Does anyone have any ideas as to how I can get my 5m old to sleep for longer than 3 hours at night?

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My son is five and half months old and will only sleep for 3 sometimes 4 hour stretches at night before needing attention or a bottle. I am exhausted! Please help? We do give him cereal with his last bottle at night. How can I get him to sleep longer?

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Danielle - posted on 03/19/2010

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I think I tried everything with my son and he just would not sleep through the night. He's 11 months old tomorrow and began to sleep through in the 10th month. I feel for you, I know how tired you are. It's hard but some babies just don't sleep through as quickly as others. If none of these suggestions work I promise you the day will come when your baby sleeps through!

Melissa - posted on 03/19/2010

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Cereal has been proven to do nothing for helping a baby sleep better at night. What is the longest he has slept in a row? 6 hours? My dr. told us at 4 months since my son had slept for 6 hours at one point that his organs were functioning properly and that I no longer needed to feed him when he woke up. So we started getting him back to sleep in other ways. Eventually he stopped waking up because he realized he wasn't going to get the bottle. Sometimes it is habit and not out of necessity.

Genna - posted on 03/19/2010

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everyone always told me that you have to set a routine that they will get used to whether it be short naps in the day and giving them a bath before bed helps too relax them etc hope this helps

Yinni - posted on 03/19/2010

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my son was (and sometimes still is) the same way. the rice cereal does help, but if its not working well for you (since youre putting it in the bottle), you can try spoon feeding more cereal to your son to fill his belly more. i had to give my son about 6-8 oz of warm/almost hot formula with about 4-6 tbsp bowl of cereal (hes a piggie!). have you tried cutting naps during the day? i would just wake my son about 15 minutes before he usually got up. you can also try giving your baby a warm bath before bed since its relaxing for them. if all else fails, theres the security blanket. my son refuses to sleep without his (i guess it smells like mommy and daddy?). just stick it down your shirt for a few hours and then give it to your son.

itll get better. :) just wait until he starts teething! now those were restless nights!

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Jori - posted on 03/22/2010

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I personally set a routine for my daughter ..... starts with a bath (with johnstons bedtime bath) play for 30 mins , her night snack of bottle and oat cereal (spoon fed). put her fav show on and tada! sleepy for about 7 or 8 hrs. i hope this helps its similiar but a lil playtime helps wear off that lil extra energy they get b4 bed.

Courtney - posted on 03/22/2010

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So, what I've heard about cereal feeding is that while it's filling, it is hanging on in their little tummies so that they eat more of that than the nurtrient rich formula or breastmilk. This may sound crazy, but maybe stop feeding cereal at bedtime?? Maybe if youer child is getting more nutrition rather than filler he'll sleep longer?? GOod luck!!! I feel for ya.

Kat - posted on 03/22/2010

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My son is almost 5 months and he still wakes up a couple of times in the night but he sleeps better when I go through our usual routine. Since he started teetthing our routine is now changing to he eats some cereal, and get a nice bath and honestly that nighttime bath by johnson's really does relax them, and I give him a rub down with the nighttime lotion, then we play for a little while, then if his gums start bothering him i put baby orjel on his teeth and give him a little tylenol then about 2-4 oz of a warm bottle and he falls asleep and stays asleep for a good 4-5 hours then wakes up for 30 mins and sleeps until 7 or 8

Renee - posted on 03/22/2010

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when hes waking up at night he doesnt really need more food. hes just looking for reassurance. my daughter did this too and i started giving her just warm water. and after a few nights she got the point that eating in the middle of the night wasnt going to happen so she started sleeping longer and longer. and now she sleeps thru the night no problem.

Kelsey - posted on 03/22/2010

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Johnsons Lavender body wash and lotion works wonders!!! I've used it on both of my kids and My 3mo. sleeps 6hours every night then wakes up for a bottle and goes right back to sleep. It's worth a shot. Hope it works for you. Good Luck!

Annie - posted on 03/22/2010

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My daughter did the same thing. It helped when I put a air humidifier in her room. She loved the soothing noise. It really helped her sleep.

Claire - posted on 03/22/2010

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try cutting down on naps during the day and when he wakes for a bottle in the night just give him cooled boiled water and eventually he should realise its not worth waking up for just water. thats what my health visitor told me to do for my eldest when he were a baby. good luck

Robin - posted on 03/22/2010

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i have a six month old daughter and i had to put her on her belly. and she sleeps like a rock now. its the only way she will sleep longer than 30min. Its the only way i can sleep so i just tried it. If your Scared about it then just try it at nap time and check on him.

Jennifer - posted on 03/22/2010

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You could try letting him cry for a while (assuming he doesn't need the bottle). He will hopefully cry less and less each night because he realizes he won't be getting the attention and bottle.

Paulette - posted on 03/22/2010

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My children needed a strict routine. It is very important the older a child gets to regulate when they sleep and eat so they will develope healthy eating and sleeping habits. With or with out cereal dont feed more often then 1x every 6 hours . When the baby wakes up and they are supposed o be asleep dont pick them up. I know its hard. If baby is sleeping in the room with you. Its time to move the crib out into another room . Especially if the baby is a light sleeper . During the day time do one nap after lunch and dont allow the baby to sleep longer then 2 hours do you best to not do more then 1 nap a day .Do a bedtime routine at 8 pm , feed ,bath, read, and sing a song if that is your style. then give baby a hug and kiss and lay him donw the 1st night or 2 he will cry. but will quickly get the idea that it is bed time . dont sit by the baby moniture or you will just torture yourself make your self busy and you will get some sleep !

Brooke - posted on 03/22/2010

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Could try a nice warm bath, let him play for a while in it! Then make his bottle nice and warm with the cereal

Heather - posted on 03/22/2010

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my son is 3 months right now. I have found that if i can keep him up for at least 4 hours before bed, feed him a bottle, give him something to chew or suck on(depends on what he wants that night) lay him in bed and cover him with a light sheet or blanket that smells like mommy and daddy. he will sleep through the night. If he does wake up i give him whatever he was sucking or chewing on(since it most likely fell out of his mouth while he was asleep) and he will normally fall right back to sleep. now that i started doing that he is sleeping 6-10 hours a night. in less he is sick.....but that's always hard.

good luck! and sweet dreams to you and your son.

Jacinda - posted on 03/22/2010

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I have been putting rice cereal in my sons bottle at night he is 4months old and sleeping till 6am all night.

Jessie - posted on 03/22/2010

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try to keep him up atleast 3 hours before bed time and try to wear him out with playing...thats what i do and my daughter she just turned 6 months and she sleeps 9 hours straight

Lisa - posted on 03/22/2010

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Let him cry it wont kill him and he'll learn that you're not going to jump everytime he crys so he'll stay sleeoing

Leah - posted on 03/22/2010

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You know every baby is different and you have to try different things to see what works for your baby. When my daughter was around that age the only way she would sleep for long stretches was if she was in her bouncy seat so for the first 6 months that what she slept in tell she got way to big. Now that she's 11 months she sleeps great in her crib (only at night) but it took me a long time to figure out what worked best for her and I've got it now. For my daughter she goes to bed the same time every night which can be a pain sometimes if you happen to be out but if you keep the same time its easy on them and you. Also I've got a super light sleeper and I mean she wakes up with any noise so found playing night time music a little loud in her room at night (all night long) helps her from getting woken up at night. ( I have a noisy 3rd old and husband) Now my 11 month old sleeps 9 hrs at night :) She will eventually sleep longer you just have to work at it and don't expect it too change over night it does take time....Good luck!

Megan - posted on 03/22/2010

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Have him take his naps earlier. Spoon feed him Oatmeal baby Cereal at dinner time. Give him a bath with Johnson's Bedtime Bath. Lotion him up with Johnson's Bedtime Lotion. Put rice cereal in his bottle. And give him a shirt you wear often to snuggle with like a blankie. Sometimes babies get up just to know that you are near and this shirt will have your scent on it and he will think that you are right there. Hope this helps, so you can get some sleep. :)

Megan - posted on 03/22/2010

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Have him take his naps earlier. Spoon feed him Oatmeal baby cereal at dinner time. Give him a bath with Johnson's Bedtime Bath. Lotion him up with Johnson's Bedtime Lotion. Give him rice cereal in his bottle. And give him a shirt you wear often to snuggle with like a blankie at night. Sometimes they wake up just to know that you are near.

Megan - posted on 03/22/2010

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Have your son take his nap earlier. At dinner spoon feed him Oatmeal baby Cereal. Give him a bath with Johnson's Bedtime Bath. Lotion him with Johnson's Bedtime Lotion. And at night put rice cereal in his bottle. Give him a shirt you wear often to snuggle with like a blankie because alot of babies wake up just to know your near. And he should sleep alot longer! :)

Carly - posted on 03/22/2010

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i find my son wont sleep if he hasnt had enough to eat and if he doesnt have a bath before he goes to sleep

Sarah - posted on 03/22/2010

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buy a blanket called the swaddle me blanket and wrap him up in that it will comfort him and wont allow his hands to hit and wake him up in the night

Kat - posted on 03/22/2010

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Melissa what other things did you try? other then giving your child a bottle when they wake up in the middle of the night?

Tanya - posted on 03/22/2010

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I use a bath at night. I also found that Swaddle blankets help as well. For the first 2 weeks, that she was home she wouldn't sleep more then 1/2 hour at a time. I wrapped up in her swaddle blanket. And she would sleep at least two hours at a time. She now sleeps at least 6 to 7 hours before feedings. (When her father is on the road for work). And 4 to 5 hours (When her dad is home). I hope this helps

Renee - posted on 03/22/2010

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My 6 month old has been sleeping through for a while. I actually have found that if she sleeps during the day, she will sleep better at night. Routine is also a great help, we have bath time at 7pm, then a warm bottle, usually 60mls larger than she generally drinks, and then wrap her up and put her to bed at 8pm. We make sure that her room is dark, but we leave her bedroom door slightly ajar. It may just be us but we have found that her hearing the background noide is better than silence, I've been told that this is because it reassures her that we're still there and makes her feel safer.
Good Luck! And if all else fails, they will always sleep through when they are ready.

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

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sometimes we just have to grin and bear it.....ive got 3 boys and they have all been different..
my third has been the odd one out, only because he has a different dad to the other two but in saying that hes fussy about his bed. hes 7 moths now and the cot has to be right or theres no sleep for anyone...
try different things...he may like his bed soft and cuddly or a bit firmer..he may be cold or to hot...i found that if i have to do a sheet change, its only temporary while i wash and dry his bedding and then put it back the way it was or he will keep on fussing until i do.
needless to say i only worked that out about 3 weeks ago...damn, you would think that i would have learnt by now but as i said lucas is very diiferent yet hes very much the same in other ways.....trial and error. hes only young so it may just be a growth spurt too.. good luck

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

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rice in the bottle or in a bowl spoon fed works good. You can also put him on baby food. Our son was not even 3 months old when i put him on baby food because formula and was just wasnt filling him up. Jus make sure he has a full belly before he goes to bed. less naps during the day help and somtimes you will even have to let them cry because its just like a habbit to just wake up and want a bottle.

Lyssa - posted on 03/21/2010

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well my son is only 3 1/2 months but he sleeps oddly well at... i say just make sure not to let ur child sleep too much during the day. the more they're awake durin the day the more tired they'll be at night. routines also help. i probably shouldn't be givin too much advice cuz i'm a new mom but i tell this stuff works and i dont even put cereal in my sons bottle yet lol

Jamie - posted on 03/21/2010

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I was EXTREMELY lucky to have a baby that slept all night from the beginning. She is one now and sleeps about 10 hours at night, sometimes more!! I think it helped that we used those 'swaddle me' s from the very start! We snugged her up nice and tight and she slept like a log! She wouldn't sleep without it. Eventually she got tired of it at about 4 or 5 months but I think that is what got her in the habit?? Not really sure!

Jennie - posted on 03/21/2010

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I know they say that rice cereal has not been proven to help babies sleep. Honestly, I think the doctors and nurses say that so that parents will not start giving it to their babies too early. My son was usually a good sleeper, unless he was sick or teething. I did not give him cereal in a bottle though, I spoon fed it to him. Seems like that is what most moms are saying. Oh, and his Great Granny gave him this sheep called the "sleep Sheep" it makes ocean sounds, rain etc, My son loved it. Worth a try baby, esp to new mommies!

Rebecca - posted on 03/21/2010

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My daughter was doing that at 5 months. What worked for me was not feeding her between 12 - 6 am at night. Using other ways of soothing. It took 3 nights - the first night she cried lots, the second for about 15 - 20 mins the third night she slept through. Try cutting out 1 night feed at a time. She's now 12 months and sleeps through nearly every night (touch wood). It was hard though - the nights where you are at your weakest and I nearly gave up and gave her the breast.
Good luck

Jessica - posted on 03/21/2010

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feed him cereal before bed and also a bottle that what i did with all three of my kids and i worked amazingly .... they slept all night

Sarah - posted on 03/21/2010

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usually what i do is my daughter is 6 months old and she sleeps through the nite and dont get up till 7 in the morning.. but what i did is put on a routine and i stayed on it she gets up at 7 am i feed her, bath, let her play for about an hr and a half then she takes a nap at 9 am. then she naps for about an hr and half. then i feed her baby food and not the bottle and when i feed her i wait every 4 hrs to feed. then play with her some more with the toys. then about 1130am feed her half a bottle about 5oz cause she eats eight oz. (trying to wing her off the bottle slowly) then she will fall a sleep for about another hr and half. then when she wakes up play talk to her teach her new things. then feed her a jar of fruit of baby food at 130pm then hang out with her. then about 530pm feed her a hole bottle after i get her in her pjs then i sing to her and put her pacifier in her mouth and she is out about 7-8pm and wont get up till 7am or 730am the next morning

Carrol - posted on 03/21/2010

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Hi Carisa my name is Carrol Callihan. I have a 3 month old daughter and I get her to sleep at night by giving her a bath just before she goes to bed, and she wakes up once at night. If she doesn't sleep a lot during the day than she will sleep all through the night after I give her a bath. Hope this helps you. Good luck and take care.
Carrol Callihan

Crystal - posted on 03/21/2010

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The best thing I did for my sanity and my daughter's sleep routine, is I let her cry it out. It was hard, I cried too. It took about three nights, the first night was the worst. But after that, life got easier and we both got more sleep. She's almost a year old and I did it at 51/2 months. But since then, all I have to do is lay her down when she's tired and she goes to sleep. Before she wouldn't sleep unless I slept with her. She sleeps all through the night and I stopped feeling exhausted every day. I went cold turkey, but if you look into it there's a different, newer method of letting a baby cry it out. I'm a working mom, I love my daughter endlessly and like I said it wasn't easy. Honestly, I was such a paranoid mess when my daughter was first born I didn't think I would ever do it. If it wasn't for my husband I probably wouldn't have. But I did and life with my daughter got a lot better.

Alison - posted on 03/21/2010

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My son was the same way. I started him on cereal a month ago and nothing ever changed and about a week ago he started sleeping through the night. The only thing we have been doing differently is doing the exact same routine everynight and shutting the lights off or dimming them so he knows its bed time. Some times he wakes at 5 am from 9 pm but for the most part he sleeps for 12 hrs straight.

Kimberly - posted on 03/21/2010

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The cereal foes help, I started limiting naps during the day. Also the dr's say to have a routine so try and do the same thing every nite. I like the Johnson's bedtime bath it relaxes my son and he sleeps all throught the nite and he is teething right now

Ellie - posted on 03/21/2010

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i dont know if any-one has put about this but since i started doing (when my daughter was 3 months) i have never been woken in the night (and she in her own bed) if you go into a supermarket down the baby isle you should be able to get johnsons BEDTIME bath, i use the bubble bath, body wash and baby lotion on maddie and along with a bottle she is gone, sometimes she dont wke till 8.30!!! that stuff is brill!!! good luck

Katie - posted on 03/21/2010

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He is old to have cereal with every bottle. I started giving my daughter cereal in every bottle from like 4 months. What this does is helps the baby be more satisfied throughout the day. Then by bed time he will have full all day and hopefully sleep longer with more in his belly! Good luck!

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Keep the baby up as much as you can during the day, maybe 1 nap...give them a bath before bed with the bedtime soap and lotion and then a warm cereal bottle and mine is sleeping instantly after that :) he has been doing good on this scedule for a while now, routine sure works!

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keep the baby up during the day as much as you can and then give them a bath before bed, with the bedtime soap, and then a warm cereal bottle and it puts mine 2 sleep instantly :) we do this routine every nite though so he is on a schedule

Rachle - posted on 03/21/2010

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i have found out if you keep your baby up for most of the day (usually then what he his) besides his nap they will be crying to go to sleep plus play play play that tires them out more to

Latia - posted on 03/21/2010

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after u give him his bottle or 20min b4 try a nice warm bath and maybe when u lay him down in his crib play some soft sounds try 2 record ur heartbeat n play it 4 him at bed time remember thats what he heard constantly 4 9whole months. Good Luck!!!!!!!!

Heather - posted on 03/21/2010

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My youngest slept through the night after we established a different routine with her sleep and eating habits. We would feed her the breakfast little snack ( 4oz bottle) then lunch a regular 8 oz bottle for dinner then something a little more hardy around bedtime such as veggies mixed in with cereal. Then a thin mix cereal bottle. Plus we only allowed one 2-3 hour nap in the middle of the day and just short cat naps from there on. Another thing she liked was cuddling up with her soft blanket and the room a little cooler, after we made the few adjustments she was sleeping as hard as a rock.

Tonia - posted on 03/21/2010

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I agree with Mary. My son started sleeping on his belly at 4 months. I got an Angel Care monitor because it made me very nervous, but after a little while, I love the monitor and could sleep through tht enight without getitng up to check on him. This monitor has a sensor pad that goes under the matress and detects whether your little one is breathing. If he/she stops breathing for 4-5 seconds, an alarm will go off to wake you up. Ours did this a couple of times and he was always fine when we checked on him, but we think that the alarm scared him enough to make him start breathing again. I tested teh monitor with books when we first got it to be sure that it worked. I laid books on the matress to weigh about what our son did at the time and it did go off. This is not a cheap monitor, but it is very worth it! Just remember to turn it off when you get him up. Otherwise, you will be making a trip back to the crib to turn it off. : )

Mary - posted on 03/21/2010

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First and foremost I don't trust doctors at all. They go by textbooks and us Moms go by our maternal instincts. Here is what I did. I might get a lot of negative comments but I really don't care. Neither one of my boys would sleep for very long on their backs. They looked very uncomfortable and would cry a lot but as soon as I laid them on their tummies they would fall asleep instantly and were sleeping through the night from about 1-2 months old. Now I know that doctors say that SIDs is caused by letting children sleep on their stomachs. Let me tell you that that might be a SMALL percentage of what caused SIDs but that is not the main cause. Trust me I've done my research. Anyways, try and lay your baby on his stomach at nap time and if you're really freaked that he might suffocate, lay there with him and watch him sleep. You know that you and I were put on our tummies. Thats what doctors told all parents to do in the past. So why the change? They want to cover up what is really causing SIDs. If you don't want to try this at all I understand, but I have two very healthy toddlers and they never once suffocated.

Julie - posted on 03/21/2010

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it should get better in my case im waiting for the day to come my daughter is 14 months old eating regular food has a regular bed time but i am up between 3 to 8 times a night with her and unexpectidly i am now expecting another in sept.lol i am beat..

Leanne - posted on 03/21/2010

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hi there can i just ask what time does he go down and have his last feed ?it just because my middle child was like that at that age and i found it helpfull if i woke her round 12ish to give her a last feed and try keeping him awake for longer during the day somtimes helps to bathing just befor bedtime helps to relax them to

Ashlea - posted on 03/21/2010

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My daughter was sleeping through the night at just 5 weeks old. But, I would give her just a tiny bit of cereal...not enough to make it chunky...in her bottle. Put it in the microwave for about 35 seconds...to make it a little warmer than usual. She slept all night long. However, my daughter was also on baby food at 5 weeks old because she wasn't gaining weight like she should.

Jessica - posted on 03/21/2010

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My son was the same way too. He is now 22 months old and finally sleeps through the night. Although about once a week he still wakes up around 2am, eats a granola bar and goes back to bed. When I asked the doctor about it, he said it was no big deal, my son has very fast metabolism and is ALWAYS hungry. Maybe thats the case with your son as well.

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