does anyone else have babies with just a one year age gap??????

Pyppa - posted on 08/27/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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my sone was born just one year and three days after my daughter. i am finding it hard to cope. any advice would be most appreciated or perhaps just support from other sums in same situation. xxx

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Denise - posted on 09/18/2009

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i remember this being the hardest time of my life, my children are now 12,9,8,6,5,and 2. going for those short errands are he worst, loading up in the van and all the carseats!! (we still use 4!!) it gets better just hang in there!!!

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Stacey - posted on 09/18/2009

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My two children are ten months and one day apart. My daughter, Molly was born seven weeks premature, making then even closer than expected. I agree with everyone, it is difficult, but it does get easier. Molly is now six months old and life is on a schedule. My son, Jackson (16 months) is walking/ running everywhere which makes some things easier and some more difficult. Luckily, Molly is such an easy baby. I love watching them interact with eeach other and see how much they love each other. My husband and I want more and are seriously considering having them close again.

Susanne - posted on 09/18/2009

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hi my name is susanne,my two are seventeen months apart.its so hard at first but it does get better,my son is 3 now and just started nursery he goes for 2 and a half hours in the morning and in that time i spend time with my daughter or do some housework,and he is getting tireder in the evening now!sso keep ya chin up and enjoy your kids!x

Linsie - posted on 09/18/2009

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Tristyn and Trevelyn are almost exactly 1 yr apart. If my son had waited two more days it would have been 1 yr to the day. October 21st of '05 was my daughter and thenmy son was October 19th of '06. So my two are technically less than a years apart so trust me I know where you're coming from.

Melissa - posted on 09/18/2009

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My daughters are 8 days short of a year apart, so not even. It is hard, At first I took it one day at a time, many times I still do. I keep a strict schedule to help me out and give me my sane time, naptime is a must even if my eldest doesn't sleep she looks at a book. Get lots of support from your hubby and create your own structure that seems to work for your children. hang in there as it gets harder before it gets easier but one day the fact that there isn't really a gap between them will help them and it'll help you. You won't have the whole "but mom SHE gets to go do that with dad why can't I?" They can do the same thing, at the same time.

Jennifer - posted on 09/18/2009

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Hi, My name is Jen. And my boys are not even a year apart! I had the same due date (sept 7th) with both my boys! And they would have had the same bithday but there ended up being a cancelation for a c section so i was able give them their own birthday. My oldest who just turned 3, his birthday is Aug 30th, and my youngest who just turned 2, his birthday is Aug 27th. At first i found it very difficult cause i had a 12 month old baby at home.....and a new born. And because i had a c section i was not able to pick up my 12 month old who was barely walking at the time and was very needy! But with time i got used to the way life was gonna be! At times I still at 2 and 3 find it hard to do somethings, but i take what is thrown at me and make the best of it. I couldnt imagine my crazy life being any different, and i wouldnt change it for the world!

Christine - posted on 09/18/2009

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I know I'm fairly late on commenting here (haven't been on for a while) but I can deffinately relate. Mine are 12months 2 weeks apart. They are now soon to be 3 and 4. It is hard and there were days that I felt defeated and overwhelmed. I imagine people told me the same things that people tell you, "it'll get easier" and it really does but at the time I would also think "but how does that help me now?".

I'm not too sure that I have any advice on getting through it. I found it very difficult at times and somehow I made it here. I guess there is just little things like when you do have a quiet or peaceful moment and feel like you should be getting all kinds of things done don't worry about them. Sit down relax, rest or do whatever makes you feel good. The work will still be there later. And if people offer to help with something, let them. Sounds so simple but how often do we really take people up on their offers? I know I didn't do enough of that.

Another thing that was very important for me anyways was when I would get overwhelmed I would feel bad, almost not good enough I suppose, and I was lucky enough to have people remind me that I am a good mom, it isn't easy, and there was nothing wrong with feeling that way. I hope you have some of those people in your life and if you don't I'll tell you:

You are a good mom. It is hard and overwhelming at times and you have every right to feel that way. As much as you love your kids, it isn't selfish to do something for yourself and actually, taking care of "mommy" is an important thing you can do for them.



Hope you have a wonderful day.

Pyppa - posted on 08/27/2009

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know what you mean about clothes!!! lol. the biggest problem that im facing is that my daughter wants to climb everything and get into everything but my 3 moth old son wants to be fed at the same time for example, my partner works so im on my own with them alot. i know it will be easier as they get older but its just getting through it now. and what about when it comes to toilet training? where do you have time?

Jamie - posted on 08/27/2009

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Mine are 14 months, its gets easier as they get older. Mine are 3 and 4 now. I can say it saves a lot on toys, and wish they were the same sex to save money on clothes too lol.

Ashley - posted on 08/27/2009

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my two sons are 14 months apart. i know what you mean about finding it hard to cope. it's very hard to have two so young. my baby is going to be 2 months on the 5th and things are gettting better. i find things are starting to get easier now. they are usually napping at the same time which is great because it gives me some time to either relax, clean up, make dinner or whatever i just need to do. i find the mornings are the most hectic part of our day. they both need to be fed then baths and shower for me but you get used to it. once you get yourself into somewhat of a routine its doesnt seem to be as bad. the baby is better for sleeping at night. he will usually go about 6 hrs between night feeds so he's really only getting up once. dont worry it's most def overwhelming at first but you get used to it. it will get easier as they both get older. they will also have one another to play with when they get a bit older! you will have them to occupy eachother which will be nice!

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