Does anyone else have an EXTREMELY controlling MIL? How do I put her in her place? Nothing I've tried is working!

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Patricia - posted on 11/05/2012

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HELLO, MY MOM IS THAT WAY TO MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE TO SHEILD HIM FROM HER.....MOM DOSET MEAN ANY HARM,ITS JUST THE WAY SHE IS....ITS FUSTRATING TO MY HUSAND,SO I FIND A NICE WAY OF EXPRESSING THIS TO MY MOM,AND SOMETIMES MY DAD HELPS ME IN THIS, AS NOT TO GET HER PISSED AT US .....BUT WE GENTLY,CALMLY ASK HER TO TONE IT DOWN,THAT IT MAKES HIM UNCOMFORTABLE,AND UNEASY,ANDE HE IS A BIG GUY WHO DOSENT NEED TO BE CONTROLLED IN MOST SITTUATIONS EVERY TIME WE GO OVER TO LEND A HAND AROUND THERE PROPERTY..T.HAT WE DONT NEED HER TO TELL US HOW TO PAYOUR BILLS OR HOLD OUR MONEY FOR US,AND WHEN TO DO THINGS,ALSO HER WAY NOT OUR OWN,OR WE ARE WRONG FOR NOT LISTENING,THE LIST,.... CAN GO ON....IM 42&HUBBY IS 40 SO YEAH ,I UNDERSTAND,BUT I JUST KEEP REMINDING HER WHEN SHE STARTS TO DO IT AGAIN,USUALLY WORKS...IF HIS MOM,DOES IT TO ME HE SHEILDS ME...GOOD LUCK

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Candace - posted on 11/04/2012

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I've had to deal with this situation. Try having your husband talk to her because I've learned from experience that if the husband isn't saying anything to put her in her place she will feel as if she's doing nothing wrong. It doesn't have to be rude but just letting her know what she's doing wrong and how it's effecting you should do the trick, if this has not been tried already!

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