Does anyone else have a significant other that you feel does nothing while you do it ALL???

User - posted on 10/04/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I love my boyfriend Mike more than anything in this world, and I know that he loves our 10 month old to death but I feel like he does not help me nearly enough. I work full time, am getting my master's degree online, take care of the house, cook dinner, and take care of our son. There are nights that he comes home and lays in bed and watches tv while I cook dinner, make bottles, and clean the house. I then have to stay awake until 1 in the morning to do my school work and get up several times a night with the baby. I arrange babysitters, go to doctors appointments and playdates. He does nothing. I feel like I am Ayven's only parents and Mike is his playmate for 20 minutes an evening. I tell my friends how I feel and they act like this is normal and that it is how all men are, but honestly I am getting tired of it. I have talked to him about helping me more and he will just get mad or he will say he will help but he never does. I don't want to leave him but I don't need another child to take care of right now and I feel like he is just someone else to clean up after. Does anyone else feel like this? I hate thinking that he is so bad when maybe this is just normal. i need a little advice.....

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Audrey - posted on 10/04/2009

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Same here! I am a stay at home mom, so my hubby thinks everything 'home' related is my job... I agree some of it is, since I'm home during the day. But that time is also spent cleaning, cooking, and nursing the baby. I've mentioned lots of times that he comes home from work, and his day is done...he sits and plays video games, watches tv while I watch the baby and cook dinner. When does my day end? How about when we can get someone to babysit? lol I don't want to tell you it's normal, but I am going through the same thing!

Carrie - posted on 10/04/2009

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Yes this is ver normal!! I am going through the same thing! I am a stay at home mom and have 5 kids!! My youngest ones are 2 years old and 6 months old. We get into fights about once a week about how he needs to help out more. I am also attending school online to obtain my bachelors in legal studies. I know it is hard but you need to decide what you want to do and what would make you happy! If you feel that you would be better off as a single mom tell him that and maybe he will start to help! That is what I had to do and now he helps out more than he used to but not as much as I would like!! Good Luck!

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