does a one year old know what no means?my daughter laughs at me if i tell her no

Jenny - posted on 11/16/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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How do i make my one year old listen to me when i say no.All she seems to do is laugh.Also how do i stop her temper tantrums she has when she doesnt get her own way

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Christina - posted on 11/18/2012

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Rather than using "no", focus on what you want her to do. For example, instead of saying no when she is touching the TV, say "hands off the TV" and then direct her to something that you want her to do, such as play with a toy, look at a book, etc. If she keeps returning to the "forbidden" object or activity it may be attention seeking behavior and so you would want to distract her to desired behavior as quickly as possible and then praise the appropriate behavior. The goal is to continue to focus on and attend to what you want her to do As far as the temper tantrums first offer empathy, for example "you wanted to play with TV remote and are frustrated that I took it away" then offer 2 positive choices "you can have this toy or this toy which would you like?" It can also be very effective to just ignore tantrums if the child is in a safe place-calmly turn your back or walk away. As soon as she is finished with the tantrum acknowledge that she was upset and praise that she was able to calm herself. You definitely do not want to give in to a tantrum as that just reinforces that behavior and will lead to more tantrums. It will take time to get into this habit as it is very different than the way most of us were raised, but it is very effective and empowering for the child when they realize they are being understood and are allowed to make positive choices.

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Linda - posted on 11/21/2012

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No means no every time say it like you mean it, then move her away from what ever she is doing every time ....I have a 11mo.old grandson it takes a few times but she will catch on. As for as tantrums ignore her. As soon as she realizes you aren't going to respond she will stop it.

Tenisha - posted on 11/20/2012

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I Thought I was the only one having this issue. My son will be 13mos in a few days and he laughs when I say no as well and he runs always thinking we are playin a game of some sort. Thanks for all these helpful ideas I will be using asap

Lindsey - posted on 11/19/2012

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It does indeed seem that she knows the basic concept but not what to do. Showing her over and over and over again helps tons. Consistency here it totally key. No always has to mean "No".

Jenny - posted on 11/19/2012

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Hi guys, thankyou so much for your comments.they are very helpful i do try to use a firm voice when telling her no.Sometimes she does stop in her tracks when i say no but then just ontinues with what it was she was doing straight afterwards.

Sarah - posted on 11/16/2012

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She is learning the word "no". When you say "no" make it is a firm voice. Many times you will also want to follow through with a redirection or taking the toy away (if the no was geared towards a toy). Sometimes you will have to use your judgement as to if going over and redirecting will be the right call. For example when my daughter was between 12 and 15 months old she thought it was a game if I said "no" and then went to go towards her. She would laugh and giggle and run the other way......she thought it was a game of catch. So sometimes I would just say "no" in a firm voice. Sometimes I would hold her hands for about 30 seconds or so when I said "no"....she did not like this.



For the tantrums I would just ignore them. Make sure she is safe and then just walk away. Sometimes redirecting works here too. At 1 yrs old their attention span is short, so usually this means you can get them distracted with something else. I would not use this all the time though. Sometimes "no" is "no" and they just need to throw their fit and learn that fits are not going to get them what they want.

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