does anyone else think pacifiers are stupid???

Leslie - posted on 04/26/2009 ( 85 moms have responded )

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i don't believe in them personally. i have 2 kids who have never seen one and are perfectly fine they don't cry all day and are very good kids, my mother in law think i should give one to my 6 month old but i don't. i believe babies cry for a reason, not for a piece of plastic in their mouths. i read that increases gas because of the sucking on air part. does anyone else not like pacifiers and the overuse of them ????

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Claire - posted on 10/31/2013

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I think if your baby doesn't want or need one then yes it would b stupid for your child. The ladies on here that take it personally are ridiculous and should b ashamed. My child doesn't want it and i don't understand the point of forcing it or even encouraging it when its not needed. Its STUPID! For others I'm sure its heaven sent. Soooo ladies chill out! I thought it was a great question!

Sylvia - posted on 05/01/2009

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Speaking on my own personal experience, I have never really used pacifiers for neither of my two boys. They just never really took to them. They preferred my breast as well. Now, just because I don't use them doesn't mean that they are stupid.

Each baby is different~some soothe themselves by suckling on a breast, on their fingers and thumbs, and some with pacifiers. True they have bad effects sometimes (like the extreme attachment my niece had with her Nuk) but really, what doesn't? Eventually the babies learn techniques to console themselves and they outgrow the good ole pacifier or what have you.

We can't judge or berate things just because we don't like them... plus- stupid is a really harsh term, especially to those who actually DO use them for their babies.

Kim - posted on 05/01/2009

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When my son was born he was using me as his pacifier so I gave him one. I have also read that giving a baby a pacifier when they are babies actually helps reduce SIDS!! My son is 2 and never had a problem with gas....he still takes a pacifier at night to go to sleep...we are in the process of taking it away. I would much rather have my kid sucking a pacifier then his fingers/thumb because you can't take their hand away you can take a pacifier away!!! If your baby is 6 months I wouldn't start them on a pacifier because they haven't needed one thus far then they shouldn't need one.

Heather - posted on 04/30/2009

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Quoting Chaya:

It doesn't sound like you're against pacifiers. It sounds like you think you're too good for them, and anyone who uses them must not be a good mother like yourself. Let me tell you, sister--I'v had three kids. One who loved a pacifier, and two who didn't. Once you're privvy to a baby who loves them (although you probably won't be b/c you're one of those mom's who's had her boy and girl and is perfect now--and accidents just don't happen with you) you'll understand what it is to need one, find one, have one in every pocket, nook and cranny, junk drawer, under car seat, in the glove box, purse, bathroom drawer, under bed, in your sheets and two in the dishwasher. So.... in conclusion: Next time you feel like knocking the pacifier--get your own and shut your mouth.


 



 



Haha...thats awesome...lol

Heather - posted on 04/30/2009

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Pacifiers are a godsend for me...lol...the way my mom puts it about pacifiers is "you can take them away...but if they suck on their thumb or hands, you cant take their hands away" My son uses them...but he doesn't "need" them. He sucks on it for a moment...then most of the time spits it out. And we haven't had any problems with gas from a pacifier.

Rhiannon - posted on 04/30/2009

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I'm hapy with using a dummy, but then my son isn't particularly stuck on it. He has it to fall asleep, and it normally falls out once he is asleep. I take it off him and leave it in the cot whenever he is awake. and he has no problem at all with that. Next bub due in 4 months and I will probably do the same with that baby. Dummys are okay in the cot, but not when it's play time.

Lisa - posted on 04/30/2009

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there were complications during my birth so my daughter had to stay in the ICU when she was born for 3 days. when i went to bring her home she had a pacifier in her mouth. i guess one of the nurses gave it to her cause she kept crying. i tried to take it away when i got home but everytime i took it out her mouth she cried. she's stuck on it now. but im probably going to try to get rid of it soon. some kids have a blanket or stuffed animal. my daughetr has a pacifier. same thing. it's just for comfort.

Julie - posted on 04/30/2009

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I loved the pacifier. I thought it helped a lot. I didn't have an issue with gas with her. My daughter stopped using hers around 9 mos though so we took it away. But as far as that goes, I don't find them stupid. I think that should be taken away by a certain age (18 mos) though for sure! I just think, yes like all the other PP it depends on the child and the parents as to how the feel about pacifiers. That's great that your children didn't need them, what did you use instead?

Alicia - posted on 04/30/2009

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i HATE them.... but my son sucks on one. he is 19 months old and has had one since day one. we cut the whole tip of it off and he still has it in his mouth. don't ever start it if you can. my theory was you can take the passy away but not the thumb.... so he only has it for naps and bed time. so pacifies SUCK and so does my son. LOL

Jennifer - posted on 04/30/2009

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my daughter had a strong urge to suck too so we gave her a dummy, but my friends baby refused one, i think its down to the personal choice of the baby and parents.

Claudia - posted on 04/29/2009

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Pacifiers are good if you know how to use them and when to stop. If your child is 6 months old thee is no need of a pacifier. She has probably teeth coming out already. But pacifiers are good like I said if you know when to used them n how. They prevent SIDS. but they should get rid of them once babies start teething. But also babies have the urge to suck because it is very calming for them to do so. So if you aren't breastfeeding or u need a break pacifiers are a good thing.

User - posted on 04/29/2009

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my baby only uses one to fall asleep to, and peds recommend them because studies show that they may reduce the chance of SIDS. my son isnt dependent on them at all during the day and could care less about them so im lucky there..........and if they do prevent SIDS then NO i def dont think they "stupid"

Abby - posted on 04/29/2009

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hey, i havent read any of the other responses, but my son was a very sucky baby and for the first 8 weeks he'd suck on our little fingers, however as 8 eweks hit he refused and started sucking his thumb. i hate it when people constantly shove a dummy in kids mouths when they cry, or even are just playing they have one in their mouth. my baby has his thumb as and when he wants!

Michelle - posted on 04/29/2009

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Quoting Margie:

My son is 6 now and he NEVER used a pacifier. I didn't see the need for it, and I wanted to avoid the drama of taking it away from him when he got bigger. I think that if a baby cries it is because they are hungry, tired or needed to be changed. I don't plan on using one for my next child.


ii said the same thing my son was a very easy non fussy baby... my duaghter on the other hand screams non stop for 5 and half months... the only reason i'm still sane is the paci... it took 5 and half months to figure out she has a milk allergy which probably had to do with the screaming non stop thing... i think formula is stupid maybe i should go start a post about that

Julie - posted on 04/29/2009

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Pacifiers (or dummies as we call them in the UK!) are recommended by the Cot Death Society and Foundation for Study into Infant Death. If you settle your child to sleep with a pacifier it reduces the risk of cot death so my baby has one and I really couldnt give a rat's ass if you think they're stupid!

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My son is 6 now and he NEVER used a pacifier. I didn't see the need for it, and I wanted to avoid the drama of taking it away from him when he got bigger. I think that if a baby cries it is because they are hungry, tired or needed to be changed. I don't plan on using one for my next child.

Arwen - posted on 04/28/2009

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I personally don't like how toddlers walk around with them, but for infants, they aren't so bad. When a baby suckles it regulates their breathing and heart rate. So when they suck on a paci there's a reduced risk that their breathing will stop.



I didn't want my daughter to have one reguardless, and she never did. Her cousins have slept through the nights with them since they were 2-4 months. I am jealous of that benefit. When I have another, I still think I won't give one.

Allison - posted on 04/28/2009

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Me myself, I did use a pacifier for 2 out of 4 kids. I'm not sure why whether it was to keep the quiet or just for the strong urge to suck. Anyhow, both of them threw their pacifier away after probably 7 months. But to answer your question ...... I do even though I used them!

Jessica - posted on 04/28/2009

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I used pacifiers with all three of my kids because they were preemies. It helped them learn to suck and ALL three of them broke themselves of the pacifier.

Heather - posted on 04/28/2009

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I agree for the most part. When my daughter was first born it helped a little bit, but she never took to one, and I never encouraged it b/c they become way too attached!

Tegan - posted on 04/28/2009

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hi,,
i agree with stacey my baby was a comfort sucker he would constantly want to suck even when he wasn't hungry. I couldnt count the number of times i fell sleep with him still attached to me because i was so exhausted ,,,, i was against giving him a dummy in the beginning but as this went on the only way i could get him off me was to either lay him right beside me with a shirt full off milk beside his face (and with him beside me i would still wake up every min cuz he would make some little noise or move) or give him a dummy.
One night my husband and i had tried everything even called the in laws around to help and we decided that it was time for the dummy he took to it nearly straight away it was great he could sleep in his own bed and i could get a good night sleep and now he only has the dummy when he is tired or sick it comforts him and i believe that i made the right decision my mum told me it easier to get rid of a dummy then a thumb....
i really think that this is a personal choice and if you dont like them then u dont but that doesn't mean they aren't life savers for others ..

Nyssa - posted on 04/28/2009

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I think that is a very strong statement to say about pacifiers. I have a 3 1/2 month old & I gave her a dummy because i didn't want her sucking her thumb which is a much harder habit to break then using a pacifier. I myself know the effects of sucking of a thumb & have nieces who suck there thumb also & can't break the habit.



It is all personal choice & i think that every parent has to make there decisions on there own.

Kristen - posted on 04/28/2009

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My son was born 6 weeks early and doctors encouraged use of a pacifier to strengthen his sucking reflex. He also has reflux and his GI doctors recommended sucking on a pacifier for this. So who knows, I guess each baby is different. I plan on losing the pacifier around one years old.

Stacey-Marie - posted on 04/28/2009

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I don't believe they are stupid - just because your children didn't need them doesn't mean someone elses child wouldn't like them.
Yes children mostly cry for a reason but sometimes they just need comfort and it's not possible to cuddle and hold the baby 24/7 so the dummy comes in handy until you are available to them.

Stacey-Marie - posted on 04/28/2009

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I don't believe they are stupid - just because your children didn't need them doesn't mean someone elses child wouldn't like them.
Yes children mostly cry for a reason but sometimes they just need comfort and it's not possible to cuddle and hold the baby 24/7 so the dummy comes in handy until you are available to them.

Amanda - posted on 04/28/2009

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Quoting Chaya:

It doesn't sound like you're against pacifiers. It sounds like you think you're too good for them, and anyone who uses them must not be a good mother like yourself. Let me tell you, sister--I'v had three kids. One who loved a pacifier, and two who didn't. Once you're privvy to a baby who loves them (although you probably won't be b/c you're one of those mom's who's had her boy and girl and is perfect now--and accidents just don't happen with you) you'll understand what it is to need one, find one, have one in every pocket, nook and cranny, junk drawer, under car seat, in the glove box, purse, bathroom drawer, under bed, in your sheets and two in the dishwasher. So.... in conclusion: Next time you feel like knocking the pacifier--get your own and shut your mouth.


haha thats funny!



its so true

Amanda - posted on 04/28/2009

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Well I tried to use one on all my kids but they just weren't into them so I never bothered tryine after that. I had three kids and none of them have sucked their thumbs (thank God!) but my two older have a odd habit of sucking on their shirts. I don't get it

Melissa - posted on 04/28/2009

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I don't believe there's anything wrong with pacifiers. They've been around for 50+ years and I've never heard of any health problems as long as they are used for an appropriate period of time. In my eyes, you will know if your child could benefit from one or not. Some like it and some just don't take to them. My son loved his, and I didn't see a problem with that. It's natural for babies to have dependencies, if it's not a pacifier, it's a thumb, a blanket or a stuffed animal...and as parents, I don't think we should try and keep things from them for the simple reason of proving a point, especially if you know it would be soothing to them. There are so many things to worry about in this world when it comes to our childrens' health and safety, and pacifiers just aren't one of them.

Amber - posted on 04/28/2009

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well when i had my daughter i wasnt sure about giving her a pacifier... but she constantly wanted to suck so the nurse asked me if i wanted to give her one to try and i said sure... and i talked about it with the pediatrician that came to check her and he told me that pacifiers are really good for little babies... and they help reduce the risk of SIDS... so i let her keep it... she still uses it and is 5 months old but only really when shes sleepy... it helps her fall to sleep and then she spits it out... so i dont think they are stupid

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my son is just about 3 months old and I have used a pacifier since the day he came home. I do believe you can overuse a pacifier and the nurse told me that sometimes babie will replace a meal by sucking on a pacifier. Sometime babies cry because they need comfort and sucking on a pacifier can be very comforting for many babies.

Alexandria - posted on 04/28/2009

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My daughter used one occasionally & when it was time to ween her off, it was not difficult. Personally I don't see what the big deal is about them if they're only used when they're younger. If you don't want your baby to use it, then don't use it. In my experience, Grandma's always have their opinion & try to push it on you; don't give in for that reason. Stand your ground that you don't believe in them. You're the mom not grandma.

Sharon - posted on 04/28/2009

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I think dummies are god send, not only to sooth baby but also they are a great outfit accessory. I also think its much better than a child sucking their thumb! I think when u c older kids that still do, it luks awful. At least ya can take a dummy away from a child, u cant take away their thumb!! But each 2 their own, eh?? xxx

Jessica - posted on 04/28/2009

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i broke down and gave mine a pacifier the day we left the hospital but at 4 months he decided he didn't want it anymore. he sucks his fingers instead now...so that's a problem to fix

Vicki - posted on 04/28/2009

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im totally in the same boat as rebecca, i had every intention of keeping them away from my son but he was on my boob CONSTANTLY, if i ever have another baby i wont give them a dummy unless they do the same. Now hes almost one and he only has it for naps and bedtime, he'll be 18 months at christmas time and i fully intend of getting rid of it then for good.

Nicole - posted on 04/28/2009

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Quoting Chaya:

It doesn't sound like you're against pacifiers. It sounds like you think you're too good for them, and anyone who uses them must not be a good mother like yourself. Let me tell you, sister--I'v had three kids. One who loved a pacifier, and two who didn't. Once you're privvy to a baby who loves them (although you probably won't be b/c you're one of those mom's who's had her boy and girl and is perfect now--and accidents just don't happen with you) you'll understand what it is to need one, find one, have one in every pocket, nook and cranny, junk drawer, under car seat, in the glove box, purse, bathroom drawer, under bed, in your sheets and two in the dishwasher. So.... in conclusion: Next time you feel like knocking the pacifier--get your own and shut your mouth.



lol good 1

Nicole - posted on 04/28/2009

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Quoting Chaya:

It doesn't sound like you're against pacifiers. It sounds like you think you're too good for them, and anyone who uses them must not be a good mother like yourself. Let me tell you, sister--I'v had three kids. One who loved a pacifier, and two who didn't. Once you're privvy to a baby who loves them (although you probably won't be b/c you're one of those mom's who's had her boy and girl and is perfect now--and accidents just don't happen with you) you'll understand what it is to need one, find one, have one in every pocket, nook and cranny, junk drawer, under car seat, in the glove box, purse, bathroom drawer, under bed, in your sheets and two in the dishwasher. So.... in conclusion: Next time you feel like knocking the pacifier--get your own and shut your mouth.



lol good 1

Nicole - posted on 04/28/2009

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Quoting Haven:

There are "older" children that still carry around blankies or a favorite toy or even suck their thumb. How is this any different than a paci? Some kids need to self sooth, and this has nothing to do with your parenting. If it 's not causing any health problems I see no need to stop this comfort to them. Besides, your child isn't going to still be sucking a paci in collage. They might still have their favorite teddy though!



omg i think that you are so right.....i would rather have them suck on a paci than suck on there thumb which that is something that you cant take away....my daughter is 2mon and i think she would be lost without it...it helps comfort her when she is upset or is going to sleep...i

Ashley - posted on 04/28/2009

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i'd rather my son have his soother than suck his thumb. and dealing with a severely sick child for the first 2 months of his life the soother was our life saver. if that's what he needs to calm himself down then that's what he'll get. i agree with most moms though they should be taken away by the age of two. i have seen children in the mall take their soothers out to talk then put them back in, and i'm not talking little words i mean like a 4 yr old. but then again the bottle should be taken away by about 2 as well, but that's my opinion.

LaDonna - posted on 04/28/2009

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I don't like them but to each is own. I just dislike seeing kids who look like they are like two or three walking around with pacifiers and bottles.

Mandy - posted on 04/28/2009

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My daughter stopped using a pacifier at 6 months old. She never sucked her thumb either. I think it's wrong for parent's to let there child use a pacifier when there older. I have seen kids that are 4 and 5 with them that's just stupid.

Megan - posted on 04/28/2009

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Niether one of my children would take a pacifier. I whish they would have because they both suck their thumb. At least with a pacifier you can take that you can't take their thumb. I don't think paificers are stupid, I think it depends on the kid and the parents.

Melissa - posted on 04/28/2009

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Actually, non-nutritive sucking (sucking a pacifier, not sucking while getting food) is very important in a baby's comfort. As a mom and a nurse in a Neonatal ICU, I know that pacifiers are more than just some crutch. Non-nutritive sucking releases endorphins (natural pain-killers) in infants. This helps calm babies and decreases their reaction to pain, thereby decreasing their stress levels. Believe me, babies get stressed!

Angela - posted on 04/28/2009

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i haven't used one don't really like i think they are yuck although my son sucks his thumb when hes in bed not too much that i'm concerned that he won't stop every parent is different and thats my opinion

Amanda - posted on 04/27/2009

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both my kids had them and tossed them out on their own. my 9 month old thinks they are toys and has always thought that. she never has sucked on one but likes to fling the handle in her hand. personally I would rather my kids use soothers than become thumb suckers which neither of my kids have done.

Sara - posted on 04/27/2009

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I don't think they are stupid. I think it is a matter of personal choice. I have read some of the replies of other women saying that they're children had urges to suck so I think pacifiers would be perfect in that case because if they want to suck, and have no binki they will probably end up sucking on their fingers. I sucked my finger as a child and because I couldn't really be "weened" from it becaue it was attached to my body, I sucked it until I was in the 4th grade or so and it caused my adult teeth to be crooked. But if babies don't want or need pacifiers I think thats great too! :)

Brandy - posted on 04/27/2009

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I agree. A lot of parents do it their own way. I personally didn't like, but it's what helped her sleep at night. It only lasted till she was about 4 months. She gave up on it on her own and just used her froggy at bed time. It does help in some cases. I just don't like when the parents use it as "Here put this in your mouth and shut-up" type of way. When they take advantage and then deal with having them let it go at age 4 or 5. Crazy!

Natasha - posted on 04/27/2009

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I dont think there is anything wrong with them. I agree you can take a pacifier away but not the thumb. As long as you dont over use them they can be a life savor sometimes.

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Quoting Chaya:

It doesn't sound like you're against pacifiers. It sounds like you think you're too good for them, and anyone who uses them must not be a good mother like yourself. Let me tell you, sister--I'v had three kids. One who loved a pacifier, and two who didn't. Once you're privvy to a baby who loves them (although you probably won't be b/c you're one of those mom's who's had her boy and girl and is perfect now--and accidents just don't happen with you) you'll understand what it is to need one, find one, have one in every pocket, nook and cranny, junk drawer, under car seat, in the glove box, purse, bathroom drawer, under bed, in your sheets and two in the dishwasher. So.... in conclusion: Next time you feel like knocking the pacifier--get your own and shut your mouth.


LOL!



Good for you!

Samantha - posted on 04/27/2009

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i give my 7 month old daughter a pacifier, but mostly only at nap and bed time because it helps reduce the risk of SIDS. I dont believe in giving a child a pacifier all the time just to shut them up, like you said, theyre crying for a reason. And my daughter will not be one of those kids whose like 3 or 4 and running around with a pacifier in their mouth! that drives me insane!

Michelle - posted on 04/27/2009

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its really a personal choice. all my kids had them only at bedtime or naps until they could talk and then i took them away .. my son likes to suck his thumb and i dont like it ... the way i see it is you can take away a pacifier you cant take there thumb away !!!

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