so. I can't imagine how parents can hit their kids and think It's okay. I don't know where you live, but in alot of different countries spanking is illegal, so for you to say "Yes a parent has every right to spank their child." I beg everyone to void that, because it is absolutely false. Just to prove my point I copied a piece of an article I found online:



"There are some countries where physical discipline is illegal and some states in the United States where it might become illegal. Although this was once the most popular way to discipline a child it no longer is. That is because research shows spanking is not the most effective discipline tool not to mention that it is too easy to take spanking too far."



So Erika I suggest you look up some of the other EFFECTIVE ways to discipline your child, rather then using one of the most LEAST effective ways. Another comment I would like to reply to is that I am no where near "Candy Land" I am just thinking reality, and the reality is that you should not spank your child. You might want to find out if spanking is illegal where you live, because if I was social services and I seen the comments that alot of mothers are posting, including yourself. I would definetly be knocking at your door.

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Quoting Jennifer:

I believe in spanking a child! I believe it needs to be done before your angry! I don't mean beating your kids! I am completely against anything like that! I pop or two is not a bad thing though! Just my opinion!


Well it is hard to quit an old habit you learned from your parents or so forth. I was beaten badly as a child and I have a little girl of my own and I don't have to "Pop" her to get my message across or my anger out. I can firmly and calmly assert my discipline to her. No matter how you look at it, hitting your child in any way is out of anger. This can not be denied.

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I believe in spanking a child! I believe it needs to be done before your angry! I don't mean beating your kids! I am completely against anything like that! I pop or two is not a bad thing though! Just my opinion!

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Oh my goodness! I hate to sound harsh, but for the mothers who hit their children and make them fear their own parents... You should all be ashamed for advertising that you abuse your children, especially on Facebook. I know I probably shouldn't be so blunt, but this subject is hard to ignore. I think alot of you are getting abuse and discipline mixed up. If you don't have the patience to be consistent in putting your child in timeout (which does work wondefully) I don't think you should have children. It seems that some of you are looking for a shortcut to dealing with you child by hitting them, but in the end your child is going to experience more problems later on e.g: low self esteem, no confidence, socializing issues etc... Which will just make your job as a parent harder. I remember how I felt when I was hit as a child, and I would never want my kids to experience that hurt and pain, not just physical pain, but mental as well.



Exactly there is no need for physical punishment.

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Quoting Cassie:



Quoting Erika:

Growing up my parents disciplined me physically and not my sister. I moved out when I was 20yrs old and now I have my own house, my own car, I go to church with my husband and son, but yet my sister (who never got a whipping in her life) still lives at home at the age of 25 with her two kids, unwed and with her second babies father. She curses at my parents constantly and mooches off of them. So you tell me if whipping your child is good or not? I believe it is.





Thats what I'm talking about! Those are some results right there!






NO thats ignorance. They probably didn't disipline her AT ALL or follow through with what they said.

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Quoting Erika:

Growing up my parents disciplined me physically and not my sister. I moved out when I was 20yrs old and now I have my own house, my own car, I go to church with my husband and son, but yet my sister (who never got a whipping in her life) still lives at home at the age of 25 with her two kids, unwed and with her second babies father. She curses at my parents constantly and mooches off of them. So you tell me if whipping your child is good or not? I believe it is.



 Funny.. I was NEVER physically "disiplined" and my bother was.  I have a husband, a house, a car, a beatiful baby boy, and college education.



 My brother has been to jail many times, has no car and lost his license, no job, takes drugs, lives with my mother at 24, dropped out of highschool, and is always borrowing money from people...

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I think spanking on the butt is ok sometimes kids need that in order to listen. i tried the time out and go to ur room to my 3 yr old and he still acts up so i think spanking on the butt is ok.

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This is a very big issue around the world. I believe in spanking along with a proper scolding. To explain to them as to why they are being spanked. Sending kids to their rooms or timeouts are a waste of time in my book. It might work for some families but for the majority of families that I know it does not work. Taking their prized possessions also works in some situations. My son has lost all his toys. He has not a single toy in his room. Now he has to earn them back. It's a struggle, especially in this generation, they are so freaking smart and they know how to work around punishments. We all love our babies though, we do the best we can.

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I think that its ok to spank your child only if you let them know what you are spanking them for and they understand the reason. But I believe that you should also give them some type of punishment to follow-up on the spanking to let them understand that this is something they are never to do no matter what goes on. But don't spank them for ever thing just major things.

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Quoting Amber:

Oh my goodness! I hate to sound harsh, but for the mothers who hit their children and make them fear their own parents... You should all be ashamed for advertising that you abuse your children, especially on Facebook. I know I probably shouldn't be so blunt, but this subject is hard to ignore. I think alot of you are getting abuse and discipline mixed up. If you don't have the patience to be consistent in putting your child in timeout (which does work wondefully) I don't think you should have children. It seems that some of you are looking for a shortcut to dealing with you child by hitting them, but in the end your child is going to experience more problems later on e.g: low self esteem, no confidence, socializing issues etc... Which will just make your job as a parent harder. I remember how I felt when I was hit as a child, and I would never want my kids to experience that hurt and pain, not just physical pain, but mental as well.


You're getting the mothers on here all wrong. No way are we saying that it is ok to abuse your children. We are saying that if every other option doesn't work then Yes a parent has every right to spank their child.  We are not saying starve them to death or put them in a closet which is abuse...We are just saying spanking is ok. If you don't agree with spanking then just write that and go about your day but don't come on here and say that we are all wrong because you have a different opinion.This question was to post your opinion and that's all.  So who are you to say that we shouldn't have children if we don't have the patience. Every mother at one point loses patience and that doesn't mean she goes and abuses her child that just means she is human. You'd be lying if you said that you never lose your patience and you live a perfect life. So please get away from Candy Land and get back to reality.

Erika - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Amber:

Oh my goodness! I hate to sound harsh, but for the mothers who hit their children and make them fear their own parents... You should all be ashamed for advertising that you abuse your children, especially on Facebook. I know I probably shouldn't be so blunt, but this subject is hard to ignore. I think alot of you are getting abuse and discipline mixed up. If you don't have the patience to be consistent in putting your child in timeout (which does work wondefully) I don't think you should have children. It seems that some of you are looking for a shortcut to dealing with you child by hitting them, but in the end your child is going to experience more problems later on e.g: low self esteem, no confidence, socializing issues etc... Which will just make your job as a parent harder. I remember how I felt when I was hit as a child, and I would never want my kids to experience that hurt and pain, not just physical pain, but mental as well.


You're getting the mothers on here all wrong. No way are we saying that it is ok to abuse your children. We are saying that if every other option doesn't work then Yes a parent has every right to spank their child.  We are not saying starve them to death or put them in a closet which is abuse...We are just saying spanking is ok. If you don't agree with spanking then just write that and go about your day but don't come on here and say that we are all wrong because you have a different opinion.This question was to post your opinion and that's all.  So who are you to say that we shouldn't have children if we don't have the patience. Every mother at one point loses patience and that doesn't mean she goes and abuses her child that just means she is human. You'd be lying if you said that you never lose your patience and you live a perfect life. So please get away from Candy Land and get back to reality.

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