Dog or no dog?

Tiyauna - posted on 04/15/2013 ( 34 moms have responded )

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Okay so I'm a first time mother, my husband and I have talked about getting a small dog. Now I'm a stay at home mom so I have some spare time, but I want to know from other first time mothers if this is a bad idea or if it worked out. My daughter is 1 years old, and a only child, I've been a stay at home mom all of her life. Any thoughts?

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Lindora - posted on 04/21/2013

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Not yet! I am also a stay at home mom and I have two small dogs, a terrier and a chihuahua (and two cats and a rot lol)...I got them when my boys were 2 and 3 and I absolutely adore my dogs...and so do my boys, but they don't shut up! If you have your child take naps...ever...it probably wouldn't be a good idea yet. They bark all the time and it was impossible for my babies to nap. Even more, as I found out, small children tend to hurt little dogs because they amuse them and they don't realize that they can hurt them. I would recommend waiting until your child starts school or gets just a little bit older so the constant barking isn't a problem.

On the other hand, if it is a slightly larger dog that doesn't bark all of the time go for it. We also have a large breed dog and my boys absolutely adore her and vice versa. You just have to weigh the pros and cons with any pet when you have small children! This is advice off my personal experience with my dogs, do what is best for you and your family! Best of luck!

Amanda - posted on 04/15/2013

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Hi, we'll I have three boys. I have a 5,3,1 yr old and another on the way. When my husband wanted a dog I said no bc we are pregnant and I'm busy enough but since we rescued this 1yr old Pomeranian named Winston life has never been the same. My kids are so attached to Winston that I can't even drop him off to the groomers without them crying. I recommend getting a dog to show kids that dogs are not to be feared. Good luck!

Lindora - posted on 04/21/2013

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I had one growing up and I loved that dog, he was my very first dog! He howled whenever he had to go out lol. Bassett hounds are amazingly friendly dogs.

Toni - posted on 04/19/2013

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I cannot imagine life without my pets.
Before my son was born we had a dog and 3 cats, and since then have added another dog and 2 more cats.

I think having an animal in the house is essential for children for many reasons.
It helps with socialization, especially if you have only one child, it helps with learning cause and effect (eg if you hurt the dog the dog will not want to play), it helps them learn responsibility, and eventually, as sad as this will sound, it will probably be their first lesson in death and how to deal with the loss of a loved family member.

My 4 year old sons best friend is his cat. They go everywhere together and my son feeds her.

Deanna - posted on 04/19/2013

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I suggest taking her to see the dog you want and see how they are with each other. :)
I love basset hounds. :) They are usually very calm dogs.

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Tiyauna - posted on 04/22/2013

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Thank you
Jennifer: thank you so much That is so cool. I hope getting a dog helps my daughter come out of her shell. Shes pretty out spoken for a one year old but shes so hyper lol I hope our new edition helps us as well

Lisa:Awe thank you that is a very inspiring story, and I LOVE those Stats as well. =))

Lisa - posted on 04/22/2013

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As I continue to read the conversation on "dog or no dog", I have to chuckle, life is what it is! Today my puppies, a teen 9 month old and the baby 9 weeks old, ran through my power cord, knocked may computer on the floor, tore my new plant leaves off and than shred paper from the fire place( all in less than 10 minutes) not to mention the baby puppy pee'd on the carpet.... Frustrated, yes! Would I trade that from the kisses they give or the time they spend next to me( under my feet) or the playful moments they have with each other or myself. NO... I however grew up with dogs, and their loyal companionship. I believe if you are going to have ANY pet, weighing the joy and the responsibility equally is important. Statistics indicate that individuals who own pets: are better adjusted emotionally, eat less over the course of a year, and exercise more, are less depressed and function at a greater cognitive capacity.. I like all of those stats! Mental and Physical well being!
Lisa

Jenniffer - posted on 04/22/2013

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We had the cats first one is 10 the other is 8 and got the dog after we moved into a house when my daughter was 3 so the dog is 5. My daughter is almost 8 now and helps feed and makes sure they have water. It tooks some work with the dog but we got her when she was 8 weeks old, but my daughter helped by taking her into the back yard and playing with her. Nothing like have a worn out puppy and 3yo, they both would sleep like the dead!! Our dog is our daughter's best friend and sleeps in her room and it really helped her come out of her shell. She was always kinda shy around people but loved to tell anyone and everyone about her big puppy. Basset's are great dogs, my aunt has 2 and they are both very patient with the smaller kids. I would go for it if I were you!!

Tiyauna - posted on 04/21/2013

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Thank you:
Toni- Thank you,-I agree that having a pet can help with the socialization part, and having a pet does help with the life lessons of death.

Jeannle-Yes, I understand about the puppy and baby together will be hard, thats why im looking into a slightly older puppy/young dog. There has been a few basset hounds that are close to a year old and already house trained and has been around children before.

Lindora-I was actually looking into a basset hound, they howl but are for the most part pretty lazy/laid back dogs. My daughter is a heavy sleeper by the way and she sleeps through almost anything. So i dont think the nap time will be a issue. For the most part my daughter has the same temperament as a basset hound (in my eyes. And thank you I was hoping Basset hounds would have a good reputation with children besides what I found on the internet.

Jeannie - posted on 04/20/2013

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I, too am a first time mom and my husband and I decided to get a puppy a few months ago. My son was about 15 months old when we got the pup; he's 19 months now. They absolutely adore each other. My son has had interaction with house pets since he was born. We already had 2 cats prior to his birth and his grandparents have several dogs and cats. Although I thoroughly enjoy having a new four-legged member in our family, a puppy is quite a bit of work. It's really as though we have 2 toddlers instead of just one! I think if you feel up to a bit of a challenge then go for it! Like. a previous poster mentioned it does help when you have only one child to have pets for the child to socialize with and teach cause and effect. Good Luck!

Tiyauna - posted on 04/19/2013

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Deanna: thank you Deanna thats a great idea,

Jennifer: that is so cute lol now im even more excited to get a new edition to the family(puppy) lol, how old was your daughter when you brought animals into your home?

Lesile: that's so cool, I just never been much of a cat person though.

Jenniffer - posted on 04/19/2013

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We've always had pets, 2 cats and a German Shepherd and now that my daughter is older she helps take care of them. I think it's good for them and the younger they are when exposed to them the less likely the are to develop allergic reactions to them and the kids are healthier to boot. My girl is an only child as well (for now) and having the pets also gives her friends to play with. She LOVES to dress the cats up in clothes from her Build-A-Bear toys, the cats not so much...

Tiyauna - posted on 04/19/2013

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My daughter is already born shes 1 years old, but my husband and I were not planning on adopting a pup, we were looking for a young to adult but not to old because we dont want a dog that's set in their ways. There was actually a basset hound puppy we saw that was 7 months already house trained and has been around kids the only reason the owner wants to giver her away is because her daughter has a allergic reaction to dogs, and they didnt know. My husband and i have already taken our daughter to the animal shelter to see how she acts with dogs and if she would have an allergic reaction to the dogs, but she did not and she loved petting the puppies and was surprisingly patient and not aggressive towards the animals.

Tiyauna - posted on 04/19/2013

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My daughter is already born shes 1 years old, but my husband and I were not planning on adopting a pup, we were looking for a young to adult but not to old because we dont want a dog that's set in their ways. There was actually a basset hound puppy we saw that was 7 months already house trained and has been around kids the only reason the owner wants to giver her away is because her daughter has a allergic reaction to dogs, and they didnt know. My husband and i have already taken our daughter to the animal shelter to see how she acts with dogs and if she would have an allergic reaction to the dogs, but she did not and she loved petting the puppies and was surprisingly patient and not aggressive towards the animals.

Deanna - posted on 04/19/2013

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If you feel you can handle both, go for it. But, get a dog from the shelter. Training a puppy is a lot of work and can interfere with baby time. Find a dog that is comfortable around babies or you will end up bringing it back to the shelter. Dogs need at least 2 hours of walking a day in order to get the exercise they need. Small dogs are full of energy and are easily excitable and some are prone to nipping when excited. I would go for a larger breed myself, but mostly cause I can't stand most small dogs. Also, is baby girl gentle with animals? Could she handle it?

Delilah - posted on 04/18/2013

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Did you plann on getting the dog before you have the baby?if so you'll have to take time to properly train him. We have a five-year-old dog I just had a baby four months ago. Our dog was always hyper and barked a lot so we were worried he would be agressive Tords baby but keep in mind he's an adult dog .when baby came he completely ignores the baby which is fine with us we do have them interact bait so that when baby starts to grab on to things and maybe him someday he will ignore it.if your going to be a new mommy it's the bit similar caring for a puppy .they need you there will be accidents and there will be lots of taking puppy out to go pee until he is potty trained if your determined to get something's down before your baby is here I would say its ok butnyoundont want to overwhelm yourself it will be like having 2 babies

Delilah - posted on 04/18/2013

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Did you plann on getting the dog before you have the baby?if so you'll have to take time to properly train him. We have a five-year-old dog I just had a baby four months ago. Our dog was always hyper and barked a lot so we were worried he would be agressive Tords baby but keep in mind he's an adult dog .when baby came he completely ignores the baby which is fine with us we do have them interact bait so that when baby starts to grab on to things and maybe him someday he will ignore it.if your going to be a new mommy it's the bit similar caring for a puppy .they need you there will be accidents and there will be lots of taking puppy out to go pee until he is potty trained if your determined to get something's down before your baby is here I would say its ok butnyoundont want to overwhelm yourself it will be like having 2 babies

Tiyauna - posted on 04/18/2013

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Thank you, I really like basset hounds and beagles the research I've found on these dogs tells me they are pretty calm but I do see what you mean about the small dogs being hyper i.e Yorkies lol

Tiyauna - posted on 04/18/2013

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Thank you, I really like basset hounds and beagles the research I've found on these dogs tells me they are pretty calm but I do see what you mean about the small dogs being hyper i.e Yorkies lol

Kate - posted on 04/18/2013

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I say no - but I'm also a working mama so I have less free time. Still, I am so overwhelmed by our animals. They're messy, needy, we can't travel anywhere without having to pay for a kennel or take them with, etc etc etc the list goes on and on.

Kate - posted on 04/18/2013

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I say no - but I'm also a working mama so I have less free time. Still, I am so overwhelmed by our animals. They're messy, needy, we can't travel anywhere without having to pay for a kennel or take them with, etc etc etc the list goes on and on.

Timora - posted on 04/18/2013

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We had our dog first, so he was around from the time my girls came home and we were able to introduce him to them in a controlled manner. We have a Shih-tzu and he is wonderful with our kids. My one year old loves him, but is sometimes very rough with him and lays on him and he has never even growled at her or her 4 year old sister let alone nip or bite at them. If anything he started getting aggressive towards other dogs and protective when I was pregnant with our first. My in-laws also have a collie and another medium sized dog who are also great with our girls. Two of our babysitters also have dogs - one a shih-tzu as well and the other a larger mix - who are also great with kids and who our kids love. Dogs and kids can go really well together. Research breeds, but also just meet the dogs you are considering and see their personalities and how they react to you and your kids.

Timora - posted on 04/18/2013

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We had our dog first, so he was around from the time my girls came home and we were able to introduce him to them in a controlled manner. We have a Shih-tzu and he is wonderful with our kids. My one year old loves him, but is sometimes very rough with him and lays on him and he has never even growled at her or her 4 year old sister let alone nip or bite at them. If anything he started getting aggressive towards other dogs and protective when I was pregnant with our first. My in-laws also have a collie and another medium sized dog who are also great with our girls. Two of our babysitters also have dogs - one a shih-tzu as well and the other a larger mix - who are also great with kids and who our kids love. Dogs and kids can go really well together. Research breeds, but also just meet the dogs you are considering and see their personalities and how they react to you and your kids.

Lauren - posted on 04/18/2013

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I definitely agree on doing research on breeds. While small dogs can't necessarily knock your daughter over, they tend to be more energetic sometimes and a good deal of research says they are more likely to bite...which I've witnessed firsthand. Every small dog I know has yapped at my kids and every big dog is very tolerant ... and we make sure our kids are very gentle with the dogs.

When my sons were each born, we "introduced" them to the dogs carefully so the dogs would understand it was part of their life and we made sure they were comfortable with the kids. If you're willing to consider all sizes, Labrador and Golden Retrievers are considered some of the best dogs for families. We have a black lab, and I've never seen a more tolerant and kind dog. Good luck with the search!

Lauren - posted on 04/18/2013

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I definitely agree on doing research on breeds. While small dogs can't necessarily knock your daughter over, they tend to be more energetic sometimes and a good deal of research says they are more likely to bite...which I've witnessed firsthand. Every small dog I know has yapped at my kids and every big dog is very tolerant ... and we make sure our kids are very gentle with the dogs.

When my sons were each born, we "introduced" them to the dogs carefully so the dogs would understand it was part of their life and we made sure they were comfortable with the kids. If you're willing to consider all sizes, Labrador and Golden Retrievers are considered some of the best dogs for families. We have a black lab, and I've never seen a more tolerant and kind dog. Good luck with the search!

Lisa - posted on 04/16/2013

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We have a 7 month old puppy, and a 8 month old puppy. We will be having our baby next May. We have had dogs our entire lives, and would not trade them for the world. Children love animals, and animals if raised properly love children, are best companions, comfort, and loyal to their play mates.
Lisa

Lisa - posted on 04/16/2013

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We have a 7 month old puppy, and a 8 month old puppy. We will be having our baby next May. We have had dogs our entire lives, and would not trade them for the world. Children love animals, and animals if raised properly love children, are best companions, comfort, and loyal to their play mates.
Lisa

Tiyauna - posted on 04/15/2013

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Thank you Amanda and Sarah, I want a small dog because I dont want a dog bigger than my daughter knocking her over. We had a husky but he was to big and hyper. Im so happy and thankful that you guys took the time to answer my question I really love dogs but I didnt know if I was FAR over my head, because my daughter is 13 months now.

Sarah - posted on 04/15/2013

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I would suggest doing some research on different breads and temperament, etc. Some breads are more of a high need then others. Some breads like lots of attention where others don't need as much. Some breads are more known to bark and nip more then other breads. Find which bread matches best with your family. Then a good tip I learned is that the puppy that comes up to you all excited and jumping (you know the one every one says..."awww that one loves me" is also going to be your more high energy dog. The one that sits back on the doggie bed and lets you walk over and pick it up is going to be your more laid back dog. So figure out what kind of dog fits best for your family and lifestyle.

We have a really big dog......she is a Golden Pyrenees (Golden Retriever/Great Pyrenees mix). We got her as a 2 month old puppy 1 month before my third child was born. Everyone thought we were crazy......but it has been great. My third just loves that dog (which did not stay small for long). She gets all excited when she sees the dog and loves to lay on her. Even though she is a big dog she is very gentle with the baby and will let her do whatever she wants to her (the dog). I will say if you have never had a dog before puppies are like 2 yr old kids....so until they get out of that puppy stage you are dealing with a 2 yr old. So when deciding also look at what age of dog you would like to get.

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