Due in 3 mons and nervous!!!!!!!

Lois - posted on 04/12/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My son is due in July and I'm becoming more nervous. First I'm carring low and I've heard that can make things more difficult. Second, this eppy thing has me terrified. I've heard it's like a lumbar puncture and I've had one before and those kill. Don't want but if I need it what the crap to do!!!! Maybe my nerves are getting the best of me. am i the only one?

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Terri - posted on 04/14/2009

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i had my daughter 4 weeks ago and i was feeling the same
i was so scared when it came to having the epidural but it wasnt as bad as i throught
the worst part of it was the local they put in first and its just like having blood taken.
just relax and enjoy because when they hand him to you it will all be worth it.

Kate - posted on 04/14/2009

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You need to take everyone's advice and calm down!! make the next three months all about YOU and what YOU want to do...you will never have this time to do absolutely nothing ever again! 



 



When I got my epidural, I was very nervous just like you, but the contractions I was having were so intense I didn't even feel the needle!!!  I also never carried low unil the very very end, and when he finally did drop low, I was excited because I didn't get heartburn anymore!!



 



What happens is supossed to happen to give you your own unique child-birthing experience!! Relax and enjoy this quiet time!! 

Jessica - posted on 04/14/2009

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Oh and walk! While in labour walk as much as you can even if you stand leaning against something and walk on the spot. It really helps move things along. Before I even found out that my hospital didnt offer eppies I had decided that I wanted to avoid one unless abolutely neccessary because after one you cant move and that really slows the labour down. Every mother I spoke to recommended staying mobile for as long as possible. I was told that if I got to the point that I REALLY wanted an eppie to check the time and commit to waiting another 5mins. You never know by that time you may be past the contractions stage and pushing (and that stage is so much less painful than the contractions). All natural labours are possible (not that I was committed to one, its just how it turned out) just do a lot of research, lots of walking and stay calm.



As a final note my daughter was 7lb 11oz with a head circumference of 35cm just incase anyone was thinking I got off easy coz she was tiny! Just go with what feels right.

Jessica - posted on 04/14/2009

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Hey there. First things first, listen to everyone and relax! The hospital I delivered my daughter at doesn't offer eppies so I didn't have that option which really freaked me out at first. But then I did some reading and got myself prepared for what was to come. I learnt that contraction pain is solely caused by my muscles getting tired just like if you go running, your muscles tirer and you get a stitch. If you focus on the pain of the stitch, the pain only increases to the point that you can no longer walk but if you ignore the pain and focus on something else like your breathing the pain eases...it works the same during labour! This little piece of information changed my world. Every time I got a contraction i focused on stomping my feet rather than the pain, if that wasnt enough i started counting my steps as well.



As for your baby sitting low, in my opinion its an uncomfortablt blessing. My daughter sat so low she was engaged by 35 weeks...very uncomfortable let me tell you. But at my check up on my due date I was already 3cm dialated and I hadnt felt anything! I had to be induced but after my doc broke my waters it was less than 2hours before I was holding my daughter (thank God as the gas which was my only pain relief option made me vomit so my daughter was born in 2hours with no pain relief). Just remember to stay calm and enjoy the experience. Don't think about the pain!



Good Luck!

Nicola - posted on 04/14/2009

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Hi, im Nicky and i gave birth to my baby boy 17 months ago. I had exactly the same problem as you so i do sympathise, and he is my first too! The epidural is not as bad as i was expecting, i had it after about 20 hrs of labour so i could get some sleep! The doctors sprayed a cold spray on my back so i didnt feel a thing...on the up side i got my rest i needed and i tore really bad as my son was a whoping 9lb 1oz but i didnt feel a thing, but the down side is that i suffer really bad back ache since ive had him.



I was terrified of giving birth and im a single mum, so my sister came with me. I think it helps if you have somebody calm with you to talk you through your contractions. Just stay calm and dont panic, easier said than done i know! Anyway, all the best to you and i hope everything goes ok for you and your baby.

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Lois - posted on 04/14/2009

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OMG you guy's (ladies) are great. I'm still so nervous but I'm really working on it. Just knowing that pretty soon this eppy thing will be a thing of the past. I can't wait to see my little boy. It will be ok. I know this. My nerves are just really working me right now. Thanks for helping. And congrats Terris I know I'm a little late. And to you Kate, Jessica and the rest of the caring Mommies. I needed to hear this.

Lois - posted on 04/13/2009

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omg thank you mommies. I'm going to try really try not to stress this whole labor eppy thing! I know it's just how it is and I don't have one. It will take so long destressing tapes. and less thinking on my part. thaaank you all.

Sabrina - posted on 04/13/2009

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The eppy is amazing! Im terrified of needles an really nervous about one going into my spine. But compaired to the contractions it felt like a mosquito bite. Try not to think about everything it will just drive you crazy. Try an relax the more you are relaxed the easier everything will go for you. Good luck an congratz!

Joanne - posted on 04/13/2009

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hey dont worry a epidural dosnt hurt. all will be well and fine just think you are going 2 have a gawjus son and it will all be worth it. i was the same when i was expecting but once you go into labour you get into the swing of things lol.

Joy - posted on 04/13/2009

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Congrats! I was so nervous with my first one too. It's normal to have a lot of questions and worries. Don't let yourself get stressed out. If you know where you'll be delivering, you can check to see if the hospital has a questions hotline. Mine did and it helped me out

Epidurals are usually great. Sometimes it can cause a few weeks of pain but the doctor can prescribe you something if that's the case. I would talk to the anesthesiologist to find out all the facts first. Also, if you are having pain from it after the birth while you're still in the hospital, you can tell the nurses and they can send in the anesthesiologist to talk to you.

My epi was great with no complications. I would suggest waiting to get it until you absolutely can not handle the pain any more. That will prevent it from wearing off before your baby comes. The epi is a little weird just because you literally won't feel anything below your waist and you won't be able to move anything either. My husband sat on my legs after I had mine. I was looking at my mom at the time and and I didn't know he was sitting on them until he said something.

The pain of the injection was so minimal compared to the contractions that I don't remember what it felt like.

Ashlee - posted on 04/12/2009

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First off....CALM DOWN!!!!! You are only going to make yourself more nervous and you may even go into early labor if you keep stressing over everything. Now, getting an epidural is scary at first because if the needle going into the spine and the precautions with that. If you do get one (and i suggest that you do because they REALLY help later on) stay calm and most important, keep as still as possible! Don't make any movements when they are doing the procedure because it can cause damage to your spine. But you will do fine. My baby is due in June and I think about everything you are thinking about (as well as every pregnant woman does when it gets closer to the due date). Just relax and calm down, I know easier said than done but do little things for yourself. Like pamper and spoil yourself, get your mind off of all the bad things that can happen. It's all worth it in the end and you'll forget about everything once you see and hold your baby for the first time. You'll be fine! And Good luck

Lois - posted on 04/12/2009

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i didn't know you could do that. I spoke to my gynee about my nerves but she was a little aloof about the whole thing my midwife is more helpful but i don't see her for a month. Now i know i can ask her about the anesthesiologist or speaking to him. Thanks.

Brittany - posted on 04/12/2009

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I'm due May 3... full term now. I don't think you have to worry about carrying low, a lot of ppl do. As far as the epidural... i had to visit the anesthesiologist for a consultation. Here, in DE if you don't do that, then you have no choice and cannot get one when you are in labor. I suggest you call and talk to an anesthesiologist if you can't visit one. Talking to him and he explained the procedure and risks, he made me feel a lot better. I'm definately getting one now.

Amelia - posted on 04/12/2009

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Don't worry about the epidural. i was terrified, i actually cried when i was about to get it but was in so much pain i opted for it. I didn't even feel it. It was the best thing ever. the entire time i was pregnant i said i'll go as far as i can without it, i didn't go that long. withmy next i'll get it as soon as possible, there's no reason to be in pain when you don't have to.

Tami - posted on 04/12/2009

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hey there. When I had my son I was carrying very very low, and my labour and delivery were a breeze. I also had an epidural and it was not in the least painful, i didnt feel a thing. They actually froze the area first so there was no pain whatsoever! dont worry about all those things cause you will make yourself mental, everybody had a different experience but for the most part it cant be that bad, or nobody would do it twice right?? lol.

Lindy - posted on 04/12/2009

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Dont think of things that are out of your control. What is going to happen will happen. If you are nervous about your eppy dont be cause it will all be worth it once that little one gets into your arms. It will hurt for a min then you forget about it. You will do great! Think of all the fun things you want to do with your baby & what you else you need to do to get ready. Take this time to pamper yourself cause you wont get much for the next few years. Good Luck!

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